TEXT STALKED ...HELP!
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Topic: TEXT STALKED ...HELP!
Posted By: TysMummy
Subject: TEXT STALKED ...HELP!
Date Posted: 22 April 2009 at 7:13pm
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i taliked on another forum to try and find mums in my area (have no luck here) well anyway it looked like they were making a new group so like everyone else i put down cell # one girl gave me a call ....seemed fine then txt me that same day....i txt back...the next day 10 txts later asking same questions and being very random...........every day for a month she has send minimium of 10 txts i havent txt back for a week now as it was starting to make me feel weird and hubby just thought she was very odd........does anyone find this weird? i started thinking she was just lonely then the questions where just weird and she kept asking if it was ok if she was white........wat has that got to do with the price of fish............im white for petes sack........my family have suggested not even to reply to her as to them its more obsessive the lonely..... ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: BaAsKa
Date Posted: 22 April 2009 at 7:23pm
WTF!!!! asking about being white!? that sounds nutty to me!!!!  
I would definately stare clear of her!!! definately obsessive rather than lonely!!! 
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TysMummy wrote:Posted By: AandCsmum
Date Posted: 22 April 2009 at 7:45pm
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Hmmm wonder if you can get her text stopped? by the provider? ------------- Kel http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: TysMummy
Date Posted: 22 April 2009 at 7:59pm
was thinking about that but she is on prepay and i didnt think you could do it with that....... ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: AandCsmum
Date Posted: 22 April 2009 at 8:05pm
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But you might be able to your end? Kinda like spam emails IYKWIM ------------- Kel http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Katep
Date Posted: 22 April 2009 at 8:06pm
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You can call the provider to get them blocked or whatever. I think there is soething funny about prepaid phones. And they need to be texting you so many times a day for a certain amount of time. A friend of mine had a problem a few years ago, but they couldn't do anything as she wasn't being texted enough.
Then again, rules often change, and you may find it different with each networks. This person sounds weird! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: TysMummy
Date Posted: 22 April 2009 at 8:25pm
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well i do feel better knowing everyone (so far) thinks she is strange..........i am with vodafone and i know it goes to egypt most of the time so have had problems recently with them but will phone them tomorrow to find out the deal with it ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: TysMummy
Date Posted: 22 April 2009 at 8:29pm
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hubby said to mention that she also tells me she has a mate that knows me............she doesnt know our last name so dont know why she keps saying that ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Mamma2N
Date Posted: 22 April 2009 at 8:44pm
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are you actually sure that she is a mother or even a woman for that matter? I would definetly ring Vodafone if I were you... It wouldn't surprise me if shes some weirdo who is looking for something completely different to what you would think IYKWIM
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Posted By: BugTeeny
Date Posted: 22 April 2009 at 10:04pm
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Vodafone can only do anything if the texts you are receiving are abusive/threatening, and you need to keep several examples on your phone to forward to them.
What kind of phone do you have? Most new Nokias have a function that allows you to trash texts from certain numbers - so you won't see them come in, they'll sit in a seperate folder in your phone (called "Screened Messages") It's worth a call to Vodafone to see what they can do, but if the texts aren't malicious then there's not really much that can be done. But if that number has been reported for the same kind of thing by several people, then there's cause for action. Sounds really frustrating, good luck!! *edited for spelling ------------- 
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Posted By: Kels
Date Posted: 22 April 2009 at 11:52pm
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OMGosh that sounds scary and weird all right. I would report to vodafone anyway so if it continues or gets worse there is a record of a complaint made about the number. She/he/it sounds like a nutter. |
Posted By: TysMummy
Date Posted: 23 April 2009 at 7:54am
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ok so the latest txt where 3 last night asking if i had baby and boy or girl........this is the norm of the txt usually if i want to know if somone has had kid ill do it once not 5 time4s a day, hubby know thinking she may turn up to hospital and the kid go missing ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: clover
Date Posted: 23 April 2009 at 8:37am
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Just ignore the texts and don't reply. Sounds like a total nut job to me. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: mummytobesep08
Date Posted: 23 April 2009 at 10:01am
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sounds very weird.
If it were me I'd just ignore the txts. she'll get tired of it eventually. Yes I imagine she's very lonely and, through chatting on the net, probably considers you a 'friend'. Not that there's anything wrong with having net friends or anything *waves to the girls in due sep 08 group* but if you are that girls only 'friend' then that could be why she's becoming obsessed. Do you still chat in that mums group? ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: TysMummy
Date Posted: 23 April 2009 at 10:19am
i only put one post and had never talked to her online she phoned then txt straight away...............and like i mentioned before i havent txt back for over a week now...........so ignoring it is not a problem its the middnight txt i have issues with ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: BuzzyBee
Date Posted: 23 April 2009 at 10:47am
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If it were me I'd change my number and that be that, she hasn't got your full/last name, address or any other details apart from your mobile phone eh?
Doesn't sound like normal behaviour to me, especially not that of a mother run off her feet with kids. The texts sound invasive. I'd be worried too. I think we can all definitely take it as a lesson not to put our mobile #'s on a public forum, espesh one you aren't very familiar with and that can be viewed by non-members (guessing thats the case here ...) Hopefully she get the idea quick smart if you keep ignoring. I don't personally use my mobile ph. anymore as I hate them, but when i did I could block texts and calls from certain numbers (which came in bloody handy when you have a spat with someone  ) ...The phone i have is a samsung and its the green slide one, not sure if this is a feature on all samsungs but worth a check- you'd think that if one brand has that capability most others would follow suit.
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Posted By: M2K
Date Posted: 23 April 2009 at 10:48am
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Do you know if she is texting the other lady's as well? I would say she is really bored and lonely.
Maybe you could tell her you are changing your number as you are switching to telecom and for her not to text as you won't get them, and will get back to her once you have another number... (just to be polite) ------------- 
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Posted By: sweetpea
Date Posted: 23 April 2009 at 1:37pm
| Ring vodafone and get it blocked and have three examples on your phone. pretty sure its not just for malicious calls as a girl at work kept getting weird texts afrom people she didn';t know even after sending an initial text to say that you got wrong number. |
Posted By: TysMummy
Date Posted: 23 April 2009 at 1:48pm
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man puter crashed as i wrote post....ok so i cant change my number as its used for business aswell and no she hasnt got any other details............i have just PMd another ladey to see if she was getting any other txts so will see wat happens after that...just checked my phone and cant find out how to block as its new its a motorola if anyone knows how.....vodafone sucks and said they wont do anything........ok im on the run to specialist now to see if i need to be induced ...just changing subject a little haha......i will keep you ladies informed on txtng issue. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: ooEvaoo
Date Posted: 23 April 2009 at 2:21pm
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Gee sounds like a nut!!. Hope she doesn't live near me lolz. I thought there were plenty of Waikato mums on here..and there was a coffee group thingy happening to I think. Where abouts are you? ------------- 
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Posted By: BugTeeny
Date Posted: 23 April 2009 at 3:54pm
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While Vodafone don't "suck", some of their customer services reps lack the experience to help.
I would advise you to call back and ask them to refer to Clause 4, Section G of the Terms and Conditions for Vodafone users.
*underlined pertinent information* I worked for Vodafone for 6 years, and have dealt with this situation many times. While, generally, they won't help (like my previous post said), if you press on with them and ask to speak to their supervisers (or, better yet, go into a store and ask to see their T&Cs and point out the relavent clause), they need to take further action. Keep trying, hopefully someone will step up and take some action for you 
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Posted By: Shezamumof3
Date Posted: 23 April 2009 at 4:10pm
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I had the same kind of thing after I spoke to a guy on NZ Dating(lol) about 4 years ago. I only spoke to him on msn and once on the phone and was going to meet up with him, but he kept suggesting his house and I didn't want to do that i wanted to go somewhere public, he agreed but I changed my mind at the last minute and canceled, saying I wasn't interested.
He kept on txting me and calling my phone,I never replied but he never gave up, he left voice mail and stuff too, then one day he called me again(this was after weeks of txts where I hadnt replied) so my friend answered and told him to bugger off and that I wasnt interested, he got NASTY amd called us horrible names and went mental!!!. I called vodafone and told them, it took a few phone calls but then i finally got someone who helped and what they did was ask me how many txts I have gotten from him etc(if you get a certain amount of txts in a certain space of time then its considered harrasment ) got his number off me, and said that he would get a warning from them if he contacted me again, then if he didn't listen to that they would bar his phone. I changed my number after a while anyways cos he made me so nervous, but after I spoke to vodafone I didn't hear from him again. I even changed my email and stuff as well, he was a creep! ------------- |
Posted By: BaAsKa
Date Posted: 23 April 2009 at 4:38pm
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I had something similar to you Sheena except as far i knew i didnt actually know him!!!
I started getting texts from this guy who knew my name and where i lived but his name didnt ring a bell. He was creeping me out with his personal questions and i absolutely wasnt interested anyway!!! I had a partner (now DH) and a 3 month old baby!! (Bay) so i only told him once to F off but he started texting at 2 every morning (which pissed me off even more bcos i thought it was family with emergencies!!!) his texts turned into "please dont leave me, i need you", "i like the colour of your hair", "we can be happy together" and the last one that caused me to call police was "PLEASE!! I WONT LET ANYONE ELSE HAVE YOU, I WANT TO DRINK THE BLOOD OF YOUR HEART"..... i had already by that point contacted vodafone and he was still texting but after i rung police they apparently rung vodafone and i never heard from the weirdo again!!!
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Posted By: TysMummy
Date Posted: 26 April 2009 at 8:24pm
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ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww Bailey and austin
i have just got a message from another lady who said she was getting the same amount of txt from her......she also said that she met her once but in public ......she said that she asks the same questions over and over and this other lady told her to stop txtng cause she had no credit but she still sends them...............thank god its not just me. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: BaAsKa
Date Posted: 26 April 2009 at 9:06pm
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yeah it was so eeeww!!
Sounds like your stalker has a few scews loose!
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Posted By: Candkids
Date Posted: 27 April 2009 at 3:34pm
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who she sounds like a bit of a weirdo!!!
i had same kinda thing happen last year when i sold some stuff to a girl on trademe which she picked up as she was in the same town, she then started txting & emailing 24/7 and even showed up on this site !! and proved how weird she was when she faked a pregnancy!!!( as im sure many will remember) ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  DD 10.5yrs DS 6yrs DS 11mths 5 little angles watching from above |
Posted By: IVFGirl1111
Date Posted: 28 April 2009 at 8:49am
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OMG Catzkids! That was just crazy that whole thing and far out that you had gone through that before hand!
TysMummy hows things now? Actually I wonder if its the same girl?! ------------- TTC 6 years IVF it is IVF/ICSI round one 10 eggs, 8 mature, 3 fertilised BFN IVF/ICSI #2 = 22 eggs! 20 mature, 15 fertilised, 1 fresh transfer and 2 frosties BFN 2 Frosties still in freezer thank god |
Posted By: jaycee
Date Posted: 28 April 2009 at 8:59am
she faked a pregnancy here? OMG that is crazy  . Must have been before my time.-------------   
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Posted By: TysMummy
Date Posted: 28 April 2009 at 10:24am
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well not much has changed she is still asking if i have had babe.... and she goes under 2 different names on the other forum.... apparently this other chick is gonna talk to her about it cause she said she is way weird too. apparently someone has been phoning the hospital asking if there is anyone with my first name (as she doesnt know my last) that has given birth....does she want my baby or something????????? or are we reading to much into it? actually hubby put that into my head......she said she realllllly wanted another kid ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: IVFGirl1111
Date Posted: 28 April 2009 at 11:06am
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WTF someone is ringing the hospital asking if you have had the baby?! This is just getting a bit to scary!
How do you know that someone is ringing the hospital? And how does she know what hospital you are having the baby etc, do you think that maybe she has come on here to and read your posts? Have you considered going to the police about it? Or maybe contact the admin team from the other site and see what they can do? ------------- TTC 6 years IVF it is IVF/ICSI round one 10 eggs, 8 mature, 3 fertilised BFN IVF/ICSI #2 = 22 eggs! 20 mature, 15 fertilised, 1 fresh transfer and 2 frosties BFN 2 Frosties still in freezer thank god |
Posted By: Candkids
Date Posted: 28 April 2009 at 4:24pm
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wow thats really weird! id be kinda freaked out
could be the same chick but doubt it the other 1 was claire D( real name) she moved from here to chch aparently after all the stuff that happened. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> DD 10.5yrs DS 6yrs DS 11mths 5 little angles watching from above |
Posted By: TysMummy
Date Posted: 28 April 2009 at 5:48pm
she doesnt know that i talk on her............i know she is phoning cause i go to hospital every week for appointments and also my aunty works there. as for the police i didnt think it was bad enough ....... ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: BaAsKa
Date Posted: 28 April 2009 at 8:31pm
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yeah nah id definately be calling the police if it is her that is calling the hospital because i personally think that is REALLY crossing the line!!
oh Catz! i remember that chick!!!!!!!!! i cant remember whether this was the one (there was another on huggies at the same time!!) but wasnt she the one who said she was pregnant with quads!!??? and was posting pics that were commonly found on the internet!??? 
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Posted By: Shezamumof3
Date Posted: 28 April 2009 at 8:42pm
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Cripes!!! call the police hun, report her! She doesn't even know you and she is calling the hospital to see if you have had your baby, Id be freaking out!
Give them a call, and explain whats been going on, tell them you haven't replied to last 1 million txts, and now she is calling the hospital asking if you have had your bubs, and that you are getting a bit scared and that you find it weird and worrying, I'm sure they could do something?? Maybe contact her to say, that she must stop contacting you, or there will be consequences.. ------------- |
Posted By: Daizy
Date Posted: 28 April 2009 at 9:25pm
Reminded me that exact same situation! I definitely remember that one. Thankfully I didn't end up giving her my number but I know a few who did and she was txting them a lot! Was she pregnant when you met her? Hope you manage to get it sorted, I'd say vodafone should definitely do something about it. Some people are just loopy ------------- 
 
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Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 29 April 2009 at 12:40am
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sounds scary Ty's mum ! id be ringing the police , that behaviour (if it is her ) is not ...right
Catz, was that the one who was "pregnant " with twins and then said they had both died ?? ------------- 
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Posted By: _Soda_
Date Posted: 29 April 2009 at 7:16am
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oh no that sounds so creepy!
i wouldnt much around..im sure if you explain everything to vodafone- including telling them about her ringing the hospital- theyll do something. id also tell the police. better to be safe than sorry. (because to me it sounds beyond excessive to obsessive- shes a total stalker!) and when you go to the hospital make sure they dont give out information to anyone who doesnt know your first and last name... contacting the site administrator people would be a good idea.. its their job to help keep site users safe and if they suspect something dodgy, they should ban that member from the site or at least give them a good talking to! good luck let us know how you are going :) ------------- My little miracle 6/1/2011 My angel in Heaven 9/5/14 http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: IVFGirl1111
Date Posted: 29 April 2009 at 9:00am
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Have you done what MamaPickle suggested? Charly worked for Vodafone so knows exactly whats shes talking about.
Also have you contacted the admin from that site yet? It is sersiously not right, so I wouldnt be wasting time at all - get onto it asap - this woman is NUTS! And do be careful because even though you think she mighten know your on here - she might. Because if the other site was a baby one chances are that she is on both sites? ------------- TTC 6 years IVF it is IVF/ICSI round one 10 eggs, 8 mature, 3 fertilised BFN IVF/ICSI #2 = 22 eggs! 20 mature, 15 fertilised, 1 fresh transfer and 2 frosties BFN 2 Frosties still in freezer thank god |
Posted By: TysMummy
Date Posted: 29 April 2009 at 9:21am
every site i go on i have a different name soon i dont think she will be able to track me down ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Peanut
Date Posted: 29 April 2009 at 9:33am
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I think MamaPickles post at the top tells you exactly what to do to get vodafone to listen including which act etc to quote so maybe give that a go, as Boo Boo said she did work for Vodafone so knows the system better than anyone else
I would give that a shot before contacting the police as then you have evidence to show the police that you have taken steps to stop the harrasment yourself. -------------  
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Posted By: M2K
Date Posted: 29 April 2009 at 10:03am
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Ewwww she sounds nutty alright, I would be ringing police and getting restraining order or something... a bullet even... thats just too weird! -------------
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Posted By: IVFGirl1111
Date Posted: 04 May 2009 at 10:14am
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Hey,
Wheres it all at now? Has she left you alone? ------------- TTC 6 years IVF it is IVF/ICSI round one 10 eggs, 8 mature, 3 fertilised BFN IVF/ICSI #2 = 22 eggs! 20 mature, 15 fertilised, 1 fresh transfer and 2 frosties BFN 2 Frosties still in freezer thank god |
Posted By: TysMummy
Date Posted: 04 May 2009 at 12:35pm
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only a few txts a day now so its not so bad ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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