Nursery or your own Room?
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Topic: Nursery or your own Room?
Posted By: July Mum to be
Subject: Nursery or your own Room?
Date Posted: 24 March 2009 at 9:01am
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Hi Girls,
Hope everyone is doing well :) We are expecting our first child in july and can't decide if we want our baby in our room in a bassinet or his own room in a cot. We already have a cot, baby's room is right across from our room (two steps away) and we will be buying Angelcare sound & movement monitor. But if we want baby in our room, we will need to buy a bassinet (not too keen about this as its $$ we can spend buying other stuff for the baby) . the cot wont fit in our room. So i just wanted to know what you ladies did or are planning to do with your newborn baby? What do you all recommend? Any advise would be much appreciated, :):) ------------- http://pregnancy.baby-gaga.com/"> 
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Posted By: josephnia
Date Posted: 24 March 2009 at 9:16am
DS was in his own room right across the hall but I slept in his room for the first 3 months because DH was working fulltime and studying so really needed a good nights sleep. I guess it depends on whether you want to get up each time baby needs feeding or if you want to feed in bed (if you're planning to bf) Personally I was never comfortable feeding in bed and didn't want DS getting used to being in our bed. The other thing is that he's such a noisy sleeper that he keeps me awake if we're in the same room, and I never have had a problem hearing him from our room - we just keep both doors slightly ajar. HTH  -------------  
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Posted By: lilfatty
Date Posted: 24 March 2009 at 9:20am
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We had Issy in with us until she was about six months old ... Elias will be in with us for about the same period of time.
Its one less room I have to keep warm, and its just super handy to have them that close for nightfeeds. I also feel much more comfy being able to hear them breathe  ------------- Mummy to Issy (3) and Elias (18 months) I did it .. 41 kgs gone! From flab to fab in under a year  http://www.femininefitness.co.nz/category/blog - LFs weight blog
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Posted By: AuntieSarah
Date Posted: 24 March 2009 at 9:22am
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We had Stu in our room for about the first three weeks. As soon as we got our angelcare monitor we moved him into his own room. I sleep much better with him in his own room and with the monitor on. So does he actually - I was getting up to his little grizzles too quickly when he was in our room - sometimes he just goes back to sleep after a little grizzle and doesn't need to be picked up.
So yeah - I would put him straight in his room if I were you ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: AuntieSarah
Date Posted: 24 March 2009 at 9:25am
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For feeding - I tried feeding in bed a couple of times and never found it comfortable anyway. I ended up going into the lounge for middle of the night feeds. Now I have a chair in his room and just feed him in there. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: scribe
Date Posted: 24 March 2009 at 9:59am
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It looks as though everyone feels differently - personally, I liked to have Clara sleeping close to me when she was a newborn; after having her in my tummy for so long it would have felt weird if she'd gone straight into another room - but that's just me. Also, she was also born in July and I wouldn't have wanted to go too far from my bed to feed her - I fed her in my bed during night feeds.
We had her in a hammock in our room, then she moved into her cot in her room when she was about 3 or 4 months I think. The hammock was brilliant - it was close enough that I could lie in bed and rock it, sometimes I think I rocked her in my sleep (she was a very unsettled baby due to reflux). |
Posted By: freckle
Date Posted: 24 March 2009 at 10:00am
We had our wee girl in our room until one  ... prob a bit long but I found it much easier in the early days as I had her right next to me and could pop her into bed with me to bf, plus it's nice to be able to check on her whenever... Also she was in her bassinet until 8 months - we had a cot it was just more cosy for her - so I def think it was worth the money. Plus in the bassinet I could easily move her into another room or take it away when we were staying elsewhere.------------- mum to 3 lovely girls :D |
Posted By: monikah
Date Posted: 24 March 2009 at 10:51am
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we'll be keeping mack in our room with us. im studying right through my pregnancy and afterwards so id rather not have to get up, get cold, go to another room to feed and then settle myself back into bed. we have a hammock which hangs from the roof so space isnt an issue for us. DH has a pager so i used to being woken in the night and settle quite easily but it depends if your inclined to jump up everytime you hear a sniffle or not. im not sure how ill be once he is born. if i race to him everytime he moves we'll put him i his own room but its a really cold time of the year so id rather just have one room heated that we can monitor easier too ------------- 
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Posted By: ElfsMum
Date Posted: 24 March 2009 at 10:52am
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It seems so different for everyone:)
We had Ethan in his own room from day one(february) and had angelcare monitor and it worked out great for both of us:) ------------- Mum to two amazing boys! |
Posted By: RBsMama
Date Posted: 24 March 2009 at 12:19pm
I had Rhys in our room for the first 6 weeks in a bassinet and then moved him & his bassinet into his own room, across the hall from our room with both doors wide open. I don't have an angelcare monitor as I can hear all the noises he makes anyway, or though I did seriously think about getting one, but didn't have the $$. I also didn't know how much noise a baby makes when they're asleep.
If the cost is putting you off buying a bassinet, I bought a 2nd hand one and bought a brand new mattress. It didn't end up being so expensive ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 24 March 2009 at 12:39pm
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Maya was in with me till 6 mths, gremlins and lil miss all went straight into their own rooms from day one. I had monitors etc. so I could hear them. I did sleep in with lil miss for the first few months, but that was mostly coz it was winter and I heated her room so it was warmer in there than our room - poor DH had to sleep in our cold room by himself! -------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: busyissy
Date Posted: 24 March 2009 at 12:41pm
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We have had both our babies in our room. Isobelle is still in with us and is almost 5mths now.
I don't really think it is a decision you can make before the baby comes as you don't know how you are going to feel about it until it comes time to actually do it. You might be a mum that can't bear to be that far apart from your baby or you might be a mum that can't sleep when they are in the same room. If I was you I would prepare for both, if you don't end up using a bassinette then you can always sell it on TM. bassinette mattresses are only about $20-$30. |
Posted By: flakesitchyfeet
Date Posted: 24 March 2009 at 12:51pm
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I had to have Hollie in my room, so that I could hear her sleeping, it made me much more relaxed :) I wanted a particular bassinet anyway so it gave me an excise to go shopping. We are moving in about three weeks time, so I am transitioning her to her cot now, and in the new house she will have her own room. -------------  http://lilypie.com"> |
Posted By: myfullhouse
Date Posted: 24 March 2009 at 1:44pm
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Jack was in our room for the first 5mths. It was easier only heating one room. Once I got more intelligent about it (baby brain! ) I would wheel the change table in at night and everything got done in our room. I only had to take 1 step out of bed to get him, would sit in bed and feed, I found that I didn't wake as fully and didn't feel as tired during the day.
DH would sleep through it all, sometimes making a comment when the bedside light went on but it never worried him. I also like the company even though he was asleep. For a while I would take Jack into his room to feed but it was colder and lonely. We will do the same with this baby ------------- Lindsey 
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Posted By: Ella1
Date Posted: 24 March 2009 at 2:04pm
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I was quite sure Mika would be going in her own room, like you her room is only 2 steps from ours and our bedroom is really small.
Then I came home from the hospital and I just couldn't cope with the idea of her being in another room. Luckily we managed to squeeze her hammock next to the bed (ours is on a stand). I'm much happier this way. It is easy when I want to feed her in bed. But I have to admit, she has become a little noisy lately, and sometimes DH sleeps in the spare room to catch up on his sleep. But I'm still not ready to move her. (We will have to though when she moves into her cot, as that will never fit in our room  )
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Posted By: AandCsmum
Date Posted: 24 March 2009 at 2:12pm
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Both my kids slept in with us, we don't really have an option as we were renovating Alia's room when she was born & now we are renovation a new room for her & Cooper will go into her old room. But in saying that it's much easier to feed in bed at night.
Each baby is completely different, some are noisy & some are quiet so that will play a big part on where you have them. I'm debating if I want to leave Cooper in a cot in our room now that he's out growing his bassinette ------------- Kel http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: peanut butter
Date Posted: 24 March 2009 at 2:30pm
| Tom was in with us for about a week and then into his cot in his room. James is still in with us as we havent quite worked out where he is going. |
Posted By: peanut butter
Date Posted: 24 March 2009 at 2:30pm
| heres a thought.....why not hire a basinette or a moses basket so you can have him/her in your room for minimal expense. |
Posted By: kriss
Date Posted: 24 March 2009 at 2:44pm
Ashlyn slept in a borrowed bassinette by my side of the bed for the first few weeks, and then we moved her to the cot where she still sleeps, also by my side of the bed just a step away. We have the TT monitor with the sensor on as well. I prefer to have her close for night feeds and I like to hear her snores so that I know she is okay 
A friend of mine had her bubs in the pram for the first few weeks (you can wheel it anywhere in the house) and another in a little fabric cocoon with handles, like a carrycot ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Shezamumof3
Date Posted: 24 March 2009 at 3:45pm
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We had Caden in our room until he was 6 months old, I felt so much better knowing he was right there and I could hear him breathing and moving and stuff. he was a noisy sleeper but that was comforting for us.
Lilyan will be in our room until she is about the same age. Also, like what lilfatty said, much easier for night feeds  I used to just scoop caden up and into my bed to breastfeed!------------- |
Posted By: July Mum to be
Date Posted: 26 March 2009 at 8:02am
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Thanks for all your replies ladies :) appreciate it.
I think we are going to have him in his own room from day 1. we will leave our and his doors open and have the heater on so hopefully it wont be too cold to get out of bed and walk to his room to feed him. do you need to change baby in the middle of the night as well? sorry if this sounds stupid :S coz i was thinking even if we had him in our room , we will still need to go to his room to change him as the change table doesnt fit in our room... And where did you all have him sleep during the day? in his room or brought the bassinet or portacot to the lounge where you were? thank again :) ------------- http://pregnancy.baby-gaga.com/">
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Posted By: josephnia
Date Posted: 26 March 2009 at 8:28am
No questions are stupid I didn't know a thing and these are questions I had then too. We had Blake sleep in the lounge during the day in his hammock (we have a 2 level house and I didn't want to be up and down the stairs all day long). Once he was around 3 months or so we moved him to his ezee rocker in his cot for his day sleeps. I would change him generally once in the night regardless but also any time he had a pooey nappy. Once he got a bit older and we moved to cloth I stopped changing him during the night, also cos he never poos at night any more. I have a feeding chair in his room and it has a king size beautifully soft and warm rug on it so when it's cold I sit on it, position Blake and then wrap the sides around us both so it's nice and cosy  -------------
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Posted By: kiwisj
Date Posted: 26 March 2009 at 9:23am
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We planned to have Callum in his own room from the beginning, straight into a cot. We couldn't fit a cot into our room and expected him to be a fairly big baby so didn't want to shell out for a moses basket for only a few weeks.
As it turned out, he was early and tiny so we borrowed a moses basked right before he arrived and had him in that for a week or so and then the one I liked at Mothercare was on sale so we bought one. We got about 2 months' use out of it but will hopefully use it again now we've got it. C was in our room till around his due date (so nearly 2 months) but DH couldn't sleep so he slept in the spare room. We had to move him into his own room when my Mum came to stay so that DH could sleep with me
During the day he was in the lounge right at the beginning and then after a couple of weeks I just put him in his room for day sleeps as it meant I got more done instead of watching him constantly (I think it was around the time I managed to get out and buy a monitor LOL). We didn't have a change table in our room, I changed C on our bed at night if he needed it but once we stopped having to wake him 3hrly for feeds I strted only changing him if he'd pooed in the night - much easier. Now I feed C in the lounge in the night, the couch is comfier than the chair I bought for BF as I have to use the football hold! Hope you find something useful in that novel!------------- SJ Callum - Dec 2008 Daniel - Oct 2010 |
Posted By: lilfatty
Date Posted: 26 March 2009 at 9:41am
We changed Issy at every feed (day and night) .. so about every three hours. (So yes we changed her in the night .. would you want to sleep in a wet nappy  )
I do recall that there was a study that showed greater number of babies died of SIDS when they slept on their own when compared to sleeping in the same room as the parents. Although for me personally it was just I liked having her near me. Although this time around, I might take more note of the SIDS studies as someone on here was saying that boys have a greater chance of "something going wrong" as they are the weaker sex lol ------------- Mummy to Issy (3) and Elias (18 months) I did it .. 41 kgs gone! From flab to fab in under a year http://www.femininefitness.co.nz/category/blog - LFs weight blog
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Posted By: Bel
Date Posted: 26 March 2009 at 12:18pm
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We had Luke in his own room from day one as I couldn't sleep with him in the same room as me - spent too much time listening and waiting for him to wake. I never used my monitor either, becuase I could hear him fine and woke really easily when he did. I think it is a personal decision that you can't really make until the baby is here.
Sorry that doesn't really help with your dilemma of a cot vs bassinette. ------------- Mum to two beautiful kids
Luke (09.11.2007) Amy (01.04.2009) |