Baby sleep in your room?
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Topic: Baby sleep in your room?
Posted By: myonlineself
Subject: Baby sleep in your room?
Date Posted: 01 August 2009 at 6:51pm
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Hi there,
Just wondering about whether to plan for baby to initially sleep in our room or to sleep in her own room (next to our room)? What have ppl done with their babies, and/or planning to do with subsequent babies? Wondering about the pros and cons of each. Thanks everyone ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Guests
Date Posted: 01 August 2009 at 6:58pm
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Hi
We had dd in our room for 7 mnths, I was bf'ing and was easier just to have her close by. She was in a bassinet first then we put cot up. We plan to do the same with this one. I know a few people who put bubs in own room straight away, and some who couldn't sleep cause bubs made so much noise. you could try it first and if its not for you just move bubs |
Posted By: MrsH
Date Posted: 01 August 2009 at 7:10pm
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We have bubs in our room at present (He's 8 weeks old). Here are mine:
Pros: - Only have to keep one room heated at night - Can feed in bed - I think bubs feels more secure/safe being close to Mum/Dad - Easy to get up and settle if he becomes unsettled Cons: - You can hear every little snort and snuffle so even though he might not be awake, you now are - DH can wake up for those middle of the night feeds and if he's got work, will not be a happy camper (he may sleep on couch to get a decent nights sleep - good luck getting it on the couch - leaving you to feel abandoned) - Cabin fever. You might feel like you've been stuck in the same room for weeks and weeks ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: cuppatea
Date Posted: 01 August 2009 at 7:19pm
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We had Spencer in with us until 4 months, he then out grew his bassinet, and Kyle has just moved out this week at 6.5 months (managed to squeeze his cot in with us as his room wasn't ready but the room has been quite cramped cos of it).
I found I learnt to sleep through all the non food related noises so they didn't wake me unless they were hungry and DH learnt to sleep through everything, he has no idea how many times I get up a night. I don't think it's much different to having a baby monitor next to you really, actually I find that more annoying as ours has interference on it all the time. I liked having them close especially when they are very little, i didn't feed in our room as I spray milk everywhere so have always gone out to the lounge to feed but lots of women feed in bed which would be handy. I think it is also recommended to have them in with you as it helps prevent SIDS and apparently they are suppose to sleep better, nobody told Kyle that though  ------------- 
 
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Posted By: WestiesGirl
Date Posted: 01 August 2009 at 7:39pm
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At this stage we plan to have bubs in the cot in his own room from day one. We dont have a bassinett and dont plan on getting one. We do have a hammock just incase which at the moment is downstairs but will move to our room if we need to. ------------- Our Angel July 08  Gone but not forgotten
And to complete our family, our princess has arrived 
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Posted By: minik8e
Date Posted: 01 August 2009 at 7:44pm
| Our girls will be in their own room from day one - they will be in bassinets but two of them just won't fit in our room, and also it means that at least one of us will get a decent night sleep. |
Posted By: Mum2ET
Date Posted: 01 August 2009 at 7:59pm
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Ella was in our room during the night for the first 3 months- it was so much easier feeding her at night, with her bassinent just close by and I meant I could go to her and just bring her into bed for a feed. Also because it was the middle of winter I didn't have to go into the cold hallway (although I hated having to sleep in a really warm room) to get her. It was meant I slept much more soundly as I could her breathing beside me. During the day she either slept in the living room or in her room.
Planning on doing the same thing with this bub. ------------- Mum to Ella (5) and Tom (2) |
Posted By: kebakat
Date Posted: 01 August 2009 at 8:15pm
| Daniel was in his room from day 1, it meant we got a better nights sleep, it was only next door and I had a 2nd hand lazy boy in there for feeding and it was comfy.I found feeding in bed more uncomfy than feeding in the lazyboy |
Posted By: emz
Date Posted: 01 August 2009 at 8:30pm
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we had Jack with us (or in the hallway outside the bedroom door if he was too loud!) for the first 6 weeks.
It drove me nuts! They are so loud and snuffly, you hear every little breath, fart etc. It does give you peace of mind though. At this stage we'll have #2 in our room but we'll just see how we go with heating etc. It uses a lot more wood to heat our room as well (we never heat our room to the same degree as the rest of the house) so if that's going to be an issue, she will be in the lounge which is about a 3-4 metre walk from my bedroom. |
Posted By: lilfatty
Date Posted: 01 August 2009 at 9:14pm
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Issy was in with us for the first six months.
Elias will be in with us until he outgrows his bassinette as we cant fit a cot into our room in this house. You get used to the noise (well I did) .. I only wake for I want food now screams  (oh and DH sleeps through me kicking him 10 times to get up and change a baby .. so he doesnt hear any newborn snuffles lol)------------- Mummy to Issy (3) and Elias (18 months) I did it .. 41 kgs gone! From flab to fab in under a year  http://www.femininefitness.co.nz/category/blog - LFs weight blog
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Posted By: mummyofprinces
Date Posted: 01 August 2009 at 9:31pm
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We had Jake in his bassinet until he was 3 months.
DH learnt to sleep through and still has no idea how many times I get up to Jake at night. I was so nervous moving him into his room but I just couldnt get a good nights sleep and tbh I think my snoring was waking him 
I loved being able to just pull him into bed with me and would often wake up an hour or 2 after getting him with him asleep still sucking away LOL. He is too big for that now, he wants to have a chat while he eats no matter what time of the day it is. -------------   
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Posted By: angel4
Date Posted: 01 August 2009 at 9:52pm
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henry was in our room for the first 6months. He was still feeding at night and i would feed him in bed. I also slept better with him in the room because i could hear him breathing. I would just try it for a week and if you hate it then it isnt that big a deal to move them out.
We will have this bubs in our room too probably for the first 6months i think (though we will just play it by ear). Dh has never woken up with henry crying as a newborn. The interesting thing is now that he is almost a year old DH will sometimes wake before me if henry is awake for no reason - i generally only wake if there is something wrong (mothers instinct). |
Posted By: Shezamumof3
Date Posted: 01 August 2009 at 10:00pm
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Caden was in our room for about 6 months, then went into his own room.
This baby will be in our room for as long as possible, then will go into her cot in hers and Cadens room. ------------- |
Posted By: Roses are Red
Date Posted: 01 August 2009 at 10:56pm
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I had Melissa in the room with me for the first 4 months, she was a good sleeper.
With Cameron he was in his own room in a cot at 3 weeks because if he heard me move at night he would cry for a feed, he slept better in his own room. Oh and he kept rolling over and getting caught down the side of the bassinet mattress so had to go into his cot and I couldn't be bothered taking it down to move it into our room  ------------- 
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Posted By: NovemberMum
Date Posted: 02 August 2009 at 12:38am
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we had Megan in her basinnet in our room for about um 3 nights we just found she was too noisy and we didnt get much sleep.
we put her into her own room after that. we will see how her brother goes sleeping in our room but if he is anything like this sister he will be going into his own room. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: SquishysMum
Date Posted: 02 August 2009 at 8:43am
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Lydia was in a bassinet in our room for 2 weeks - then she caught her first cold. She got so noisy, I kept thinking she was awake/hungry, would get her up to feed, and she wasn't hungry at all! We weren't getting any sleep, so she was banished to her own room across the hall. I leave the doors open, both to help keep the rooms warm (heater's in the hall), and so I can hear her when she calls. What I can't hear is all the snuffling, farting, moaning, chattering..... bliss!
Next one... probably in our room to start, we'll see how long it lasts. Might only be 2 weeks again! Oh, and we have a single bed in Lydia's room as well as the cot, so I set it up for feeding in at night (keep it clear, electric blanket on low, extra shawl close by for my shoulders). |
Posted By: mamanee
Date Posted: 02 August 2009 at 8:48am
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Yep, three weeks and that was it, he was in his own room, and before that I think he was just outside in the lounge in his basinette as he was too noisy, and at three weeks he was too big for the basinette and kept bashing his arms against the side and kicking the end of it!
This one (if he takes after his father) will be too long for the hospital crib thingy and over 10-11lbs so unlikely to be in a basinette at all! |
Posted By: Febgirl
Date Posted: 02 August 2009 at 11:40am
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DD was in her pram bassinet parked next to our bed for about 3 - 4 weeks then into her own room, which meant we all slept better. We had an angelcare monitor in her cot for piece of mind, highly recommend them.
Think this bubs will go straight into her room from day 1. ------------- Two little girls under 2! 
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Posted By: _Deb_
Date Posted: 02 August 2009 at 11:56am
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Kaelen slept in our room for the first 6 months. I would have kept him in there till one but us being in the room started to disturb his sleep. He ended up in our bed a lot till around 10 months anyway. lol.
We'll be doing the same with this baby. She'll be in our room for as long as she isn't disturbed by us being in the room. ------------- 
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Posted By: HoneybunsMa
Date Posted: 02 August 2009 at 2:35pm
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We only have one bedroom so DD is set up in the lounge although she spends alot more time in our bed then she does in her own bassinet. When it comes to the early morning I find it alot easier to have her in our bed it means that if she just wants a cuddle or a change I can do it quickly and go back to bed. ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker"> 
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Posted By: Katep
Date Posted: 02 August 2009 at 2:50pm
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we have DD in the room that we are in. If we are in the lounge during the day...she's in the lounge, if we are in the bedroom...she's in the bedroom. I can't handle being away from her. It's ar too scary for me at the moment...hopefully it's a habit that I may break after time. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Aithne
Date Posted: 02 August 2009 at 6:13pm
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Rory is still in his bassinet in my room. He is a quiet sleeper and doesnt wake unless i make a loudish noise and there is nobody else to worry about being woken.
Soon Rory will be out of his bassinet and i still havent made my mind up if im putting him in his own room. I feel more comfortable knowing he is near me. I also get interference on my monitor so that would probably be a lot more noisier then him. During the day he sleeps in the living room. I agree with the other ladies, maybe have bubs in your room for the first week to see how it goes. If it works, great and if not he can just be moved later into his own room. |
Posted By: Aithne
Date Posted: 02 August 2009 at 6:15pm
That habit still hasnt broken for me. I HATE leaving Rory alone. All sorts of things go running through my head when i cant easily check on him. |
Katep wrote:Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 03 August 2009 at 1:13pm
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I haven't read all the responses, but Tyler is in our room ,hes still waking frequently at night and buggered if Im gonna hop out of my nice warm bed, to go into another room .
When he has his day time naps however, he is in his bassinette, I just have the baby monitor with me , and check on him every so often . ------------- 
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Posted By: RinTinTin
Date Posted: 03 August 2009 at 1:26pm
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I plan to have Boysie sleeping in my room with me to start off with and I'll see how I go. I might make too much noise or he might make too much noise and we keep each other awake. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: kiwisj
Date Posted: 03 August 2009 at 1:41pm
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Callum was in with us for the first 8 weeks or so. DH stuck it out for the first couple of weeks we had him home but he is such a light sleeper and never learned to sleep through so he would help with feeds until about 2am and then he would go sleep in the spare room. We had to moved C into his own room around 8 weeks when my Mum came to stay because we needed the spare room for her and DH said he would sleep on the couch if I still wanted C in the bedroom next to me I have to say both C and I slept better once we were right next to each other.. but I am glad he was in with me at the beginning he was so teeny and I was always reaching out to put a hand on his chest to make sure it was going up and down ------------- SJ Callum - Dec 2008 Daniel - Oct 2010 |
Posted By: HuntersMama
Date Posted: 03 August 2009 at 5:52pm
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The plan is to have baby in their own room from day 1. Feedback from friends and family is they got a way better sleep that way. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 03 August 2009 at 6:17pm
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I was planning on doing that too ,but I think it depends on many factors, how cold it is at night etc, how far away the bedroom is.
Plus , when its your first, you don't realise how protective you feel of them when they are here . You don't necessarily get a good nights sleep when they are in their own room (my daughter was in her own room early on ) and I got less sleep because I was more worried about her . -------------
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Posted By: flakesitchyfeet
Date Posted: 03 August 2009 at 7:17pm
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Hollie was in with us for the first 7 months, because I am a naturally anxious person, and the only way I could rest soundly was to have her close.
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Posted By: kiwisj
Date Posted: 03 August 2009 at 11:16pm
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PS we also planned to have C in his own room from the beginning - and straight into the cot too - but we didn't have a cot when he was born and once we got him home there was no way I was letting him out of my sight for the first wee while! ------------- SJ Callum - Dec 2008 Daniel - Oct 2010 |
Posted By: Rachael21
Date Posted: 04 August 2009 at 9:57pm
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I'm a lazy person so had both of mine in a bassinet right next to my bed. My feet didn't even touch the floor during night feeds it was great.
Jack must of moved out about 4 months, I'm guessing to go into his cot but i can't really remember
Caprece moved into her room at 6 months because she was such a terrible sleeper and I needed to try something different lol |
Posted By: kriss
Date Posted: 05 August 2009 at 9:39am
My DD is still in our room with us  ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: palomino
Date Posted: 05 August 2009 at 9:54am
| B was with us (sometimes in bassinette, sometimes in our bed) up till 7months. Hes now in his cot, in his room and sleeping through the night. |
Posted By: freckle
Date Posted: 05 August 2009 at 10:22am
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I loved my girls sleeping next to me supposedly in their basinette and then their cot, but usually in our bed... My oldest ended up staying in my room until 2-3ish - years that is lol (she had her own room then but usually slept in my bed) ... my youngest finally moved out about 14-15 months.... I love being able to hear them sleeping and know they're okay... plus I think cuddling up together is great for bonding... and like rachandjack said I was just too lazy to wanna get out of bed in the night. ------------- mum to 3 lovely girls :D |
Posted By: Tastic
Date Posted: 05 August 2009 at 11:13am
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Bailey slept in his own room from the get go, but had really bad reflux and after spending a few times in hospital spent most of the time attached to me lol
Aidan was a different story, with him being so prem he was in our room and in a bassinet for just over a year! he only actually went to his own room last year when we moved! |
Posted By: sassysas
Date Posted: 07 August 2009 at 10:04am
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We will be having baby sleep in our room, got the cot set up next to my side of the be and have put a carrycot in the cot for the first couple of months, then will put baby straight into big cot. when carrycot gets to snug.
Just think it will make it easier with the feeding and changing of nappies in the middle of the night... Plus the WHO suggest it as it supposedly helps prevent cot-death. ------------- Due 11 Aug with first baby |
Posted By: MyLilSquishy
Date Posted: 07 August 2009 at 12:07pm
| We will have the baby in our room at least for the first 6months or so. I live in Dunedin so its too cold to go traipsing the hallway in the middle of the night, although I seem to be doing that anyway with my midnight toilet stops! And if I can sleep through the boys snoring, I should hopefully be able to sleep through all the little noises lol! |
Posted By: myfullhouse
Date Posted: 07 August 2009 at 12:35pm
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Jack was in our room at night until 5mths when he got too big for the bassinette, he slept in the lounge during the day.
Ben is in our room and will be until he gets too big for the bassinette (5mrhs maybe?), he slepts in the lounge during the day. With it being winter I have less rooms to heat and I can hear him (or keep an eye on him during the day) which makes me feel more reassured that he is OK. BF in bed at night is good as it is comfy, can lie down if I want and I think I wake up less than if I have to go into another room (did for a while with Jack). DH sleeps through night feeds or wakes briefly and goes back to sleep; even though he is asleep it isn't as lonely with him there ------------- Lindsey 
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