Who DIDN’T have the 1st Bithday Party.
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Topic: Who DIDN’T have the 1st Bithday Party.
Posted By: BessieBear
Subject: Who DIDN’T have the 1st Bithday Party.
Date Posted: 06 July 2009 at 10:18am
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I'm just wondering, as it seems to be a big deal. I'm going to restrain myself now cause this could go on forever. And I have a codl and got my forst MS this morning, so I'm angry at that too. ------------- Sarah Mum to, Boy 07/2008, Girl 03/2010, Boy 05/2012, Angel  07/08/2014
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Posted By: Snappy
Date Posted: 06 July 2009 at 10:27am
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We didnt.
We had dinner at my parents (we have dinner every saturday night anyway) A close friend and her baby came over for a glass of wine and the babies played together. We had a cake and a few balloons to make the day a bit more special (and make myself feel better!) We had planned to go to lollipops (just the four of us) but Jackson needed a nap. We have a huge family and it was just giving me a headache! |
Posted By: jazzy
Date Posted: 06 July 2009 at 10:32am
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For DS1 we had a bbq, mostly just family, but I did invite a couple of friends, who got drunk, smoked, did not bring a present (I know that should not be a big thing), but felt they were there for the wrong reason.
After that, we have only invited the in-laws, & SIL & BIN with there kids, rest iof the family live to far away. We usually go out for the day & then have party food at home, & at 1yr old they only want the wrapping & to stick there fingers in the cake  lol.
I think your IL's are looking forward to it, is Ryan the first grandson?? I know it is hard to say no, so if you could say something like, we are having dinner on Tuesday, you can come, & on Saturday we will drop him off for the day & you can spend time with him while we had time for us. (oh & I know all about MIL  )
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Posted By: palomino
Date Posted: 06 July 2009 at 10:33am
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omgosh congrats chick on the pregnancy!
Not much help because iv got all this fun stuff to look forward too, but didnt want to read and run. In-laws are pains in the butt! |
Posted By: peanut butter
Date Posted: 06 July 2009 at 10:47am
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We didnt. the day before Tom's first birthday I invited a couple of my close friends around for afternoon tea. Thankfully only one could make it (the other almost went in to labour). I made cupcakes and lollicake and we made the two kiddies sit at the table and have their cake. I did balloons and he opened his presents. That was all...just enough to have a few photos to mark the occasion.
On his actual birthday, I worked in the morning, he went to daycare. Then we picked him up, went straight to the airport and up to grandparents. Again no party...but a little bit of cake and lots of presents. This year I am planning a party for Tom...and I want one! |
Posted By: BessieBear
Date Posted: 06 July 2009 at 10:57am
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Yup he's the first. Dh has an adobted bro and sis. He lives in switzerland she lives in welington. ------------- Sarah Mum to, Boy 07/2008, Girl 03/2010, Boy 05/2012, Angel 07/08/2014
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Posted By: surfergirl
Date Posted: 06 July 2009 at 11:56am
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I'm in two minds on this...as someone who has ILs that are not bad people, but I don't gel with, I get why you'd not want to do anything with them...BUT on the other hand I see that it's a big deal for them and they want to do something special. I *think* that if it were me, as long as the only thing I was expected to do was turn up, then I think you should go. (sorry!) You're in a tricky spot - is it a battle worth fighting?? Can you manage to 'suck it up'? (and some hugs - cos I feel for you! ------------- http://www.alterna-tickers.com"> 
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)Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 06 July 2009 at 12:35pm
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The way I see it, you have two choices:
*Don't turn up and let them have the party without the birthday boy 
Or *Turn up, drop Ryan off and say "enjoy your party, see you in a few hours" and then go home to bed  (I didn't think of that but Jazzy suggested it and it sounds pretty appealing )
(but bear in mind that I a)have no in-laws so no idea how horrible they are and b)in our house, first birthdays are ridiculously huge affairs... -------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: tishy
Date Posted: 06 July 2009 at 12:41pm
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We had a BBQ where there was only 1 other baby and we had no decorations/ party things at all other than the cake.
However both our families live in Ireland so if we were there we would have had a party I think , especially as they are the first grandchildren. Honestly I can see both sides of view. Celebrating a first birthday is probably important to the grandparents too. But having said that I don't know anything about the type of relationship you have with them normally. |
Posted By: noisybaby
Date Posted: 06 July 2009 at 3:29pm
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Our wee girl is 1 in a couple of weeks and we aren't having a party. At the end of the day they aren't going to remember anyway. Next year we will probably do something. I probably won't even invite the In laws to tea that day anyway. Just do what you want. Its your baby at the end of the day, not theirs
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Posted By: hannibal
Date Posted: 06 July 2009 at 6:58pm
| The guest list here will be bubs, hubby, me and my parents cause they will make the effort to come down for the 1st birthday (hubbys family - no one will bother), and maybe my friend and her 3 kids. Unfortunately we don't know many people where we are living! |
Posted By: pepsi
Date Posted: 06 July 2009 at 8:41pm
| We didn't have one for Alyssa and won't have one for Kayla either. We still got a cake but that was about as much as we did :) |
Posted By: kakapo
Date Posted: 06 July 2009 at 9:01pm
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We didn't have one for Jimmy - just made him a cake, which he didn't like as it was an ice-cream cake and he'd never tried ice-cream before |
Posted By: Troods
Date Posted: 06 July 2009 at 9:27pm
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We didn't do a big party for Emily. Her birthday fell on a weekday, so DH took the day off work and we spent the day together just the 3 of us and took Emily to Butterfly Creek which she loved and it was such a nice relaxing day. Then on the weekend we just had immediate family round for the afternoon with nibbles and cake. The only other kids there were her cousins 3 yrs and 9 months and they played happily together.
Personally I don't see the point of having a big party when they don't really understand what's going on. We decided that her 2nd birthday will be a bigger affair, but that might change now that our 2nd bub is due just a couple of weeks before her birthday LOL. Anyway I hope you work something out. ------------- 
Missed MC July 2011
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Posted By: BabyOnBoard
Date Posted: 06 July 2009 at 10:12pm
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IMHO the first birthday is a celebration of your first year as a family. It's not only about your baby turning one but you being a parent for a year and making it!
I think whatever the 3 of you want to do is what you should do  .
I did a big party for Arabella in the weekend which was ok but the spending time with her and filling the house up with balloons on her birthday was waaaay better :D ------------- http://lilypie.com">  
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Posted By: NovemberMum
Date Posted: 07 July 2009 at 1:04pm
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we just had a bbq with family nothing big but we (my husband and I ) wanted to celebrate our daughter's first year.
a tradition in my husband's family is when your child is 1 they get a whole cake to themselves (we also have a cake for guests to actually eat) real fun watching them mush it through their fingers and get it all over their face..of course they hardly eat any of it and pictures are a must :) ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Babe
Date Posted: 07 July 2009 at 3:15pm
We just had a potluck dinner with mum and dad and my brothers and sister. I opened his pressies for him and Jake pee'd on his brandnew guitar LOL got a photo of it too  Then he went to bed (he was really sick poor baby) and we all sat around playing boardgames. They're too little to know what a party is anyway I reckon. If its such a big deal then organise it for the weekend so maybe your family could make it earlier? Have an early tea and tell everyboy to bring something to contribute, take pictures, have cake (we didn't have cake though actually), open his presents, send the family all home and put him and yourself to bed.-------------   
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Posted By: HoneybunsMa
Date Posted: 07 July 2009 at 4:37pm
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We will most likely have a bbq at mum and dads for this ones first birthday although being winter might not work otherwise something like chick and chips at mum and dads as that is the family house and being their first grandchild they will want it and I'm sure my brothers will want something as well as my cousins and aunt etc. Fine by me I'll bring the baby they can do the rest! ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker"> 
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