Home or Hospital???????
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Topic: Home or Hospital???????
Posted By: Alan & Bubbles Mummy
Subject: Home or Hospital???????
Date Posted: 17 May 2006 at 11:52am
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Ok so I am sure we have had this as a thread before, but as my Midwife has just been and has been talking about that as an idea I thought I would find out what you wnderful ladies think. I had it pretty easy with Alan so I could prob do it at home. I think it would be really nice cause then I don't have to leave Alan with anyone someone can come here to look after him. Anyway when I mentioned it to Hubby he has said NO WAY!!!! So I want ot find out what other's think. ------------- http://lilypie.com">  
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Posted By: Millie1976
Date Posted: 17 May 2006 at 11:58am
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My personal preference is to have baby at the hospital in case of any complications - my husband has also said that he wants me to go to hospital. ------------- Sebastien 2 years old Olivier 3 3/4 years old |
Posted By: Alan & Bubbles Mummy
Date Posted: 17 May 2006 at 12:06pm
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Oh I should add we only live about five mins from the hospital, and I know my midwife would not muck around if she thought something no matter how small was going to happen. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Two Blondinis
Date Posted: 17 May 2006 at 12:07pm
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same - personal preference is to have bubs in hospital "just in case" but I can certainly see the benefits of having a home birth. Good luck with whatever you decide, btw (not being nosey, just curious) Why does your hubby say no way?!?! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
 
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Posted By: my2angels
Date Posted: 17 May 2006 at 12:09pm
| My SIL has just had a sucessful home birth down in invercargill but me personally wouldnt even consider it and hubby is the same. I would rather be at a hospital that can deal with any complications because if something goes wrong the time to get to the hospital could be life and death for you or your baby. |
Posted By: Alan & Bubbles Mummy
Date Posted: 17 May 2006 at 12:09pm
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yeah Toni not so sure as to the answer to that question I will ask him tonight. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: AlyAyde
Date Posted: 17 May 2006 at 12:13pm
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I prefered to birth in hospital with my two. But then again we live 20-30 mins away and if anything were to happen it just wasnt worth the risk for us. Discuss it more with hubby and see what his concerns are. You could also phone the home birth association and see if they have any info for you. I know they do great coffee groups etc. ------------- Jayde 25/12/04 Alyssa 08/04/03 http://Alyayde.bebo.com |
Posted By: Kelpa
Date Posted: 17 May 2006 at 12:41pm
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I would like to get away from the hospital as soon as possible after......but happy to be in hospital just in case I need drugs!!!!! -------------  
 
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Posted By: mum2emj
Date Posted: 17 May 2006 at 12:53pm
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i always wanted to do homebirth myself, but after the complications that i had with my first (the heamorrhage) i wouldnt ever do the homebirth now as i am terrified it will happen again and need to have the iv in during labour to prevent it, so prob isnt an option for me anyway. but if i had of had a good birth without the heamorrhage i wouldnt of hesitated to try the homebirth in my second.
it does also come down to personal choice. 
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Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 17 May 2006 at 1:05pm
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I'll be in hospital this time being our first child as I obviously don't know what is going to happen. If all is fine though I wouldn't discount a home birth.
If your first labour was fine and you both feel comfortable with the idea then why not? My friend is planning a home birth this time. It is all personal choice.  ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 17 May 2006 at 1:20pm
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I've had two hassle-free natural births so far, which contributes to my midwife saying I should be able to deliver Bubs at the birthing room at the Health Centre in Raetahi (10 minutes away) rather than having to go to Wanganui Hospital.
Although my blood disorder self-corrects in pregnancy, if something does go wrong it has the potential to go very wrong. I would love a home birth but I think that for mine and my child's safety being in a birthing clinic or maternity ward is better in my circumstances. ------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |
Posted By: Alan & Bubbles Mummy
Date Posted: 17 May 2006 at 1:48pm
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I would love to have bubs at a bithing centre, but cause I live in town I don't think that is an otion unless we pay. I think the reason for me wanting bubs at home os that I don't want to leave Alan the more I think about leaving him and not having him close the more I want him with me (not actually while I am having baby, but deffently straight after). I am picking i will have baby in hospital, but I thought it might be intresting to see what other's think. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: jack_&_charli
Date Posted: 17 May 2006 at 1:55pm
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i will definately be having baby at chch women's just in case something goes wrong. reason being...i feel like i'm having my first child as jack was an elective
c-section, so i don't know what to expect and how i'm going to go with labour etc.. if i'd had jack with no probs, maybe i'd consider a home birth this time  ------------- http://www.alternatickers.com"> 
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Posted By: emeldee
Date Posted: 17 May 2006 at 2:11pm
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LOL - potential complications and being close to hospital aside, my main reason for wanting to have bubs in the hospital is so that they get to clean up the mess afterwards....that and they have nicer bath tubs. ------------- |
Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 17 May 2006 at 2:30pm
lolol definately agree with you there - think of the clean up - lol - unles syou have a birthing pool i spose.
I thought about it for Ayja as we too were only 5 mins from hospital. I think mike said no cos he was a bit freaked out by it, i spose hubbys like to think that help is right there if needed too. It got ruled out for me simply cos with paris i had a fewmins where i bled a decent amount and i was a little freaked it might happen again. For me, and this may sound terrible... I wanted to stay in hospital so i could be away from Paris. So i could have those few days to bond with my new little bubba before going back home and getting lost in the hum of being amum to 2.. i wanted to have that time so that bub wouldn't just get slotted into the schedule, lolol. That being said, i hated leaving her and was worried about it, sure, especially when they came to visit and her hair looked wonky and crazy looking cos daddy couldn't do it, or if she cried when she went home, but it was a bit of a break... certainly not a holiday as Ayja slept a decent amount during the day but woke every 45 mins for a feed for the first few nights. I did go home wanting to sleep in my own bed. But those couple of days "out" were good. ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja 
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Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 17 May 2006 at 2:34pm
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That said, lolol, if i ever had a third i would prob consider it.. i mean i don't take long so who's to say i would get to hospital in time anyway. lol ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja
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Posted By: my2angels
Date Posted: 17 May 2006 at 2:37pm
| Im not keen on leaving Kobe either but kind of figure its for the best. He will come in as soon as things have calmed down and I will go home as soon as possible. |
Posted By: nicola86
Date Posted: 17 May 2006 at 2:42pm
| yea i would go to hospital but thats just me as its my first |
Posted By: meow
Date Posted: 17 May 2006 at 3:01pm
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My friend had a successful home water birth and it was her first..
We live 5 mins from the hospital too but my reason for not wanting to have a home birth is that I wouldn't want to be here and be reminded of the pain lol.. I prefered being in hospital too as I had so many nurses to help with breastfeeding.. and I would do it again incase I have problems trying to breastfeed another. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Alan & Bubbles Mummy
Date Posted: 17 May 2006 at 3:05pm
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Janine that's what i was worried about the clean up afterward's, but when i asked my midwife she said she soes it all wash's the bedding and everyithng. Oh well will ahve to keep seeing what other's have to say it is very intresting we are all so differnt.
Althouth it seem's hospital is the most popular choice here. Oh yeah jsut want to add if I was having bub's in palmy hospital I would be mroe then happy being there their birthing sweats ect are so nice, but unfortunally here in the Naki they are not si great and my bath would prob be nicer then there one bath that everyone get th share. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: emeldee
Date Posted: 17 May 2006 at 3:07pm
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Heheh Janine - yep - leaving the other two at home and having some time out with new number 3 is another reason for the hospital. Hubby will probably have the boys dressed in inside out clothing and living on toast for two days, but I'd like the time with the newbie to get to know him first. ------------- |
Posted By: jack_&_charli
Date Posted: 17 May 2006 at 4:34pm
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lol janine...my mum and i were talking about how much time you get to stay in hospitals these days (after birth) and she told me the docs kept asking her if she felt ok to go home and she'd reply 'no, not quite yet having trouble blah blah'..... all she wanted was more 'holiday time'
she did the same when my lil bro was born, was in there a week and still wanted more time!! nice eh!
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Posted By: Andie
Date Posted: 17 May 2006 at 7:34pm
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Hi Deborah!
Good to hear that about Palmy hospital - I'd only heard horror stories about it so far. I wanted a birthing centre, so it'd be a nice comfy environment but I wouldn't have to clean up the mess (now I know better on just how far our midwives job goes - thanks guys!). I don't like the idea of a hospital bed, a curtain for a 'door', sharing a room, or having a toilet waaayyy down the hallway. I would have chosen home birth if it weren't for the fact that our house is in a constant state of repair, and we don't have a lot of privacy - our neighbours are pretty close, and most of our visitors don't knock - they just open the front door and in they come! There's some things you just need a little more privacy for, I think! My midwife suggested using the hospital like a birthing centre - have baby there, and as soon as we can leave, take off to home. I'm thinking of requesting that, as I'm too fussy a sleeper to get a wink's sleep in a hospital bed no matter what, and while it'd be nice not to be near the phone ringing and at the mercy of whoever wants to visit whenever they want to visit, It'd also be nicer to sleep in my own bed with my hubby there. ------------- Andie |
Posted By: lenabeanz
Date Posted: 17 May 2006 at 9:16pm
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I LOVED Palmy Hospital - I had a traumatic birth but the midwives and nurses there were awesome and I had my own room in the Post-Natal suite (all 3 times!!) - only thing I regret is not going to the breastfeeding things in the mornings!!
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Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 18 May 2006 at 8:30am
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I had both boys at Palmy Hosptial and usually were geat. The only thing I wasn't too keen on - hubby rings up. my contractions are a minute and coming in every three. She asks if we can "wait another half an hour before coming in - we're busy"!!!!!
I would suggest even if you wanted a home birth, having someone there for Alan only. Afterall, us mums usually aren't "doing a Katie" and having a silent birth. Alan may be quite upset by any noises you are making. If you have a "support person" for him, they can take him away if he gets upset. Also, if you did have bubs in the hospital, you can leave two hours after delivery anyway! |
Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 18 May 2006 at 8:48am
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i had both girls t Palmy and i found the same - it was great the midwives were sooo helpful and nice and even though the second time i was put in a shared room with Ayja it was still good.. i felt more sorry for the lady who was moved into to share with us on the second night cos her baby slept like an angel whilst ayja woke every 45mins and screamed the place down!!
I felt the other good thing there was that they have pretty strict visiting hours which is good if you need rest - but you can also get a bit lonely... plus it's so much easier if you really just want people to go away - you can tell the midwife you are tired and she will come and tell them to clear out, lololol, in a nice way that is.. you can't always do that at home. ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja
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Posted By: Kellz
Date Posted: 18 May 2006 at 9:34am
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Hi. I am 19 weeks pregnant with our first baby, and unless I develop problems later in my pregnancy we are pretty sure we are going to have a homebirth. My best friend had a homebirth almost 2 years ago, and is due in a few weeks with her second baby which they are also having at home. She has 3 younger siblings who were all born at home, and she wanted to have that same experience too. I am hoping to be there too if bubs comes on time, as I live 4 hrs away and have got time off wk around when its due!
I am a nurse, and feel that birth is a natural process, and unless I (or bubs) is "sick" then I dont need to be in the hospital. I am aiming to have a "natural" birth, meaning no drugs, unless there are problems. My advise would be to talk to your midwife about what would happen if there were complications with you or the baby. There are usually 2 midwives with you for the actual birth, and they carry Oxygen, and resusitation equipment and drugs for you and for the baby should they be needed. You can also change your mind , and go to the hospital at any stage if you choose. The ammount of complications that occur is apparently a lot less with home births, because you are not given any drugs ( for pain or to speed up the labour etc). Having Pethadine for example can suppress the baby's breathing meaning more help is needed to get it breathing. I have been looking into drug free pain relieving options such as the breathing you learn through yoga, acupressure, use of TENs machine ( you can hire them). At first my husband wasnt that keen, but when we discussed it at length with the midwife we realised that it is not an "an safe" option. We still havent decided for sure, beacuse we want to see how the rest of the pregnancy progresses-If there is a risk for myself or the baby we will have a hospital birth. I also like the idea of a water birth, and if I do go to the hospital then I hope I can use the birthing pool. Also in the hospital there are nurses and midwives there 24 hrs a day which can help with breastfeeding, bathing etc. If you have a home birth the midwife can visit every day, but is not there all the time! Well I hope this gives you something to think about! Kelly |
Posted By: Kellz
Date Posted: 18 May 2006 at 9:35am
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Eeek, sorry about the huge message!
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Posted By: Kellz
Date Posted: 18 May 2006 at 9:37am
| opps that is meant to read ,........"unsafe" option |
Posted By: AnnaD
Date Posted: 18 May 2006 at 12:15pm
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I would be keen for a homebirth, the only things i am not sure about at this stage is: hiring the birthing pool, i can't get a proper quote for it but i have been told they are quite $$ and also where at home to do it, my house is TINY and there are few spaces where i could put a birthing pool. At the moment i am more keen on having another water birth than a home birth so if it comes to one or the other then off to the birthing centre it is! (I also second janine and would like time away from quinn...but last time i was at birth care and i blubbered so much that i came home a day after having quinn. i am just a bit of a home-person!)
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Posted By: Alan & Bubbles Mummy
Date Posted: 18 May 2006 at 2:21pm
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Kellz thanks heaps for all that info and all you other ladies. At this stage we have talked about it and I am goign to arrange with my midwife to come see us when Pete is here so we can talk about a plan and all.
Lizzle I deffently plan to have someone here for Alan and I am deffently not likely to do a katie I make lots of noise. The more I think of a homebirth the mroe i like the idea and like you said Kellz we can change our mind's at anytime and head up to the hospital. Andie as far as keeping people away that is why you have a husband he can play watchdog at the door after bubs is born . When i had Alan I was keen to stay in hospital, but when the time came i could not wait to get out it drove me totally nuts it was a tiny little room and it was stinky hot. Anyway will let you all know how we get on in deciding thanks for all the advice and ideas guy's. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: my2angels
Date Posted: 18 May 2006 at 5:23pm
| can I just point out (and I may have read this the wrong way but....) although drugs etc can cause complications there are often complications before. Of everyone I know who have had complications (and there have been heaps that would have been raced off the the hospital) none of them have been due to drugs. |
Posted By: jax
Date Posted: 18 May 2006 at 10:12pm
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I thought you had to stay a minimum of six hours in hospital before you could sign out? Or does that vary from region to region / between hospitals? ------------- Jacquie - Mama to Erin, 13.07.06 - Chief Cat Chaser & Marmite Sammie Eater 
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Posted By: AlyAyde
Date Posted: 18 May 2006 at 10:19pm
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4 hours whangarei ------------- Jayde 25/12/04 Alyssa 08/04/03 http://Alyayde.bebo.com |
Posted By: Alan & Bubbles Mummy
Date Posted: 18 May 2006 at 10:30pm
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I think it change's form place to place my frien went home after 2 hour's in NP. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: AnnaD
Date Posted: 19 May 2006 at 8:58am
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I left North Shore Hosp after about two hours... ------------- Anna and Quinn 10 July 2004 www.quinnariki.blogspot.com and one more on the way.... http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: caraMel
Date Posted: 19 May 2006 at 9:17am
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2-3 hours national womens. cuddles with ella, cup of tea and toast, little nap, shower and off to birthcare. ------------- Mel, Mummy to E: 6, B: 4 and: 
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Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 19 May 2006 at 9:50am
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Went to Waikato about 9am Wednesday morning with Kiya, she was born at 2:02pm and I stayed overnight - but that was because I was transferring to a place in Morrensville and they weren't ready for me that day.
Walked into Waikato 6am Wednesday morning with Josiah, he was born at 6:58am, walked out at 9:30am and transferred to Waterford Birthing Centre. I was ready to leave by 8am, but had to wait for the hospital to finish going over the paperwork with my midwife. ------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |
Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 19 May 2006 at 1:19pm
| 2 hours in palmy. |
Posted By: Alan & Bubbles Mummy
Date Posted: 24 May 2006 at 3:13pm
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Ok so we have not meet with the midwife, but we are getting such a negitive reaction from other's when we tell them it is driving me nut's we are still only thinking about it, but you would think people would be more supportive. Although hubby bought up a good point we are not so worried about the birth and me. what the concern is is the first night after bubba is born what if someting goes wrong with bubba I guess we will have to ask our midwife.
So now i am thinking of maybe staying home for as long as possible and jsut going in to the hospital at the last minute that way we can spend at least the first night in there so if bubba starts chocking( Alan did this) then there is the staff there to help deal with it. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Alan & Bubbles Mummy
Date Posted: 09 June 2006 at 11:58am
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Ok so it has been decided we are planning to have baby at home it is going to be good my Mum is going ot come and stay for the first night or 2 she is a nurse so wee feel better about that. I love the idea of being able to use my shower toilet etc.
So the girl who said no never at home has changed her mind the only thing i am a little worried about is no drug's, but I really think I can do this ya I am so excited about this baby now. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: james
Date Posted: 09 June 2006 at 3:06pm
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Posted By: Anna
Date Posted: 09 June 2006 at 3:42pm
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Yay! Good for you!! I am sure it will be a fabulous experience!! And don't worry about the no drugs thing, I am sure you can do it!
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Posted By: my2angels
Date Posted: 09 June 2006 at 3:52pm
| well its not like you have no idea what the pain is like and Im sure you've done your research so good luck, hope it all goes well. |
Posted By: mrs frantic
Date Posted: 09 June 2006 at 3:57pm
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good luck, hope it is all you want it to be! ------------- Mrs Frantic Baby Maddisyn born 28 Sept 2006 http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 09 June 2006 at 4:36pm
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Posted By: Alan & Bubbles Mummy
Date Posted: 09 June 2006 at 6:05pm
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Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 09 June 2006 at 9:06pm
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Good luck Deb! ------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |
Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 11 June 2006 at 7:35pm
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good 4 u hun
for my next (one day) i want to have it at home, i had caitlyn in hospital but as i didnt get any drugs/pain relief i could have done it at home(actually wanted to push in the car) obviously it would depend on the pregnancy etc but i just like the idea of it |
Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 11 June 2006 at 8:40pm
| I actually liked the idea of having some time with new baby by myself, without the helping hand of his older brother. So hospital for me...next time, not sure. I seem to have relatively stress-free labours. |
Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 12 June 2006 at 10:30am
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Kiya asked me the other day if she could be there when I have Bubs... I told her no, and explained that having a baby hurts the mum and that I didn't want her to see me all sore and grumpy! I think she understood because she said "I don't want to see you like that!" and changed the subject! ------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |