If iknew then
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Topic: If iknew then
Posted By: Bizzy
Subject: If iknew then
Date Posted: 19 December 2009 at 7:35pm
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what having kids would do to my body, relationships, marriage, sanity
If i knew then what hard work being a parent is and how bloody thankless being a mum is... Well then i would not have done it! If only i knew then!  ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker"> 
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Posted By: peanut butter
Date Posted: 19 December 2009 at 7:45pm
yeah ya would have ....cos when they are asleep...its all worth while
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Posted By: jaycee
Date Posted: 19 December 2009 at 7:49pm
 big hugs Bizzy - sounds like you have had a crap day/week/month. Join me in a glass of wine 
DH and I say that every night when we go to check on the girls before we go to bed - such demons when awake, such angels when asleep  -------------   
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nzpiper wrote:Posted By: emz
Date Posted: 19 December 2009 at 7:53pm
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Hehe I love being a mum.. when they're tucked up in bed for the night
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Posted By: weegee
Date Posted: 19 December 2009 at 10:35pm
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Big hugs this has been a rough year for you. Next year will be better! ------------- 
Mum to JJ, 4 July 2008 & Addie, 28 July 2010 |
Posted By: Shezamumof3
Date Posted: 19 December 2009 at 11:20pm
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I hear ya!!
I was thinking somewhat the same thing today. But then I go in and look at my little sleeping babies and they are so worth it  I wouldn't be without them.------------- |
Posted By: kiwikid
Date Posted: 20 December 2009 at 2:13am
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Hard work for sure and this time of year is particularly stressful, here's hoping the New Year brings some peace and relaxation for you Bizzy - sounds like you need some 'ME' time xx ------------- 
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Posted By: james
Date Posted: 20 December 2009 at 7:21am
i would still do it no questoin big hugs bizzy hope you feel better soon ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: ooEvaoo
Date Posted: 20 December 2009 at 8:40am
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I don't regret having Kahtrell. He is my proudest accomplishment....and yes he tests my patience on a daily basis!...but he is totally awesome. Having him turned my life down a different path. I had that drive to return to studying again. It's a kids job to wind their parents up, and wreek havoc!....but God wouldn't bless us with these beautiful gifts if he didn't think we were up to it. ------------- 
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Posted By: Muz
Date Posted: 20 December 2009 at 9:50am
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hey Bizzy, hope you are doing OK.
If I had a crystal ball and could see into the future as what life was like with kids - i would have done it a bit differently! Maybe waited a bit longer and had a bit more time overseas. But I wouldnt be without my girls now - such a challenge, but I like a good challenge!! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: kellie
Date Posted: 20 December 2009 at 11:51am
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Bizzy
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Posted By: Bobbie
Date Posted: 20 December 2009 at 4:46pm
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Sorry you're having a tough time of it. -------------  
 
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Posted By: cuppatea
Date Posted: 20 December 2009 at 6:37pm
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I'm feeling the same way, am just so totally over it all. I know understand why sometimes my mum would just leave the house for a while, cos we were all ungrateful little bastards as well. That's also when my Dad would suddenly get us all cleaning and tidying (and do some himself), so just goes to show that never changes either cos my DH only helps when I'm pissed off and hasn't yet worked out that if he helped in the first place I wouldn't get the arseholes. ------------- 
 
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Posted By: SMoody
Date Posted: 21 December 2009 at 10:22am
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I actually think perhaps we should let our hubby's, partners, or fathers of the kiddies know that we are putting our leave forms in and that we will be leaving everything in their capable (perhaps sometimes not capable but we are at the not caring stage) and that we will be leaving for a holiday. No kids or dirty laundry or any guys welcome to join and we might come back after a week or 2, depending on how quickly we miss our loved ones but right now we need a break.
You want to come with me Bizzy? Just dont know what Andrew will think of hubby's boobs and no milk in them. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: jaz
Date Posted: 21 December 2009 at 1:01pm
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It gets easier as they get older and some days you have those magical moments when they are all playing nicely. You just need to hang onto those moments. And when you are having a bad day remember the day will end, they will be in bed asleep, and you will be able to sit down and put your feet up and take some time out. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: pikelets
Date Posted: 21 December 2009 at 6:44pm
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Posted By: Raspberryjam
Date Posted: 21 December 2009 at 6:48pm
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Im coming too and if I wasnt bl**dy pregnant right now Id be drunk - Im so over it too
My daughter is beautiful and I love her to bits, and same goes for DH but I just dont have the patience of a saint ------------- http://lilypie.com] 
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Posted By: cuppatea
Date Posted: 21 December 2009 at 7:37pm
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I went to bed at 8pm last night so I feel a lot better today :) -------------
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Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 21 December 2009 at 8:30pm
i'll have a glass for you then! I'm thinking of becoming an alcoholic! ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker">
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Posted By: AandCsmum
Date Posted: 21 December 2009 at 11:08pm
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I've been keeping my eyes peeled for a child rehome service...they have them for animals, why not kids!
God help us that we are less than a week into school holidays! From She who had a crap day as well. ------------- Kel http://lilypie.com"> 
A = 01.02.04 & C = 16.01.09 & G = 30.03.12 |
Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 22 December 2009 at 1:23am
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id rather have mine than not ,and I know some don't get to have them , or don't live to enjoy them , so im very grateful ,....... but sometimes I could gladly hibernate in a cave till they are grown up ...
Think of it this way , one day , your children may have kids of their own , and then , you can laugh at them . While drinking your wine ------------- 
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Posted By: MrsH
Date Posted: 22 December 2009 at 9:23am
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Hah, that reminds me - DS was wriggling all over the place the other day and I said to my ILs that he's gonna be a handful and was DH hyperactive when he was a kid?
They looked at each other and laughed!! ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: jaz
Date Posted: 22 December 2009 at 9:39am
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Kids are always revolting in the week up until Xmas. I remember my mother saying this. It's like the tension and excitement all build up and its too much for them. When Brooke was younger I used to plan big days out at the beach, like a day trip to Piha or somewhere, with a bunch of other Mum's and we'd run them ragged all day long and stay out until about 8pm so they would crash when they got home. It was a bit of a safety in numbers type of thing, you were far less likely to strangle your own child in front of someone. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: ElfsMum
Date Posted: 22 December 2009 at 11:59am
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before i had kids if i read that i would be like....'how can she say that' but i understand what makes you say that..
hugs to you.. dunno how you did three pregnancies..this one is doing my head in!!! and my son is wonderful and i feel blessed to have him but nighttimes are great..:) esp lately as he only wants Dad to re settle him ;) ------------- Mum to two amazing boys! |
Posted By: GuestGuest
Date Posted: 22 December 2009 at 12:08pm
I'm the opposite, I don't have kids (yet) and that is precisely why we keep putting it off! Life seems so much more pleasant without them 
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Posted By: ElfsMum
Date Posted: 22 December 2009 at 1:27pm
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lol at least you are honest little sal:)
i wont deny it its much much harder than i thought but man one smile from that little guy is enough to make my day as well :) ------------- Mum to two amazing boys! |
Posted By: cuppatea
Date Posted: 22 December 2009 at 2:10pm
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Yeah they drive you totally batty and make you feel like ripping you hair out and poking yourself in the eyes, then they do something just too sweet (like my two holding hands and giggling in the back of the car) and your heart just melts and it is all worth it.
I must admit from 5pm I am on the countdown to bedtime -------------
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Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 22 December 2009 at 2:20pm
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Cause no body wants someone else's kids ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">   [/url] Angel June 2012 |
Posted By: Raspberryjam
Date Posted: 22 December 2009 at 3:07pm
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I'm the opposite, I don't have kids (yet) and that is precisely why we keep putting it off! Life seems so much more pleasant without them
[/QUOTE] As much as I could have left mine at the op shop yesterday, I dont know that life is more pleasant without her, but sooo much easier!! she has just told me she has a poo, so i had better go deal to that  always a joy------------- http://lilypie.com]
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