going too far......
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Topic: going too far......
Posted By: BeLoved
Subject: going too far......
Date Posted: 30 July 2009 at 9:30am
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How often do people on such forums as this go too far and say things that are really just plain nasty?
This is the only forum I have ever posted on so have no other experience and up until recently I have had no experience of things getting nasty. But as of today reading through another thread I have thought twice about ever asking for advice or support on here again. Maybe I am just naive and too new to realise its common practice, and maybe I am taking things a little personal but in the same breath it feels that the particular comment was directed at me and I just would never do that, especially when someone had asked for advice or support. ------------- http://alterna-tickers.com"> 
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Posted By: Bobbie
Date Posted: 30 July 2009 at 9:40am
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ooh I've never seen it on this board - where someone has just said something to be nasty - but things do get heated at times. All the preggy hormones and lack of sleep I guess.
Also it's easy to take things the wrong way/harsher than they're intended because we only have the written word. I had to apologise in a thread the other day because I said something that was just meant to be my opinion but someone else took it as me telling them off which I totally didn't intend. Maybe you could PM the person involved and just let them know you're a little upset with what was said. I have no idea which thread you're on about now but I'm dying of curiousity. -------------  
 
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Posted By: Mamma2N
Date Posted: 30 July 2009 at 9:44am
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Heidi's mum, I have just read through the other thread and I'm sure that comment wasn't specifically aimed at you. Its just a very heated debate, and I would try not to take it personally.
Unfortunetly online forums can get a little heated at times. 
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Posted By: lilfatty
Date Posted: 30 July 2009 at 9:49am
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Heidi;s mum, I would take her comments with a grain of salt .. once youve been here awhile you just realise certain people arent as eloquent as others.
I know its hard .. I have actually been personally attacked on here just because Im im "rich"  (I just wish my bank account knew that)  ------------- Mummy to Issy (3) and Elias (18 months) I did it .. 41 kgs gone! From flab to fab in under a year  http://www.femininefitness.co.nz/category/blog - LFs weight blog
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Posted By: lisa85
Date Posted: 30 July 2009 at 9:50am
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I tried out a couple of forums before finding this one and found the others to have way too much negative attitude for my liking.
Ohbaby is the most positive place I have found. I have to say in the past year I have only come across one negative person who came and went very quickly everyone else seems to be pretty understanding of where the line is and how to pick battles. Sometimes I have to bite my tounge when I see some comments lol but I think most of the people that have been long time users of this forum know when to say when. I'd say 99 percent of the people here are genuine and just out for advice or friendships but no matter how friendly and safe the site there will always be that 1 percent that are just out to stir the pot. If you spot them just avoid them. -------------  
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Posted By: BeLoved
Date Posted: 30 July 2009 at 9:52am
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Thanks Bobbie.
The thread is the Paula Bennett one, which is obviously getting very heated. I would normally choose not to comment on these types of things but one thing made me comment and that was the fact that I was made to feel weak and had no right to ask for ideas on how others coped while their DH's are away due to the fact that there are others out there who are solo parents??? I guess its a matter of someone else taking things personally and therefore reacting in an attacking way. ------------- http://alterna-tickers.com">
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Posted By: BeLoved
Date Posted: 30 July 2009 at 9:53am
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Oh and thanks everyone else! From now on I will have my salt shaker handy LOL! ------------- http://alterna-tickers.com">
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Posted By: Peanut
Date Posted: 30 July 2009 at 9:53am
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I wouldn't stress about it! Things get heated at times. I read that comment and have replied to it. I think evryone on here deserves support for whatever situation they are in. Don't be put off as there is always someone on here that can relate! -------------  
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Posted By: mamanee
Date Posted: 30 July 2009 at 10:23am
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Things always tend to get a bit heated when controversial topics come up, even I jumped on the bandwagon with that topic because it's close to my own heart. I always try not to personally attack anybody though and I apologise if I offended anybody.
All in all I've found this place to be really supportive and helpful and I wouldn't have stayed around since 2006 if it wasn't! Threads like that one only come up once in a while, most of the time we are a happy bunch! |
Posted By: sally belly
Date Posted: 30 July 2009 at 10:30am
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You definitely shouldn't feel like you're being personally attacked HeidisMum. As already said, when topics like this are started they will always get "heated". Some see it as healthy debate even!
You were well in your rights to ask for advice on coping when your DH is away. It's a topic close to my heart as my DH is away a lot for work. I have no family around & I'm currently fat, pregnant & grumpy - it is far from easy. Even though I am not a solo mother... I am fully aware how hard it must be at times coping on your own. -------------    
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Posted By: lisa85
Date Posted: 30 July 2009 at 10:32am
Wow I just read the thread! Talk about drama lol well I've had my drama fix for the year. I think I might turn off the computer now and go to the beach with my kids and remember why somethings are better left the heck alone 
That's the first time I've seen something so heated in here! Except for maybe the old vaccination debate which seems to come along once in a while and get everyone divided. -------------
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Posted By: Turtle
Date Posted: 30 July 2009 at 10:46am
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It certainly was a full on thread!
I am only new to Ohbaby but have found it really good and everyone super supportive. So many boards seem to be filled with people who just go on so that they can argue with someone else. Worst ones I came across were the boards at The Knot. Those girls were nasty. |
Posted By: Natalie_G
Date Posted: 30 July 2009 at 10:49am
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i read the post, I think the person was just heated about it I wouldn't take it personally hun. You can still ask for advice on Ohbaby I have seen more positive than negative on the forums. ------------- http://lilypie.com">  
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Posted By: Bobbie
Date Posted: 30 July 2009 at 10:52am
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oh yep had a quick look. Quite a heated wee discussion but I wouldn't take it personally.
I think there was a thread a while back on how people coped when their S.O. were away - might have been in the babies section though? Julia I had forgotten about that. Ok so there was this one time (at band camp )-------------
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Posted By: mamanee
Date Posted: 30 July 2009 at 10:52am
Yeah, I've seen some HUGE fights on here and they are soon forgotten about. And this is meant to be a compliment to Bizzy - Bizzy is a strong minded woman I would probably back down immediately if I came to a head with her (And I'm pretty strong minded) but after meeting her and her two lovely boys a few years ago in Hamilton I have to say that she is a really really lovely person and I have come to really admire her over the years. Often I tend to hear things in probably a different tone than the person has intended when they have written it down and then sometimes things get ugly, but I would like to think that I can always come back here and ask questions or ask for some support and feel like I am part of the community. I don't know where I would have been without Ohbaby when I was at my lowest point with my ex. Oops, I just flooded my kitchen!! |
Jezsika wrote:Posted By: Hopes
Date Posted: 30 July 2009 at 10:55am
Just my two cents - apart from the odd thread like that, I think OB is one of the most positive forums I've ever been on. I used to hang out quite a bit on a couple of American forums (Christian ones, too  ) that got really really heated quite frequently. I remember when I was quite new to OB, disagreeing with someone on the Waiting to TTC thread, and waiting to get flamed... and being really surprised when we just had a constructive discussion instead! 
Of course, there's always the odd thread here that gets a bit heated. As lilfatty said, this forums open to everyone, and some people aren't quite as skilled at expressing themselves without causing offense as others (having not paid attention to the other thread, I can assure you I'm not intending to offend anyone myself when I say that!!) -------------   
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Posted By: surfergirl
Date Posted: 30 July 2009 at 11:01am
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I've not gone to any other MB as I have read some of them and they are REALLY heated. I think sometimes OB can seem heated, but as someone above said, some people are less cautious about their wording, and sometimes some things just come across wrong/harsh when they're written down. Just like in 'real life' there will be people who have strong opinions, people who take things too personally, people who speak well, those who don't and people you just don't 'click' with for one reaosn or another. You don't have to love everyone on here (or their opinions) but as long as you conduct yourself well then that's all you have to worry about. I have had a few comments that get my back up, but it's often not worth adding to the debate. I just try and keep it free of personal attacks and let it go. BUT in saying that I'd be happy to defend my POV if it came down to it. You have to remember anything you post here you should be prepared to shout from the roof tops - although it 'feels' private, it's not! I have generally found OB friendly (although sometimes a little hard to 'break into' - IYKWIM), I hope that this experience won't put you off. I've made some good friends here. ------------- http://www.alterna-tickers.com"> 
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Posted By: Hopes
Date Posted: 30 July 2009 at 11:06am
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I know what you mean about 'breaking into' OB, surfergirl. When I joined the planning pregnacy threads, it seemed like everyone knew everyone, and I didn't quite 'fit', as it were. Now that I've been round those threads forever (dammit!) even though I sometimes don't post much, it's much easier. I think it's just a matter of jumping in there and posting. -------------
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Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 30 July 2009 at 11:13am
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dont forget too that there is no tone of voice to judge a comment on... its very hard to get a feel from just a typed word. i have heard of some very nasty boards out there and when you get a bunch of woman together there are bound to be differences of opinion. ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker"> 
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Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 30 July 2009 at 11:34am
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heidi i just read the comment that i am assuming upset you and must say that i dont think it was meant as personal. You have to remember that not everyone reads all the threads and she certainly may not have been aware that you posted a thread about what to do with no hubby - i know i didnt! ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker">
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Posted By: BuzzyBee
Date Posted: 30 July 2009 at 11:43am
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I totally agree with Bizzy above, i just had a read back and I very much doubt she has read your recent posts about your DH living his cricket dream (congrats to him by the way)!
Now I'm apparently the latest one to have 'attacked' someone, my comment was not directed at nor questioning her parenting abilities but my response to her post has been taken the wrong way 
Sometimes definitely doesn't pay to speak up on such topics, everything seems to get misconstrued online. Definitely don't take anything personally chick, I think it was a comment made in general, not directed at you 
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Posted By: mamanee
Date Posted: 30 July 2009 at 11:49am
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I'm not going to post anymore in that thread otherwise I'll get myself into trouble.
I even found a post in this thread towards the top highly offensive to someone else but then again maybe I have taken that the wrong way and only seen it through the pre-conceived ideas I have about the person who said it which are probably all wrong anwyay. Being a young solo mum is hard and in no way were you attacking her buzzybee. You are right though, in no way do we sit at home raking in the money for doing nothing! |
Posted By: Shezamumof3
Date Posted: 30 July 2009 at 12:00pm
lol Julia, you are LOVELY!!! and that attack was so uncalled for grr
Heidismum, like Julia said, take her comment with a grain of salt, I often keep my comments to myself if I think I might offend someone, cos Im scared of getting attacked Only a few times have I expressed my true feelings on something..and ended up feeling the same way you do now
I usually stay out of debates now lol ------------- |
Posted By: pepsi
Date Posted: 30 July 2009 at 12:06pm
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At the end of the day, we're a bunch of women..and come on..sometimes we can be bitchy, and heated discussions will happen.. but all in all it's a pretty friendly place to be in comparison to some other forums.
OT, but I also love that since facebook has come around, I can actually see and interact with people here more than ever! It just makes it easier to get to know someone's humour, the way they talk etc.. |
Posted By: kiwisj
Date Posted: 30 July 2009 at 12:17pm
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Heidismum. It's hard not to think people are meaning you sometimes but I'm sure she actually wasn't.
I think this is a pretty positive place for a forum MOST of the time. You should see some of the expat forums I've visited. They're always going back to the same stereotypes - bashing fat expat wives, bashing working mums, bashing mums who have a maid (or ones who don't) ... there's always something to argue about when there's such a wide range of people ------------- SJ Callum - Dec 2008 Daniel - Oct 2010 |
Posted By: Shezamumof3
Date Posted: 30 July 2009 at 12:28pm
Thats so true about Facebook ------------- |
Posted By: lilfatty
Date Posted: 30 July 2009 at 12:49pm
Yeah .. I expected you to look like an Elmo look alike...not the yummy mummy you are ------------- Mummy to Issy (3) and Elias (18 months) I did it .. 41 kgs gone! From flab to fab in under a year http://www.femininefitness.co.nz/category/blog - LFs weight blog
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Posted By: CuriousG
Date Posted: 30 July 2009 at 12:52pm
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I think you have to realise too that everyone has their own opinion and if you put yours out there then some aren't gonna like it. I learned not to get involved in the debates and the likes a while ago because they do sometimes seem personal but in saying that, I have only ever seen one time (recently) that someone really has taken the attack to the extreme that I thought was just nasty and in no way related to what the original topic was. Luckily the attacked person took it all in her stride - I think many backed her up because it was so uncalled for! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: jazzy
Date Posted: 30 July 2009 at 12:59pm
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Post edit done because I am fed up with the way that topic has gone. |
Posted By: james
Date Posted: 30 July 2009 at 2:57pm
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My post was not aimed at anyone personaly. It a on a subject very close to my heart and therefore emotions will come thur it wasnt aimed at you it was geneal comment ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: kellie
Date Posted: 30 July 2009 at 3:16pm
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Other parenting forums are much worse than Ohbaby!
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Posted By: jazzy
Date Posted: 30 July 2009 at 3:18pm
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_kellie_ glad I don't belong long to them, life is too short for that crap
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Posted By: lisa85
Date Posted: 30 July 2009 at 3:32pm
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I totally agree with the facebook thing. You see a whole other side to people. On here you only see their opinions on FB you see there lives and interactions with their family and friends so you can gage them as a person a whole lot better. I know I have a very sarcastic and possibly dark sense of humor that makes me bite my tounge on here at times simply because if I wrote it down people here that I don't really know could easily take it the wrong way however if I wrote it down and one of my close friends or family members read it they would probably laugh and think 'that's just Lisa!'
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Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 30 July 2009 at 4:02pm
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Hey!
Don't be put off. Sometimes people get a bit personal (or feel personally attacked) but always take it back to the issue at hand and try and deal with that. I would never personally attack anyone (and hope nothing I ever say will be taken that way... it's hard on a forum sometimes) so just model that sort of behaviour ya know? I didn't read the exact post but I think a way of avoiding getting caught up in threads that are full of drama is to create a new thread and maybe refer to your post or the issue at hand. It means that the emotion included in the other thread isn't carried over to a new discussion
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Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 30 July 2009 at 5:01pm
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I agree , don't be put off, I've been on here since my daughter was 3 (shes now 7) and I have seen only a few threads get nasty , and usually they get sorted out pretty quickly
(or Liz starts singing ...) When you have a bunch of women , all with different life experiences, opinions etc , things can get heated . For what its worth , I thought your response was very well articulated, I remember thinking that as I read it ...This really belongs on the other thread, but i'l put it here too - ive done the solo parent thing , and the having a husband thing , and I still feel helpless when my DH isn't there, just as helpless and lonely as I did on the dpb ....not that its a contest, we all know whether you are parenting with , or without someone , its the hardest job in the world, and I respect ANYONE , single or a couple that does it . Because it aint easy . oh , and I love Bizzy too
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Posted By: lilfatty
Date Posted: 30 July 2009 at 5:57pm
Awww back at you sister  ------------- Mummy to Issy (3) and Elias (18 months) I did it .. 41 kgs gone! From flab to fab in under a year http://www.femininefitness.co.nz/category/blog - LFs weight blog
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Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 30 July 2009 at 8:17pm
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A thread about politics was always going to get heated.
The thing I've always loved about OB is things can get heated but generally everyone is still 'friends' after they've had they're little spat. Its great to be able to come on here and have a discussion around different topics. It also helps to remember that not everyone has the same opinion as each other, and if you post something controversial expect to get both sides of the argument. OB is a great forum you want to see real NASTY try TM. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">   [/url] Angel June 2012 |
Posted By: BeLoved
Date Posted: 30 July 2009 at 8:39pm
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Well its good to know that is not the general norm for in here, as I don't know what I would do without this forum somedays.
Thanks everyone! Oh I so know what you mean about knowing more about a person from their FB heres my profile link http://www.facebook.com/aimeefleur?ref=profile - Aimee's FB if anyone wants to add me, sure would be nice to know a few more people with kids on there. ------------- http://alterna-tickers.com">
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Posted By: emz
Date Posted: 30 July 2009 at 10:23pm
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Hey chick, I've just caught up on all the happenings in the PB thread. I've stopped myself posting in threads that turn out to be controversial because sometimes it can be very much a 'them' vs 'us' thing (even if you don't know if you're 'them' or 'us' lol). I actually blocked OB on my comp for a while as I was sick of the mood around here from a few people, but it seems to have become a lot better.
Threads like that will always be controversial, but I can see how you could feel attacked by the comments about how to cope while your partner was away. It had nothing to do with the topic and it was made to seem like a pathetic issue whereas solo mums have it SO much harder than everyone else. Anyway, sometimes it's better just to back off until those people have calmed down, because it's usually the same ones that won't give up and it's just not worth it if you're trying to get a point across or feel like you need to defend yourself, when you shouldn't have to
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Posted By: BeLoved
Date Posted: 30 July 2009 at 10:25pm
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Yup Emz that is exactly how I felt! ------------- http://alterna-tickers.com">
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Posted By: lisa85
Date Posted: 30 July 2009 at 10:33pm
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I've just added you on FB chic -------------
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Posted By: kiwisj
Date Posted: 30 July 2009 at 11:19pm
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Me too ------------- SJ Callum - Dec 2008 Daniel - Oct 2010 |
Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 30 July 2009 at 11:56pm
I shall add you too ! Yay for more FB friends !!!  -------------
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Posted By: Shezamumof3
Date Posted: 30 July 2009 at 11:59pm
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Kelly go on facebook chat lol!! Im bored! ------------- |
Posted By: lilfatty
Date Posted: 31 July 2009 at 6:56am
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Ive added you too. ------------- Mummy to Issy (3) and Elias (18 months) I did it .. 41 kgs gone! From flab to fab in under a year http://www.femininefitness.co.nz/category/blog - LFs weight blog
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Posted By: james
Date Posted: 31 July 2009 at 8:53am
oh come on the comment was not aimed at you  now you are all doing exectly what u said i was doing it was one comment i didnt put her name in it and am feeling personaly attack by this . there were plenty of personal attacks on solo mothers on that thread and as i am one it was personal.------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: lisa85
Date Posted: 31 July 2009 at 9:34am
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Personally James it sounds like it's all gotten a little out of hand. I don't think that thread was ever intended to be a personal attack on anyone and unfortunately a few indirect comments by people were taken personally and the battle lines were drawn. Maybe it's time for everyone to just stay out of that thread and move on. If it can't be a civil debate theres no point in discussing it. Really it would be nice to see everyone being civil adults again.
Right now I'm off to hide and hope I haven't actually just added fuel to the fire lol. Peace people -------------
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Posted By: james
Date Posted: 31 July 2009 at 9:47am
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no you are right Lisa85 i,m going to back off now you can only say it wasnt meet for her so much i quess the mob mentally kicked in here which is sad ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: lisa85
Date Posted: 31 July 2009 at 9:50am
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Sorry dude I don't want to sound like I'm having a go either. I just think it's all gotten out of hand and feelings seem to be getting hurt Including yours so even though I used your name that was really directed at everyone. I don't think anyone is really on the right side of this battle. Not when people are feeling picked on.
EVERYONE stay out of the Paula thread!! lol -------------
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Posted By: james
Date Posted: 31 July 2009 at 9:57am
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its ok i,m a big girl and have faced bullys before (not that you are a bully) i,m a bit to subton for my own good sometimes am sure i will survive(i have had worse) ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: lisa85
Date Posted: 31 July 2009 at 10:04am
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It's that maternal instinct getting everyones backs up lol -------------
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Posted By: james
Date Posted: 31 July 2009 at 10:05am
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That is ture in real life i,m relly lovey lol once you get to know me lol ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: flakesitchyfeet
Date Posted: 31 July 2009 at 10:19am
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Heidi's Mum I added you :) -------------  http://lilypie.com"> |
Posted By: mamanee
Date Posted: 31 July 2009 at 10:21am
| I was going to add yesterday but was trying to keep out of these threads but James I have always thought you were a really lovely person and I haven't met you in person. You are always supportive and friendly and I think that thread just hit a little too close to home for some of us (me included) as the difference of opinion was huge! Thankfully we can all move on and accept our differences and continue to be a happy place! |
Posted By: BuzzyBee
Date Posted: 31 July 2009 at 2:47pm
Well said, I wholeheartedly agree too. Forgive and forget and all the rest, I'm sure we all have bigger fish to fry IRL! |
Posted By: Bombshell
Date Posted: 31 July 2009 at 3:21pm
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if it goes over 3 pages in general - stay away!!!! LOL!
Love Bizzy too....she knows that and her and I have had it out....but we could care less end of day! there are cliques on here...and some people get pissier than others...some get over...some dont! Some of us are mature adults and some are not...its words online....if you dont like the person you dont need to ever see them IRL....BTW Bizzy u must owe me a coffee one day soon! Jez - LOL what a suprise that you love facebook...and I thught I was addicted!!!! LOL OK this is now 3 pages so I am done with this thread....had my 2 cents at page 2 or 3 of theother one so not going back in there either!!!
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Posted By: Bombshell
Date Posted: 31 July 2009 at 3:21pm
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aw crap see - i just made it 4 pages....!
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Posted By: Bobbie
Date Posted: 31 July 2009 at 4:58pm
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haha I was just coming on here to see why it had gone to 4 pages -------------
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Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 31 July 2009 at 5:19pm
Ditto ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> [/url] Angel June 2012 |
Posted By: Candkids
Date Posted: 31 July 2009 at 8:27pm
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LOL i was staying away as it had got to 3 pages but thort id better check it out seems it went to 4 LOL
this is the most positive forum ive been on but every so often things get a bit heated, ive had a few run ins on here but they dont last long :) its great ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  DD 10.5yrs DS 6yrs DS 11mths 5 little angles watching from above |
Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 01 August 2009 at 10:23am
See that's what I've always liked about OB is that you can have a difference of opinion and discuss controversial subjects while still remaining friendly. Compared to some other forums, OB is remarkably adult. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> [/url] Angel June 2012 |
Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 01 August 2009 at 11:05am
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I STILL smart over comments made to me on the little treasures site.
Me: can't believe i'm pregnant again so soon after having jake (it was five months) someone: I can't believe someone would be so stupid to get pregnant when they clearly aren't fit. Me: I didn't even know i was pregnant until i was four months (never got a period between the boys) someone else: you are stupid not to know. it's pretty basic. I was soo annoyed and hurt. The OB ladies may have thought similar things, but at least they didn't say it and kick me when i was down. |
Posted By: jaycee
Date Posted: 01 August 2009 at 11:28am
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ouch - that i just plain rude Lizzle .
It took me quite a few months to pluck up the courage to post here and I am so not brave enough for Treasures or TM (and their boards are no where near as pretty as OB )-------------   
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Posted By: Hopes
Date Posted: 01 August 2009 at 11:45am
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Oh, Lizzle! That's so sad! What a jerk. -------------
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Posted By: flakesitchyfeet
Date Posted: 01 August 2009 at 1:38pm
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Lizzle that is so rude!
Treasures and TM scare me to. This is a nice well balanced place to be :) I used to stick to the Nov 08 thread, but it took me a while to get my head around becoming a full time wife & mum, where as now I find it awesome having so many positive people around in similar situations ------------- http://lilypie.com"> |
Posted By: my4beauties
Date Posted: 01 August 2009 at 1:58pm
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I think the moderators on this site are great too in helping this site stay healthy and postive. Anything that gets too out of hand gets closed or deleted. Then everyone moves on. It doesn't get to that very often, but there have been some cases. I assume a lot of other sites just let nasty threads run and it gets out of hand.
I tend to stay out of heated threads if I can help it. ------------- My babies: R (9),G (7), J (5) http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 01 August 2009 at 9:58pm
*snort* I guess that's coz for some of us it would be very much the pot calling the kettle black ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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Posted By: Candkids
Date Posted: 02 August 2009 at 10:56am
i had the exact same thing happen on that site too!! when i was PG with sarah i was about 17wks when i found out and that was pretty much the same response i got too, it totally put me off parenting sites but then i found ohbaby ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> DD 10.5yrs DS 6yrs DS 11mths 5 little angles watching from above |
Posted By: Candkids
Date Posted: 02 August 2009 at 10:57am
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ahhhh doubble post ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> DD 10.5yrs DS 6yrs DS 11mths 5 little angles watching from above |
Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 02 August 2009 at 12:06pm
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whys everybody picking one me!? ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker">
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Posted By: Bobbie
Date Posted: 02 August 2009 at 12:34pm
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Bizzy.
I lurked in the Treasures site for a while to see what it was like but it was full of people like that and honestly some of them came across as not having two brain cells to knock together. -------------
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Posted By: pepsi
Date Posted: 02 August 2009 at 3:44pm
| LOL Bizzy! |