Sex during pregnancy...
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Topic: Sex during pregnancy...
Posted By: stevie_88
Subject: Sex during pregnancy...
Date Posted: 01 June 2006 at 4:18pm
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I've heard and read that its ok and that to have sex during pregnancy- but... are there only certain positions you can do it? So it doesnt harm or annoy the baby? See I have no idea.
I put it off after finding out I was pregnant but also- I didn't know you could still have sex during the pregnancy until my DAD (of all people) told me. The convo started by talking about circumsising with my step mum- and here comes the old big head who apparently knows it all since he has 6 kids- and says its alright to have sex during pregnancy haha and we weren't even talking about it. I wonder sometimes- are we really related??? Haha. But thanks dad- made me all embarrassed haha. ------------- http://lilypie.com">  
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Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 01 June 2006 at 4:26pm
Anythings fine as far as I know. Its prob just finding s position thats comfy for you with your big tum!  ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 01 June 2006 at 4:28pm
Yup it's fine, as aimeejoy said it's just a case of finding a poistion that is comfortable for you.  ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 01 June 2006 at 4:28pm
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Yes, Stevie, it is alright to have sex during pregnancy! It will not harm the baby at all, as the "plug" that keeps your baby's amiotic (sp?) fluid in will keep everything else out.
As far as positions go, go with whatever is comfortable for you and your partner! He may need to hold his weight up on his arms so that you can breathe easily though. You may find that you cannot lie on your back for long enough, or your tummy may be in the way so try other positions then... Woman on Top or Spooning work well. You may find that sometimes that when you orgasm your tummy goes rock hard, and/or Baby sticks something out your side... part of the female orgasm is that all the stomach muscles contract and tighten up. Baby is just showing their displeasure at being squeezed! but it doesn't hurt them at all. In the last stages of pregnancy, semen can bring on active labour by softening the cervix, but only if the cervix is already starting to soften. ------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |
Posted By: stevie_88
Date Posted: 01 June 2006 at 4:28pm
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Oooh- might have to try a few things hahhahaa ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: my2angels
Date Posted: 01 June 2006 at 4:52pm
| Yeah they say if there is a risk of prem labour then dont have sex at the end of your pregnancy but Ive been using that excuse from day one! |
Posted By: kellverona
Date Posted: 01 June 2006 at 4:53pm
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yeh i ve been told it is fine also. Just all about comfort for you. I avoided it also but tried in first few months of pregnancy but it was sooo uncomfortable for me during and afterwards. Now Its back to normal. Yay!!! Different for everyone though I guess. I do think though about poor bubs being shaken around in there. lol. ------------- http://pregnancyplanet.net/tickers/"> 
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Posted By: jax
Date Posted: 01 June 2006 at 4:58pm
Sex in pregnancy is definitely OK, but definitely about your comfort over everything else ! Sideways isn't too bad if you can manage, from behind is good too but you might need pillows to prop you up - I do this as well as hang on to the headboard *ahem* Sorry if that was TMI  Don't forget that you get a whole lot of endorphins floating around in your system once you have orgasmed, so even if bub packs a tanty at being jiggled around a bit, they will soon relax along with you  ------------- Jacquie - Mama to Erin, 13.07.06 - Chief Cat Chaser & Marmite Sammie Eater 
Love many, trust few, harm none. ~Anon~ |
Posted By: Sarah Beth
Date Posted: 01 June 2006 at 6:08pm
I am sorry jax but you have painted quite the mental picture  ------------- "> 
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Posted By: Guests
Date Posted: 01 June 2006 at 6:14pm
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LOL
I havent had a sex drive to be honest and the one time i felt sorry for hubby i attempted it and it was to uncomfortable. |
Posted By: emeldee
Date Posted: 01 June 2006 at 6:22pm
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LOL Jax - people usually pay 0900 numbers to get that kind of mental picture.
But yes, some women even have increased orgasms during pregnancy due to the extra blood flow and activity around the nether-regions (not Holland, I mean your girly bits that you probably can't see without the aid of a couple of strategically placed mirrors). Then, when you near the end of your pregnancy, there is added motivation to have sex with your men-partners - sperm and ejaculate can help to bring on labour. Lucky boys for that week! ------------- |
Posted By: stevie_88
Date Posted: 01 June 2006 at 6:28pm
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Haha talk about lucky boys for that week haha.
I think I'll try it... but I'm still a bit hmmm haaa about it. We'll see what happens. Oh and I wont let you know about it hahaha. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 01 June 2006 at 7:36pm
Jax I'm sorry but I don't know if I can look at you the same again!  ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: my2angels
Date Posted: 01 June 2006 at 7:37pm
| geez no shame on this forum aye! hope I never have to look your man in the eye Jax! girl on top isnt to bad, you have more control that way too |
Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 01 June 2006 at 7:40pm
 Ohhhhhh there's a point...not sure I can look Rols in the eye now either! *lol* ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: jax
Date Posted: 01 June 2006 at 8:29pm
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*chortle* Sorry ladies, will pull the reins a bit tighter next time
I do have to say I haven't tried woman on top though, purely because I figure it might be a bit uncomfortable for the 'girls' without support (and who wants to shag with a bra on !?)... *ahem* ANYWAY... ------------- Jacquie - Mama to Erin, 13.07.06 - Chief Cat Chaser & Marmite Sammie Eater
Love many, trust few, harm none. ~Anon~ |
Posted By: emeldee
Date Posted: 01 June 2006 at 8:34pm
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*bigger chortle* - sorry Paws, this is going to make it even worse for you next time you see Rols, however; you could always get support for the girls with his free hand/s - unless they were holding on somewhere else.... ------------- |
Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 01 June 2006 at 8:38pm
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Or support them yourself, Jax! I'm sure Roland will appreciate the view... ------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |
Posted By: stevie_88
Date Posted: 01 June 2006 at 8:39pm
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agh haha all the cheeky secrets come out! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: jax
Date Posted: 01 June 2006 at 8:40pm
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Would they reach up that far though? Would think that the bump would get in the way if they were to be positioned close enough...
Edited to add: VERY good point Becca  That way his hands could be helping me keep balance instead, just in case 
And naughty? This isn't even close *evil giggle* ------------- Jacquie - Mama to Erin, 13.07.06 - Chief Cat Chaser & Marmite Sammie Eater
Love many, trust few, harm none. ~Anon~ |
Posted By: jack_&_charli
Date Posted: 01 June 2006 at 8:43pm
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i'm with jess on this one.....poor hubby is just missing out a little as it's too darn uncomfortable for me. unless i'm on top, which is purely for selfish reasons, i'm in control then
hmmm yes, mental pictures jax ------------- http://www.alternatickers.com"> 
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Posted By: my2angels
Date Posted: 01 June 2006 at 9:03pm
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yeah he can support "the girls" which is a win win situation really or if you lean back a little you can support yourself with your hands on his legs plus the tummy isnt in the way and thats all Im going to say on the subject
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Posted By: jax
Date Posted: 01 June 2006 at 9:05pm
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AH ! Another excellent point ! Must remind him to put his knees up if we try that one... so then I wouldn't have to lean back *too* far to rest on them ------------- Jacquie - Mama to Erin, 13.07.06 - Chief Cat Chaser & Marmite Sammie Eater
Love many, trust few, harm none. ~Anon~ |
Posted By: k&jsmum
Date Posted: 01 June 2006 at 11:13pm
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i preferred the spooning method although it did take abit of adjusting to get comfy!!! We didnt try me on top. I was 2 scared id suffocate him with my big tummy lol. ------------- Marlene Keegan ~ 14 October 2003 Jaidyn ~ 14 October 2003 |
Posted By: ErinC
Date Posted: 02 June 2006 at 8:13am
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just to add my 2 cents. Girl on top gets harder the bigger your tummy gets.
I have to say Im not really interested at the moment but have made a resolution to be interested in the next few weeks, because after the baby has arrived I dont think it'll be happening for a while. ------------- http://www.TickerFactory.com/"> 
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Posted By: Millie1976
Date Posted: 02 June 2006 at 8:19am
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I think as long as you can find a comfortable position then go for it! ------------- Sebastien 2 years old Olivier 3 3/4 years old |
Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 02 June 2006 at 9:04am
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If you sit upright (for girl on top) and he stays lying down, your tummy doesn't get in the way the same. ------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |
Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 02 June 2006 at 9:06am
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Well all I'll say is that so far girl on top has worked good for us! *lol* (if we're going to get into details and if you can't beat 'em - join 'em! ) ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 02 June 2006 at 9:07am
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Welcome, Paws, to the unashamed-about-sex-club! ------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |
Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 02 June 2006 at 9:17am
*lol* Thanks!!!  ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Guests
Date Posted: 02 June 2006 at 9:48am
 My poor virgin eyes and mind!!!
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Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 02 June 2006 at 9:53am
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Lol Jess... that reminds me of a conversation I had with my (then 14yo) little sister last year. I said to her that if she ever wanted to talk about sex and the emotions that come up before your first time that she could call me - because I had two kids so she knew I've had sex at least twice, and it's easier to think of your big sister having sex than your parents! ------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |
Posted By: my2angels
Date Posted: 02 June 2006 at 9:58am
| In the newspaper birth notices the other day someone had put something like "yes we have had sex at least twice and here is the proof, such and such was born......" I thought that was a really strange thing to put in a birth notice! |
Posted By: mrs frantic
Date Posted: 02 June 2006 at 1:24pm
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hmmm I know it is safe to have sex normally during pregnancy, but I had a littl bleeding a couple of weeks ago and my midwife said "no sex" and since then we havent had any, which is fine, but now I am starting to get a little, ummm, well I am missing it a bit. But my midwife has now gone on holiday to Scottland for a month and I cant ring her and say "is it ok now?" - hubby was a bit freakaed out by our scare so i dont htink he wants to have sex but I dooooooo! Not all teh time but jeez give a girl a little lovin at least once every few weeks come on!
ANYWAY my question is has anyone been in my position, had a litle bleedin and told no sex - is tha ban for the rest of the pregnancy *ugh please no* or is it just for a few weeks or something...dont worry I wont do anything till I get the word from my midwife when she gets back, but I was just wondering...? ------------- Mrs Frantic Baby Maddisyn born 28 Sept 2006 http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Guests
Date Posted: 02 June 2006 at 2:55pm
| Did she say it was due to your placenta position? Im not to clued up on that but someone here maybe able to explain what i mean if they get me? |
Posted By: mrs frantic
Date Posted: 02 June 2006 at 3:28pm
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Well they checked at the scan to see if teh placenta was at the bottom of the uterus (placenta previa? i think?) which can cause some bleeding apprently but no, it is anterior and apparently not lying low...at the time when they did the scan they said that baby was fine and that they couldnt see anywhere where the placenta had pulled away so they said it was all fine and no apparent reason for bleeding...so who knows...i was just happy it was all ok but I would have liked to know why it happened...?
SO short answer is no, not due to placental position... ------------- Mrs Frantic Baby Maddisyn born 28 Sept 2006 http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Kelpa
Date Posted: 02 June 2006 at 4:04pm
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He he Gets the endorphins pumping!! Sex is great and I reckon its good for you and other half now as when baby comes there aint much lovin going on for a while!! Too mant other things to attend to!!!
Def find when you are about to orgasm the ole tum gets hard...Poor wee thing ..he must be wondering whats going on!! Bit of a joy ride! -------------  
 
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Posted By: Anna
Date Posted: 02 June 2006 at 4:40pm
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FRANTIC - who is your midwife? Mine has just gone to scotland for a month too!! ------------- Anna http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: mrs frantic
Date Posted: 02 June 2006 at 4:50pm
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Anna it is Sharon Wier ------------- Mrs Frantic Baby Maddisyn born 28 Sept 2006 http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: emeldee
Date Posted: 02 June 2006 at 5:34pm
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perhaps it's a midwifery convention in Scotland? ------------- |
Posted By: 98765
Date Posted: 03 June 2006 at 2:30pm
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I was wishing my midwife wud tell me no sex. Poor Ben its been over a year since i last initiated it ------------- http://lilypie.com">  
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Posted By: Anna
Date Posted: 03 June 2006 at 4:42pm
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Frantic! We have the same Midwife!! ------------- Anna http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: mrs frantic
Date Posted: 06 June 2006 at 5:22pm
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ah cool Anna isnt she great! I really like her - ofcourse I havent had any other midwives before to compare her to and we are only half way through but I definately feel lucky to have her esp when you hear all those nightmare stories out there... ------------- Mrs Frantic Baby Maddisyn born 28 Sept 2006 http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Anna
Date Posted: 07 June 2006 at 8:00am
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She is great... She delivered Quinn as well and I have nothing but praise for her there!!
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Posted By: mrs frantic
Date Posted: 07 June 2006 at 9:18am
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Awesome - if I have any more kids after this (doubtful - I think one will be enough for now LOL) the first call I make will be to her to book her LOL! ------------- Mrs Frantic Baby Maddisyn born 28 Sept 2006 http://lilypie.com">
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