Saying goodbye to midwife :(
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Topic: Saying goodbye to midwife :(
Posted By: lovingmummyhood
Subject: Saying goodbye to midwife :(
Date Posted: 25 June 2009 at 7:26pm
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I have the most wonderful midwife and she is leaving on Saturday. I knew that she would be going (she's moving) but wasn't too phased before. I always thought she was really cool but can't believe just how much that midwife/client relationship changes as soon as this little person arrives. My little man will be 9 days old tomorrow so we haven't had long together but my MW has been a rock, absolutely amazing and I love her to bits.
How do I say goodbye to her without falling apart?? I know her backup (who is lovely and was at the birth too) will do a great job of finishing our postnatal care but I'm so not ready to say goodbye. I have a present for her that I think she'll love but don't know how to put my thoughts into words on the card. I'm rambling and having a blue moment while I try to do this. I don't even know why I'm writing this, I don't know what I expect people to reply lol  
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Posted By: kakapo
Date Posted: 25 June 2009 at 7:52pm
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Aww |
, that's sad your midwife won't be around for the full 6 weeks post-birth. A similar thing happened to me - the midwife at the birth was actually the back-up and my other midwife took over postnatal care about 3 weeks post-birth. I'd developed a special bond with the back-up and felt stupidly disappointed when the other midwife returned from holiday 
. Great midwives are such wonderful people aye? I'm sure your midwife will be sad to say goodbye to you too. We still keep in touch with our back-up midwife via email (she's been in Aussie and Europe) and she's promised to visit us sometime soon now she's back on the Coast Posted By: lovingmummyhood
Date Posted: 25 June 2009 at 7:58pm
Thanks Kakapo  I've already done that lol (she knows I love her and we've had a hard couple of days) and we will be keeping in touch. I want her to know exactly how much I appreciate everything before she leaves us.
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Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 25 June 2009 at 8:01pm
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i think the truley good midwives do know how much they are appreciated! she will see it in your eyes when you look at your baby and she will hear it in your voice when you say goodbye to her! ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker"> 
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Posted By: dinkyminky
Date Posted: 25 June 2009 at 8:16pm
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Posted By: MrsMojo
Date Posted: 25 June 2009 at 8:31pm
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I think Bizzy's right. She will know how much you love her and don't worry about saying goodbye without falling apart, who really cares if you do anyway?! -------------  
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Posted By: lovingmummyhood
Date Posted: 25 June 2009 at 8:43pm
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Lol, Bizzy is so right!! And so are you Jo She does know, and from what she's seen in the last few days she won't be surprised when I do fall apart (cause I will). Feeling a tad better now. I've made a new ticker and am just about to feed my precious boy and head to bed.
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Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 25 June 2009 at 9:22pm
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OMG he is sooo cute! have a good sleep! both of you... ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker">
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Posted By: pickle
Date Posted: 25 June 2009 at 9:30pm
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Hi, I kind of understand how you feel. We had a traumatic birth (I nearly died) and my midwife is the most amazing woman in the world, I cannot begin to try to say how much we owe her. She delivered both of our children and we are having no more. I got upset thinking of saying goodbye and when the time came to write her card i was crying just doing that! My DH thought I was mad. Just say the things you want to say and go with the moment, she will know ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: weegee
Date Posted: 26 June 2009 at 11:37am
I know, she's so incredibly wonderful isn't she? I know Michelle is lovely and capable too but I really can't imagine having anyone else next time around I was really worried I was going to fall apart when she officially discharged JJ and I but I surprised myself and didn't so you never know. Mind you back then I thought I would see her when I eventually have baby #2  She's good at email and she might be able to pop back and see you in 10 weeks time when she's back for a little while...------------- 
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Posted By: lovingmummyhood
Date Posted: 27 June 2009 at 8:52am
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Thanks ladies
I saw her for the last time (officially) yesterday and it was a very long appointment lol. I feel really good knowing that she's going to come back and visit. I ended up just writing what I was thinking on the card so hopefully it made sense. I think its hard for them to say goodbye too. I know weegee, she's just amazing. Its going to be great keeping in touch with her, although I laughed when she said I can call her anytime about anything. I won't be harrassing her with random things but it was really nice to know that she'll still be there if you know what I mean. Midwifery must be one of the hardest, most rewarding occupations there is. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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