DH’s who work away from home...
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Topic: DH’s who work away from home...
Posted By: Henna79
Subject: DH’s who work away from home...
Date Posted: 25 November 2009 at 9:55pm
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I know there are a few ladies on here whose hubby's work away from home and I want to know how you cope.
DH is starting a new job on the 22.12 and will be away for 3 weeks at a time. I am not to worried about how I will get things done more so how I will go with him not being here when I want him or need him for something. I am not really looking forward to it but it's a great financial move for us as a family and DH is really looking forward too it. |
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Posted By: AandCsmum
Date Posted: 25 November 2009 at 10:57pm
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Do you have family that can help?
My Dh worked in Aus for 5 months last year. Thank god I had this website for adult chat in the evenings! I'm lucky my parents are in town so if needed I could call them in an emergency, not that I needed it. Make sure you have friends with hubbies in case you need something that only a man can do, cause sometime we can't do everything. ------------- Kel http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: fattykat
Date Posted: 25 November 2009 at 11:41pm
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My only advice is to make sure you get out of the house or you end up going mad!!!!
DP worked away for 2 months just before I had DD and we were on Vodafone Bestmate plan so could talk and text as often as we wanted which was great. Last year he was away for almost half the year (on and off) also.....you do get used to it pretty quickly. And like Aliasmum said.....Thank god I had this website for adult chat in the evenings. |
Posted By: squoggs
Date Posted: 26 November 2009 at 8:58am
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Hiya, my hubbys away for work about 4 nights each week, and there's no routine, its just random. Also he regularly spends a couple of months at a time overseas. We have also just moved to a city where we know noone, have no family and im unable to work at the moment...so its a bit tough, i get pretty bored & lonely if i don't make an effort.
But I deal with it by trying to go for lots of big walks (MS permitting!), DVDs, skype - not just to DH, but to lots of friends, lot of library books, girly nights in (doing 'maintenance' stuff that I hate DH seeing me do anyway!) and making a big effort just to get out and do stuff. Its quite funny, as when DH is away for a long time it almost annoys me when he comes home as I have developed my own routines, he tries to help put but just gets in the way! You will probably find that you become quite used to doing stuff on your own, but you really appreciate the time when he is home. Hopefully you have a good support network of friends and family around you. Does yr DH get lots of time off in between each stint? ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: lemongirl
Date Posted: 26 November 2009 at 9:14am
| I'm the daughter of a Dad who used to work away from home months at a time. TBH I don't know how my mother coped, as we didn't have any family close by. But she did... |
Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 26 November 2009 at 9:20am
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My Dh goes away for work regularly usually for 3-4 week blocks couple of times a year, this year hasn't been so bad as I've been away with work as well. I can always reach him by phone if I need too. I was concerned as he had an accident and I couldn't reach him. As for me being home same ole thing as when he's here tbh, I go to work and get on with stuff as normal. Due to DHs work I live in a town where I don't know many people, thank heaven for OB and FB as my life lines to the rest of the world. For me its been part of our relationship from the beginning I think it would be stranger if he was home all the time. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">   [/url] Angel June 2012 |
Posted By: Henna79
Date Posted: 26 November 2009 at 10:53am
| I have a brother here who I am sure will annoy me as much as possible. We are probably going to move to Paeroa where most of my Fam is and DH's are only 20 mins away so that will be good if it happens. Dad rang me just before with some houses to look at. DH will be home for 3 weeks at a time so good breaks in between and I am making myself get into play group and things now so I have things to do while we are still in Hamilton. |
Posted By: emz
Date Posted: 26 November 2009 at 11:05am
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My Dh is away at least half the year every year, sometimes in 6 month blocks (when overseas) sometimes in 3week-2month blocks throughout the year. it's been part of our relationship from day one so I haven't had much say in the matter.
I've found it a lot harder since having kids though, because you get no downtime (well you will with a toddler, but with a toddler and 3mo I'm basically busy 5am-11pm each day). Make dates with friends you don't catch up with regularly, go for walks, chat online to people. You really need to keep up the adult communication otherwise you'll go insane. I always write a list of things to do when Dh is away, like painting, sewing, house reno (that he usually doesn't know about til he gets back  ) I've also found that the time he's home everything kind of stops - I guess because he's away so much we try to make the most of every minute he's here. Which means the house is a mess, nothing else gets done etc.
Make sure you have bestmates on your cellphone or something so hubby can call you and Alex once in a while (not everyday (well I don't think its necessary anyway) as it makes time drag). The hardest parts - not having muscles around the house so having to ask other people to help, having to pick up all the slack, no sleepins, kids acting up each time he leaves (but DS is getting a lot better and has only cried once this time), getting snippy at each other because you get so used to your own space its hard to adjust again... but it also means you get a wee honeymoon period every few weeks 
I don't think we could do the 'normal' couple thing where he had a 9-5 and was home all the time. I do like this lifestyle more, but its hard work for both partners which your DH needs to remember (as DH's quite often forget its hard for the wife too). |
Posted By: Bombshell
Date Posted: 26 November 2009 at 3:45pm
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we started our relationship with DH being away each week at least 2-3 days...it gave me room and when he was back all the time it kinda annoyed me LOL!
now i just get on with it when he is away and in fact Ella is often calmer for me then! he is about to be away a lot more again..unless he finds a new job! I just enjoy my own time...but luckily for company I have my mum as well. |