Am I Wrong?
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Topic: Am I Wrong?
Posted By: Tastic
Subject: Am I Wrong?
Date Posted: 12 January 2010 at 11:31am
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Am I wrong to be really pissed off at my Midwife/s?
I was admitted to hospital for 5 days on the 27th December. I got out the 31st. since then I've had no contact from the midwife - who I later found out is on holiday but she never said anything to me when she saw me on the Sunday! I've since then been texting and also rang a couple of times the back up midwife.WITH NOT A WORD! the hospital wanted me to been seen by my midwife within a few days of being discharged! I was supposed to have an appointment this morning which I had to text and cancel and still nothing you think it would be nice to at least flippen reply! ARGH! since I turned 27 weeks I'm no longer classed as high risk so they just don't give a sh*t! am I wrong for feeling like they really don't care? for feeling like I'm on the back burner so to speak? anyone else just gone with the hospital midwife's instead of having a LMC? |
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Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 12 January 2010 at 11:49am
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No contact from them is bad...
I went thru the hospital team with my first two pregnancies and they were fab! A much better experience than the independent mw i had thats for sure! ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker"> 
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Posted By: Mum2ET
Date Posted: 12 January 2010 at 12:04pm
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I would be pissed off at them as well- that is really,really bad of them not to get in touch and especially not to reply to you.
I agree maybe changing midwives would be a good idea (I have no experience with the hospital midwives sorry). ------------- Mum to Ella (5) and Tom (2) |
Posted By: mummyofprinces
Date Posted: 12 January 2010 at 12:22pm
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I think i would be on the look out for a new mw tbh....
Hope you are doing ok hun -------------   
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Posted By: Tastic
Date Posted: 12 January 2010 at 12:27pm
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thanks lady's
I mean I know that some text messages can take a wee while to go through but given the fact Im still wating from December Im a bit over it now. Ive not only text but have rung a few times with no answer or reply to my messages Will ring the hospital soon and see what they suggest I do |
Posted By: Mummy2three
Date Posted: 12 January 2010 at 1:11pm
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Hi Tastic, so sorry to hear you are having such a tough time with your midwife/s. Whatever concerns you have you should be able to call them anytime and have them contact you back as soon as they can. I think it is really unacceptable that no-one has got back to you yet! I would say that if you are not 100% happy then look into another midwife.
With my first child I changed my midwife when I was 38 weeks. I felt like she wasn't worried about my concerns and just brushed things away when I asked. I got a hospital midwife and she was just FANTASTIC. My new midwife even called my old midwife to tell her I wouldn't be needing her anymore e.t.c because I didn't feel confident ringing her. I felt like in the 3 weeks (went overdue) I got to know the new midwife I felt a better bond then I did with the old midwife. I think if you have any bad feelings towards your midwife you need to sort it out because you need to feel 100% supported and trust your midwife. Anyway, hopefully you can get things sorted and feel better *HUGS* 
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Posted By: Caro07
Date Posted: 12 January 2010 at 1:14pm
I don't think you are being unreasonable at all. Not very professional of your midwife either. I hope they would be a bit more prompt if it was an emergency 
ETA : I have never been classes as high risk but I would be very annoyed if I couldn't contact my MW and she didn't bother to phone back. ------------- Caroline, SAHM to 2 boys, S (4 years old) and J (2 years old) 
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Posted By: LittleBug
Date Posted: 12 January 2010 at 2:44pm
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I think it's shocking not to get a reply, especially by now! Grrr. I've not really been classed as high risk either but my MW still contacted me ASAP whenever I texted or called her with concerns and I couldn't get hold of her straight away.
If you are uncomfortable with the level of care you are receiving then I would definitely think about changing MW. ------------- Chloe (4 years) and Oliver (3 years). |
Posted By: ElfsMum
Date Posted: 12 January 2010 at 2:56pm
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i just find it so weird they dont get back to you ..backup was 10 mins late and txted me to tell me and has txted me back last question as well.. and the normal one rings or txts me too..i just dont get why they treat you so badly:( ------------- Mum to two amazing boys! |
Posted By: EmDee
Date Posted: 12 January 2010 at 4:10pm
Nope not at all! I think the way you've been treated is terrible! If I've contacted my MWs they both contact me as soon as they can even if I've said its nothing urgent. I'd look for another mw too. ------------- DS 8 DD 6 DS 4 DD 2 |
Tastic wrote:Posted By: Hunnybunny
Date Posted: 12 January 2010 at 5:03pm
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Sorry a little bit off topic... But is that the same as everyone who is high risk? Once your past that stage your no longer high risk?
Just asking as (HORRIBLE story to follow!!!!!!!!) my friend lost baby at 24 weeks due to a virus, which shes now immune to. She talks about trying and how she is under the high risk team and will be getting checked weekly from ttc right up until birth.... Will she also be dropped from high risk at about 25 weeks? |
Posted By: babyg
Date Posted: 12 January 2010 at 5:19pm
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I presume Trish's high risk ended at 27wks as that's when her prem boy was born previously HB. It would be different for every high risk mum due to their particular situation HB.
How are you getting on Trish - any decisions made? ------------- Ev, Mum to: Carys Ruby - 4 October 2007 Spencer James - 2 July 2010 |
Posted By: AandCsmum
Date Posted: 12 January 2010 at 5:37pm
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My friend who had a 28 weeker the first time around, was considered HR for both pregnancys after that, even when her 2nd preg went full term.
BUT your midwife should have passed over her pager/cellphone to her backup if she was on holiday! Yeah I'd be pissed!! ------------- Kel http://lilypie.com"> 
A = 01.02.04 & C = 16.01.09 & G = 30.03.12 |
Posted By: Tastic
Date Posted: 12 January 2010 at 6:15pm
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thanks everyone.
HB - how horrible for your friend  I really hope she doesn't get dropped like I did. because her baby ended up dieing she will most probably be classed as highrisk for her entire pregnancy
Aidan was born at 26w 5d and once I got past that I was no longer classed as high risk but get this. I had the 2 infections that I did which caused Aidans early arrival (strepB and ureaplasma) they didnt even do any tests or anything to make sure they had gone away. the OB I seen at the time was just a fillin so said yeah because Im past his gestation Im not highrisk now. Ive been in hospital twice since then and both times the register has been highly upset that Im not being seen my an OB or more regularly from the mw Like I say, I just feel on the back burner. Left to it . (and I even had the comment made that because Ive had two labours Id know whats going on!) no decisions yet as have slept most the afternoon! will make some phone calls in the morning |
Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 12 January 2010 at 6:42pm
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i was with a high risk team thru the hospital with my first and second pregnancies and i was with the high risk team the whole way through. It seems funny that you are not classed as high risk now trish. i would definitley look at going with a hospital team. ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker">
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Posted By: ElfsMum
Date Posted: 12 January 2010 at 6:56pm
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i do find it very bizarre they just dropped you..i dont get why you are suddenly not high risk..though i guess they wouldnt even test me and i had same infections as you:( all because i had not had a pre term..if i had they would have been in big trouble:( ------------- Mum to two amazing boys! |
Posted By: girly_girl
Date Posted: 12 January 2010 at 7:20pm
Tastic, aside from being high risk, it is common courtesy to return a phone call within a reasonable timeframe. I would be horrified if I was in your position. You are not getting the treatment you deserve, so I would defo be looking at the hospital mw's.
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Posted By: Muz
Date Posted: 12 January 2010 at 8:36pm
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that is terrible treatment, and i would be changing asap - you need someone to be supportive, and if they dont get back to you, they are of no use!!!
I was high risk for my first two DD's also, and was seen thru the hospital and used hospital midwives and I cant speak highly enough of the care i received, and there was someone on the end of the phone 24/7. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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