39 & 1st time TTC. Is it too late?
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Topic: 39 & 1st time TTC. Is it too late?
Posted By: Wannabe
Subject: 39 & 1st time TTC. Is it too late?
Date Posted: 05 August 2009 at 9:07pm
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My husband who is 35 & I just got married on 1st July & have been TTC since.
I was on the pill for 23 years (with only a few months off every 5 yrs or so). I stopped taking the pill 14 months ago (and did the withdrawal method) in preparation for this moment. We have just brought a ovulation microscope / OM last week to help work out my fertile days as my cycle changes between 28 & 31 days or more. I lost 16 kgs prior to the wedding ( to be a size 10) & my periods have become so light & only for 2 days then its all over. I have since gained 4 kgs just in case but there has been no change. Have I left my run too late? Should we start looking into IVF as public funding for me runs out when I turn 40 in December? Help - all advice greatly received! Jacqui-May |
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Posted By: Hopes
Date Posted: 06 August 2009 at 6:59am
Hi Jacqui-May 
It's harder to have kids the older you get; when you're in your early 20s, there's roughly a 25% chance per cycle, which lowers to under 10% when you're over 35. That said, I know ladies who concieved naturally in their early 40s, so it obviously can happen! I'm not an expert in this area, but I doubt you'd qualify for publicly-funded IVF anyway, because you've only been trying since July. You have to have a certain number of points to get on the waiting list, and although the older you are, the more points you get, I think you'd have needed to be trying longer to get enough (anyone who knows more, feel free to correct me here). At the same time, maybe it's worth a trip to the Dr to get checked over? The might not refer you to a fertility clinic until you've been trying a couple more months, but it would still be worth doing. Best of luck! -------------   
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Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 06 August 2009 at 9:27am
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No its not too late, but I would have a chat to your gp and get everything checked out, as you don't have time to wait.
For over 35's if you havn't conceived in 6 months then talk to fertility associates. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">   [/url] Angel June 2012 |
Posted By: Tanners
Date Posted: 06 August 2009 at 10:07am
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Hi Jacqui May
My long term partner and I are/were in the same situation. I am 39 and he is 34. We have been TTC for 6months. With my 40th birthday just around the corner we decided to see a fertility specialist to see if we actually could have kids. I've never been pregnant, never tried before, so we thought we would put the guesswork behind us. We went to fertility associates in Wellington and they did a few bloodtests throughout my cycle and a sperm analysis on my partner. I would highly recommend it, as they can tell you what your egg/ovarian reserve levels are, and your partners sperm count, they can pretty much tell you your chances of conceiving naturally or if you need a little help or if something is not quite right what options are available to you. As for public funding... unfortunately they told us you have to be TTC for 5 YEARS!!! and under 40yrs old to be eligible! We paid for our tests and consultation which came to around $400. Hope this helps. Tanners |
Posted By: jazzy
Date Posted: 06 August 2009 at 11:14am
| JacquiMay, I would get some blood tests done at the dr's just for piece of mind. I know of several women who have gotten pg in there 40s so don't lose hope. Good luck [;)] |
Posted By: Shezzey
Date Posted: 06 August 2009 at 11:39am
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Hi JacquiMay and welcome At 38, after 2 years of testing and a slack GP, I made an appointment myself with a fertility specialist and managed to get public funded ivf at 40. Although I only got one chance (not two for those under 38). So if you want to go that route, I recommend that you start testing now to save time and after 6 months book your own appointment with a fertility specialist. Also in the meantime, you can chart ... its easy... you just need a thermometer and join "fertilityfriend.com" its free. Charting helps give you an idea of when you ovulate and how long your luteal phase is. You can join us at the "charting" thread and the "waiting to ovulate" and "the two week wait" threads. The girls are very helpful and supportive. |
Posted By: mizpix
Date Posted: 06 August 2009 at 1:34pm
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Hi JacquiMay
I cant be of much help to you, but just wanted to say I am in a very similar place to you. I am in my mid thirties and TTC my first. I worry all the time that I have left things too late, but have only recently met the person that I want to spend the rest of my life with, so there was no option before. I always thought that it was justa matter of stopping the pill and BAM I would get pregnant! Not that I have been trying for long, but I know the feeling that time is against you! All the best with TTC I hope things work out for you! ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/2920e5" rel="nofollow - My Ovulation Chart |
Posted By: sweetpea
Date Posted: 06 August 2009 at 2:54pm
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No its not too late but do go and see your GP and talk things over with them. They should be able to help. In regards to the time you bleed i wouldn't worry about that too much i Knew a lady once who only bled for 1/2 a day and she has 2 girls. As long as you have your af it doesn't matter how long its for.
I am in the oppsite situation as you i'm 31 and DH is 45 i do worry about this. ------------- http://daisypath.com"> 
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Posted By: T_Rex
Date Posted: 06 August 2009 at 4:37pm
Hi JacquiMay and welcome 
I'm a relatively young one on here, but I thought I'd share that my periods got progressively lighter the 9 years I was on the pill to the point where they lasted 2-3 days and I only needed a barely-there liner and I only bled when I was standing up! Before I went on the pill they'd last 4-5 days and were comparatively heavy. So I came off the pill rather nervously thinking it might take some time for things to come right. I was pregnant within 6 weeks of my last pill, so obviously the light periods weren't a problem for me so maybe don't worry about them too much. Regularity is more important I think. But I second the suggestion to get checked out at the doctors, just to see where you stand. Good luck! And congrats on the weight loss! ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Wannabe
Date Posted: 06 August 2009 at 5:13pm
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Wow - thanks so much for your kind words of wisdom ladies!
I feel much better after reading your posts - I spent a day trying to search for threads in the weekend about us 'older first time TTC'ers' but couldn't find anything so was feeling a little on my own. I will definitely make an appointment with a doctor up here (we have just moved so if anyone has a recommendation of a good TTC doctor that would be fantastic - I live in Hobsonville but don't mind the drive to the city if that's were the good Dr's are (and its a great excuse to go shopping). After that, an appointment at fertility associates might be on the agenda to see if we are good-to-go naturally or if we need some help. I didn't think we would qualify for funding - we have been having relatively unprotected sex for nearly 18 months so if I was really fertile it would have happened by now I'm guessing (although 6 of my friends have become pregnant or had babies since I've come off the pill - they are younger though). I'll also join fertilityfriend.com & start charting - thermometer on the shopping list as I type! Thanks again - its reassuring to know I'm not the only 'older TTC'er' out there! I wish you all the best & I'm sure I'll be reading some success stories from you all very soon! Blessings JM |
Posted By: jazzy
Date Posted: 06 August 2009 at 6:36pm
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JacquiMay, I am going to get some of these to use next cycle found them on TM, Listing#:234490909, I am also getting some opk, you might want to try them also, I had a microscope but could not get it to work all the time.
Check out charts & you will get an idea of what they look like. 
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Posted By: PixieL
Date Posted: 06 August 2009 at 9:52pm
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So the 5 year thing... who's to know you haven't been trying that long? I mean if it gets you extra help... ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Rashika
Date Posted: 10 August 2009 at 1:15pm
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NO! its definately not too late to start.
You sounds like a similar situation to me re being on the pill longterm, weight loss etc. I also changed jobs as I was in a stressful situation.
41 now, been pg twice and now have a wonderful wee 6 month old boy.
I would do all you are doing, I found the ovulation microscope to be very handy as well as temp taking & recording, get some tests done and any prep work you may need in case you do go the IVF route.
Then relax (yeah easy to say, hard to do) and do lots of BDing for a couple of months and see what happens. Being as positive as you can REALLY does help, your mental state can make a big difference.
...and good luck! A little bit of that is always good, just for getting the timing right at least. ------------- Jan 08 :angel: http://lilypie.com"> 
 
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