Toddlers running away
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Topic: Toddlers running away
Posted By: jimbob
Subject: Toddlers running away
Date Posted: 07 November 2009 at 1:51pm
| how do you deal with it? My 25 month old son has just started doing this, and always in a very dangerous or inappropriate place. It's very scary, and always unexpected - he'll be walking along very nicely with me, either holding my hand, or just beside me chatting away, and next hting you know he's dashed off sideways onto the road, or down a driveway, or this morning, on his bike out into the carpark. Eek - very scary! |
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Posted By: SMoody
Date Posted: 07 November 2009 at 2:10pm
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Okay I will give the answer that I will get a lot of flack from others:
Harness. Seriously it is the best thing out there. Some kids will hold hands real nicely and then all of a sudden see something and just start running and it is easy to slip out of your hands. However with a harness and you holding their hand it is almost impossible for them to get away from you. And speaking from experience it stopped my girl a few times of going out in the road, as well as stopping her from falling ect. You get some of them that have a backpack at the back with animals on it. Google it. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 07 November 2009 at 2:11pm
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with a leash. Taine hated it, so we 'trained" him. Walking down the road, if he held my hand, he was okay, but if he took off- he got "the leash". we did this for a few weeks in our neighbourhood, and then he got the drift, we used the same techniques in more riskier areas - like town. we would also just put him in his pushchair - which he also hated.
When he was a bit older we played "stop, go" as in i would yell go, he would run off, then i would yell stop and he would freeze. both kids loved it and it stopped them running off completely. |
Posted By: X
Date Posted: 07 November 2009 at 2:13pm
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Yep, I agree-harness. I know some people don't think they are very PC, but it's better than having a flattened or lost toddler. They are too unpredicatable & too fast. ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: LJsmum
Date Posted: 07 November 2009 at 2:55pm
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Harnesses are good, but if you can and he's ready for it talking to him, negiatoating with him, setting rules e.t.c
He may be a bit young for this around 2.5yrs - 3yrs is a good age. using praise and encouragement or rewards, works better when they are older. Go with the harness  -------------  
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Posted By: X
Date Posted: 07 November 2009 at 3:02pm
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Just wanted to add-the harness we have for DS is a monkey backpack & the tail is the leash you hold. We got it off trade me. He loves wearing his monkey! It looks much better than just a regular leash too. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: lilfatty
Date Posted: 07 November 2009 at 5:11pm
Yep I would get a harness .. although I dont really care what other people think about the "mother with her kid on a leash"  ------------- Mummy to Issy (3) and Elias (18 months) I did it .. 41 kgs gone! From flab to fab in under a year  http://www.femininefitness.co.nz/category/blog - LFs weight blog
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Posted By: Shezamumof3
Date Posted: 07 November 2009 at 5:20pm
Same here, it means they cant get away and get hit or taken. ------------- |
lilfatty wrote:Posted By: RinTinTin
Date Posted: 07 November 2009 at 5:41pm
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Yeah harness. I had one when I was litle. Apparently, the story goes, that I tried to take off oneday in Auckland airport. Dad just stood stock still and I ended up hitting the deck. NEVER ran away again.
He'll learn pretty quick. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: AandCsmum
Date Posted: 07 November 2009 at 5:46pm
Retractable dog lead  Seriously....seen it done & congratulated the mum on a fabulous idea.------------- Kel http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Babe
Date Posted: 07 November 2009 at 5:51pm
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Jake did that once and got a firm spank on the bum and never did it again! But yeah a harness is a good idea (or retractable dog leash!!). We have one (harness not dog lead though we've used that once or twice too ) and on the odd occasion we've used it its been great. -------------   
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Posted By: LeahandJoel
Date Posted: 07 November 2009 at 7:34pm
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I often thought about this one too -------------  
 
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Posted By: jimbob
Date Posted: 07 November 2009 at 8:35pm
| thanks all, am currently searching on trademe for one of the monkey backpack ones. Love the idea of the retractable dog lead....just don't think I could go through with it! Harness here we come though! |
Posted By: MissAngel
Date Posted: 07 November 2009 at 9:29pm
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Harnesses are WONDERFUL! I've just started using one with Thomas, he will pull his hand away from mine and take off quicker than i can catch him. Why should he have to be confined in a pram when the harness gives him safety :D We have a little sheep backpack which I put a latch on the back and did myself! ------------- Alex, Thomas and Lily http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: Rovic
Date Posted: 07 November 2009 at 10:12pm
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I bought a monkey backpack/harness for my nephew from K Mart a year ago. They had about 4 different styles. Not sure if they still have them or not, but worth a shot. ------------- http://alterna-tickers.com"> 
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Posted By: Tastic
Date Posted: 07 November 2009 at 10:28pm
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I got one of the monkey bags off trademe, the boys hate it but I said if they don't listen when we are out they will have to wear it!
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Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 07 November 2009 at 10:34pm
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i had a wrist strap for mine. i remember once going out and the boys argued over who got to wear it - they both wanted it! ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker"> 
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Posted By: peanut butter
Date Posted: 07 November 2009 at 11:55pm
and your 25 month olds would wear a leash???? Geeesh...my stubborn little so and so wouldnt. i just have to trick and distract him throughout the whole walk so he doesnt get a chance to run off....and when he does, he gets a smack! I dont care what people say...in my opinion, thats a life and death situation when there are cars nearby.
but I have a very tight grip when needed too 
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Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 08 November 2009 at 12:00am
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i think that basically you have to just hold tight to them - wether it be a leash or hand - or put them in a pushchair or a bike with a handle for you to push. (cause a smack aint going to do much after the kids been hit by a car!)
they eventually do out grow it - my boy was a runner and he did. i usually kept him in a pushchair or held his hand when walking near roads or dangerous places. ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker">
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Posted By: jazzy
Date Posted: 08 November 2009 at 8:09am
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I bought a puppy backpack harness & my toddler loved waring it, great for piece of mind & safety.
I never cared what anyone thought about a child in a harness, better that than a child hit by a car or lost at the shops & anyway there are some really cute ones out there. It did not take long for my 2yr old to learn the rules of not running off & he now holds my hand when we are out & about, he is 3yrs. |
Posted By: kellie
Date Posted: 08 November 2009 at 11:56am
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When Sirius starts taking off I am definitely getting a harness or similar. ------------- 
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Posted By: lottieandharry
Date Posted: 08 November 2009 at 12:35pm
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My 22 month is getting pretty bad with taking off too. I found these http://www.totproducts.co.nz/wawcs0137567/tn-home.html - tots products Haven't got one yet but I am thinking about it. Not sure if they would be good or not but just slightly different option to the backpack. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 08 November 2009 at 6:48pm
The gremlins loved theirs, and still do - I think the secret to the attraction was that they had monkeys on them and they thought they were "cool". If they'd had a common garden variety leash I might have had more issues. -------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: cuppatea
Date Posted: 08 November 2009 at 7:21pm
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Harness and if they don't like it then do as someone else said. behave good no harness, misbehave wear harness, they soon get the idea. We've only used ours a handful of times as Spencer is know really good at holding hands, we also do the stop go game so fx he will stop if needed. ------------- 
 
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