I didn’t want it to happen again!!
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Topic: I didn’t want it to happen again!!
Posted By: LittleBug
Subject: I didn’t want it to happen again!!
Date Posted: 28 October 2009 at 4:32pm
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I'm feeling really down atm. Life has just been really full on lately and I've finally crashed, I think. I've been flat out studying etc, and the babies just keep on getting sick. Now I have exams coming up and I'm so behind in study, and my brother's engagement party was at the weekend so we had to haul the kidlets up to Chch, and couldn't find a babysitter so had to take them to the party and try and get them to sleep downstairs, there. And lo and behold, Chloe was up most of the party with yet another illness, which Ollie now has as well. She's on her second lot of antibiotics and steroids in the last month, and having her spacer and inhaler heaps. So not only did I not get to study all weekend, but we had a really stressful, high strung and sleepless weekend that was full of travel and inconvenience. I loved being able to go to the party, I just feel like it cost us a whole lot to go (not just money value), emotionally and physically. Anyway, now DH and I have the bug that the kidlets have, and I'm totally worse for wear and unable to study. I feel like packing it in altogether because I'm already so far behind, study wise. My exams are next week and the week after. I'm so worn out. But even resting at home is stressful because I just sit here feeling guilty because I should be studying. I've been feeling so down for the last 3 days, just feel like crying. I can't afford to be sick, and I can't afford to crash for another couple of weeks, but it seems that it's happened. At the moment I'm just really battling all these horrible depressed thoughts and I can't believe that I have hit this point again, at the worst time. I finally felt like the whole PND thing was under control with meds and stuff, I've been functioning really well for most of the second half of this year. I think I really overdid it, taking on way too much too soon... but I really felt better and thought I could handle it.  ------------- Chloe (4 years) and Oliver (3 years). |
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Posted By: mollycat
Date Posted: 28 October 2009 at 4:35pm
 That was exhausting just hearing about what you have going on! Have you made sure your DH knows how you are feeling? perhaps if you could just have one day (or even one afternoon) to yourself, it might make all the difference. And be sure to keep an eye on the PND and get yourself to the GP if it doesn't improve!------------- http://tickers.cafemom.com"> 
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Posted By: T_Rex
Date Posted: 28 October 2009 at 6:26pm
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Hugs to you. Just wanted to add don't be shy to ask about impaired performance for your exams. You'd definitely qualify! ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Bobbie
Date Posted: 28 October 2009 at 6:47pm
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Janey I think you have a huge amount on your plate at the moment and I agree that you should ask about aegrotat or whatever it is for exams.
I don't think you should worry about whether it's PND or not just yet. I think the stress *could* cause it to come back but it you may also find that you are ok in the next few weeks. I would imagine you are so so stressed at the moment it would be very hard to tell. I definitely agree go to the GP if it doesn't improve once the exam period is over though. -------------  
 
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Posted By: emz
Date Posted: 28 October 2009 at 7:02pm
Hugs hun, you have so much going on all the time, I think you're doing so well  even if it doesn't feel like it to you, I'm pretty sure everyone around you thinks your amazing!
I second just waiting re the PND thing till exams are over - it could be that its stress-related, and not PND-related (although I know one thing can lead to the other). Just think - only a few more weeks to go (I think?) then you're all done and dusted for the year, it'll be coming onto summer so the illnesses will go away and you can enjoy life. Is there anything any of us can do/send to you or anything to make life a little easier? Just ask anyway, if there's anything I can do 
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Posted By: Bobbie
Date Posted: 28 October 2009 at 7:31pm
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Yeah I second that. You know if I could I'd be on a plane in a second. -------------
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Posted By: ooEvaoo
Date Posted: 29 October 2009 at 7:24am
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Oh Little bug I understand where you're coming from re: Stress of exams etc. I've got 5 assignments due in the next two weeks, am behind in my studies because I kept putting everything else first....I've barely started any of the assignments! You definitely should talk about this to your DP...sometimes all you need is an hour or so to set out a plan of what you need to study and when it can happen. If you know what you're gonna be tested on then focus your study around your strongest areas. If it is all too much (which is ok) then look into Agrotat marking or impaired performance...but look into it now. I hope things work out for you, the end is sooooo close!...you can almost reach out with your hand and grab it. ------------- 
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Posted By: Nutella
Date Posted: 29 October 2009 at 12:02pm
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Yes agree with the agrotat idea but get onto it now. Also go see the lecturers now to see if there is anything they can do to help as well! Also the university has probably got a counsellor if you need to off load onto someone!
Is there anyone who can come over to help out just for a bit while you do some catch up study? Even if all they do is play with the kids, it might help? And don't worry about making sure house is super tidy etc, and when you cook food make sure you double it or whatever so you don't have to cook every day or freeze if you have a freezer! ------------- 
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Posted By: ElfsMum
Date Posted: 29 October 2009 at 12:20pm
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Posted By: fire_engine
Date Posted: 29 October 2009 at 2:24pm
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Aw LB . It's a yucky time of year and you have so much going on, it's not surprising you're feeling like this. Definitely go for the agrotat - I used them so much in 3rd and 4th year and it made a huge difference to my stress levels.
Are you involved in a church? Could you (or your DH) see if they could help out with meals? I know it's hard to ask for help but people are usually so keen to be able to help in anyway they can. ------------- Mum to two wee boys |
Posted By: weegee
Date Posted: 29 October 2009 at 2:49pm
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from me too. And commiserations with you and Eva too from another mum that takes too much on - end of semester sucks big time. I don't have any experience on the PND side of things (thank goodness) but really just wanted to say there is light at the end of the tunnel even if it doesn't feel like it right now. At least you have acknowledged that there's a problem, that's a step towards dealing with it ------------- 
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Posted By: LittleBug
Date Posted: 29 October 2009 at 5:45pm
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Thanks for all the love girlies
I took your advice and had a big chat to DH, and he was wonderful. He stayed home last night after all and we just chilled out and had a big chat. This morning I went and talked to the Disabilities office about special consideration, and they were really positive. They said if I don't manage to sit the exams I could get an alternative exam date. So that takes heaps of the pressure off, while we are all sick etc. I still want to get the exams done at the normal time, because I was going to graduate this year... but I guess I can always graduate next May. They also organised some counselling for me through Catholic Social Services, I was putting it off because I can't afford it, but CSS do it for only a gold coin donation if that's all that you can afford. So no excuses now. So things are going to get back on track, I hope. Still feeling really down today but feeling like things are a little more in control. Plus I got a FULL night of sleep last night, for the first time in about 2 years!!  and will get another one tonight. Yay for mums.
------------- Chloe (4 years) and Oliver (3 years). |