The quest for a pink one
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Topic: The quest for a pink one
Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Subject: The quest for a pink one
Date Posted: 16 May 2009 at 8:27pm
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This is something ive been wondering for a while, and of course, I don't mean any offence to anyone (I never do ) im just genuinely curious ....
I notice a lot of "thinking pink " or "hoping for a pink one " in peoples tickers, usually, (actually I think all ) women who already have boys...but I never see any "hoping for a blue one " from women who have already got girls .... Is this because girls are more desired ? Is the idea of a girl more popular ? or because women feel that they aren't complete without a daughter?, or is it the whole mum, dad , son and daughter thing ? ------------- 
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Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 16 May 2009 at 8:32pm
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to be honest, everytime I have been pregnant, i've really wanted a girl. I think it's just so i can live vicariously through her - and pass on my cabbage kid and strawberry shortckae dolls to someone who doesn;t play 'wrestling" with them. Boys, initially, seem like some foreign creature.
But now, can't imagine life with a girl, and even if we have another baby - I actually want a third boy. BUT, everyone who talks to me sayd "will you try for a little girl?" and "you must have been disappointed" - nodding at Taine. |
Posted By: lilfatty
Date Posted: 16 May 2009 at 8:35pm
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Actually i hoped for a girl because we had a girl so would have worked out cheaper.
Although then again I hoped for a boy as SD originally wanted a boy when we had Issy. So in the end .. I wasnt really fussed as either way it worked out for us. Having said that, if I had a boy first, I think I would have wanted a girl the next time around just because girls are like big dolls that you can dress up (oh and I have a theory that its girls that look after their parents when they get older, as boys tend to get married to girls, who look after their parents .. hope that made sense) ------------- Mummy to Issy (3) and Elias (18 months) I did it .. 41 kgs gone! From flab to fab in under a year  http://www.femininefitness.co.nz/category/blog - LFs weight blog
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Posted By: Babykatnz
Date Posted: 16 May 2009 at 8:51pm
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If I thought I had a choice in the matter (after being told we had to resort to IVF to even HAVE a baby, I wasnt exactly fussed either way when this little surprise turned up!) I would have asked for a boy... only because I HAVE a boy, and then could use the clothes I had painstakenly kept from my first, and I reckon I would cope better with a boy tbh lol.. girls scare me... I cannot imagine another me, or female version of DP (his family is notorious for their pig-headedness!) in this family... guess I had best get used to it tho! ------------- Brandon - 05/12/2003  
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Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 16 May 2009 at 9:03pm
haha , girls scare me too Lisa , well my daughter does anyway 
I do think tho, that if C hadn't been a girl , I would have been hoping for a girl this time, I was so glad when I found out she was a girl . And because I already HAD a girl , I really, honestly , truly , didn't mind what this one was ...but when they said it was a boy , it felt really ...right . I wonder if the majority of men hope for a boy or girl then (if they did have a preference ) -------------
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Posted By: lilfatty
Date Posted: 16 May 2009 at 9:12pm
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SD wanted a boy first time around .. then this time, he wanted a girl, because he had a girl, so was "experienced" lol .. apparently the idea of a boy scared him to death!
However now he has a boy on the way he is thinking its going to be pretty cool to have a mini him running around. ------------- Mummy to Issy (3) and Elias (18 months) I did it .. 41 kgs gone! From flab to fab in under a year http://www.femininefitness.co.nz/category/blog - LFs weight blog
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Posted By: Babykatnz
Date Posted: 16 May 2009 at 9:12pm
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DP didnt mind either way... a boy would have been nice as he is the only one in this family to have biological kids that could pass on the family name (his dad is adopted and only child, so no cousins to help out, and DP's brothers wives are both older with teenaged girls and are done and dusted there lol) and he wants to be able to take baby to speedway and league games etc just like he got to do as a kid...
but he also thought a girl would be great as his mum always wanted a girl, and ended up with 3 boys (she was always sure that the 2 babies she lost inbetween them were the girls she couldnt have) So while he is thrilled that we are having the girl his mum always wanted (at one hell of a price tho  ) I reckon he would have been just as thrilled had baby been a boy
Meanwhile while preg with B I was constantly in the 'omg... its a BABY!' state of mind LOL! wasn't too fussed either way... was just s***ting myself at what was going to happen to life as I knew it! ------------- Brandon - 05/12/2003
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Posted By: Lexidore
Date Posted: 16 May 2009 at 9:32pm
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Funnily enough i want a boy lol! Of course i will be happy as long as i have a healthy wee baby at the end of this but i would much prefer a boy, also not really worried about trying for a girl if this one is a boy but if this one is a girl might look at trying for a boy. I spose thats quite odd to most people huh? ------------- 
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Posted By: BaAsKa
Date Posted: 16 May 2009 at 9:32pm
When i was a little girl i always wanted to have a daughter when i grew up because all my cabage patch dolls were girls so of course i figured every woman had a girl first! lol my mum only had girls...
so...when i was first pregnant i "expected" to naturally have a girl and was rather disapointed!! DH however - once he got use to actually expecting a baby in general! lol (7months pregnant!!!  ) he admitted that he wanted a son for all the boy reasons! *rolls eyes!*.
Second time around i had flashes of wanting a girl then thought it would be neat to have another boy for many reasons then moved into the mindset - "anything will do" lol seen as he took so long to concieve!....im glad i had a boy again!!.. this time - when i first got pregnant i had the "think pink" mentality but quickly snapped out of it because il be super greatful for whatever i get!! and i believe you get what you are "meant" to have  .....i do think this baby is a girl though! lol but i couldnt care less what it comes out as so long as it comes out soon!  we also only have a boys name so murphys law!!
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Posted By: weegee
Date Posted: 16 May 2009 at 10:43pm
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LOL when we TTC again I'll be one of those thinking pink. But that's only because we already have a boy... if JJ had been a girl I would have been thinking blue for the second one. I just always thought it would be nice to have one of each (which heaps of people on here seem to be getting atm! eg Kelly, Kazzle, lilfatty, MrsMojo...) ------------- 
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Posted By: Babykatnz
Date Posted: 16 May 2009 at 10:45pm
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lol weegee, funnily enough all of those mentioned getting the pigeon pair are due in June... myself included... must have been something in the water back in Spetember last year hehe ------------- Brandon - 05/12/2003
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Posted By: weegee
Date Posted: 16 May 2009 at 10:49pm
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oh and lilfatty you're right... and I remember reading somewhere that statistically speaking, mums with daughters rather than sons live longer!
If I find the link I'll add it, but it was something like if you had an adult daughter you could add a year to your life expectancy but if you had an adult son you could take 5 years off... not *exactly* sure why but most likely a combination of daughters caring for their parents and sons possibly being more stressful. (Although I think I would much rather deal with a teenage boy than a teenage girl!) -------------
Mum to JJ, 4 July 2008 & Addie, 28 July 2010 |
Posted By: weegee
Date Posted: 16 May 2009 at 10:52pm
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lol true I hadn't even noticed! must go look for another example... ok how about Sheza, she must be due later than June? -------------
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Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 16 May 2009 at 11:20pm
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shes a due in August mummy
geez weegee, who are these poor women giving birth to adult boys and girls huh ? -------------
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Posted By: blondy
Date Posted: 17 May 2009 at 7:52am
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If N had been a boy, I definitely would have been thinking pink second time around too. For me, not having a Mum around (and I hope this doesn't sound disturbed in any way), I really wanted that mother-daughter connection again in my life....even if it was being on the other side of it. I know you can have the same great releationship with a son, but coming from an extended family where the girls far outweigh the boys (and everyone has always had a girl first baby), having a girl just seemed like an extra blessing iykwim. Next time around, I will be totally happy with either boy or girl. DH wanted a girl too - I think because he's a bit of a geek and not really sporty, he was a little worried about the stereotypical father/son sporty thing if N had been a boy.
and you've got to love (some of) the pink clothes! (coming from someone whose wardrobe is predominantly black!) It is a bit like playing dress-up too. -------------  
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Posted By: ElfsMum
Date Posted: 17 May 2009 at 8:34am
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havent had a chance to read all but I will be putting hoping for a blue one...maybe I'm just unusual? ------------- Mum to two amazing boys! |
Posted By: ElfsMum
Date Posted: 17 May 2009 at 8:36am
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partly because I have such an awesome brother I wanted our first to be a boy and because I'm not a girly girl....DH (even though he is a carpenter) didn't mind but would have been stoked with a girl...lol ... but yeah anyway next time will be hoping for another boy but the extended family wants me to have a girl.. (only me having babies on one side and on the other all older and mostly boys) ------------- Mum to two amazing boys! |
Posted By: T_Rex
Date Posted: 17 May 2009 at 8:38am
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This time, I'm hoping for a boy, but DH for a girl. I'd like at least one of each ideally, but no doubt I'll love whatever I get! I'm quite a tomboy really so would possibly get on better with a boy anyway. I'm not sure how I'd cope with a daughter like some of my sisters are! ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Kazzle
Date Posted: 17 May 2009 at 8:43am
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I was hoping for a boy this time around, although i wanted a boy first and girl second, although in saying that ive never thought pink or blue just kinda hoped but never been disappointed ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: weegee
Date Posted: 17 May 2009 at 9:29am
I just meant sons and daughters that survive to adulthood -------------
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caitlynsmygirl wrote:Posted By: LouD
Date Posted: 17 May 2009 at 9:37am
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I have two boys, and they are my world, they love their mum sooooo much and are my best friends. Ideally having another boy would be better so my DS has someone closer in age (other gap is 9years) that has the same interests and can play rough n tumble as boys do, but me selfishly i want a girl cos i have two boys. This is my last pregnancy so i will get what im given and be happy.
My DS so badly wants a sister cos he reckons hes got a brother and just wants a sister now, so i really dont want to disappoint him.......... Im sure at my sex scan i will be a little taken back if its a boy, but i know that it will be momentarily as i think of the things i cant pass on to a boy from my girlie wisdom, but there will be girl friends soon i hope to be an awesome MIL |
Posted By: fallen
Date Posted: 17 May 2009 at 11:23am
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I already have a DD. This time round I was really sure it 'felt' like another girl. Though I was happy with either colour. Plus with the timing of conception etc according to the shettles timing thing it was more likely a girl. DF went away for two weeks the day before ovulation!
Anyways, DF REALLY wanted a boy. Looks like hes got his wish! Will be asking them to confirm it at our repeat of the 20 week scan on Friday. ------------- |
Posted By: sno0ze
Date Posted: 17 May 2009 at 11:51am
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When we had DD we both really wanted a girl, I wanted a mother-daughter relationship. This time around I kinda wanted another girl. I have had it confirmed twice and its a girl. Only thing was we felt we were under pressure to have a boy as no boys on DHs side of the family but I feel better now as DHs brother and wife are due 3 mths after me so the pressure is on them now :-) Don't get me wrong I would have been happy if bubs was a boy, its just way more daunting for me to have the other sex when you feel like if it is another girl, no worries! Just the fear of the unknown :-) ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Mum2ET
Date Posted: 17 May 2009 at 12:22pm
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I really, really wanted a girl when I was pregnant with Ella- mainly because i have 2 brothers and have always wanted a sister, so I figured a DD was the next best thing (my mum was the same and she had 4 brothers and really wanted to have a daughter). Next time around I am not too fussed, as I already have my little girl- another girl would be nice (it would be heaps cheaper and I would love for Ella to have a sister), but I know DH wants a boy.....so either way not fussed. ------------- Mum to Ella (5) and Tom (2) |
Posted By: Bobbie
Date Posted: 17 May 2009 at 12:56pm
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I actually wanted a boy for most of my first pregnancy and I was convinced she was a boy. But I wasn't disappointed for a second when I found out she was a girl.
This time around another girl would be good in terms of reusing clothes and also because I just don't understand the mechanics of boys. It's not that I don't want a son but the idea does make me a bit nervous. -------------  
 
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Posted By: RinTinTin
Date Posted: 17 May 2009 at 1:33pm
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Well I am actually very torn between the two.
If I was intending to have more than one child I would want a boy first, but since we only intend to have this one baby, I want a girl. Which is strange cause when I was younger, and even before I got PG, I wanted a boy. I've always been a real tomboy myself. But now that I am actually PG I am hoping for a girl. I got lots of reasons but mostly just materialistic ones really, nothing hugely valid.  ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Rachael21
Date Posted: 17 May 2009 at 1:56pm
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I have two sisters and am quite girly so never imagined having a boy. When I was younger I used to say I wanted a boy then girl but really I just wanted girls. When I found out I was preg I hoped for a girl but by the time the scan came around I wanted a boy (intuition perhaps??) and I'm stoked I do have a boy.
Second time around I wanted a girl from before I even got pregnant, I would of been devastated for a week or so if she was a boy but shes not so I'm pleased. I think a lot of people say thinking pink cos it rhymes so nicely
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Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 17 May 2009 at 2:19pm
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i was sure gabriel was a boy, but dont recall having any real preference.. i was just glad to be having a baby. was sure toby was a boy too...i'm not sure if it was just cause MIL really wanted a girl tho and i wanted to spite her...hmmmm!
when i got pregnant the third time i was very surprised both to be having a baby at all and secondly to be having a girl. i was in shock for ages as would have been very happy to have a boy. when i thought i was only going to have my two boys i used to be a bit sad at the thought i would never get to be the "real" grandma, but that would have been my only regret about not having a girl! ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker"> 
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Posted By: rachelsea
Date Posted: 17 May 2009 at 2:22pm
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I didn't mind which I had first, but I was SO sure I was having a boy I was surprised when she turned out to be a girl I want a boy next time as always wanted one of each, but DH wants another girl (not that it's gonna happen anytime soon lol) but of course we'll be happy with what we get ------------- DD 4yrs DS 2yrs http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: ElfsMum
Date Posted: 17 May 2009 at 2:50pm
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far out seems I'm just about the only one who is fine with two boys? crazy!
deb- do you mean real as in case you are the baby's Dad's Mum not the Mum's Mum? ------------- Mum to two amazing boys! |
Posted By: Lexidore
Date Posted: 17 May 2009 at 2:55pm
K.A I actually mentioned earlier that i want a boy and wouldnt try for a girl if i got a boy first time round but if i got a girl i would probably try for a boy. Im really hoping this one is a boy!!! If i did end up pregnant a 2nd time and already had a boy i would want another boy. -------------
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Posted By: ElfsMum
Date Posted: 17 May 2009 at 3:09pm
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sorry :) cool glad I'm not the only one:) ------------- Mum to two amazing boys! |
Posted By: Lexidore
Date Posted: 17 May 2009 at 3:13pm
Hehe nope not the only one -------------
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Posted By: LouD
Date Posted: 17 May 2009 at 3:51pm
| and i have two boys and very happy with having two boys and really didnt think i wanted a girl. i was glad when my second was a boy |
Posted By: baalamb
Date Posted: 17 May 2009 at 4:02pm
DH wanted another girl. I was the one that thought it would be nice if he got a son! My mum has always, always said that you lose your sons, but you gain sons-in-law so I think she's getting at something there in regards to mother-daughter relationships being extra special. That being said, of course mother-son relationships are special too, but just different. When I was pregnant with Ashlee, I didn't have a preference. In fact, I was convinced I was having a boy (both times)! I was definitely not disappointed with having 2 girls though. With this baby, I was the same as you Kelly in that I really, truly, genuinely did not have a preference for gender this time round. Who knows if that feeling might have been different if Ashlee had been a boy?! I think I would probably be wanting a daughter the second time round. I don't even have a reason for that though! |
Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 17 May 2009 at 8:01pm
i am more than happy with two boys too... and yeah thats what i mean.. i know for me i consider my mum THE nana...(but not out loud IYKWIM) ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker">
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Posted By: NovemberMum
Date Posted: 17 May 2009 at 11:24pm
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I wanted a girl for our first.
Our daughter is the first girl on my husband side since 1948.(her dad's last name) DH's dad had 1 sisters and 2 brothers. His sister has a boy and a girl but they take on their dad's last name. one of his brothers is gay and dont have any children and his youngest brother has two boys. DH has 1 brother and he has 2 sons. He and his wife have finished having children. I know that my inlaws were hoping for a granddaughter although didn't say ..if we had a boy they would have loved him just as much but were thrilled when we told them they now have a granddaughter. I am kind of hoping this one is a girl as well then I don't have to buy new clothes (least up until about 2 years) but will be just as happy if we have a boy.fingers crossed we find out in about 10 weeks :) ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Nutella
Date Posted: 18 May 2009 at 1:24am
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I find it very funny that so many people want to have the same sex because it is cheaper!!!
Personally, I couldn't care less which gender we have first but I would like to have one of each just to experience the best of both (and the worst of course). ------------- 
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Posted By: baalamb
Date Posted: 18 May 2009 at 9:04am
It drives me absolutely bonkers that people assume because you already have one child of one sex, you want the opposite when you get pregnant with the second. People asked me if I was disappointed that we are having 2 girls! I found that really rude. That's a whole different topic I guess.
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Posted By: lisa85
Date Posted: 18 May 2009 at 10:04am
I come from a family of all girls (3 sisters) and I have 2 girls of my own so I guess when we decide to try again for our third and final bubs I'll be hoping for a boy simply for a change of pace. But in all honesty I would have no problem with having all girls. My Mum always says girls always come home to their Mum I know Jess would love a baby boy because he feels out numbered lol  -------------  
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Posted By: Shezamumof3
Date Posted: 18 May 2009 at 10:36am
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I had a feeling right from the start that Caden was a boy, just got that vibe I was just happy that he was healthy and had all his bits at the 20 week scan.
This time, I thought it was another boy, so was quite shocked when they said girl at the scan. Though, we were hoping for a girl because there hasnt been one born in my family since me! So my mum was really hoping I would have a girl this time hehe, but again if it had of been a boy, then DH and i would be JUST as happy as long as we have a healthy child. Any child is a blessing, so I dont agree with getting upset about not getting a certain sex.. I love my son more than anything in this world and wouldnt change him for anything, and it will be the same if this one comes out a boy and not a girl lol ------------- |
Posted By: BaAsKa
Date Posted: 18 May 2009 at 12:42pm
oh man! i totally agree!! i started up a thread when i was preg with #2 bcos i was going nutts with people asking me if i was dissapointed bcos he was a boy and the comments "well i bet youl be dying to try for a girl next"  ...we had always planned 3 kids so if this baby is a boy then we most definately will NOT be going for #4, instead we will be soooo glad to have 3 awsome boys!!.
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Posted By: sally belly
Date Posted: 18 May 2009 at 1:02pm
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I actually just changed my ticker last week as it had "thinking pink" on it. It was starting to make me feel a little bad for some reason. I will just be happy to have another healthy baby whatever the sex.
We haven't found out the sex this time but I can honestly say that I will be happy with either boy or girl. I'm sure Liam would love having a brother to play with when he gets a little older. But on the other hand, a little sister he can look out for (when he's much much bigger obviously ).
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Posted By: ElfsMum
Date Posted: 18 May 2009 at 2:06pm
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well said Sally!:)
ok I take it back..just most of what i read sounded like most people wanted girls or one of each good to see I'm not the only one who is fine with two boys!:) ------------- Mum to two amazing boys! |
Posted By: mamanee
Date Posted: 18 May 2009 at 2:26pm
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I knew right from the start that Sam was a boy, and I was really happy when I found out, but would have been equally happy had he been a girl.
This time round I would love to have a little girl, but I would be happy with a boy too as it will be DPs first child and I know he would love a son. But, we have discussed it and we would be happy with either as long as it's a healthy baby. |
Posted By: noodle
Date Posted: 18 May 2009 at 2:51pm
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I've always seen myself with 3 boys dont know why, but never seen myself with a daughter. At the end of the day we will definatly be happy with what ever sex we are blessed with as long as it is healthy is all that matters.
People are already saying to me now "guess you want a girl next" which isn't the case at all.....(not that i would be unhappy with a girl IYGWIM now i'm just confusing myself lol) it also annoys me how when you have #3 baby (if you have 2 of the same sex) people automaticlly assume you only went for number 3 to get the opposite sex, where for me i'd be more than happy with all of one sex whether it be boys or girls....(and yes having all of 1 sex would be so much handier for clothes and stuff lol) sorry its a bit rambily but ya get the gist lol ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: sweetpea
Date Posted: 18 May 2009 at 2:51pm
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ok i'm going to put my 2 cents worth in here. Most women want to have a pigeon pair a minature version of you and Dh there are many reasons for this some want to relive their lifes through them i totally disagree with this others want what they had as a child growing up or what they missed growing up. I agree with lisa on the girls comming home thing i am far more closer to my mum and dad then my brother whom admittedily lives in CHC so not that far away.
My aunt comments on how different it is to have her grandson come and stay as her other child has only girls. Boys are by nature more outgoing than girls. However i know of one lady who had 2 boys and while she wouldn't chnage it for the world there are some things she has missed out on because she didn't have a girl e.g. ball dress shopping, wedding planning, that closeness and link between a mother and daughter that develops more as we get older marry, and eventually have children. You make do with what you are given and make the best of it. i guess as women we naturally relate better to those of our own sex and want to pass on our wisdom etc to them. Prehaps if we have a good relationship with our mothers we want that for our daughter/s too. I hope that makes sense. ------------- http://daisypath.com"> 
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Posted By: angel4
Date Posted: 18 May 2009 at 3:10pm
| i wanted a girl with henry (obviously hes a boy lol) but was happy as anything when he was anounced a boy by Dh when he came out. Im secretly hoping for a girl this time too. I never tell anyone that though because even though im hoping for one i would still love a little boy. My resoning is that i am a girl with two brothers and my dh has 3brothers and 1sister. I have always felt out numbered by boys. And im a real girly girl and would love to share my experiences etc with a daughter ( i say that and then il have a tom boy lol). But in the grand scheme of things it doesnt really matter - thats why we didnt find out with henry and we wont be finding out with this one. A child is a blessing no matter what sex they are. |
Posted By: SMoody
Date Posted: 18 May 2009 at 5:31pm
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For me there was different reasons why I wanted a girl first time around. My own messed up relationship with my mother, When I was young seeing photos in the media about the Chinese baby death cots ect. Seeing how my mom was so much different with my brother and actually being a mom to him.
I was petrified that if I have a boy I would turn out to be like her. (I know total irrational fear). We had trouble concieving and to be quite honest I dont think it would have mattered in the end. But Grant was very sure from the beginning of the pregnancy that she was a girl. This time around I sort of hoped for a boy as I know sort of more or less what to expect. You go with what you know. But in me I knew it was a boy from the beginning. The day of the scan when we found out it was a boy I just looked up and said Hello Andrew Robert. We saw it was a boy before they even told us. It was that obvious. I was kind of: Dont know how to say this. Not let down but aaah okay. Then I started looking at my girl and thought to myself I would never ever have changed her. Not one little single thing on her. Then rubbed my tummy and realised this child was meant for our family. We might have an image in our mind of what we think our family will be but it doesnt always turn out that way but it turns out the way it should have from the beginning. I wouldnt change Andrew Robert for any girl. And at least now I will be telling the truth. Sorry to others but I got the best little girl in the whole world and the best boy in the whole world. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: 5th...and final??
Date Posted: 18 May 2009 at 7:33pm
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i wanted boys both times - i am not a girly girl and was terrified if i had a daughter that i would have nothing in common with her if she was! my partner wanted a girl both times. but was glad to have sons.
now in our third pregnancy, i am hoping for a girl and DP is hoping for another boy! LOL. either way, one of us is going to be super happy and the other will be stoked! edited to add - it also pissed me off in my second pregnancy that everyone assumed i wanted a girl - and now it peeves me off that people assume we only got pregnant a third time to try for a girl. its not true! we want another child, it doesn't matter which sex it is! haha. if that doesn't make any sense to anyone, don't worry i am a gemini! LOL i can have opposing ideas and still make sense to myself. hahaha. |
Posted By: kakapo
Date Posted: 18 May 2009 at 9:16pm
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I want two boys too KA I remember watching an episode of "Child of Our Times" where they were discussing sibling relationships. They showed the cutest clip of two brothers, close in age, who had a very loving bond. The eldest boy was really protective of his younger brother, who obviously adored him. The image has stuck, and the idea of a baby brother for Jimmy just seems right to me. In saying that, DH would love to have a girl, and I'm sure Jimmy would adore a sister too (although lots of my friends have pigeon pairs, and their kids always seem to fight I'm a real Daddy's girl, more of a tom-boy than a girly-girl, and have never had a close relationship with my mother. Perhaps those things do influence my feelings on this topic more than I'd realised, hmmmm. Of course, what I really want is simply a healthy baby. It doesn't matter what sex they are....all babies have unique personalities. |
Posted By: EmDee
Date Posted: 18 May 2009 at 9:17pm
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With my first pregnancy I didn't really think about preferences, but I thought from early on he was a boy. With my second pregnancy, I was secretly hoping for another boy, because I knew boys, girls seemed so alien!
I also hate how people seem to assume that you are happy because you have a boy & girl, I wouldn't have really cared if I had 2 of the same sex. And does anyone know where the term 'pigeon pair' comes from? ------------- DS 8 DD 6 DS 4 DD 2 |
Posted By: kakapo
Date Posted: 18 May 2009 at 10:00pm
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According to Google.... "Like all doves, pigeons lay two eggs at a time in their simple little nests, and thereby hangs the tale of "pigeon pair." Legend has it that pigeon broods always consist of one male chick and one female chick, which then grow up to mate and live together for life. Evidently whoever came up with that legend had never taken basic biology, since inbreeding on such a scale would be a genetic disaster for the species. But as a rather hokey invocation of symmetry and balance in nature, "pigeon pair" has been applied to human babies since the mid-19th century. The primary meaning of "pigeon pair" is a boy and a girl who are twins, but an extended sense encompasses your situation, a boy and girl born a bit apart but constituting (at least for the moment) the only children in the family." |
Posted By: SquishysMum
Date Posted: 19 May 2009 at 7:43am
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I only ever saw myself with boys! I started fixating on boys when my mum was pregnant with her 4th baby, I had 2 younger sisters and desperately wanted a brother. That baby sadly died in utero at 6 months gestation, and it was a boy. I was terrified (at 6-7 years old) that that was my one and only chance to get a brother! Then mum was pregnant again, and I prayed every day that it would be a boy... and he was!
Rambly story, but I always thought I would have boys, esp as DH is one of 6 boys! DH, however... I think he NEEDED a little girl. Having had so many boys growing up, Lydia mellows him and he can be as mushy as he likes without feeling "girly", IYKWIM. Next time, who knows? I know we'll get the baby that's right for our family, whether male or female. And even though Lydia's only 2.5 months old, I'm really looking forward to meeting the next one! Ah well, a couple of years away yet... |
Posted By: EmDee
Date Posted: 19 May 2009 at 12:42pm
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Thanks Kakapo ------------- DS 8 DD 6 DS 4 DD 2 |
Posted By: My3Sons
Date Posted: 19 May 2009 at 7:58pm
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ooh a subject close to my heart!!
I adore my 3 boys with all my heart and wouldnt change any of them, but I still desperately want a baby girl!! ------------- Mum to Mr 10, Mr 6 and Mr 4 
 
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Posted By: emz
Date Posted: 19 May 2009 at 9:49pm
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I'm one of the ones that is getting the 'pigeon pair' too. We tried for a girl this time for fun more than anything. First time around I really wanted a girl because I was scared of boys (growing up in a majority girly family) but now I don't know what to do with a girl lol
For me, wanting to have a girl came down to wanting the relationship I have with my mother, with my daughter. Although I have a very 'strange' relationship with my parents in some peoples eyes, ie. we have a very close knit family and I know that that's not the case simply because you have a daughter IYKWIM. I doubt I'll be having anymore children unless I remarry one day or something lol and the guy has enough money to support me through the children's lives, but mainly cos I hate being pregnant! |
Posted By: ElfsMum
Date Posted: 20 May 2009 at 12:05pm
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lol EMz:)
interesting statement sweetpea- I dont want a pigeon pair and I am waaaayyy more outgoing than my brother:) though I hated wedding planning etc so i guess i don't feel I'm missing out if I don't get to do that:) and congrats Angel not sure how i missed that:) I feel both of my miscarried babies were girls too so maybe that's also on my mind that somehow I can only carry boys? ------------- Mum to two amazing boys! |
Posted By: Nutella
Date Posted: 20 May 2009 at 1:16pm
Obviously from the comments on here 'most' women don't actually want a pigeon pair! The reasons I would want one of each (and then some more) is just to experience both because the genders are different. If it ends up that I just have one gender well not gonna be heart broken that is for sure. And I don't think it would bother me if people assumed I was trying for one particular sex...probably coz I would be hoping things turned out that way! But of course I would love any child and if I had ten boys, well, they would still be as loved as much! -------------
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Posted By: rorylex
Date Posted: 21 May 2009 at 8:59pm
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My3sons I know exactly how u feel.
I have 3 wounderful boys and wouldnt changed them at all infact when i found out my 3rd was another boy i was soo happy and wasnt disappointed at all, now I am pregnant with my 4th and yes i do really want a girl, and i proberbly will with all my pregnancies if i have anymore after this i proberbly will want a girl, but that doesnt mean im not happy to have another boy. besides with 3 or 4 boys one of them will throw a daughter hopefully. but i think for my boys a little sister would be such a great thing to help later in life i think sisters and brothers learn so much about the oppisite sex just by growing up in the same house and dealing with with the oppisite sex 24/7. i have had the feeling right from the start that this one is our girl but im quite happy if we have 4 boys i dont look at right now i picture my self in 20yrs with 4 boys and i can see myself very happy. (yeah sorry about the ramble im just one of those that do have thinking pink on my ticker unles i have changed it) ------------- Mummy to 4 boys Samuel - 18.6.05 Rory - 15.7.06 Mason - 13.06.08 Emmett - 24.01.10 Baby #5 - cooking |