TTC after a miscarriage
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Forum Description: Up to one in five pregnancies ends in miscarriage, yet for many the loss of a pregnancy is isolating and lonely. Share your thoughts and feelings here with others who have experienced loss.
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Topic: TTC after a miscarriage
Posted By: AzzaNZ
Subject: TTC after a miscarriage
Date Posted: 11 December 2009 at 3:13pm
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I loathe TTC no matter when it is, but having a miscarriage has made it worse.
I'm only on day 30 of my cycle and have POAS already. I'm paranoid about not finding out I'm pregnant early enough to go beg the doctor for progesterone and low dose aspirin. I'd love to wake up 9 months pregnant and skip all the anxiety that comes with TTC and pregnancy. How do you keep yourself sane? ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: mylilmosaic
Date Posted: 11 December 2009 at 3:29pm
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AzzaNZ if you feel you need baby aspirin then you can get it from the chemist and supermarkets have it too. I have had three recurrent miscarriages and like you it slacked me off that I had to have three before my specialist would take it seriously and investigate the reasons.
But although they found no concrete reasons for the m/c's he has told me to take baby aspirin and progesterone once I am pregnant again, which isn't proving that easy this time. I can't see any reason why you couldn't take baby aspirin, Im on the 75 dose and Im sure you could take this yourself, although getting the progesterone might be a bit more difficult, but definately insist that your gp lets you do the progesterone blood work at 7dpo. HTH's ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: AzzaNZ
Date Posted: 11 December 2009 at 3:33pm
Is that what some doctors call the 21 day test? The last time I did that I got a call from my doctor saying that my progesterone levels were insufficient to support a pregnancy. Sadly it was in another country and I dont have any medical records. The 3 miscarriages thing is shocking. Next time I plan to cause whatever scene I need to in order to get the progesterone tests and support if needed. Do you know if you can go to a labtests/medlab and ask for a progesterone test without a referral? ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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appy2 wrote:Posted By: didi99
Date Posted: 11 December 2009 at 3:37pm
Azza I can't help but just wanted to give you big 
I understand exactly how you are feeling I am scared sh**less of being preg again, in fact I caught myself the other day thinking "next time I have a MC I might do that". Had to slap myself out of that train of thought promptly! P.S. good thread I will watch with interest. -------------  Angel Babies Nov 09, May 10, Dec 10
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Posted By: AzzaNZ
Date Posted: 11 December 2009 at 3:42pm
I do the same thing. I think "maybe next time a D&C will be easier"... horrible thoughts! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Emmi_
Date Posted: 11 December 2009 at 8:06pm
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Azza, you cant get progesterone pessarys with out a script. How good is your GP? Could you voice your concerns to them? They might be willing to do BTs to check your progesterone and HCG once a cycle at 12DPO (to check if your PG and if your progesterone is ok) or something? The CD21 test is the one you do at 7DPO (but not sure if HCG would show up that early? (my HCG at 16 DPO (and 6 days past implantation) was only 80, so much earlier than that and it wouldnt have shown up?))
Hmm I hope all that makes sense? I think having a good GP is definately the first step... ------------- 
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Posted By: mylilmosaic
Date Posted: 11 December 2009 at 10:37pm
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Hey Azza - Firstly I am so sorry that you have experienced a m/c. With the blood tests for progesterone, yes 7dpo is the day 21 bloods and your gp should be able to give you the forms for these. If you feel your gp is not taking you seriously then I would definately change and try and find a supportive gp.
Also if you can get your medical records from SA then that might help, not sure but it can't hurt. You could self refer to a fertility specialist but unfortunately as far as Im aware they still won't investigate until you have had 3 m/c's, I was fortunate I guess (or not) to already be under the specialist due my age and length of time ttc'in. Once I get pregnant again Fertility Associates will monitor me quiet closely and do weekly bloods to monitor my progesterone, and I think I will also have quiet regular scans to try and keep an eye on things. Azza I really really hope that this was a once off for you and that your next pregnancy will be a sticky one. Also I guess ring Medlab and ask whether you can get tests done for yourself. No doubt if you can they would cost you, but not sure how much. Goodluck with your ttc journey  ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: asicsgal
Date Posted: 12 December 2009 at 9:52am
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Hugs Azza, it certainly can be a stressful journey for a lot of us. I would probably get your doctor to do as many tests as they possibly can. I would definately suss out the progesterone thing as I know it's something that can be easily fixed. I referred myself to a fertility specialist when I had my second miscarriage as I wanted to make sure there wasn't somthing wrong. The doctors here are bl...dy hopeless where I live so I didn't want to risk another pregancy going down the tubes if there was something within my control to fix it.
That's the thing though, the whole ttc thing is mostly out of our control. We can BD on days we think we are near ovulation but never guarantees a baby. I'm assuming this is your first m/c, plenty of woman go on to have healthy pregnancies, so hoping this is the case for you and you get a sticky baby. Best wishes for a quick BFP and a sticky one. As far as staying sane hmmmm not sure on that one. ------------- http://lilypie.com">  
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Posted By: lemongirl
Date Posted: 12 December 2009 at 10:18am
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Hmmm... I'm still in the business of trying to convince DP that TTC is a good idea.
I suppose a good/bad thing to know is that his sperm is really good (he's had it tested) so it's all down to me. On the postive side I got pregnant on the pill and got a reasonable way into the pregnancy so implantation and conceiving aren't likely to be issues. On the negative we have no idea what caused the miscarriage and won't find out till it happens another two times. Terrifying. PS Azza your little girl is the so gorgy. |
Posted By: littlestar
Date Posted: 12 December 2009 at 10:19am
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Hugs Azza - a MC changes everything, TTC and pregnancy are never quite the same again.
Get yourself a good supportive GP - these tests are not exactly invasive or complicated. Surely if you make enough of a fuss they would give them to you just to keep you quiet... I am one of the lucky ones who went on to have a healthy little bub, and I do hope that you will get your BFP soon. Just remember, there are always folk on this forum you can rant to about how you are feeling, as you will have days ahead where you think you are just going barmy. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: AzzaNZ
Date Posted: 13 December 2009 at 8:55pm
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Thank you for all the support
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Posted By: pikaboo
Date Posted: 13 December 2009 at 10:47pm
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Hi Azza just wanted to say I am in a similar boat to you....my wee girl looks around the same age as your lovely Isabella, and we have had one m/c (in Aug 09). I have had 5 cycles since, and all were only 23 days (28 days is normal for me), so I don't think I have a long enough luteal phase to produce enough progesterone to support preg as I usually ov day 14/15 and I am learning you need at least 10 days between ov and af.
I know I have dodgy progesterone as I have endometriosis which is a "low-progesterone" condition, so my awesome gp (a man!) agreed to test my levels 7dpo. I went into his office ready to campaign that yes, m/c could be due to any number of factors, but seeing as we already know I have endo, could we do a 'day 21' blood test to see if that might be a problem....anyway, he agreed immediately and I didn't end up having to do the hard sell on him....I hope you have or find a nice gp who will do something similar for you, based on you verbally telling them you have had low prog results in the past. Like you I am thinking that if I do get a bfp then I want to go in and demand progesterone pessaries too! A friend of mine who is on her umpteenth cycle of ivf is on them until week 16, not because she has low progesterone levels, but just as extra insurance to promote lots of 'lush lining' for implantation etc. Interesting eh. My fingers are x'd for you....I am also not enjoying ttc and have to snap myself out of "next time" thoughts too. Tomorrow I am going to a naturopath to see if I am lacking something or really just to feel like I am doing something as my hormones/periods/emotions still feel totally outta whack...I will keep watching to see what your gp says and if those hpts turn +ve.
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Posted By: AzzaNZ
Date Posted: 14 December 2009 at 1:23pm
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I tried to get an appointment with my doctor to speak to her about the progesterone and see if she'd give me a referral for blood tests but she is booked up until mid-next week.
I dont want to see a different doctor - the last time she wasnt available was during my miscarriage and the doctor I saw instead said there was nothing they could do for me before describing a D&C in detail complete with hand gestures 
So I went and bought 2 more HPT's while I decide what to do 
I'm still tormenting myself. Its like I intellectually *know* that I am not pregnant but my heart wants it so much that everything seems like a symptom. I need either a +HPT or AF to arrive. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Bombshell
Date Posted: 06 January 2010 at 10:51pm
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glad to see you got a BFP!!!!
I am going insane now...maybe a BFP will follow for me soon...we just had MC at 5 weeks...I knew it wasnt a goer - just a maternal feeling - just as I knew Miss nearly 3 was a girl etc from the start!!! Im still prossessing it all...it was only 4 days ago...what a horrid way to kick off a new year - and now we are back to IUI option from feb.,....wish us luck and send some of your bubba vibes thisaway! |
Posted By: susieq
Date Posted: 07 January 2010 at 7:44am
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lurker, sorry to hear that Bommbshell, fingers crossed and toes ffor February ------------- susie |
Posted By: AzzaNZ
Date Posted: 07 January 2010 at 8:28am
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I am so sorry Bombshell! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: AzzaNZ
Date Posted: 07 January 2010 at 8:29am
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I got a BFP and am praying our scan today goes well... it was at our first scan last time we found out baby wasnt doing too good so I'm a bundle of nerves ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Pook72
Date Posted: 07 January 2010 at 10:59am
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Good luck for a great scan today Azza! Looking forward to hearing happy news from you! ------------- June 99. June 09, Dec 09, Sept 10 March 12
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Posted By: Huggles
Date Posted: 07 January 2010 at 3:20pm
sendin you good luck vibes Azza and hope your scan goes well.... xxx
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Posted By: AzzaNZ
Date Posted: 07 January 2010 at 3:27pm
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Thanks... its feeling a bit like dejavu. Baby is measuring much smaller than it should and they asked if I've had any bleeding or pain.
Just hoping and praying. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Pook72
Date Posted: 07 January 2010 at 3:36pm
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Fingers crossed your dates are just a little out xx ------------- June 99. June 09, Dec 09, Sept 10 March 12
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Posted By: AzzaNZ
Date Posted: 07 January 2010 at 9:53pm
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HCG's have come back and they are no longer doubling ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Pook72
Date Posted: 08 January 2010 at 7:39am
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Oh Azza, that sucks honey xx ------------- June 99. June 09, Dec 09, Sept 10 March 12
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Posted By: X
Date Posted: 08 January 2010 at 8:42am
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Sorry to hear that Azza & sending you big hugs (although I know that probably doesn't make it any easier) ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: mummyofprinces
Date Posted: 13 January 2010 at 2:02pm
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Posted By: AzzaNZ
Date Posted: 13 January 2010 at 2:22pm
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No update I'm afraid. I'm getting more HCG's done tomorrow.
I asked my midwife for a scan to see if the baby has grown any since the last one and she said "having another scan will not change the situation and may worry you more if it has not grown"
Just hoping HCG's tomorrow are still going up no matter how fast or slow. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: ElfsMum
Date Posted: 13 January 2010 at 4:19pm
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hugs :(! ------------- Mum to two amazing boys! |
Posted By: mummyofprinces
Date Posted: 13 January 2010 at 9:29pm
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hugs from me too! -------------
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Posted By: cuppatea
Date Posted: 13 January 2010 at 10:08pm
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Fingers crossed for tomorrow and hugs in the meantime, the waiting and not knowing is horrid. ------------- 
 
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Posted By: Emmi_
Date Posted: 13 January 2010 at 10:22pm
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Azza, call up your GP and see if they will give you a scan. That is crap, and I dont like your MW. Tell them you need to know if the pregnancy is viable, if it hasnt grown then unfortunately it doesnt look good and you can prepare yourself for it, if it has you can actually stop worrying about it!!! GRRR Give me her number and I will have a go at her for you!! Call another MW and see if they are more understanding.
Sorry, I just think if it was me I wouldnt be doing HCGs, I would be going for scans, and I would be kicking up a big stink. But that is just me and you gotta do what you gotta do. xoxoxoxox Big hugs!! Sorry that sounds really harsh.. I guess I just wish I could do something to help... -------------
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Posted By: littlestar
Date Posted: 14 January 2010 at 7:36am
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Hugs hun - everyone on here is keeping their fingers and toes crossed for you. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: AzzaNZ
Date Posted: 14 January 2010 at 8:04am
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Thanks everyone. I've had more bloods done this morning and am seeing my GP tomorrow evening to ask if she will give me a referral.
I'm a bit concerned that my midwife may have all the bedside manner of a brick - meeting her in person for the first time on Monday so I guess I'll see then. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: My3Sons
Date Posted: 14 January 2010 at 8:12am
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Posted By: asicsgal
Date Posted: 14 January 2010 at 12:42pm
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Hugs Azza, I agree with what Emmi said, scans give a lot more of an idea of what is going on with bubs then hcgs ever will do. HCG can be fickle with numbers and doesn't give you a picture of what is happening. I had three blood tests then sent me for scan at 5w 1 day to see what was going on because of slow rising hcg.. Hoping for a sticky bean for you. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Emmi_
Date Posted: 14 January 2010 at 12:56pm
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Good work on the GP appointment Azza! I hope your MW is a lot more understanding when you meet her, although hopefully your GP will give you a referral anyway GL hun, and I have everything crossed for you that your HCG levels are way high (dont forget that yours were already higher than mine were at a week later than you are, so they are already great) -------------
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Posted By: mummyofprinces
Date Posted: 14 January 2010 at 2:40pm
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Azza hun ditch the mw.. I hate to say it but it sounds like she doesnt want to know you unless she knows she is going to get paid.... Not exactly the type you want looking after you during birth (especially if you go VBAC).
I can ask a trainee mw for some good vbac suggestions for you. PS gosh I hope its not someone I have already suggested. F &T X for you today. -------------
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Posted By: AzzaNZ
Date Posted: 14 January 2010 at 2:42pm
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Its the partner of the midwife I had in my last pregnancy (she was wonderful but my due date is in the middle of her annual leave).
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Posted By: AzzaNZ
Date Posted: 14 January 2010 at 6:40pm
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I just called the nurse for my HCG results and she said they are "high high"
Apparently they are 138 000 at 6w6d They were 75 000 at 5w5d So I'm happy. Will see what GP says tomorrow. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: cuppatea
Date Posted: 14 January 2010 at 6:48pm
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wow they are high, mine were 74,000 at 7w and my mw was talking about twins. -------------
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Posted By: AzzaNZ
Date Posted: 14 January 2010 at 6:49pm
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Dont say the twins word, I think I'd just keel over! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: cuppatea
Date Posted: 14 January 2010 at 7:09pm
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I turned out to be a couple of days ahead at my scan, and just one baby. Was very afraid there were gonna be two in there though after her saying that to me.
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Posted By: asicsgal
Date Posted: 14 January 2010 at 8:56pm
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Awesome Azza, you must be feeling heaps better. That's great news. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: mummyofprinces
Date Posted: 14 January 2010 at 9:09pm
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Hmmm, what month are you due? I will see what I can do! Can you PM me your current mw (so i know who you have and I will ask around). -------------
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Posted By: didi99
Date Posted: 15 January 2010 at 9:56am
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Azza that's a fantastic result!! So happy for you. ------------- Angel Babies Nov 09, May 10, Dec 10
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Posted By: pikaboo
Date Posted: 15 January 2010 at 10:50pm
hi azza i had been offline for a week and just read through this thread with horror....until the last few posts  very happy your HCG levels are so high now....phew!!
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Posted By: Emmi_
Date Posted: 17 January 2010 at 7:06pm
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Azza..... WOW!!!! Those are massively high levels!! Im so glad for you hun I hope the scan goes just as well!
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Posted By: kelzie_rose
Date Posted: 27 January 2010 at 1:47pm
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Hi all, my name is Kelly, I live in Auckland with my Hubby and our two cats. I work full time at the Auckland SPCA.
I found out I was 6 weeks 3 days pregnant a few weeks back and my due date was early September, we had even seen the heartbeat on the monitor when I went for a scan. Five days later I miscarried. Hubby and I had been trying for two years to conceive so as you can imagine, we were pretty depressed about it. I want to start trying again right now, but know that I shouldn't yet. I have scrutinized absolutely everything, if I had done things differently, would Prawn still be here, if I had done something, if I hadn't done something. Worse than the agony of that, is having my best friend - who is not even thinking about trying to have kids yet, only that she does want them at some point - reading up on miscarriage and talking to me about it, giving me advice. She's offered to be a surrogate after she's had her four kids. And has told me that she knows how I feel as she once had a late period and thought she could be pregnant and was sad when she got her period two days later. Grrr. -------------  Started TTC Apr 2008 With PCOS and a bicornuate uterus Our angel babies Jan 2010 <3 Oct 2010 <3 Apr 2011 <3 |
Posted By: AzzaNZ
Date Posted: 27 January 2010 at 2:01pm
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(((HUGS))) Kelzie
Your friend needs a lesson in sensitivity. You lost a baby, you didnt have a late period
We started trying again straight away after my miscarriage because we didnt have a lot of time on our side (my partner is quite a lot older). Only you will know when you feel ready to try again. I know you from the Sept due date thread and I know how careful you were - you definitely did not do anything to cause the miscarriage! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: babygiraffe
Date Posted: 28 January 2010 at 1:30pm
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Kelzie, come join us in the Charting - TTC after M/C thread. It doesn't matter that you are not charting (but it might give you some ideas!) and we have all been throught a m/c so we know how you feel. Its a really sad time, so many emotions going on. You didn't do anything wrong, its just one of those things in life.
Dont worry , I told one of the girls I work with when I miscarried and she went on to tell me that she knew how I felt because she terminated a pg when she was 20 or something. cough cough. Ummmm, but I actually wanted this one??? People try to tell you things they think is right and until you have been through it youself, you never really know what that person is going through.
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Posted By: Emmi_
Date Posted: 28 January 2010 at 1:39pm
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OMG MrsH!
Kelzie, I discovered charting after my MC, my cycles were irregular after I mced and it was good to know what was going on. But thats just me and some dont like to chart as its too "planned", others cycles go back to how they were pre MC, so totally up to you. Sending you big hugs anyway, people just dont get it unless they have been there them selves, and even then not everyone sees things the same way, so just take your friend with a grain of salt, and find someone else to talk to (talking is good!) who thinks more along the lines of you -------------
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Posted By: kelzie_rose
Date Posted: 28 January 2010 at 3:55pm
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Aww thanks girls. Emmi, I've always been very irregular so planning is a bit hard. Only got my period 4 days last year.
Will see you at the Charting thread! ------------- Started TTC Apr 2008 With PCOS and a bicornuate uterus Our angel babies Jan 2010 <3 Oct 2010 <3 Apr 2011 <3 |