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Topic: Poor kid
Posted By: pepsi
Subject: Poor kid
Date Posted: 15 January 2010 at 9:12pm
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I took Kayla to the supermarket today and whilst at the checkout I could hear the middle aged couple in front of me discussing whether or not she's a boy or a girl. I didn't hear every word, but at one point the woman said to the man "ooohhh that's mean".. which I gather wasn't a compliment. As they finished paying and I pulled in with my trolley they both stood there for a second waiting for her to turn around and then I could see the woman shrug her shoulders and utter something about still not being sure. I just called out "She's a girl!".
Then the middle aged checkout operator told me I should get her ears pierced because "she's only young and won't feel it". And that boys wear red which is why it was hard to tell she's a girl (it's orange, not red dumbass!) I wasn't too upset about all this or anything. Just made me feel like the place was full of idiots today haha Here is a photo of Kayla and what she was wearing today. I didn't choose the outfit, her nana bought it for her (I probably wouldn't buy orange personally), but it's a change from pink Poor kid..I'm sure she'll grow hair one day! 
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Posted By: kellie
Date Posted: 15 January 2010 at 9:16pm
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Gorgeous daughter you have there Pepsi. She is absolutely stunning, and obviously a little girl!!
Don't worry, everyone in the supermarket now thinks my son is a girl because of his hair and eye lashes. I corrected one person, and they said "Oh he is to pretty to be a boy!"  ------------- 
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Posted By: BeLoved
Date Posted: 15 January 2010 at 9:17pm
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Yep you are right the place was full of idiots! To me it would be obvious that Kayla was a girl, but more importantly if I was not sure the last thing I would do is discuss it!
My DD has been dressed in pink covered in a pink blanket and still someone said "he is so cute" and DD has hair! There are many many idiots out there thats for sure. Oh and BTW she is totally GORGEOUS! I love the facials in the 1st pic. |
Posted By: tishy
Date Posted: 15 January 2010 at 9:17pm
lol! I feel your 'pain' . 
I had one checkout lady wonder why I a) dressed my boy/girl twins in matching clothes and b) why I had pink on my son. 
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Posted By: Katep
Date Posted: 15 January 2010 at 9:17pm
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She is beautiful! Definately looks like a girl, even without a flowery top.
Anyway, why on earth do other people need to know if she is a girl or boy, how is it relevant to them. And did the operater say that to you out of nowhere? If so, I would make a complaint. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
Mum to the Gorgeous Leah! 7 months |
Posted By: Muz
Date Posted: 15 January 2010 at 9:18pm
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I think she looks great!! And very def looks like a dear wee girl. I put my girls in all sorts of colours for a change from pink! Dani even has her own all blacks top at 8 months!
There are some very strange people out there. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Snappy
Date Posted: 15 January 2010 at 9:19pm
I don't understand why they would think she is a girl! She is far too pretty 
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Posted By: Manda08
Date Posted: 15 January 2010 at 9:19pm
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OMG she has cute little girl written all over that face!! Gosh some people eh!!!
We recently had to get DS haircut as people constantly thought he was a girl... hello look at the clothes!!! ------------- 
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Posted By: _H_
Date Posted: 15 January 2010 at 9:19pm
Are they blind? all they need to do is look at her and you can tell she is a gorgeous girl! 
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Posted By: cuppatea
Date Posted: 15 January 2010 at 9:19pm
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Ha, we use to get the too pretty to be a boy comment with Spencer as well, and him mistaken for a girl often despite being head to toe in blue. He looks much more boyish now he is a bit older.
Kayla is gorgeous and doesn't look like a boy at all, and that outfit screams girl even if it is orange. Some people are just retarded. ------------- 
 
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Posted By: jaycee
Date Posted: 15 January 2010 at 9:19pm
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don't worry, her hair will grow but those people will still be stupid
When Amy was small, we were in a lift one day and some random guy looked into the push chair and said - "what a cute baby, is it a boy or a girl" - hhmmm, the PINK blanket, PINK hat and PINK jacket don't give you a hint  -------------   
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Posted By: pepsi
Date Posted: 15 January 2010 at 9:20pm
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Haha thanks ladies, we think she's pretty cute too.
Katep: The checkout lady said that in response to me pointing out to the couple that she is a girl. I guess she couldn't tell either until I said it haha |
Posted By: Daizy
Date Posted: 15 January 2010 at 9:20pm
Its got flowers on it!  I am sure we get a lot of the same comments about Maddi (and Keira too back in the day) and I know I dont help it by hardly ever dressing her in pink.
I used to try dressing Keira in pink frilly dresses and we would still get strangers coming up saying "isn't he a sweet little man". I gave up after that, some people are just too... dumb! Its the hair, girls are supposed to have long hair and boys short.
ETA. She is just gorgeous, and such a girl! Gosh this thread moved fast! ------------- 
 
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Posted By: tishy
Date Posted: 15 January 2010 at 9:21pm
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Maybe you might invest in one of http://www.babybangshairband.com/index2.php - these
For the girl who has everything except hair 
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Posted By: jaycee
Date Posted: 15 January 2010 at 9:22pm
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those are just creepy!! -------------
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Posted By: pepsi
Date Posted: 15 January 2010 at 9:22pm
Haha I remember seeing that site...I think I'd rather she looked like a little baldy than force her to wear a creepy baby-wig! hahaha 
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tishy wrote:Posted By: hannibal
Date Posted: 15 January 2010 at 9:23pm
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This made me giggle!!!! Kayla looks like a girl to me. We get this all the time too - how old is he .... I always go SHE IS ... argh - and most times she is wearing girly colours - if I knew how to add a photo I would!
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Posted By: tishy
Date Posted: 15 January 2010 at 9:24pm
How about The Donald? 
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Posted By: angel4
Date Posted: 15 January 2010 at 9:25pm
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Looks like a beautiful little girl to me.
People keep asking if henry is a boy. Because we havent cut his hair yet and its curly. Kellie - we have also had the comment 'oh hes too pretty to be a boy' what a stupid think to say when ive just said he's a boy. duh There are a lot of idiots out there 
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Posted By: .Mel
Date Posted: 15 January 2010 at 9:40pm
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Of course she'll grow hair, and she'll have hair like my DD! She had noooo hair when she was a wee person and now she's got too much of it.
I still get it with DS "oh what a cute girl" and he's dressed in blue with a big huge truck on his tshirt *shakes head*.. ------------- Mr Mellow (16) Miss Attitude (8) Destructa Kid (3) 
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Posted By: Raspberryjam
Date Posted: 15 January 2010 at 10:00pm
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She is obviously a girl and a very beautiful one at that. She has lovely bone structure and beautiful almond shaped eyes. I know you are very proud of having made such a gorgeous wee person, and so you should be, well done you x ------------- http://lilypie.com] 
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Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 15 January 2010 at 10:00pm
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that is just silly - of course she looks like a girl in an orange frilly top.. duh to them!
people used to think my boys were girls... ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker"> 
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Posted By: palomino
Date Posted: 15 January 2010 at 10:01pm
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I didnt have hair until i was 2 and apparently mum got those comments.
But then on the other foot brennan gets called a girl when hes dressed in blue with cars etc... so ya cant win. I think Kayla is gorgeous! much love for the baldy babies |
Posted By: jazzy
Date Posted: 15 January 2010 at 10:20pm
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oh she is so cute some people are so rude they think they have every right to make there stupid comments.
I got asked if one of my boys was a girl...derssed in blue
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Posted By: MummyFreckle
Date Posted: 15 January 2010 at 10:20pm
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It seems to me that "idiots" seem to hang out at supermarket checkouts making dumb ass comments about other peoples children - especially the cute ones!!!
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Posted By: MrsH23
Date Posted: 15 January 2010 at 10:32pm
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I've had the people asking if DS is a boy when he's dressed in definitely boy looking clothes too, some people are just silly
I agree with the others too, she's such a cute wee girl, no mistaking it!! When I was a baby and my Dad took me out for the first time someone made a comment about what a lovely boy he had, Dad got quite upset with the comment and said, yes SHE is beautiful isn't she, especially with all that lace on her outfit!!! ------------- Lisa mummy to Ryan http://www.alterna-tickers.com"> 
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Posted By: Bobbie
Date Posted: 15 January 2010 at 10:35pm
This made me spit out my coffee
Yep I agree - for a start she's wearing a DRESS (or smocky thing). What boy would wear that? And secondly she looks like a GIRL. -------------  
 
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Posted By: M2K
Date Posted: 15 January 2010 at 10:39pm
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Yes she is a boy in a pretty orange top with flowers on it! Yeeeaaaaap, some people are just muppets, cos she is GORGEOUS!
I get asked if Keira is a girl or boy, I understand if she is wearing red or green, but when dressed in pink with pink blankets and a head band with a bracelet I STILL get asked if she is a boy or girl haha... muppets!! ------------- 
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Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 15 January 2010 at 10:43pm
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Oh for goodness sakes , she looks like a little girl to me !
Now Caitlyn , she looked like a boy , I got quite used to people saying " ooh , whats your little boys name ?" " Caleb" I would say , and walk off . ------------- 
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Posted By: pepsi
Date Posted: 15 January 2010 at 10:49pm
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Awww thanks for all the kind words everyone
I know it's a common issue I have read about here before in other threads. Lots of dumb dumbs around! And sure, I'll admit I have seen kids where I haven't been 100% sure either, but at least I'll just ask..and I certainly wouldn't tell someone their kid is too pretty to be a boy, or butch looking to be a girl! haha |
Posted By: HippyMama
Date Posted: 15 January 2010 at 10:54pm
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Pepsi - I don't know if you'd remember, but E at that age didn't really have a hang of a lot of hair either and yep... we got a few of the very same comments
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Posted By: bext1
Date Posted: 15 January 2010 at 11:20pm
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Pepsi, she's gorgeous!
and most definitely a girl! Some people are just stupid. It's like asking if twins are twins. DUH! ------------- 
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Posted By: High9
Date Posted: 15 January 2010 at 11:29pm
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Gorgeous! Definitely a girl, not sure how anyone couldn't see that?? And I mean her tshirt has flowers on it... so CMON!! Plus I'm pretty sure a boy wouldn't be wearing tights but maybe I'm wrong?
BTW I looked like a little Russian boy until I was about 2 and my hair decided to grow past the top of my ears!! Didn't help that my mum liked to put baby doc martins on me, navy tracksuit pants and forest green cardies! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Hopes
Date Posted: 15 January 2010 at 11:50pm
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She's beautiful. And she looks like a wee pixie with her short hair. Soooo rude of them! -------------   
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Posted By: kiwisj
Date Posted: 16 January 2010 at 12:07am
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OMG!!!!!!!!!!!!
DH and I (and all our mates) are ALWAYS laughing at people where who insist on asking "boy or girl" about Callum (I get it at least once a week). We just thought it was a Singapore thing. But perhaps dumb dumbs are just everywhere!! FWIW I think Kayla is GORGEOUS and definitely looks like a girl to me  ------------- SJ Callum - Dec 2008 Daniel - Oct 2010 |
Posted By: Shezamumof3
Date Posted: 16 January 2010 at 1:06am
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Grrr people are so dumb sometimes!!!!!!!
I had someone ask if caden was boy or girl, he was decked out in blue! ------------- |
Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 16 January 2010 at 1:34am
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I had C dressed in pink head to toe and wrapped in a pink blanket, and they still asked how old my son was .
I said he was 4 weeks .... -------------
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Posted By: X
Date Posted: 16 January 2010 at 12:01pm
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We used to get asked if DS was a girl too-because OBVIOUSLY he must be a girl if he's wearing a necklace. You morons-they're amber teething beads. And then once I'd explained to them that they're actually teething beads not a necklace the morons would say, "oh, for chewing on?". Some people you just can't help....
I think Kayla is gorgeous. ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 16 January 2010 at 12:26pm
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kayla and taine share a similar haircut - neither of my kids got hair until late in life. my mum swears i was about 5 before she cut my hair.
but anyway, kayla is clearly a wee girl. dumb asses. |
Posted By: _SMS_
Date Posted: 16 January 2010 at 1:20pm
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Awww she looks like a girl too me, very cute too.
I think you just cant win. My girl has had heaps of hair from day one!! A few times people have thought she was a boy while wearing pink!! Some people must really have a screw loose lol -------------  
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Posted By: clover
Date Posted: 16 January 2010 at 2:04pm
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She is so clearly a girl!!!
Some people are so dumb.... |
Posted By: WRXnKids
Date Posted: 16 January 2010 at 2:06pm
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I love how at mcdonalds at the counter they look at josh then me and say boy or girl toy - Umm seriously? Everything the boy wears is Cars!
Next time i go to the supermarket i think ill take him in a pink dress I LOVE DUMBASSES they make the day more fun (oh his auntie put him in a pink dress once and he definitely looked like a baby drag queen) -------------   
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Posted By: razzmatazz
Date Posted: 16 January 2010 at 8:58pm
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she is super cute and def looks like a girl,
and that wig site is just super CREEPY!! eeeek ------------- http://lilypie.com">  
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Posted By: RoSee
Date Posted: 16 January 2010 at 10:08pm
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OMG she's fricken GORGEOUS!!!!!!!! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: _Deb_
Date Posted: 16 January 2010 at 11:14pm
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I think it's pretty obvious she's a gorgeous little GIRL. I think her outfit is adorable too. Some people are just stupid. ------------- 
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Posted By: BugTeeny
Date Posted: 17 January 2010 at 6:53am
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I'll jump on the "She'd absolutely gorgeous" bandwagon, too..
Not only were those people dumb for questioning it, but could it not have waited until they were in the car to discuss it?  What does it even matter to them, anyway?
If I'm unsure I'll just say something like "What a cutie, how old?" And hope they'll answer with a "s/he's xx". If they don't offer the gender I'll just smile and say "Lovely" and move on
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Posted By: KiwiL
Date Posted: 17 January 2010 at 8:48am
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I don't understand how people can't tell the difference. It's very rare to see a baby that you can't tell. AND - most parents make it pretty obvious by the clothing.
Just recently I have had a lot of people ask how old "she" is about Jackson. Admittedly, his hair looks like it's been flicked out with a hair straightener and his long eyelashes and the green clothing I love doesn't really help! I agree that it's clear that Kayla is a (beautiful) girl! |
Posted By: my4beauties
Date Posted: 17 January 2010 at 3:19pm
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How rude and stupid are they?!?!
She's absolutely stunning and CLEARLY a girl! I wouldn't put a boy in that colour.
Far, some people need to get out more if they can't work that one out ------------- My babies: R (9),G (7), J (5) http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: rachelsea
Date Posted: 17 January 2010 at 3:39pm
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Aww, poor Kayla! She's so gorgeous and obviously a little girl!!!
I am constantly getting asked about Chelsea "How old is he?" coz she doesn't have hair either! Even when she's dressed fully in pink it's annoying eh, it's not like we shave their heads haha------------- DD 4yrs DS 2yrs http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: Lexidore
Date Posted: 17 January 2010 at 6:54pm
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Yumi! Those people are complete muppets, you did well to only say what you did! And for what its worth, Lexie has already been called a boy a few times and you know how much hair she has! One of the people that called her a boy was a nurse at the hospital! ------------- 
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Posted By: asicsgal
Date Posted: 17 January 2010 at 7:32pm
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OMG- she is definately a gorgeous girl!!!!!! No mistaking it at all.
As others have said some people are real dumb arses!!!!!!!!! ------------- http://lilypie.com">  
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Posted By: Chickoin
Date Posted: 17 January 2010 at 7:59pm
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Wow, that check out chick had some wonderful advice!
Yeap, also agree that Kayla is one girly looking girl. OMG at the baby wig site! Haha, they don't seem to have any testimonials or photos... I wonder if they have ever sold a single wig... -------------   
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 17 January 2010 at 8:00pm
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Ha ha, did they turn around and go bright red when you let on that you'd heard them .
My gremlins still get called boys, poor follicularly-challenged children that they are. It doesn't worry me - they know that they're girls, and that's all that matters. -------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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Posted By: SMoody
Date Posted: 18 January 2010 at 10:41am
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I dont really mind if people dont know if my child is a boy or girl. To be honest when they are so little it is a bit difficult to see if they are boy or girl and these days there is not traditional colors as such anymore.
I dont mind them coming up even and asking boy or girl although I did get upset if they asked and McKayla was totally in freaking pink. That is a dead give away. And I had now and then people asking me if Andrew is a girl although about 90% they assume it is a boy first. But to go and discuss it ect where the parent would be able to hear is just no one at all. And your girl is supercute and to me look totally like a little girl and a very cute one at that. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: clover
Date Posted: 18 January 2010 at 12:45pm
| I was just reading this again and wanted to add that her eyes are just stunning! |
Posted By: pepsi
Date Posted: 18 January 2010 at 6:03pm
Actually no, they were too ignorant to even care. Thanks again for the compliments about Kayla everyone
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Posted By: AzzaNZ
Date Posted: 18 January 2010 at 7:50pm
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But she is beautiful!! What was wrong with those people?
My daughter didnt grow hair until late and was also mistaken for a boy a lot. But your daughter has such lovely petite features I dont know why anyone would be confused ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Emmecat
Date Posted: 18 January 2010 at 7:55pm
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Jeez some people are rude aye?
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