Confused
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Forum Name: Life After Miscarriage
Forum Description: Up to one in five pregnancies ends in miscarriage, yet for many the loss of a pregnancy is isolating and lonely. Share your thoughts and feelings here with others who have experienced loss.
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Topic: Confused
Posted By: MS_JDM
Subject: Confused
Date Posted: 26 May 2009 at 12:03pm
| Bubs heart stop beating on the 19th feb but I saw my lifeless bub 5th march and had a D&C 9th march, I have one son already and never had the want for another as i enjoyed having one child he is my world!! anyway falling pregnant to my new current partner was a huge suprise and a real test at first i was scared then confused but once that life was taken i was sad... I realised that after all i do want one more but been a new realtionship and my partner and i wanting to do a few things as well its tricky as i want one now but partner is thinking of the bigger picture and i understand why it will work out better his way but cant get over wanting another so soon after im now on the depo and really wish i wasnt :( |
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Posted By: ShelliN
Date Posted: 26 May 2009 at 4:51pm
| Hi there :) Im so sorry for your loss, we had our missed miscarriage on 4th May after seeing no heartbeat a week earlier, its just awful. This would have been my 4th baby and at first I wasnt sure either, but once its gone its just gutting.. |
Posted By: Emmi_
Date Posted: 01 June 2009 at 7:31pm
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Hi MS_JDM,
I think you need to talk to your partner and both of you come to an agreement. You both need to be comfortable with your plans for the future. There is no point in going along with what your partner wants to do now if it isnt what you want to do, it would be awful if you ended up resenting him, or yourself for not saying what you wanted. You may find that come around to his way of thinking, or him to yours. (or somewhere in the middle, you nevcer know!) What ever you do make sure you keep talking to him so he knows what your thinking. I MC last sat, and luckily my DH has said he wants to try again straight away, I thought he would want to wait a while and started to prepare myself for that but talked to him and he didnt! I hope everything turns out ok, If you need to talk Im here, feel free to PM me. Good luck!! ------------- 
+1 May 09 Angel 
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Posted By: busybee
Date Posted: 30 June 2009 at 8:05am
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good luck guys. I had a mc about 3 months ago. We saw the heartbeat at just over 6 weeks and thought it would all be fine as they say once you see the heartbeat the chances for mc drops dramatically. Well it looked like the baby stopped developing at little over 7 weeks and I only found out 3 weeks later. It was unreal. The first couple of weeks are the worse. Clear your head and wait for the hormones to ship out and eventually you feel better. We weren't ready to jump into it straight away but everyone is different.
What I am trying to say is don't rush things. Take it slow and relax. You might not get pregnant right away due to cycles being messed up, so don;t put too much pressure on yourself. |