where is the joy in parenting?
Printed From: OHbaby!
Category: Have A Baby?
Forum Name: First baby? Second or more?
Forum Description: Want help? Need support? Want tips? Men and women share advice and tips in this supportive community
URL: https://www.ohbaby.co.nz/forum/forum_posts.asp?TID=2849
Printed Date: 08 October 2025 at 8:14pm
Software Version: Web Wiz Forums 12.05 - http://www.webwizforums.com
Topic: where is the joy in parenting?
Posted By: Bizzy
Subject: where is the joy in parenting?
Date Posted: 14 June 2006 at 6:58pm
|
i cant find it -
is it in the screaming when they are hungry or you are trying to change a nappy or dress them. is it in the tanties they throw all day is it in the lack of privacy and the fact everything you own gets broken or the scum all over the house from dirty handprints or the fact you dont have your body to yourself, somebody has to always be touching or grabbing at you or maybe its the screaming when you sing to them or take them out somewhere nice or do you find the joy when you cook them dinner and they throw it at you or the floor. where is it ... cause i cant find it and i really dont wont to be a mum any more....  ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker"> 
|
Replies:
Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 14 June 2006 at 7:05pm
|
Deb. I can hear you! My boys woke up at 5 and decided that both of them would only be happy when I was holding them...both....and walking around..while getting ready to go to school.
But - it's when they decide that your dressing gown makes a cool fort and deicde to camp out under it as you stand to make a coffee - it's when they find a chocolate biscuit, melt it everywhere and give you chocolate kisses. - it's when they learna new thing and keep saying it over and over - even if it IS "no, mine!" - it's when they hop into your bed and snuggle. - it's when they pull your shirt up and blow raspberries on your stomach - it's when they do cute things for each other and give kisses. - I've run out! Next person, add your moments! |
Posted By: meow
Date Posted: 14 June 2006 at 7:20pm
I could add all my bad ones after a full on day like today.. but I won't 
*It's when you hear them say "thank you" or "please" or watch them play nicely with other children and realise that YOU influenced them to be that way 
*It's when you throw them into the air and spin around and listen to them shriek with laughter. Just had to add a another of my own.. yesterday we were walking up the street when Ella came across a cat and said "oh I love you cat" and blew it a kiss! That has got to be the sweetest thing I've ever seen her do/say! Cheer up, my grandma says that when you see them asleep you can forgive them anything  It's true ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
http://lilypie.com"> 
|
Posted By: newmum
Date Posted: 14 June 2006 at 8:50pm
 Hugs from me honey! I so know where you are coming from. Tomorrow is a new day!  ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
http://lilypie.com"> 
|
Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 14 June 2006 at 8:57pm
|
Its in the joy u get when they say mummy.... i love u
and when u see them laughing with the carefree laughter that only children have. When they fall over and the only person amazing enough to make the hurt go away is YOU and if that all fails, do what i do -remember ur boys might be parents too one day-and u can watch them suffer meh! 
|
Posted By: fattartsrock
Date Posted: 14 June 2006 at 10:20pm
|
Big hugs Deb. Mum of a tanty thrower here. I think it is when they are really upset, and going muma muma, and only want you, not crusty old dad. I can love that anytime. ------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |
Posted By: k&jsmum
Date Posted: 14 June 2006 at 10:54pm
|
-its when you little one hears you sneeze and you hear a quite "bless you mummy" (keegs did that yesterday so cute).
_its when you go to pick your kids up from daycare and when they see you they shriek with joy MUMMMMMMMMYYYY for all to hear so you know you are the coolest mum. -its when you are teaching them to say pardon when they do a let rip and when they do it you hear them say "pardon mummy" lol
i cant think of anymore now either - tired brain. I hope tomorrow is better for you though ------------- Marlene Keegan ~ 14 October 2003 Jaidyn ~ 14 October 2003 |
Posted By: lenabeanz
Date Posted: 14 June 2006 at 11:25pm
|
I am having a "I can't find it" day too
- When they want to go to sleep on their fold out couch in front of the TV rather then go to sleep in their own bed (She has been there for 3 hours now - I had WW3 to get her into bed and gave up )
- Wanting whatever you are having but won't eat their own food. - Leave the house for 10 mins to go get dinner cause the power was out for most of the day, doesn't want to stay with Daddy so screams "car" and "carseat" over and over until you get back. - Says that she wants to go "toilet" , sits on the toilet says finished after doing nothing then goes into the spare room and does #2's over behind the spare bed Think that is enough talk of my terror child (terrible two's are here!) oh and one more - everything is "NO MINE" and "up-a-day" (Grandma's saying for "PICK ME UP NOW") OVER ... for tonight ------------- http://www.snugglepie.com"> 
|
Posted By: my2angels
Date Posted: 14 June 2006 at 11:31pm
|
the running to you at preschool just reminded me of Kobe at the moment, when he comes running to me for a hug he forgets I have a big tummy and bounces off it then rubs his head pretending 'bubba got him' its very cute.
|
Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 15 June 2006 at 7:09am
|
ooh, i got another one as my child hauls up my hirt yelling "tickletickletickle"
-it's when you go to the cemetary to show your son who he was named after, and you turn around and he's "discovered" that some people have left things on people's graves like windmills and little ornaments, and he's taken them for a "closer look" and you have to run around, guessing where they might belong...so if any of you have relatives buried in Feilding cemetary and are wondering where the little bear on the head stone is..... - it's also when they drop something or throw it away on purpose and then look at you and say "oh no", like "who did that?" |
Posted By: AlyAyde
Date Posted: 15 June 2006 at 7:46am
|
Hope you have woken up to kissess and cuddles in bed this morning.
------------- Jayde 25/12/04 Alyssa 08/04/03 http://Alyayde.bebo.com |
Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 15 June 2006 at 8:39am
|
The joy comes when they go into your room and help themselves to one of your old toys, and it immediately becomes their absolute favourite.
Its when their faces light up when you come back into the room. Its when they realise they can do something themselves and look at you first to check you have seen it. ------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |
Posted By: caraMel
Date Posted: 15 June 2006 at 9:02am
|
One of my favourites is looking over and seeing her completely absorbed in a little game. Chatting and playing, completely happy to do it alone as long as I'm nearby. (Of course I always ruin these moments by wanting to barge in and give her a kiss and a cuddle!) ------------- Mel, Mummy to E: 6, B: 4 and: 
|
Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 15 June 2006 at 9:24am
|
Kiya gave me a very special moment last night... she has a folk-dancing evening at school tonight and the kids can either wear nice clothes or fancy dress. Kiya wanted to wear fancy dress... but she's outgrown her main "fairy" dress, so she wanted to wear her flowergirl dress (from our wedding). I put it on her, but it didn't fit (no surprise there, she wasn't quite 3 when she wore it!)
I made her evening, though... out of our wardrobe I got a costume I wore when I was 7, as a buttercup baby in a ballet production of The Wizard of Oz... the smile on her face as she tried it on was beautiful! And as I told her a little about the dress, she looked so proud! ------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |
Posted By: emeldee
Date Posted: 15 June 2006 at 4:35pm
|
It's when you are at the mall and someone else's kid is misbehaving while your one is being angelic (for a split second). ------------- |
Posted By: MILF
Date Posted: 15 June 2006 at 5:13pm
|
i had a beautiful moment today, x got herself dressed as per usual, and about 11 o clock i said to her "lets get dressed up in our nice clothes for daddy's birthday today". so we both put on nice clothes, she had a dress on and some new white sandels ( competely inappropriate footwear for the weather but whatever ) and she came and stood beside me as i made lunch and said " i am so happy today in my lovely dress and my new shoes" i just melted! ------------- Lyla - mum to Xanthe -  my big 4 year old
and Jordis - 1 year old 
|
Posted By: james
Date Posted: 16 June 2006 at 6:31pm
|
its when they are given a persent for there brithday wraped and all and they go for the present all guts and goly rip the paper off and trow it away and start playing a nd claping with the toy. my boy did this yesterday with apresent from his uncle and i wasso proud ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 16 June 2006 at 8:04pm
|
thanks guys... feel better today and had a ooohhhh moment today...
gabriel was trying to teach toby to give him a high 5. it was so funny, and it looked like toby was getting it too. ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker">
|
Posted By: newmum
Date Posted: 17 June 2006 at 8:58am
|
Glad to hear it!!! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
http://lilypie.com">
|
Posted By: Alan & Bubbles Mummy
Date Posted: 17 June 2006 at 10:46am
|
When they stand at your leg's and say "up" for the first time oh and when they see Daddy leaving for work and cries.
When they come in to bed with you and jsut snuggle. ------------- http://lilypie.com">  
[url=http://lilypie.com]  [/url
|
Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 17 June 2006 at 10:53am
|
last night i heard gabriel trying to sing twinkle twinkle little star by himself, he was in bed supposedly sleeping... that was a nice moment. ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker">
|
Posted By: 3under3
Date Posted: 18 June 2006 at 12:26pm
|
Hey Debs
Cam has been trying to sing that too. He only knows "twinkle star ... you. twinkle star ... you" and he's starting to sing Happy Birthday, except it goes "Happy Cake to you, happy cake to you ..." - it's all about the cake, huh? What about the fab moments when they're learning to do a new thing, like stand up, and they have That Look of "aren't I clever" Or when they do a new thing that you've been trying to get them to do for AGES, and they do it & you think "I taught them that" Or, on the odd occasion, when they're NICE to each other. Cam was holding Charlotte's hand last night and she was walking - sooo sweet! Rosie |
Posted By: my2angels
Date Posted: 18 June 2006 at 12:28pm
| kobe has started trying to sing baa baa black sheep and every time I say blah blah blah about something he thinks Im singing and joins in. |
Posted By: newmum
Date Posted: 18 June 2006 at 10:04pm
|
Joey can't sing or anything yet (obviously) but whenever I sing "Twinkle, Twinle" he does the wee star actions, sooooo cute!!! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
http://lilypie.com">
|
Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 19 June 2006 at 12:26am
| Hannah pretends to cry when I sing "Twinkle Twinkle" - is my singing that bad?!?! (Well... obviously yes.) |
Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 19 June 2006 at 6:07am
| Jake has become addicted to the TAB channel and stands on the couch bouncing up and down yelling "gogogogo" at them. |
Posted By: newmum
Date Posted: 19 June 2006 at 9:15am
|
ROFL liz!!!! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
http://lilypie.com">
|
Posted By: Karysta
Date Posted: 19 June 2006 at 1:30pm
|
Hehehe thats funny as, wonder if hes any good at guessing the winners?
Laura's latest cute thing was, her dad was brushing her hair and trying to tie it up for her, I come in the room and she starts clapping her hands and saying 'oh mum!, mumumum! |
Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 20 June 2006 at 9:43pm
dont worry nikki when i sing caitlyn goes "stop...oh please stop....turn her off somebody please TURN HER OFF" Seriously sometimes i think she was put on this earth to embarrass me ... 
|
nikkiwhyte wrote:Posted By: k&jsmum
Date Posted: 20 June 2006 at 10:51pm
|
lol Liz the Keegs was doing that the other week when the hurricans/crusaders played. Was copying our neighbour "GO THE CANES!!!" with his little arm in the air. And on the weekend he was doing it for the All Blacks copying my friend. Hes turning into a real rugby head. None of it my doing as I dont genrally watch rugby on the telly ------------- Marlene Keegan ~ 14 October 2003 Jaidyn ~ 14 October 2003 |
Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 21 June 2006 at 6:33am
| It's a boy thing. Jake loves the cricket. No idea where he got THAT from either. I think he just likes the ball going to and fro. |