Missed Miscarriage who to contact?
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Topic: Missed Miscarriage who to contact?
Posted By: lemongirl
Subject: Missed Miscarriage who to contact?
Date Posted: 23 August 2009 at 7:50pm
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I put this in my due in thread but am hoping for an answer.. ASAP.
Short story: I'm in Australia but discovered some bleeding. Went to the hospital where they did the bloods and my HCG has dropped down to 900 (having been at 3000 after my first blood test) so I know that the fetus has died. I have a flight out tomorrow night but I'm not sure who I should contact back in NZ in the meantime as I'm not bleeding so not passing any pregnancy matter. Would midwife be best? |
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Posted By: Babe
Date Posted: 23 August 2009 at 7:56pm
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I'd contact midwife. She'll organise a scan to confirm whatever has happened.
I just wanted to send you a huge hug  -------------   
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Posted By: mrsturtle
Date Posted: 23 August 2009 at 8:25pm
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First of all. Hope your doing ok.
I would contact your midwife when you get back She/he will know where to go from here depending on how far along you were. |
Posted By: SquishysMum
Date Posted: 23 August 2009 at 8:30pm
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I'm so sorry for your loss, Lemongirl.
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Posted By: NewPhoenix
Date Posted: 23 August 2009 at 8:31pm
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Posted By: lemongirl
Date Posted: 23 August 2009 at 8:35pm
| Sorry should have added that I was at 13 weeks. It's a real bugger as my flight isn't until tomorrow night so won't get back until nearly midnight. |
Posted By: Mum_mum
Date Posted: 23 August 2009 at 8:39pm
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Just wanted to give you a massive HUG! I know that your journey to where you are wasnt an easy one (reading on previous posts)
Your midwife will know what to do, probably send you for a scan when you get back and go from there. In the meantime i hope you have some support over in OZ from family or friends! ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
 Angel baby - May 2008
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Posted By: SquishysMum
Date Posted: 23 August 2009 at 8:40pm
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Can you call your midwife from Oz? Maybe something can be booked in tomorrow, so that you can see someone the next day (after you've slept, of course!) Do you have her email address? It just seems you'd like to sort something out quickly.
What a horrible thing to happen, to get to 13 weeks... such a cruel rollercoaster you've been on for the last 3 months. 
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Posted By: Natalie_G
Date Posted: 23 August 2009 at 8:42pm
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Very sorry to hear of your loss. ------------- http://lilypie.com">  
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Posted By: Babe
Date Posted: 23 August 2009 at 8:53pm
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You may be able to have your flight changed for compassionate reasons?? -------------
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Posted By: ElfsMum
Date Posted: 23 August 2009 at 9:00pm
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very sorry to hear this..:( if you have mw i would call her ..
in my case happened about same time and mw referred me to hospital where i had my D and C:( *hugS* ------------- Mum to two amazing boys! |
Posted By: monkey33
Date Posted: 23 August 2009 at 9:48pm
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Really sorry to hear that lemongirl, hope you are okay and that you have someone with you for support ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: tropics
Date Posted: 24 August 2009 at 7:20am
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hugs hun so so sorry to hear about your loss
I had one too and my MW referred me to the hospital where I had my D and C operation, so I would contact your MW asap All the best hun xox ------------- http://lilypie.com">    [/url]
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 24 August 2009 at 7:44am
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Big hugs. I lost our baby in Australia and had a d and c there, i just went to the local hospital as I was bleeding really heavily and not due to go home for another week. -------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: lemongirl
Date Posted: 24 August 2009 at 9:42am
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Maya, I got offered the chance to have the D&C in Aus but really just want to be back home.
I already got my flight changed to the earliest possible time after a few tears to Qantas. |
Posted By: jazzy
Date Posted: 24 August 2009 at 12:15pm
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lemongirl, so sorry for your loss. I was 13 weeks when I had a m/c. I had no warning & was having a routine scan that showed no heart beat. I turned down a D&C as wanted to do it naturally. I had no idea of what to expect. I went into a labour state early the next morning & this went on for hours until all products were passed, Had I know what to expect I think I would of done the D&C. Then had to have a scan to make sure no products were retained.
I suggest you contact your MW, get a scan & talk your options, you don't want to be stuck on a plane if you start to full on m/c |
Posted By: Babe
Date Posted: 24 August 2009 at 12:36pm
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Yeah I was thinking that too Jazzy. I'd have gone with a D&C asap if I'd known what I was going to go through!!
How're you holding up hun?? (Lemongirl) -------------
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Posted By: becky
Date Posted: 24 August 2009 at 3:24pm
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Sorry to hear about your loss lemongirl lots of to you ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Snappy
Date Posted: 24 August 2009 at 5:11pm
So sorry for your loss lemongirl 
I am with the others - I had a miscarriage at 13 weeks, had a bit of bleeding then a scan which showed there was no heartbeat. I went for my D&C but after waiting a whole day and being treated like poo at the hospital I decided to go home. I spent almost two days in labour, it was quite painful and really sad - I also suffered from a very nasty infection a while later. Hugs. |
Posted By: luvmylittlies
Date Posted: 24 August 2009 at 6:04pm
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Stef - So sorry. Your loss has left me weeping as well. Just quickly - my midwife referred me to the EPAU (Early Pregnancy Assessment Unit) at Greenlane Hospital for my miscarriage and essential termination. I think you can even refer yourself. You possibly already know this by now.
I just wanted also to add that a D&C is not actually that ghastly an experience. I've had 3. I had the best sleep I'd had for ages under anaesthetic (dreams and everything) and you wake up with no pain. They said I may have some cramping but I didn't have anything. Personally having first tried to just sit it out and miscarry "naturally" I would definately recommend the D&C. It's just fast and all over. The bad part though was waiting around and having to go through the horrible story with every damn nurse and doctor and the hideous food they serve you at Auckland Hospital. Good luck. ------------- Adoring Mum to Talisin 8/9/11 and Kiara 18/01/10 |
Posted By: ElfsMum
Date Posted: 24 August 2009 at 6:07pm
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i think it;s totally a personal experience..some people prefer to wait ... but my DandC and hospital stay was fine the staff were brilliant. (though i did have to wait 5 days) ------------- Mum to two amazing boys! |
Posted By: lemongirl
Date Posted: 24 August 2009 at 6:56pm
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Hi all,
Thanks for your messages of support. I'm currently at melbourne airport waiting for my flight. I contacted my midwife who told me to go get a scan and doctor's advice before travelling. As weird luck would have it, my friend who I was staying with put out her back so we both trotted down to the ED together. I felt horrible as I was laughing out our collective misfortune. That wasn't my only 'haha' moment, my nurse was an Israeli who said, 'oh you from New Zealand? I hear they have very good weed' which was such a bizzare comment that it kept me smirking for the rest of my visit. Which I think freaked out the rest of the medical team who were suprised how calm I was. Scan confirmed a loss at 8 weeks. The doctor's weren't entirely happy to let me go (I had to sign my life away) but I am still not bleeding heavily and to be honest I just want to be home. In the meantime the midwife has been in touch with a local ob and organized everything that needs to be organized for sometime tomorrow. Thanks for everything. It's weird I should feel that my heart is broken into a thousand pieces of a baby I wasn't entirely happy about conceiving. The only solace I take is at least I have no trouble with the getting pregnant part of the procreation process. Someday ,hopefully not long from now, I'll be holding a new child in my arms and the pieces of my heart will be put back together again. Except for that one piece that will be reserved for what might have been. |
Posted By: WestiesGirl
Date Posted: 24 August 2009 at 11:33pm
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Sorry for your loss hun. I had a D&N as well and although the experience itself was terrible the hospital staff and care was great. But I guess it depends on where you have it and who cares for you.
My thoughts are with you ------------- Our Angel July 08 Gone but not forgotten
And to complete our family, our princess has arrived 
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Posted By: Tastic
Date Posted: 25 August 2009 at 9:53pm
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been thinking of you today hun
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Posted By: Babe
Date Posted: 26 August 2009 at 9:19am
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How you doing Lemongirl? Hope you have someone looking after you hun x -------------
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Posted By: Muz
Date Posted: 26 August 2009 at 9:44am
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Hope you are doing OK ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: lemongirl
Date Posted: 26 August 2009 at 2:55pm
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The D&C is scheduled for tomorrow. I feels so lucky to have DP who was waiting with roses and big hugs at the airport and had cleaned up the house before I came home.
But life keeps going. We have our home assessment for the child custody DP next Friday so I need to pull myself together quite quickly for that. |
Posted By: Daizy
Date Posted: 26 August 2009 at 3:16pm
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Aww, how sweet of him. Glad you made it home okay and wishing you all the best for tomorrow ------------- 
 
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