Second baby
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Topic: Second baby
Posted By: EthansMummy
Subject: Second baby
Date Posted: 04 June 2006 at 3:21pm
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We are having our first baby in August and do want another one.
I am 21 so i have enough time but was wondering what people thought was a good age gap between No 1 and No 2? ------------- ** MUM TO ** Ethan 29/08/2006 Brooke 22/09/2008 |
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Posted By: Kazzle
Date Posted: 04 June 2006 at 4:28pm
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i think its whatever age you think is good,
for us we are planning on trying for no 2 at christmas time when Rhiannon will be 8mths old, so we will have a 17mth gap. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: mum2emj
Date Posted: 04 June 2006 at 5:56pm
my first two girls are 17 months apart and its great. my second pregnancy was a suprise one and i was scared at how i'd cope and felt bad for jade (my oldest) but her and her sister are so close and jade has a playmate whenever she wants. i dont know if and when there is a "right" time but from someone who has children reasonably close together- i recomend it 
for me im finding it weird to think of my oldest being almost 4 years old when this wee one's due, and my second, emma being nearly 2.5 years. do whats best for you and your family.... i was 21 when i had my first too....
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Posted By: Alan & Bubbles Mummy
Date Posted: 04 June 2006 at 6:56pm
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I am having an 18 month gap I alway's wanted mine close. Probaly would have been closer except my midwife said it take's 9 month to grow a baby and nine month to recover so that is the rule I went on and of course exactly nine months after having Alan we were preggy. I think 21 is a great age to start a family by the way, but like the other ladies said its totally up to you and also it depend's on this baby and how well baby sleep's and thing's that will impact your desison on age gap. ------------- http://lilypie.com">  
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Posted By: mum2paris
Date Posted: 04 June 2006 at 7:13pm
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I think most people end up conceiving just after their first baby turns 1. and that's a pretty good age - they are just young enough not to get tooooo jealous but not so old they've gotten used to being the only 1 for too long. only thing is - the time when you are really big and preggers - coincides with the time your 1st kid decides they know how to run away at shops. The other good thing though is that #1 still usually has at least 1 day nap - leaving you time to sleep while preggy, and also means you can get some sleep once baby is here provided you can get them to sleep together.
Also means you will probably end up with both in nappies, but not for too long cos #1 will be close to beginning toilet training. lololol, All in all i think most people with that kind of age gap of about 17 to 24 months apart find that their kids are pretty good, it means a little while of being completely exhausted constantly but once that 2nd baby starts moving they are just the right age to be best friends. i am glad my girls are so close together, they are best friends... most of the time.  ------------- Janine and her 2 cool chicks, Paris & Ayja 
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Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 05 June 2006 at 9:48am
There is just over 4 years between Kiya and Josiah, and there will be 18 months between Josiah and Bubs. The slightly bigger gap between Kiya and Josiah happened because Kiya was 6 months old when I met my husband  .
We want 5 kids, and we're planning on starting TTC the next one when the youngest turns 1. We got caught by surprise this time, conceiving despite using the minipill! ------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |
Posted By: jack_&_charli
Date Posted: 05 June 2006 at 9:58am
jack will be 2 in august and this bubs is due 2 october. we wanted 18-24mths between them, but started TTC in january as i didn't want to be preggers over xmas and new year 
i think it will be a great age gap as jack is starting to understand things we say a bit more and is fabulous around his little 8mth old cousin. there is 2 yrs each between my sis, my lil bro and myself and we all have a great relationship together. ------------- http://www.alternatickers.com"> 
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Posted By: my2angels
Date Posted: 05 June 2006 at 10:50am
| we will have about the same age gap as you vanessa and I think it will be just right. Orginally I wanted a smaller gap but we m/c. |
Posted By: EthansMummy
Date Posted: 05 June 2006 at 5:48pm
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Yea me and my brother have a 2 year age gap and i think that is a really good gap. My sister and i are three years which is a bit more of a stretch. So i think the 18-24months is a good gap and seems quite common. ------------- ** MUM TO ** Ethan 29/08/2006 Brooke 22/09/2008 |
Posted By: AlyAyde
Date Posted: 05 June 2006 at 6:20pm
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i have 20months between my 2. And sometimes i think its a brilliant age gap (most of the time really). They play well togeather and are very protective of each other. Then they have the odd moment when the scrap over toys etc or the littler one wrecks something her older sister has been making and their is a full on fight. ------------- Jayde 25/12/04 Alyssa 08/04/03 http://Alyayde.bebo.com |
Posted By: fattartsrock
Date Posted: 05 June 2006 at 7:05pm
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There will be 20 months between JJ and #2, so i am hoping this all works out well... I wanted a not too big gap, so that worked out just about right. Of course, there are 13 years between dh's first son and JJ.... ------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 05 June 2006 at 8:05pm
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I wrote a big long novel in the pregnancy thread... -------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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Posted By: newmum
Date Posted: 05 June 2006 at 9:14pm
we have planned to start trying for #2 when Joey turns two - so still lots of time  ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 06 June 2006 at 6:29am
| jake and Taine are 16months apart through accident. However, it seems really good at the moment and not as much hard work as i thought, but I am really lucky to have two really good kids in a good routine. Jake asks to go to bed and sleeps until 7, and taine sleeps pretty solidly too. They both eat well ,and seem to adore each other. I would've prefered a larger gap tp tell the truth. We want three kids and will start TTC (After two surprises, that still freaks me out), when Jake is at school probably. Not sure. Or I could be re-enlisting myself on the preggy list saying Oops again....which is probably more likely. Although I told the doctor if I got pregnant on the injection I would sue. |
Posted By: Roksana
Date Posted: 06 June 2006 at 9:34am
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We are planing to TTC when Zaara is 18 months old. So if I get pregnant straight away then the gap will be 28 months??
Unless a BIG OOOPS happens between now and then!! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Xander&Harmony
Date Posted: 08 June 2006 at 12:10am
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Oops....... Liz did it again la la la la la hehehehehehehehehehehehehe ------------- BECS http://www.sparklee.com"> 
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Posted By: toniellis
Date Posted: 08 June 2006 at 11:40am
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Hehehehehe!!! What do you reckon your chances are Liz of having a planned baby?
Well I have a 19 month gap beween my two. I'm only a week into it but things are brilliant so far. My mum said to me that it doesn't matter what the age gap is it will always be a good gap. She has had big gaps & little gaps (nearly 5 years between me & my sis and only 14 months between my 2 brothers) so just try for #2 when you feel ready after #1 has arrived. I'm 22 so I know how you feel about having "enough time". I wanted about a 2-2 & 1/2 year gap but I got pregnant the first time we didn't use contraception so that plan went out the window. ------------- Mum to Alex (11), Blaire (10) & Erika (8) and Damien (6) Successful HWB VBA2Cs! Soon to be surrogate |
Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 08 June 2006 at 4:15pm
| if you people jinx me......oooh there will be trouble! Course if I got pregnant now it would be immaculate conception! |
Posted By: Roksana
Date Posted: 08 June 2006 at 4:18pm
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he he ha ha I know what you mean Liz!! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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