the role of the stay at home mum/wife
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Topic: the role of the stay at home mum/wife
Posted By: Henna79
Subject: the role of the stay at home mum/wife
Date Posted: 03 February 2009 at 10:13am
| I have been thinking about this a lot lately and so wanted other peoples thoughts. I am of the belief that my role is main caregiver to Alex and I do most (well pretty much all) of the housework and all of that. When he working (he is a shiftworker) tea is on the table when he gets home and I try to avoid having him to do much cos he does long hours and is pretty tired when working. DH and I both do the grocery shop and dishes after meals. Plus DH does a lot of cooking dinner's as he enjoys doing it. |
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Posted By: Daizy
Date Posted: 03 February 2009 at 10:24am
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Wow you do well. I guess I was similiar when i just had the one. Now my main role is to look after the girls and keep them busy. I try and keep on top of the cleaning but if I dont manage to have time during the day then it becomes a job for both of us to do in the evenings or whenever DH is home.Washing clothes has just beome my job and I like if DH can keep on top of Dishes. I usually have dinner cooked because if I waited for him to do it the girls would be eating far to late. He does cook occasionally when he is home but that is very occasionally. We both do groceries and as I dont drive he does a lot of the family outings with us. I am the one that will keep on top of money and all appointments. ------------- 
 
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Posted By: TysMummy
Date Posted: 03 February 2009 at 10:45am
yeah you do well............when hubby gets home i do dinner and he looks after junior...play,bath, feed shower bed.........i try and clean but my hypo kid decides messy is best grrrrrrrr  hubby also does on call work and random shifts but when he is home he takes care of the kids as i think the kids need it..although he wishes he didnt have too....... he had a part on making the baby so he needs to look after them he is slowely seeing its not all sparkly :) ................the original plan for us was that he stayed home and i went to work but due to me and baby being sik it didnt work...asked him with number 2 and he said not on your life.......he finds it more demanding at home then at work.....he said at least he gets to sit down haha try being pregs at the same time sweet heart  ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: McPloppy
Date Posted: 03 February 2009 at 10:46am
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I am like Heather.
I do all the housework, look after the children, cook dinner and as he is a shift worker I am often home alone ith the children in the evenings so it is dinner bath bed for them then i get to tidy as I don't like to do housework when looking after the kiddies. I have to stay up till 11pm to do the dream feed then i am up again at 7am to get this kids up and fed and then DS off to preschool. Dh Drives up cause i don't drive so even when he finishes work at 2pm he is sill up at 8:15am then comes back home for a snooze. DH does the lawns and I do the gardens Oh and he feeds the cat. HOWEVER....When he has his days off I think we should go halves in the housework and looking after the children (as they would essentially be my days off too) but he does not agree so we are in the middle of arguments at the mo...I am lucky if i can get him to feed Soph once a day!!! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: TysMummy
Date Posted: 03 February 2009 at 10:54am
McPloppy...............we still have arguments but i keep telling him that if i wanted to be a solo mum then i would and if he isnt happy then get out...........he moans , i give him the eye, and then he is sweet hahaha im a cow.........hubby has always done the nights when i BF he got up changed baby and gave baby to me.........Ty wont let me put him down at night if dad isnt there so when he isnt he claims into bed with me and we watch cartoons, usually tinkerbell for the 20th time.........if he falls asleep bonus obviously the night time routine is gonna be mine when #2 arrives cause Ty wakes at 6.30am without fail  ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Henna79
Date Posted: 03 February 2009 at 10:56am
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snap Daizy and Jeana! I don't drive either
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Posted By: lilfatty
Date Posted: 03 February 2009 at 11:04am
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DH is our fulltime parent.
His role is to look after Isabelle .. and he does the washing and keeps the house reasonably clean and tidy. He usually makes dinner as well ... or at least dinner for Isabelle. I earn the money and go and purchase the bacon from the supermarket lol ------------- Mummy to Issy (3) and Elias (18 months) I did it .. 41 kgs gone! From flab to fab in under a year  http://www.femininefitness.co.nz/category/blog - LFs weight blog
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Posted By: TysMummy
Date Posted: 03 February 2009 at 11:06am
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lilfatty..................wanna swap hubbies lol ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Snappy
Date Posted: 03 February 2009 at 11:10am
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Wow McPloppy, I am in the same boat as you. DH is a shift worker and is not always home in the evenings (3/5 weeks I think) So that means I have to do pretty much everything. He does do the dishes and hang out the washing before he goes to work.
At the moment he gets up to Jackson on one of his days off, so we both get at least one sleep in a week. That has not always been the way, its more of a recent "development". On the nights that he IS home, he will do the dishes and the vacuming, while I feed the kids, bath/shower them, and put them to bed. I do all the cooking (although he will cook some sausages on the BBQ) He will also hang out the washing or fold it, and bring it in. He really is pretty good actually when it comes to housework. But when it comes to the kids, they are "my job". I think he has bathed Jackson maybe twice in 9 months.  ------------- Mummy to two beauties... Formerly Kaiz. |
Posted By: Bobbie
Date Posted: 03 February 2009 at 11:14am
Haha and you say that without having seen him. He's pretty easy on the eye too is our SD 
I tend to do the housework and cook the meals and run errands. DH manages the money (because I hate that stuff) and he has set tasks at home - dishes after dinner, litter box, and emptying the vacuum cleaner. I'm really really lucky as DH is a very hands on dad and Rowan is pretty laid back and still only crawling. I think things will change when we have 2 though. -------------  
 
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TysMummy wrote:Posted By: SMoody
Date Posted: 03 February 2009 at 11:34am
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Before reading anyone elses:
Grant works outside of the home and in a traditional sense I suppose to the more supposedly "manly things". Not that he is sexist at all this is just how it worked out as such. He does the lawns (refuses that I touch the lawnmower as he feels it is too dangerous), look after cars, garden, Take trash out mostly ect. I do the washing, ironing, cooking, most of the cleaning, dishes, packing away ect. So to some this seems really sexist. I dont mind doing any of this but the day it will stop is when he comes home and he starts demanding these things. I just feel he works really really had. Sometimes he comes home and after M is in bed continue to work. He is always there when I need him, Dont deny me anything. I make his lunch for him to work ect. However when it is exam times, or I am ill or like now that I am pregnant he will do dishes without me asking. Get me a bath and tell me to relax. Or take the vacuum out of my hands and do the cleaning. He mostly use to bath McKayla and do some of the nighttime routine for me. He is there when I go to Playcentre meetings and will clean up for me that night. So although we sort of have traditional roles we help each other out. He usually get the laundry off if I did washing over a weekend and will glady iron anything except pants. Some nights he come home and just give me a look and tells me to sit down and gets me a cup of tea. So from the outside it might look really sexist ect but that is now how the two of us see it. Just as long as the 2 of you are happy in the relationship and isnt too scared to ask the other one for help then I cant see it being a problem. (btw I am the one doing the finances and transferring cash ect) ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: TysMummy
Date Posted: 03 February 2009 at 11:39am
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Bobbie......................you can always turn out the lights lol ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: lilfatty
Date Posted: 03 February 2009 at 11:53am
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Teeheehee
I think she meant you would want to keep the lights on ..  (being that he is easy on the eye)
His cooking isnt that hot though .. he is getting better mind you ..  ------------- Mummy to Issy (3) and Elias (18 months) I did it .. 41 kgs gone! From flab to fab in under a year http://www.femininefitness.co.nz/category/blog - LFs weight blog
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Posted By: McPloppy
Date Posted: 03 February 2009 at 11:59am
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I always thought i was the only woman in the world that didn't drive now i have found three more! i do have my learners and i am learning slowly :o)
Don't get me wrong...it is MY job to do all of the day to day running of the house and children but when DH has days off i would just like him to do little things to help eg when he changes a nappy to pull the inserts out of the pocket before he puts into the washing mashine or if he gives Sophia the last steralized bottle to wash and steralize the others or at least let me know it needs to be done. One thing that bugs me though is that when ever we have an argument he always throws it back in my face that he earns the money and i should get off my lazy arse and get a job....it always brings me to tears as this is a decision we made together that I would stay home to raise the children and look after children in the home to boost our income. He always comes back later and apologises and lets me know I am doing a good job and that he was just blowing off steam...it still hurts though
In his defence he has an incredibly stressfull job and works terrible hours and that is why i do not mind being a 50's housewife For now...
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Posted By: lilfatty
Date Posted: 03 February 2009 at 12:05pm
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McPloppy in the heat of the moment Ive said the same thing to SD ..
Because I do all the finances he doesnt really have a clue about the money side of things .. so I tend to get frustrated when he just spends our money on crap we dont need. We talked though .. and I understand how stressful it is running a house and bringing up a child and he now knows how stressful it is for me to try and provide financial support for a family. So we are getting there  ------------- Mummy to Issy (3) and Elias (18 months) I did it .. 41 kgs gone! From flab to fab in under a year http://www.femininefitness.co.nz/category/blog - LFs weight blog
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Posted By: McPloppy
Date Posted: 03 February 2009 at 12:13pm
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Aaahhhhh so it does get better lol...nice to hear it Julia. I take care of all the finances, creating a budget and paying bills and whatnot and i am the one for telling DH off for spending money we don't have...i have overheard him on the ph to his mum "I wish the three of them would piss off so i can have all my money to myself" When I confronted him about it he was very sheepish and I told him I would never leave him cause I could not stand to see him happy
We Have the sort of relationship where we are laughing all the time and taking the mickey out of each other...i know he has not had an affair cause he would have come home happy...lol People think we are arguing but it just how we are. julia i like to hear how things go in your situation where DH is at home and the wifey is the bread winner. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: sadie
Date Posted: 03 February 2009 at 12:38pm
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We are pretty similar in this house. Weekdays I am in charge of looking after DS, including all his meals and if he needs a bottle at night. DH will get up to help resettle though if needed.
I also do a load of laundry most days, and keep on top of the basic housework. DH will help fold & put things away in the evenings. When he gets home, DS is handed over for a bit of daddy play, and then he does the bath / book / milk / bed routine whilst I get dinner sorted. He washes up / stacks dishwasher. I also walk the dog every day. Weekends we tend to swap - he does dog walk and dinner, and i do the bath and clean up. if any housework needs to be done on the weekend we tend to share. We also get one lie in each a weekend, where the other gets up for the early shift. At the moment, DS is in a great routine so I do get some downtime during thy day when he naps. Will be interesting to see what happens when #2 arrives! |
Posted By: pomikiwi
Date Posted: 03 February 2009 at 1:06pm
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I'm like you I guess SMoody.
I dont do lawns or anything like that, it's not my thing.He does all the manly things, like cars and trash etc. I enjoy doing the laundry. I cook (not very well) and DH usually has his dinner all ready when he's home from work as we eat early with DD. I do all the housework and look after DD, but thats what I Have chosen to do. I love being a wife, hehe! DH is quite messy and drives me crazy sometimes, but he helps out lots with DD, basically he does everything in the evenings. He play with her while I clean up after dinner, baths her then reads to her and puts her to bed. I usually get her ready in her PJ's and put her nappy on for bed. He doesn't like dealing with poo's and I hate vomit so we have a mutual agreement on that, lol! If I ask him to do anything he'll do it in a flash but he's not very good at using his initiative! But thats men for ya, lol! I do the grocery shopping too, and make sure all the bills are paid! ------------- http://lilypie.com">  
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Posted By: flakesitchyfeet
Date Posted: 03 February 2009 at 1:09pm
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I don't drive either McPloppy.
My job = housework and child. When hes home = whatever I ask him to do :P But specifically bath time and dishes. He doesn't moan, he's jealous though, he'd love to be a SAHD :) -------------  http://lilypie.com"> |
Posted By: angel4
Date Posted: 03 February 2009 at 1:34pm
| i thought i was the only mum in the world who doesnt drive!!! wow there seems to be heaps. I do everything involving ds atm and all the cleaning. Though because we are living with Dhs parents i don't cook all the time. When we move out next week (YAYAYAYAYA cant wait) ill to the female jobs (cooking, cleaning, washing, baby etc), he will study and work and do man jobs (mowing lawns, cars, trash and all heavy lifting excluding DS lol). This may seem sexist to some people but we are both happy in the roles that we do and if either ever needs help we are there for eachother. |
Posted By: MissAngel
Date Posted: 03 February 2009 at 1:37pm
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lol..
what do i do? Everything. I take care of thomas, wash clothes, clean cook bath god... what else hahah.. Matt works and reads to Thomas and that's pretty much it. I do any DIY that needs to be done as it appears most internet geeks dont know how to do DIY. He had never even mowed the lawns before meeting me. I do that too. He'll do stuff when i nag him enough about it, but yea. Slack really. ------------- Alex, Thomas and Lily http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: lilfatty
Date Posted: 03 February 2009 at 2:12pm
Geez .. he must have one hot bod for you to put up with all that ------------- Mummy to Issy (3) and Elias (18 months) I did it .. 41 kgs gone! From flab to fab in under a year http://www.femininefitness.co.nz/category/blog - LFs weight blog
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Posted By: Bobbie
Date Posted: 03 February 2009 at 2:45pm
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I didn't drive either until Sept last year. I was suprised how many people here didn't too. -------------
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Posted By: TysMummy
Date Posted: 03 February 2009 at 2:50pm
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im curious wat everyones hubbies look like know.............someone start a thread with there pics
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Posted By: lilfatty
Date Posted: 03 February 2009 at 2:53pm
Ok .. you start 
Actually I think there is one in the photo thread ... kids and their dads .. or something along that line. ------------- Mummy to Issy (3) and Elias (18 months) I did it .. 41 kgs gone! From flab to fab in under a year http://www.femininefitness.co.nz/category/blog - LFs weight blog
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Posted By: TysMummy
Date Posted: 03 February 2009 at 3:07pm
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oh the pressure................... could take me half a day to find a good one .................. i better not be the only one............shame ooooooo ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: lilfatty
Date Posted: 03 February 2009 at 3:07pm
Half a day! Surely not ------------- Mummy to Issy (3) and Elias (18 months) I did it .. 41 kgs gone! From flab to fab in under a year http://www.femininefitness.co.nz/category/blog - LFs weight blog
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Posted By: TysMummy
Date Posted: 03 February 2009 at 3:13pm
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yes well the only good ones are him with me cause i make him look so bloody good lol....................ok found one but i have a problem and i dont know how to put it on.................HELP!!! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 03 February 2009 at 3:15pm
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I work 10 hours a week , but my job is the housework and looking after C after school , (ah , school, God I love it ) when Ty comes i'll be looking after him (and the housework will wait, because I am going to sleep when he sleeps , like I did with C )
DF works 5 days a week , and comes home and helps with C , sometimes makes dinner and then I let him chill out while I sort C out then he usually runs me a bath or puts a movie on for me (this is because I am too dumb to do it myself I think ...) Hes a pretty good partner ,we're pretty equal , oh yeah weekends are family time , and we both take responsibiltiy for C , tho sometimes we will have Mummy and Caitlyn dates when C and I do something together, then the next weekend they have Caitlyn and Daddy dates . ------------- 
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Posted By: SMoody
Date Posted: 03 February 2009 at 3:49pm
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I must say Grant helps out a lot over weekends with McKayla. He has no problems what so ever changing nappies. And in fact he taught me in hospital how to put a nappy on for the first time. In the beginning he got up and made me tea while I was breastfeeding her and just last night when she woke up and got into her bed he waited until she was asleep and moved her on to the sleeper couch. She woke up and he stayed and rubbed her back until she was asleep.
But during the week most of the childcare falls on me which makes sense as I am here during the day and he isnt. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: tishy
Date Posted: 03 February 2009 at 3:50pm
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I do the housework & look after the girls. DH does baths and bedtime stuff.
I cook dinners but this is because I enjoy cooking. He helps with resettling at night if both of them are going or if he doesn't have his 'daddy ears' on. I work 2 days a week and on those days we have a nanny who does basic tidying/cleaning downstairs. If we didn't have her then we'd be living in a pigsty
I *think* I now get a sleep in every weekend. Although it was missed last weekend but I'll remind him gently this weekend
ETA: DH also does the lawns and the rubbish. And will get my dive gear ready for me if I'm going diving. He'll also clean it all for me when I get back
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Posted By: JoJames
Date Posted: 03 February 2009 at 5:20pm
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Some of your DH's sound so great, mine tries, but he is as lazy as me. And hes so tired on weekends that he doesn't really want to help with the baby, just wants a rest, but he doesn't seem to understand that I NEED a rest from the baby I've looked after 24 hours for the past 5 days. So thats our bone of contention for the last few weeks, DH likes to go to speedway on Saturday nights leaving us at home alone again, its hard this house wife stuff.
When we got married for some reason we agreed that I would do inside jobs and he would do outside jobs. Unfortunately we don't have any lawns any more so DH has cunningly absolved himself of any chores. However the washing line is outside........................ ------------- http://www.alterna-tickers.com"> 
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Posted By: TysMummy
Date Posted: 03 February 2009 at 5:43pm
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mine use to play rugby told him he aint doing it this year but feel free to enter running comps as then he can take the kids............
lets all leave our hubbies and move intto gether............it will be like golden girls vs brat pack lol seriously think i need a sleep  ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: JoJames
Date Posted: 03 February 2009 at 6:21pm
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My dad said that when he had us he realised that he couldn't do any extra activities as he had to help out and he accepted that, i thought that was a very good way to look at it.
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Posted By: TysMummy
Date Posted: 03 February 2009 at 6:30pm
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jo james...............yeah my dad has been drilling that into Ant but so far nothing has really changed :-) ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: McPloppy
Date Posted: 03 February 2009 at 8:06pm
After that comment Hayley, DH has packed my bags and about to get the kids out of bed for me to take with me...THANKS
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Posted By: TysMummy
Date Posted: 03 February 2009 at 8:29pm
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Posted By: Bel
Date Posted: 03 February 2009 at 9:52pm
This is EXACTLY what we decided as well. Little did I know that it would come back to bite me. I am a terrible housekeeper, but he still doesn't help... So most of the time our house is a pigsty, with me trying to keep on top of it and keep my VERY busy 15mth old entertained! Plus I don;t have the energy at night to do much, so it kinda gets left. I have discovered the best way is to give DS to MIL for the day and do housework most of the day - with some resting in between! DH works all day, takes Luke for a while when he gets home and then baths him. I do bottle and bed, because Daddy is too exciting and they end up playing... DH is learning about weekend tho, and that I need some time out as well - so hopefully that continues!! ------------- Mum to two beautiful kids 
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Posted By: FreeSpirit
Date Posted: 03 February 2009 at 10:08pm
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Hmmm, well our house is much the same as most of you ladies. My partner works full-time 7am - 3.30pm and mows the lawn. I'm the SAHM, I worked until I got too big with the pregnancy then along came the next full-time job (motherhood). I do the laundry, make the beds, cook the meals for the men folk, pack lunch's for Dick's workday, do the vacuuming, mop the floors, trim the hedges, look after my plants, take out the rubbish, feed the baby, get up at night for bubs, make morning coffees, provide full care for Elizabeth (feed, bath, cook babyfood, settle, make her bed, yadaydayada..), I run the errands and pay the bills, do the groceries most of the time. I'm doing a parents as first teachers course, I sell Avon. Currently looking at colour charts to paint the lounge (it's a ghastly shade of pink). ------------- http://www.babysfirstsite.com"> 
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Posted By: scribe
Date Posted: 03 February 2009 at 10:51pm
LOL, I have an internet geek husband who is awesome at DIY - a little too much so, often on the weekend I want a break from Clara and I can't ask him to stop what he's doing cos he's fixing something, or making something better... I do most things that need doing - cleaning, washing, walking the dog, baking, grocery shop, meals, and he works from home so I make a nice lunch for him, and if I'm feeling super nice I make him an espresso to accompany the slice or whatever I've baked. We don't have lawns but he does the rubbish, makes a loaf of bread every morning (breadmaker), our finances, and once he finishes work, around 5pm, he plays with Clara and I get dinner ready. On the weekends we each have a sleep in and share childcare and meals. |
Posted By: Henna79
Date Posted: 04 February 2009 at 7:48am
thanks for all the responses guys! So nice to hear I am not the only one who feels that my role is just what I do 
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Posted By: becky
Date Posted: 04 February 2009 at 2:15pm
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Hey all my DP has just got a new job as a personal trainer and is not working fulltime. Im still part time at uni, so at the mo we are sharing the care of DS and the house. Most of the time i cook but DP is also a great cook and likes to cook, we share the housework on the weekends we also share the washing and dishes etc. Its quite good at the mo because his afternoon shifts dont start till 130pm so he takes DS for a run in the mornings so I can sleep in bliss. Eventually when I graduate I would like us to both work part time so we are both home with DS so i presume we will always share teh house routine. As DP is doing personal training he can work whatever hours he wants to work around my job which will be good ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: cealz
Date Posted: 04 February 2009 at 6:59pm
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My DH is a SAHD. We both do all the chores. Just depends who has had a worse day and is tired etc. There are no jobs that each one of us will always do. Except gross things like rubish. DH always does that
Its really good that we both know what its like to be the one working and the one staying at home coz I know that its not just 'time off' staying at home and he now understands that and its not like you have heaps of time to get stuff done when you are the one at home. We try and give each other time off too. He goes to soccer training two or three nights a week and I go to dancing lessons so we get a break from routine house stuff too which I think helps Its working out really well for us with me working and him staying home. ------------- 
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Posted By: kiwisj
Date Posted: 04 February 2009 at 9:47pm
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I was a "housewife" before DS came along - it's my official occupation on my visa We're very "traditional" but it's partly circumstance, being in Singapore, and partly that I enjoy being a 1950s housewife so I didn't look too hard for full time work here.
Before Callum was born I was basically in charge of EVERYTHING other than earning the $$ - cooking, baking, cleaning, planning holidays, planning our wedding back in NZ, paying the bills, getting the house set up when we first arrived etc etc etc. Up till about 2 weeks before I had Callum I worked part time as well, but casually so I could say no if I had too much else on. Once I got pregnant DH did more of the chores, especially on the weekends and he did a lot more cooking. Now we've got Callum and I'm a "SAHM" but DH does more around the house now thank goodness! He cooks if I am feeding Callum, does the laundry, and loves helping out with Callum when he's home. I imagine if we moved back to NZ the chores would be more evenly divided and more based on what we LIKE doing. I'd still do all the cooking! ------------- SJ Callum - Dec 2008 Daniel - Oct 2010 |
Posted By: KiwiL
Date Posted: 05 February 2009 at 9:03am
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I think I have it pretty good with my DH. He's a very hands on daddy, so when he is home he will feed Jackson, give him his bath, change nappies etc quite happily. On the weekend he will let me have a lie in too.
I guess I am responsible for keep the house clean and tidy. However, DH does most of the cooking (I despise cooking!) and irons his own shirts (cos he is fussy). He will help out with extra chores on the weekend, and takes the rubbish up our big drive on rubbish day. He also makes me coffees.
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Posted By: AzzaNZ
Date Posted: 05 February 2009 at 4:09pm
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DH is our SAHD so the roles are reversed somewhat.
Looking after Isabella is his primary responsibility but he also does the housework. He looks after us both really well! I cook every night but its more because I enjoy it. On weekends I'll do the dishes and try be the primary caregiver to Belle. He does all the cleaning, washing, ironing etc. We share responsibility for the finances. He does the shopping, he hates it when I come with because I overspend. We share night-shift with Belle but if he knows I have a particularly stressful day at work the next day then he picks up all of it. I dont do any "cleaning" over the weekends though unless its really bad. I think weekends are for relaxing and I am only too happy for him to put his feet up. If he is going to get in a tizz about the place being untidy then he can clean it himself. |
Posted By: cat007
Date Posted: 05 February 2009 at 10:54pm
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I feel like a bit of a 50's wife here. DH has very specific chores: rubbish, lawns, dishes, bathing the boys and feeding the animals. I do everything else: childcare, housework, laundry, all errands and all DIY, cooking, grocery shopping, and not to forget all the business and household accounts/banking etc. He does work really hard at work though. He is starting to take over a little bit now on his days off, he lets me sleep in on Saturdays and feeds the 3 kids breakfast. He is always doing fun stuff with Levi - taking him out to the park, for bike rides and walks most days after work and weekends. I end up staying home to feed the twins while he goes out. Guess thats life though - for the most I do enjoy it but it would be nice to have a few more hours out of the house to do fun stuff. ------------- http://lilypie.com">  [/url http://lilypie.com">
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