How dressed up do I get?
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Topic: How dressed up do I get?
Posted By: kebakat
Subject: How dressed up do I get?
Date Posted: 19 October 2009 at 11:07am
| I'm going to granddads funeral tomorrow and I've never been to a funeral before so I have no idea what to get dressed up in? How dressed up do I get? Do I have to wear like all black or is some colour ok? I really have no idea. I can't afford to go out and buy anything so I sorta gotta make do. My mum rang yesterday and told me not to dress prissy. wtf does that mean? I don't dress prissy anyway lol. But I'm putting that comment down to her head space. |
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Posted By: Turtle
Date Posted: 19 October 2009 at 11:18am
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I am so sorry to hear. My thoughts are with you and your family.
You don't have wear black, but normally something darker is better. Black trousers or skirt and nice dark top or shirt? As long as it is nothing too showy, you will be fine. |
Posted By: surfergirl
Date Posted: 19 October 2009 at 11:44am
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I'm sorry for your loss. I usually wear what i would wear to church...if I had to go. Something tidy and not too short or show-y. And as for colour, I think it depends on the person/culture. If the perosn was a bright colourful perosn who'd have appreciated a lovely colourful outfit then I'd wear one, but if it was a funeral for a Maori person, or someone traditional I'd wear black. Edited - to say if I had to go to church - not to a funeral, of course I'd go to a funeral, just not to church regularly...YKWIM... ------------- http://www.alterna-tickers.com"> 
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Posted By: kebakat
Date Posted: 19 October 2009 at 11:53am
| I haven't been to church either lol. Hes not Maori but he was a WW2 vet. Its at the local rsa where he was a lifetime member. Is there such a thing as being overdressed? |
Posted By: peachy
Date Posted: 19 October 2009 at 12:01pm
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Sorry to hear about your Grandad.
I normally wear smart casual, like 3 quarter black pants and a singlet and cardy or a long top with tights and slip on dressy-ish jandel type shoes. I tend to dress on the conservative side at funerals personally and generally always black! Some people do wear colours though and they haven't looked out of place, unless it was hot pink or something cazy 
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Posted By: peanut butter
Date Posted: 19 October 2009 at 12:16pm
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These days I dont think colours matter. Maybe Id steer clear of fluros Generally I would wear something tidy and respectful (ie not a miniskirt). Thin along the lines of something you could wear to work (office type job) is probably good. Ie. tidy trousers and nice top, skirt and top, dress.
Can you overdress? A ball gown would be too much
Lucky you having never been to a funeral. I hope it is a nice one for you. Even though they are sad, sometimes you can think of it as completing their life rather than ending it. THen you can celebrate it rather than mourn...but some people like a good mourn. |
Posted By: tishy
Date Posted: 19 October 2009 at 12:32pm
This is the reasoning I would use as well. I would normally wear black or other dark colours . |
nzpiper wrote:Posted By: kebakat
Date Posted: 19 October 2009 at 12:36pm
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ok I have 2 options that I can fit lol.
1. dark grey long sleeve merino top with a long tunic top overtop of that (its green, grey, white and black and short sleeved), with black leggings and boots 2. black skirt, heels, pinkish shirt and a black jacket and I'd probably have to wear stockings cause my legs are brilliantly white They are the only real combos I have that don't involve jeans! Most of my old work clothing don't fit me anymore - babies! And I dont imagine it will be that warm where we are going |
Posted By: clover
Date Posted: 19 October 2009 at 1:05pm
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I'd go for option 2 myself.
So sorry about your granddad. |
Posted By: cuppatea
Date Posted: 19 October 2009 at 1:40pm
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Yeah I would go option 2 as well.
Sorry about your granddad and hope it all goes well tomorrow ------------- 
 
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Posted By: emz
Date Posted: 19 October 2009 at 1:44pm
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I think either option is fine.
I had 2 older men's funerals at the end of last year (Grandad and his best friend). I was pallbearer at Grandad's and I wore 3/4 black capris, tidy shoes, and a black tunic top. To the other I wore a black top and brown pants. Now anything is generally OK as long as its tidy - just don't turn up in a tweety bird shirt and PVC pants like my mums cousin did to my great-grandma's funeral (she's a bit weird though!) |
Posted By: Manda08
Date Posted: 19 October 2009 at 3:58pm
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Sorry to hear about your Grandad.
I myself have just got home from my great grans funeral. There was a mixture of things people wore, some wore jeans, some dresses, some skirts, or black pants, but everyone looked tidy and i think that was the main thing. Alot were in black but also with a bit of colour. My Grans was also at the RSA. Hope you have a nice service for your Grandad. ------------- 
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Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 19 October 2009 at 4:34pm
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If the weather is anything like today, go for something that's ok to take off as its pretty warm out there and the RSA can get a bit stuffy.
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Posted By: Babe
Date Posted: 19 October 2009 at 4:58pm
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I'd go for option 1 myself coz I'd feel overdressed in option 2 but its what you feel comfortable in and you'll be appropriately dressed in either.
I'm glad his passing wasn't too drawn out and I hope everything goes smoothly! 
I hope you were able to work out what to do while he was in hospital too. -------------   
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Posted By: kebakat
Date Posted: 19 October 2009 at 5:10pm
| I think it will be option 1, I'm more comfy in those kinda clothes than getting all dressed up in what is essentially a suit. Hopefully it doesn't fall into the "prissy" category for my mother! |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 19 October 2009 at 7:25pm
Hugs Stacey, sorry to hear about your grandad  . Option one sounds fine, like the others have said, pretty much anything is appropriate these days (barring PVC pants and Tweety bird tees ).
I most always wear all black but thats coz a) most of the funerals I go to these days are tangi and it's the done thing and b) most of my wardrobe is black  -------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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