normal bleeding or miscarriage starting
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Topic: normal bleeding or miscarriage starting
Posted By: Buttersmum
Subject: normal bleeding or miscarriage starting
Date Posted: 23 April 2009 at 8:48am
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Hi
As you may have read in another topic I am pretty much waiting for the inevitable to happen..........miscarriage or ectopic confirmation. My question is that I started bleeding yesterday and thought this is it but it hasn't been heavy and no clots or tissue and it is also odourless (sorry tmi). Is this normal early pregnancy bleeding or the start of the inevitable??? Im having aching sensations like mild period discomfort but nothing major. Rang the hospital and they didn't want me to go in or anything. I guess I'm just stressing out and there's a part of me that is holding on to the hope that this pregnancy will just happen and be normal. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
 my little blobby April 09 "gone but will never be forgotten xx"
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Posted By: T_Rex
Date Posted: 23 April 2009 at 9:28am
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I don't know the answer, but I didn't want to read and run. Big hugs and I hope it comes right for you, and that you've got heaps of support if it doesn't. ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: littlestar
Date Posted: 23 April 2009 at 10:25am
HUGS 
Such a awful time for you at the moment. Are you able to ask your GP for a couple of HCG tests - at least then you'll know if its going up or down. I know bleeding around the time AF is due is quite common, so its totally possible all is well in there. Cos you have aches I would definetely go see someone or ring your GP (not the useless after hours nurse) The visit should be free cos its pregnancy related. This is just a dreadful time for you - not knowing whats happening but fearing the worst. PM me if you need anything. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Buttersmum
Date Posted: 23 April 2009 at 12:00pm
well got another hcg level result and its still static. so a week of static results means they are thinking its definately an ectopic and that correlates with the bleeding as well
Anyway I am looking at the silver linings............this baby wasn't meant to be and thats ok. At least I know I can get pregnant naturally which I thought I wouldn't be able to having pcos and being abit older (33). I can now get back to planning my wedding too which is in October and when this is all over I'm going to go and buy that wedding dress that made me feel so beautiful!!!! 
Although this baby would have been loved so much it wasn't planned and it will be nice to be able to plan and prepare mentally, bodily and financially for the next one. Thanks for all the hugs and support xx ------------- http://lilypie.com">
my little blobby April 09 "gone but will never be forgotten xx"
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Posted By: Millyz
Date Posted: 23 April 2009 at 12:24pm
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Just wanted to send you Buttersmum - I'm so sorry.
I went through a similar thing a couple of weeks ago - sudden m/c rather than ectopic though, so I know how you must be feeling. Take care |
Posted By: kebakat
Date Posted: 23 April 2009 at 12:26pm
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Are they offering you a scan to confirm whether or not it is an ectopic?
I had an ectopic pregnancy just over a year ago and the first hint that it was an ectopic I was told to go immediately to hospital (and not to even go home) and had it confirmed and dealt with over a couple of days. I hope things work out for you and if you have any questions about the ectopic that I went through pm me |
Posted By: Buttersmum
Date Posted: 24 April 2009 at 8:59pm
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Well my saga is not over after all. Another blood test showed the level go up again slightly. The bleeding they are not concerned about as there are no clots. They have even suggested that there is a small possiblity that my last period was actually a m/c (was really heavy and painful) and that I either got pregnant again straight away or I m/ced a twin. Sooooooooo.............. another blood test on Monday with possibly another scan. I'm sick of the blood tests.........my arms and hands are black and blue!!!!
I might get assertive and just say I want to wait til an ultrasound can see something instead of these constant bloods cause its doing my head in. The ultrasound is the best tool for diagnosis of whats going on. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
my little blobby April 09 "gone but will never be forgotten xx"
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Posted By: M2Bee
Date Posted: 24 April 2009 at 10:47pm
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Buttersmum, being assertive sounds like a wise decision, it's your body and you're not a pin cushion.
Best of luck |
Posted By: littlestar
Date Posted: 27 April 2009 at 8:04am
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HUGS
Go for the extra testing - this whole not knowing this is just maddening! Just a heads up - if you do go for an ultrasound this early on - brace yourself as they will do an internal ultrasound (no one warned me before mine so it was a bit of a suprise) ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Buttersmum
Date Posted: 27 April 2009 at 4:31pm
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Hi Everyone
Well my saga is finally over. I miscarried last night. I just knew it when I passed abit of tissue that got tested and well I can say I did get to hold my baby in my hands at least once (sorry if thats too gross). I'm a bit sad but knew this pregnancy wasn't going to happen one way or another and I guess its better to have a miscarriage than an ectopic for my health anyways. Thanks heaps for all the support and kind words places like this make it just a bit easier for those going through rough times. Hopefully you'll see me back on here in a more positive note after October..............Got a wedding to get on and plan properly now and we'll be trying for real after that ------------- http://lilypie.com">
my little blobby April 09 "gone but will never be forgotten xx"
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Posted By: Millyz
Date Posted: 27 April 2009 at 4:48pm
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Sorry to hear that Buttersmum
I miscarried a similar way and just "knew" that was it when it happened. Best wishes for your upcoming wedding and hope to see you in the "trying for baby" threads soon! xx |
Posted By: Buttersmum
Date Posted: 27 April 2009 at 5:29pm
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thought I should just add that "Butters" is my dog's name just incase you thought we had named our child after a southpark character ahaha ------------- http://lilypie.com">
my little blobby April 09 "gone but will never be forgotten xx"
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Posted By: littlestar
Date Posted: 28 April 2009 at 8:32am
I'm so sorry - 
Even when you know its coming it certainly doesn't make it any easier. All the best for your wedding - very exciting! HUGS ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Newbie26
Date Posted: 29 April 2009 at 9:09am
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Sooo sorry to hear your sad news - I hope you are doing ok.
Hugs xoxo |