Changing names
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Topic: Changing names
Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Subject: Changing names
Date Posted: 25 March 2009 at 4:22pm
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Hey lovelies, wondering if anyone can help me , i'll try to make it as uncomplicated as possible !
When I had Caitlyn I was not with her father but he asked if she could have his surname, but I also wanted mine, so her last name is F****** - McGehan . Now Im married ( yay!) and I want to change her name from F*****-McGehan to F****** -Seccombe . McGehan was my maiden name, F***** is her fathers name,(and Seccombe is my married name ) this way Caitlyn has both her dads last names (DH is her dad too , IYKWIM ) and will have the same last name as both sets of siblings . Does anyone know the procedure to go about this ? 
edited to asterix my little mistake .....  ------------- 
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Posted By: flakesitchyfeet
Date Posted: 25 March 2009 at 4:40pm
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Nope but I'm interested as my mother is in a similar but not really situation. My half brother has her maiden name and they are looking at changing it to her married name. -------------  http://lilypie.com"> |
Posted By: fire_engine
Date Posted: 25 March 2009 at 4:40pm
oops - you did so well with blanking out her dad's name till the last time 
Births deaths and marriages have forms, and you probably need her dad's written consent. ------------- Mum to two wee boys |
Posted By: FreeSpirit
Date Posted: 25 March 2009 at 4:46pm
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You will need her father's signature for any name change. ------------- http://www.babysfirstsite.com"> 
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Posted By: flakesitchyfeet
Date Posted: 25 March 2009 at 5:09pm
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lol thats hilarious. Good spotting Flissty.
Does it make any difference if the father has zilch to do with the child? ------------- http://lilypie.com"> |
Posted By: fire_engine
Date Posted: 25 March 2009 at 5:19pm
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Nope. Don't think so. As long as they're named on the birth certificate. The BDM has some provisions for if contact with the father would be detrimental, but it would be rare. ------------- Mum to two wee boys |
Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 25 March 2009 at 5:31pm
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Haha! lol, preggy brain , i was doing so well too ! -------------
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Posted By: my4beauties
Date Posted: 25 March 2009 at 5:51pm
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Haha, and I was thinking "why has she blanked it out, just to tell everyone anyway?"
And I would say you'd have to go to birth, deaths and marriages to change your name? ------------- My babies: R (9),G (7), J (5) http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: Candkids
Date Posted: 25 March 2009 at 6:29pm
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you can download the forms online, and as its not HIS lastname your changing you may not need his permition at all.
also most schools will change it for you on the roll if you talk nicely to the office ladies ;) ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  DD 10.5yrs DS 6yrs DS 11mths 5 little angles watching from above |
Posted By: emz
Date Posted: 25 March 2009 at 6:49pm
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A word of warning Kelly and I don't know how right I am in saying this, but thought I would put it out there -
You will probably have to pay for that name change as it's not through marriage (ie her marriage) so basically it's like any other name change and will cost. I don't know how much sorry but be prepared for a wee (or not so wee) bill if it comes to that (and sometimes they charge by the letter, are you sure you can't shorten your married name?  )
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Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 25 March 2009 at 7:57pm
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You can edit your first post if you want to -------------  |
Posted By: susieq
Date Posted: 25 March 2009 at 9:17pm
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I think it is a good idea having both her dads names on the birth certificate F....... Seccombe ------------- susie |
Posted By: Chickaboo
Date Posted: 25 March 2009 at 9:26pm
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sorta the same but different but my eldest 2 are not DH bio children so at school they are - with their 'birth' surname and our surname.. its not legal but thats what they go by and thats what on school things etc.... say --- if you want me to explain more PM (hehe not willing to risk the same mistake as you Kelly and put surnames here LOL)
I think i breifly looked into changing their name - but know ex would not go for it and wasn't worth the stress with him - besides when DD gets married she can change it and DS is 15 hes coming up when he can change it without his bio fathers permission so didnt do it. ------------- http://lilypie.com">  
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Posted By: JD
Date Posted: 25 March 2009 at 9:28pm
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just curious...is she ok with having her name changed? Just wondering as I have a daughter that has my maiden name and her fathers name hyphenated. There is no way she will change her name to have my married name instead of maiden name. Perhaps it is because she still sees her father (not sure what your situation is). I tend to not worry about it as she will change it when she is married anyway. It would be handy at times to have the same name, but not too much bother not having it the same.
Also, my dh has a daughter who didn't have his name on the birth certificate and when her mother remarried, she changed the girls name to her married name. The girl had no choice in the matter and doesn't really want the new name. Its a great idea to have the same names has her siblins and fathers. I beleive that you will have to have the fathers permission...and as ems says, it will cost. You could just use the new name and not have it "officially" changed. No one really asks to see a kids birth certificate anyway... ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: JD
Date Posted: 25 March 2009 at 9:29pm
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sorry, that was just a tad rambly!!! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: mrsturtle
Date Posted: 25 March 2009 at 9:49pm
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could you change it by deed poll? im not sure how that all works but just a thought.
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Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 25 March 2009 at 10:39pm
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Thanks for all the replies ladies :-)
Emz I think you may be right about it costing a bit , thats cool I was prepared for that ... JD, the name she'll be taking off is my maiden name, so she'll have both her biological dads, and her stepdads surnames , instead of her biological dads and my maiden name . This is so she has the same surname as her brothers (she has 2 on her dad's side plus Tyler on ours ) , her dad (biological ) has no prob with me dropping off my maiden name , hes pretty easy going . Shes all for changing her name , tho she was a tad disappointed, she thought I meant she could change her whole name . She wanted to be called Cinderella Isabelle Monique Rainbow Fufu Tutu. Yeah .... Teresa, think i might just have to do that -------------
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Posted By: kiwisj
Date Posted: 25 March 2009 at 11:03pm
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I think it's great that C's Dad is happy for her to change her name. (as long as it's not to Cinderella Isabelle Monique Rainbow Fufu Tutu, right?!)
Just wanted to add - about using a different name but not changing it legally - I had a friend a primary school and she used her Mum's married name/stepdad's name as he was her "Dad" and she didn't know her bio father. Noone had a clue of course and it wasn't an issue at all - until she went to Uni. There was a big drama as the university refused to let her use her Dad's name on her degree unless she changed it by deed poll. I have a similar issue now - I'm married and legally in NZ I can use Mrs B ... but here I can't until I get a new passport because everyone wants to see your pp here for stuff. So frustrating! So, if it were me, I would definitely go for the name change ------------- SJ Callum - Dec 2008 Daniel - Oct 2010 |
Posted By: jjands
Date Posted: 26 March 2009 at 10:02am
| hey Kelly, I think it's $125 and I'm pretty sure you won't need her Dads permisson on that one as your just changing her name from your maiden name to married. Yay good luck I was 11 when I got to take my 'dads' name and was really excited! |
Posted By: Babe
Date Posted: 26 March 2009 at 12:46pm
We've looked into it ourselves and according to the paperwork we have you'll def have to have her bio dads permission to make any changes to her name. If hes easy about it you're really lucky! My ex enjoys making everything as difficult as possible  -------------   
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Posted By: M2K
Date Posted: 26 March 2009 at 1:39pm
HAHAHAHAHAHA what a hardcase!!!  ------------- 
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