Are you a Worry Wart? or laid back?
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Topic: Are you a Worry Wart? or laid back?
Posted By: Kelpa
Subject: Are you a Worry Wart? or laid back?
Date Posted: 23 June 2006 at 4:03pm
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I am finding that as I get older things that would normally bother me dont anymore!!With this pregnancy I think I have been quite chilled out ..maybe thats cause its number two? Or maybe its cause I read heaps of those nice informative books they give you and retained it in my knowledge bank???
Half the things I realise I used to worry about I dont know why I bothered cause they never happened anyway!!! Do you think it comes with being a woman..Men dont seem to worry bout too much really do they??? It is just the most refreshing thing not to have to worry about everything under the sun or maybe I am just a bit more confident these days! Anyway that was a little load of burble!! Friday afternoon...YAY! -------------  
 
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 23 June 2006 at 5:30pm
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I was pretty relaxed with my first pregnancy, I just seemed to take it as it came. Even thou I just found out today I am regnant I think I will go the same way. I'm not doing to go to the antenatal classes or anything like that. Just going to see my midwife and continue my swimming. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: Two Blondinis
Date Posted: 23 June 2006 at 6:44pm
I've been fairly laid back as I've had a "text book" pregnancy and have been really well the whole time so I guess I've not really had too much to worry about  ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
 
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Posted By: my2angels
Date Posted: 23 June 2006 at 6:50pm
| Im a mixture of both, first time I was worried about everything and lots of my "worst case" things happened so this time round Ive been more relaxed and realise I can handle whatever happens but its been a much harder not to mention longer pregnancy plus with a toddler to run round after Ive been a lot more stressed. Life in general Im a worrier though |
Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 23 June 2006 at 7:06pm
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I was pretty relaxed through my last two pregnancies. This time, I was flucutating (sp?) between not remembering I'm pregnant to being really scared I'd miscarry. Since my scan, I've been a bit more relaxed. Feeling Bubs move regularly helps too! Also my PND is (I think) not as bad now. ------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |
Posted By: jack_&_charli
Date Posted: 23 June 2006 at 7:48pm
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i was lucky the first time round and had a really cruisy pregnancy...hehehe and birth (c-section)
so far this time round is pretty much the same, i'm a little more relaxed about things though...like what i eat  ------------- http://www.alternatickers.com"> 
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 23 June 2006 at 8:40pm
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My first labour and birth was fast (4 hours) so i'm hoping this one will be aswell. My only worry I have is getting pre-eclampsia again. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: emeldee
Date Posted: 23 June 2006 at 9:03pm
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Becks - congratulations on the news of the new bundle!
I'm reasonably laid back, though that could have something to do with being too busy with the other two. I'm starting to get more concerned about how things will be after he's hatched...two under two....eeek. ------------- |
Posted By: caraMel
Date Posted: 23 June 2006 at 9:04pm
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I'm a bit backwards. With my first pregnancy i cruised through and hardly worried about anything. This time I have been much more tense about things and much more emotional.
I think it is because last time, I knew hardly anything and therefore assumed everything would be fine. Since then, through meeting other parents and chatting on forums I have learned so much more about the possible complications etc. They've stuck in my head I guess and so now I sometimes worry about them. In saying that, I don't let my worries get to me too much and focus more on being excited about meeting my gorgeous little man soon! ------------- Mel, Mummy to E: 6, B: 4 and: 
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Posted By: Kellz
Date Posted: 23 June 2006 at 9:33pm
| I a definate worry wart! But i am like that about everything, and have always been,.... so worrying about my pregnancy and how I will cope with Motherhood is just another (major) thing to add to my ever increasing list! |
Posted By: stevie_88
Date Posted: 24 June 2006 at 9:45am
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I'm a worry wart about not knowing to much about the labour part of the pregnancy and being in hospital and that... and I'm worried even more that I won't know what to do when I get there if I have this bubby early since my FIRST antenatal class starts pretty much when I'm due. I worry alot since I'm only 18 and becoming a young mum- but I've got the family only 2 minutes up the road so they help out alot now.
Really really sucks with the way I ask questions here in Australia and don't get the right answers and get a friggin run around. 
Next baby- I'm coming to NZ!!! ------------- http://lilypie.com">  
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Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 24 June 2006 at 10:29am
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I guess I'm pretty laid back, maybe it's because I started reading heaps of pregnancy books from the moment we decided to TTC so nothing has come as a big shock or anything.
hey Becks - big congratulations!!!! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: pepsi
Date Posted: 26 June 2006 at 8:11am
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My midwife tells me I'm laid back and that usually the women who are less stressed about pregnancy tend to have a better labour. She said it's the ones who worry about everything that end up having the type of labour they didn't want..Murphy's law. But then again I'm sure this is not always true.
This is my first pregnancy and I have done a lot of reading and of course this site has been very helpful. I have had quite a textbook pregnancy as well really so I guess that helps. |
Posted By: Millie1976
Date Posted: 26 June 2006 at 8:33am
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I think I have been pretty laid back so far with my first pregnancy - luckily I have't had any dramas yet. For advice I either go to this website or I ask my sister or friends who have had children of their own.
I think the only thing that worries me a little is how the whole labour thing will go  ------------- Sebastien 2 years old Olivier 3 3/4 years old |
Posted By: kellverona
Date Posted: 26 June 2006 at 3:24pm
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i think that when its your first its normal to worry. ITs a new, exciting and huge change in you life and theres lots of unanswered questions and worries.
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Posted By: Kelpa
Date Posted: 26 June 2006 at 6:16pm
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Yea definitely agree ...reading and doing lots of study on it all definitley makes life seem easier.Then when something happens you generally know about it ahead of time!!
Good to see our money is useful for something!! And Ohbaby is great too! -------------
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Posted By: Riya
Date Posted: 27 June 2006 at 12:35am
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I was terrified in the first trimester, but mostly because we were in the UK when it happened-- very far away from home and family, and we didn't know the system or anyone who could help us if anything had happened. That, coupled with almost non-stop morning sickness, made me a complete basket case. I hadn't eaten for three days-- I was killing the baby!! The total lack of fluids in my body-- I was killing the baby!! The packaged Sainsbury's curry I had last night because it was the ONLY thing I could eat-- I killed the baby with that too!! MENTAL, but what can you do, when you get that hysterical all reasoning powers fly out the window. Of course, as soon as we hit Aotearoa shores I just completely chilled out and everything was fine from that point on. Amazing, utterly amazing, what familiarity and security can do for your mental health.
I think it is true that men don't worry about the same things, or maybe to the same degree? My partner spent three months saying calm down, everything will probably be fine, curries don't kill babies, it's okay. Clearly a large part of that was trying to get me down off the crazy pole, but I think also he genuinely didn't have the same degree of anxiety and fear that I did. I was so grateful for it -- maybe nature's way of keeping the balance through difficult times? |