My descent into madness
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Topic: My descent into madness
Posted By: JoJames
Subject: My descent into madness
Date Posted: 02 February 2009 at 9:47am
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We went camping 2 weeks ago and DS slept well, woke only once in the night. Since we've been home he has woken on average 4 times every night, sometimes I'm sure its up to 7. I try not to feed him all the time, but if its been 3 hours or if I'm sleepwalking I do it cause he settles so quicly afterwards. My questions are what am i doing to encourage this continous waking? And if your baby slept well at this age what did you do? or is it just luck?
He has the fan on him so he's not hot, he's wrapped, has a dummy, settles quickly so not in pain. Your comments appreciated, thanks ------------- http://www.alterna-tickers.com"> 
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Posted By: JoJames
Date Posted: 02 February 2009 at 9:48am
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I apologise for the title, I really am going mad ------------- http://www.alterna-tickers.com">
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Posted By: kezplanet
Date Posted: 02 February 2009 at 11:11am
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I would think it could just be a growth spurt and sleep deprivation is enough to drive anyone mad. From memory I don't think I changed anything and we just got thru it but it is a bit of a blurrrrrr. Hope it gets better for you soon ------------- Kerryn, Mum to Ashlyn(29/3/04), Anastasia(1/11/05) & Abigail (24/02/09) |
Posted By: busyissy
Date Posted: 02 February 2009 at 1:05pm
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Do you think he is actually hungry or just using you as a dummy/comfort sucking?
If he is having a growth spurt and is hungry you could try a dream feed before you go to bed? |
Posted By: FreeSpirit
Date Posted: 02 February 2009 at 8:42pm
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Huge hugs to you!! Personally, I'd feed him every time he wakes until about midnight, that way if it is a growth spurt he's going to get what he needs, and maybe let you get some sleep for a decent block of time (if he's like my daughter she'd do this when she was growing and I fed and fed until midnight, then we'd both get to sleep until 5 or 6am) it seems like hard work but at least then you're encouraging some sort of sleep pattern, if he settles into that routine you then start moving last feed back by half an hour a night.
Dream feeds work really well too, just pop food in his mouth when you're on your way to bed so you can catch a decent few zzz's before he wakes again. ------------- http://www.babysfirstsite.com"> 
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Posted By: JoJames
Date Posted: 02 February 2009 at 9:01pm
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Thanks you guys
Very much think he's comfort sucking Great idea about feeding continously cause when he wakes I'm never sure if he's hungry anyway, so I feed him just in case, but its getting into a bad habit, at least if I feed him till midnight then stop then I know that he should have enough. I have tried dream feeds, but he doesn't sleep any longer, I guess if I do one then I'll know he's had enough and if he wakes I'll just settle him again. I I just hope it will get better ------------- http://www.alterna-tickers.com">
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Posted By: bext1
Date Posted: 02 February 2009 at 9:29pm
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Not up with the lingo yet so unsure what a dream feed is.... oh man I'm a newbie!! but have you tried a bottle at night just to see if that fills up his tummy? Luke and Zavier were waking all the time during the night, to the point where one night i had to leave the room to stop screaming and now I just bottle them before bed, it means we get some sleep too!! Because it sucks getting no sleep, and then having no energy the next day because you are so sleep deprived!!
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Posted By: busyissy
Date Posted: 03 February 2009 at 1:13pm
| We used to give Dom a bottle of expressed milk before bed to make sure he had a decent amount to get through the night but that had more to do with my poor milk supply than him. Could be that he is thirsty as well, you could always try a drink of cool, boiled water from a bottle when he wakes. If he is content with that then you know he isn't hungry. |
Posted By: JoJames
Date Posted: 03 February 2009 at 2:35pm
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We tried giving him 100ml EBM then a feed before bed at about 2230 and he still woke at 0100 so I know its not hunger that is waking him, I think he's just a bit of a toad. Last night was better he only woke 3 times between 2100 and 0700 and and i only fed him twice, one time I just settled nim bacjk to sleep but it took a bit and involved screaming, but thenhe slept for 2 more hours. Thanks for your replies, Its ood to know that it is normal and not my fault, I'm wearing a muslin in my bra to see if he sleeps with it better ------------- http://www.alterna-tickers.com">
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Posted By: kezplanet
Date Posted: 03 February 2009 at 5:06pm
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Good work Jo, yes it is very hard not to blame yourself or think you are doing something wrong and yay for only waking 3 times!! A step in the right direction, it sounds like you are doing everything that you need to and well done for being able to settle him without feeding. Hope it goes well tonight, you could also maybe try wrapping him or lying him on your shirt or t-shirt? ------------- Kerryn, Mum to Ashlyn(29/3/04), Anastasia(1/11/05) & Abigail (24/02/09) |
Posted By: kezplanet
Date Posted: 03 February 2009 at 5:08pm
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Sorry - also is there some noise in his room? maybe you could try a clock that ticks or a radio that is off station really low so there is just the shhhhh noise in the background (white noise) ------------- Kerryn, Mum to Ashlyn(29/3/04), Anastasia(1/11/05) & Abigail (24/02/09) |
Posted By: JoJames
Date Posted: 03 February 2009 at 5:09pm
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Thanks, I just need to remember to not feed him. Its hard cause he's such a screamer and I feel sorry for waking DH.
He's slept amazingly well today 2 hr, and 1 1/2 hr and is asleep now, I've heard that sleep leads to more sleep if that makes sense so i have high hopes for tonight ------------- http://www.alterna-tickers.com">
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Posted By: JoJames
Date Posted: 03 February 2009 at 5:11pm
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Well he had a fan going all night for the past few weeks that I turned off last night didn't seem to make any difference.
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Posted By: kezplanet
Date Posted: 03 February 2009 at 6:11pm
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yep makes sense as they dont seem to get so 'over tired' & DH will cope (not dismissing him at all but he will catch up) also if you get too stressed sometimes it could help if he goes in to help settle James as there wont be the milk/mummy smell on him but that also will depend on how he copes with broken sleep in the morning ------------- Kerryn, Mum to Ashlyn(29/3/04), Anastasia(1/11/05) & Abigail (24/02/09) |
Posted By: JoJames
Date Posted: 03 February 2009 at 6:17pm
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Thats why the holidays were so great cause I could wake him up and tell him it was his turn. J actually acts up worse for DH than me he screams for longer. thanks ------------- http://www.alterna-tickers.com">
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Posted By: busyissy
Date Posted: 03 February 2009 at 7:06pm
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I think he plays up worse for DH because if he does Mummy will come in and he will get milk, they learn very fast how to make their little world work for them our little darlings!
DH goes in to Dominic at night and intially he played up more for DH but now its the other way around. Its all about perserving! Good luck for tonight! |
Posted By: xox6Girls1Boyxox
Date Posted: 03 February 2009 at 9:27pm
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Hi, Have you tried letting him sleep unwrapped? It seems like you've tried everything else, Maybe you can leave him unwrapped and see if that works.... ------------- http://www.bump-and-beyond.com/"> 
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