Breastfeeding.
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Topic: Breastfeeding.
Posted By: _SMS_
Subject: Breastfeeding.
Date Posted: 31 March 2009 at 2:26pm
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At what age to you think people should stop?
Do you think 2yrs old is too old?? -------------  
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Posted By: cuppatea
Date Posted: 31 March 2009 at 2:32pm
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I pretty much just think whenever, is up to the mum and child. I do find it a bit weird when people carry on with school age children though, but each to their own. ------------- 
 
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Posted By: Rachael21
Date Posted: 31 March 2009 at 2:35pm
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Ooo this thread is probably going to open a big can or worms but thats cool healthy debate is great.
I personally think there is no age where people should stop. Baby and Mum continue to benefit as long as breastfeeding continues and as long as they are both happy who really cares how old the child is. The world health organisation reccomends breastfeeding til at least 2 years old so I don't really see how anyone can say its too old. Just because you personally couldn't breastfeed til 2 (for whatever reasons) doesn't mean 2 is too old as a genral rule IYKWIM |
Posted By: SMoody
Date Posted: 31 March 2009 at 2:39pm
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Well I did self led weaning with my girl and she stopped at 2 years 8 months.
I feel the rigth time to stop is either when the child wants too or when the mother starts resenting it. It is up to each individual family and your own family choices. We have had a few discussions on this already. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: FreeSpirit
Date Posted: 31 March 2009 at 3:28pm
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Personally, I don't think I'll be breastfeeding when she's at primary school (5 years old), but for now I plan on her deciding when she wants to stop, hopefully we'll make it to about 2 and a half but if we only make it to one then that's fine too. When I first got preggo and had my girl I couldn't see myself BF for 3 months, let alone 6 or OMG 9! months, but it just keeps getting easier. ------------- http://www.babysfirstsite.com"> 
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Posted By: NovemberMum
Date Posted: 31 March 2009 at 3:47pm
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I am still breastfeeding my 16 month old...I plan on let her decide when she wants to wean.
for all I know she may decide to wean during my pregnancy. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 31 March 2009 at 4:05pm
I agree, I think its one of those personal up to the parents and child things . But once Caitlyn got to her "ferocious fours " (which I have mainly blocked out ) I would have wanted her away from me and my breasts as much as possible . Evil child would have probably bit them off For the record I bf til she was 13 months, we were both ready by then , I'll just take Tyler's cue,or when I decide I want my body back to myself as far as he goes , I enjoy BF tho , so I will do it as long as I can , and as long as hes happy too :-) ------------- 
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cuppatea wrote:Posted By: Daizy
Date Posted: 31 March 2009 at 7:50pm
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I think its all up to the mum and baby. Personally I dont think 2 is too old at all, I hope to still be feeding Maddi for as long as possible.
As they get older the amount of feeds and time they are fed has usually dropped heaps and a probably only feeding at night and/or in the morning. I think once a baby starts walking and talking it is a bit wierd to still be feeding in public - they are no longer a baby and should be able to eat/drink something else when hungry but thats just my own opinion. If a child really needs it I see no problem with feeding them. I love BF'ing, with Keira I helped her self wean at about 18 months, just because I wanted my sleep back. With Maddi being my last I might find it harder to stop, although I do hope not to still be feeding at 3. ------------- 
 
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Posted By: peachy
Date Posted: 31 March 2009 at 8:05pm
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I hoped to b/f till DD was 1 year old, but she had other ideas and self weaned at 7 months! I had no say in the matter at all!
I say just go with the flow, only you and your baby will know when the time is right is to give up! ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Mum2ET
Date Posted: 31 March 2009 at 8:18pm
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Nope, I don't think 2 is too old to be still b/f. Ella is 21 months and still going strong- have planned to have weaned by 2, but she doesn't show any signs of wanting to give up, so I suspect I will probably now just wait until she is ready to stop (hopefully before she is 3 as I think by then I would have had enough). ------------- Mum to Ella (5) and Tom (2) |
Posted By: Rachael21
Date Posted: 31 March 2009 at 8:44pm
ferocious fours??? Oh god I thought three was the end of the temper. Yay more fun to look forward to. |
Posted By: busymum
Date Posted: 01 April 2009 at 1:09pm
haha can of worms alright! I don't like bf occuring beyond the kid being able to walk and talk - I think they need their independence. So I don't feed beyond 1yr. My littlest brother was fed until 2.5yrs however  -------------  |
Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 01 April 2009 at 4:43pm
hehe, thats right Rach, ferocious Fours, fiery Fives, and six...dont get me started on six, you think your kids know everything at 5, your'e wrong , they know even more at 6  -------------
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 01 April 2009 at 5:05pm
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I always thought I'd wean at one year, with Maya it was cut short at 10 mths for medical reasons and with the gremlins it was three months but now after having successfully fed lil miss to 8 mths (she's only ever had breastmilk or EBM to drink) I'm not sure. If she wants to keep feeding after that then I'll probably keep it up.
I've always said "if they're old enough to ask, they're too old", but then she already "tells" me she wants a feed by climbing on me and sucking at my clothes  .
Mind you, having a breastfeed at night before bed is a bit different to demand feeding an older child. I certainly can't see myself pulling up my top to feed my 2-year old at the mall - any more than I would let the gremlins run around the mall with bottles. ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: Shezamumof3
Date Posted: 01 April 2009 at 5:15pm
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For me I think 1 year is enough, but thats just me, each to their own. ------------- |
Posted By: AandCsmum
Date Posted: 01 April 2009 at 8:00pm
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Alia was weaned around 16mths. I hope I can carry on for around that length of time again? I think?
Oh & I call it the Feral fives  ------------- Kel http://lilypie.com"> 
A = 01.02.04 & C = 16.01.09 & G = 30.03.12 |
Posted By: Andie
Date Posted: 01 April 2009 at 9:39pm
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Ha ha... I love how we all hear about the feral fives and ferocious fours once it's too late for any of us anyway! Lol.
Well, I've had to wean for medical reasons for both babies so this is a hot topic for me right now, but I don't think there really is a "should" about how long to breastfeed. Quite a personal decision and in my mind it's whatever works for that particular family. I know at which point I imagine I'd feel uncomfortable still breastfeeding, but having never actually reached that age still B/F with either child, who knows if I'd see it differently once baby was that age? I have friends who've fed past an age where I'd consider it, but that works beautifully for their families, so why not? ------------- Andie |
Posted By: fattartsrock
Date Posted: 01 April 2009 at 10:20pm
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I don't think ther is a "right" age to stop, it's different for everyone. I only recently weaned Charlotte, and experiece tells me that lots and lots of people feed beyond 1 year but do it "hidden" and "on the quiet" as people are fairly extreme in their views on it beyond the walking talking stage. I got bawled out rather publically and humiliatingly at a christmas function by a "friend" of ours for still feeding charlotte, to her it was akin to child abuse and she said she had contemplated rigning CYFS when she saw me in the paper talking about extended feeding for something or other. Actually made me cry.
Also, expreince tells that feeding beyond about 10 months is often only once or twice a day, sometimes more and sometimes through the night, but is not often needed during "public" times, so not many people actaully "see" it so think it dosen't exist. I run a BF support group and am doing some training through LLL to become a peer support councellour and hope that I can get some "good" exposure for BF beyond 6 months or so. Personally, I think when it is right for mum and baby to give up, then it is right, be that 3 months, six months or three years, however I would be uncomfortable seeing a 4 or 5 year old plus feeding! ------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |
Posted By: SMoody
Date Posted: 02 April 2009 at 9:50am
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I think I might be one of the weirdo mums I suppose. I just breastfed McKayla where she needed it and didnt care if people stared. It was their problem with it not mine.
I dont see the difference between a bottle and a boob. Both serve the same purpose. And if people came up to me this is my response: Do you agree that toddlers still need a certain amount of milk? Answer usually that I get: Yes but they are of the age of being able to drink cows milk. Mine: Okay, but why do I need to give her milk from a cow made for calves when my body is able to make her milk made specially for her? And honestly I think no one will bat an eyelid if I just expressed and gave it to her in a cup or milk. It is the actual fact that you breastfeed. And people see boobs as a sexual thing where I see it first as a way to feed my child. Disclaimer: I am not against formula feeding. Mom and child relationship needs to come first and we all make different decisions due to circumstances and choices. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 02 April 2009 at 10:03am
no, I was the same, but then I very rarely care what people think . Not much difference, but I wouldn't recommend heating your boob up in the microwave -------------
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Posted By: toniellis
Date Posted: 07 April 2009 at 1:40am
Well my oldest was nearly three when I weaned him, second son was weaned last month (nearly 3) & Miss 10months is still going strong. Just suits me to breastfeed for that long.... I always said though I would not be breastfeeding a school kid, that would be outside my personal comfort zone. The World Health Organisation recommend breastfeeding until the age of two. Worldwide I think the average is 4...  ------------- Mum to Alex (11), Blaire (10) & Erika (8) and Damien (6) Successful HWB VBA2Cs! Soon to be surrogate |