Why do people have to..
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Topic: Why do people have to..
Posted By: MissCandice
Subject: Why do people have to..
Date Posted: 23 February 2009 at 1:08pm
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Die.
DFs dad died this morning, he had been suffering from Cancer for a long time. DF is beside himself that he never got to say goodbye, noone rang us to tell us this is it. He got a call this morning saying his dad had died, DF in a state of shock said seriously and his wife replied 'No im kidding' sarcastically, DF didnt mean to sound rude it just shocked him. He then asked her if she wanted some campany and she replied 'Im surrounded by company' and hung up. Hes absolutly heartbroken. They never had a perfect relationship but now hes racked with guilt that he didnt tell his dad he loved him. It hurts to watch this. Why couldnt they have called last night. We would have gone over! I hate cancer. I really do! ------------- ~ Mummy to a beautiful girl ~ |
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Posted By: Bobbie
Date Posted: 23 February 2009 at 1:29pm
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Oh your poor DF. His dad's wife sounds like a piece of work though. -------------  
 
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Posted By: kiwisj
Date Posted: 23 February 2009 at 1:31pm
Aw Kandice, huge huge  to you and DF. Cancer really does suck.
And I can appreciate that your FILs partner is probably pretty cut up too, but doesn't sound like DF had the news broken to him very gently 
You guys will be in my thoughts today. again.------------- SJ Callum - Dec 2008 Daniel - Oct 2010 |
Posted By: james
Date Posted: 23 February 2009 at 2:23pm
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awww i am so sorry to hear of your familys loss big hugs ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: NeoshasMummy
Date Posted: 23 February 2009 at 2:25pm
Aww that is really sad hugs for you and your DF.------------- https://secure.fertilityfriend.com/home/30c4ec/" rel="nofollow">  Mrs Te Kani ❤️ Neosha 26/5/2007 |
Posted By: Glow
Date Posted: 23 February 2009 at 2:41pm
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World is cruel
Sorry to hear that. You & DF take care ------------- Mummy of Two Boys B: 2004 K: 2007 |
Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 23 February 2009 at 3:43pm
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Sorry to hear that, its always hard as well when there are regrets and things left unspoken .
Would it be possible for DF to maybe go to the funeral home and visit the body ? That can sometimes help ------------- 
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Posted By: My3Sons
Date Posted: 23 February 2009 at 5:12pm
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awww hugs Kandice, that is hard!! ------------- Mum to Mr 10, Mr 6 and Mr 4 
 
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Posted By: Daizy
Date Posted: 23 February 2009 at 9:41pm
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Posted By: Rachael21
Date Posted: 23 February 2009 at 9:42pm
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Aww thats really sad
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Posted By: Phat_Cat
Date Posted: 23 February 2009 at 10:42pm
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aww sorry to hear of your loss I agree with the furneral home idea take care ------------- Tristen - 24/06/07 Rylan - 11/12/08 Angel Babies -14/08/05 & 21/01/2010 Curtis - 26/02/12 |
Posted By: BugTeeny
Date Posted: 24 February 2009 at 8:52am
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Posted By: jack_&_charli
Date Posted: 24 February 2009 at 9:38am
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awww hun i'm so sorry!
what a shock for you and DF....one simple phonecall could've saved so much heartache and regret......she was obviously not thinking straight!! 
i hope DF gets to say his goodbyes to his dad.....thoughts are with you both ------------- http://www.alternatickers.com"> 
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Posted By: sweetpea
Date Posted: 24 February 2009 at 2:15pm
| Big hugs to you and your family death at any time is never a nice experience. Hopef ully your Dh gets to go and say his goodbyes at the funeral home its suprising how comforting that can be. They honestly do just look like they are sleeping. |
Posted By: Candkids
Date Posted: 24 February 2009 at 3:50pm
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awww big hugs to you & your dh,
yep cancer is a nasty thing. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  DD 10.5yrs DS 6yrs DS 11mths 5 little angles watching from above |
Posted By: ClareB
Date Posted: 02 March 2009 at 9:00am
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big Hugs to you and your Dh
Cancer is awful. Sweetpea makes a good point about visiting the funeral home it can be a way of saying goodby take care ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: kezplanet
Date Posted: 02 March 2009 at 9:40am
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Kandice sorry that your df is going thru this and also you as you are his support, maybe you could suggest that he write his dad a letter and tell him everything that he never had a chance to and how he felt and is feeling now and he could put that in with his dad for only him to read and have, he will know that he was loved. As for family they can say and do cruel things at these times and dont always mean them (although some are just horrid at the best of times) Take care and support df the best you can ------------- Kerryn, Mum to Ashlyn(29/3/04), Anastasia(1/11/05) & Abigail (24/02/09) |