hmmmm...what should i have said??
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Topic: hmmmm...what should i have said??
Posted By: ellabellame
Subject: hmmmm...what should i have said??
Date Posted: 17 January 2010 at 9:49am
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so....i was cooking tea last night and all of sudden DP comes up behind me and put his arms around me. he then proceeds to say (without any lead up or warning or anything) "I've been thinking a lot about marriage lately".
I was completely taken off guard so what i blurted out was "oh have you? How many eggs do you want?" the subject was effectively dropped but ever since then i've been wondering if maybe that wasn't what he wanted to hear. I don't want to give him the impression that i'm against marrying him, quite the opposite but i just wasn't prepared for him saying that, it came completely out of the blue! ------------- |
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Posted By: nannyabbey
Date Posted: 17 January 2010 at 9:58am
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whoops, but then boys don't always have the best sense of timing......
It might just be one of those situations where you need to find another moment and be honest and start the conversation again.....giving him the chance to say what he was thinking??!?!?? just don't avoid it or it will be the 'elephant in the room.....' |
Posted By: Raspberryjam
Date Posted: 17 January 2010 at 10:59am
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oops, maybe now you have had time to digest the thought, you could start a conversation with, 'so about this marriage idea, what were you thinking?' ------------- http://lilypie.com] 
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Posted By: LittleBug
Date Posted: 17 January 2010 at 11:00am
Ooooo 
Gosh, what timing. Lol! You might have to think of a way to subtley bring it up again   ------------- Chloe (4 years) and Oliver (3 years). |
Posted By: Flutterby
Date Posted: 17 January 2010 at 12:59pm
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Ditto on what everyone else was saying. Try and bring up the subject again.
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Posted By: myfullhouse
Date Posted: 17 January 2010 at 1:33pm
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Sorry I had a wee chuckle about your reply! But yea I can imagine that something out of the blue like that can throw you. As others have said, bring the subject up again, but maybe give him a little lead up to the topic so you don't throw him off guard this time! ------------- Lindsey 
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Posted By: EmDee
Date Posted: 17 January 2010 at 2:16pm
Lol, I had a giggle too 
I agree with what others have already said, sounds like you ned to start up the conversation again, best of luck!!! Oooh how exciting ------------- DS 8 DD 6 DS 4 DD 2 |
Posted By: peanut butter
Date Posted: 17 January 2010 at 2:28pm
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Just dont make it too subtle...men arent good with that. I'd do as raspberry said...
I nearly missed my proposal. It went like this .. me" what do you want to do in Paris this weekend?" DH" I dunno, maybe we could look for a ring, if you'll marry me" Me (still walking along) " what???? what did you just say?" I was so taken back that I didnt actually answer yes for a few minutes as I was trying to work out if that is what he had actually asked.....it was of course
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Posted By: Aprilfools
Date Posted: 17 January 2010 at 4:55pm
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How many eggs, that's gorgeous!!
I'd sit down next to him after the kids have gone to bed and after a few moments in a no pressure tone ask 'so what was it you had been thinking about marriage?'. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: SMoody
Date Posted: 17 January 2010 at 5:27pm
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You know what I will go up to him and give him a hug and say Yes. (if that is what you want) And if he asked you Huh. Then tell him that thing that you said this morning and me stupidly replied to. Well my answer is Yes if you are going to ask that is what my answer will be. And if he is still confused tell him you thinking about marriage. When you are ready my answer will be yes.
That way he wont be pushed into it, you make it clear what you want and he doesnt need to feel like you perhaps dont want to get married. I went down with a holiday with Grant and was suppose to fly up. We were lying on bed one day reading magazines or something and he looked at me all of a sudden and say Marry me. I literally laughed and told him he must be joking (we have only seen each other face to face for about 10 days by that stage before that we were friend on the net for about 4 or so months). I looked up and he was crying. Literally had tears running down his face and I felt super bad. I thought he was just joking but did feel the same and told him Yes. (he did however ask me later again as well just to make sure I was all with it ect) ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: jazzy
Date Posted: 17 January 2010 at 6:18pm
It is never like in the movies & it was not on a bended knee for me, my DH popped the big question over a cuppa, think he was working up to it cause he made the cuppa, ha ha , I had no idea & probably said something stupid like...oh ok then  We went & pick out a ring & he got it sized & he picked it up while I was in another shop & we meet in a crowed car park & he got down on 1 knee & asked me again as he slip that sparkly rock on my finger of course I said yes & was glad he did not get run over
So if I was in your position & after having time to think about it & if my answer was yes, I would make him a cuppa & ask him when you are going "rock" shopping or what month is he free
If it is something you want don't wait just answer the question...oh its exciting
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Posted By: Rachael21
Date Posted: 17 January 2010 at 9:18pm
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Lmao that gave me a wee laugh as well.
I would casually be bringing it up to give him his chance to say what he wanted and you couls say what you think as well. eek exciting
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Posted By: MrsMojo
Date Posted: 17 January 2010 at 9:34pm
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Haha, that's classic! DH and I were always going to get married (since we were teenagers) but I found out that he was actually planning on proposing when were were having an argument over money, more specifically how much of our money he was spending. Turns out he had designed a ring for me and was paying it off - oops -------------  
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Posted By: ellabellame
Date Posted: 18 January 2010 at 11:33am
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weeell....last night, after the kids had gone to bed i super casually i started 'the conversation' :
me: "so you know how you said you'd been thinking about marriage?" him: "yeah" me: "so, uh, what made you say that?" him: "because i have been" me: "oh...........cool" wow, we have amazing communication skills lol. so, i've had a chat with my mates that are also his mates and i think they're going to have a wee chat with him........omg, i feel so juvenile!! ------------- |
Posted By: peanut butter
Date Posted: 18 January 2010 at 11:40am
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Posted By: LittleBug
Date Posted: 18 January 2010 at 2:22pm
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Lol, that is too cute!!
MrsMojo, DH already knew I would say yes as well, but he was still super nervous about proposing too! I had even chosen the ring for him, just didn't know when he was going to pop the question. Funny men. ------------- Chloe (4 years) and Oliver (3 years). |
Posted By: Hunnybunny
Date Posted: 18 January 2010 at 4:49pm
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We went ring shopping and bought a ring together...
3months later and (believe it or not!) i got sick of it and asked him about it. We went to Queenstown for the weekend, nothing. THe next friday we went out for tea and was lying in bed after dinner and he said "I suppose you better have this" and rolled over after biffing it at me. Literally. Males!
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Posted By: ellabellame
Date Posted: 18 January 2010 at 5:23pm
hahaha classic!! i must admit i'm expecting something like that from DP if he ever gets around to properly asking. he's a typical southern bloke, i'm not sure he even has a romantic bone in his body lol. ------------- |
Hunnybunny wrote:Posted By: flakesitchyfeet
Date Posted: 18 January 2010 at 8:10pm
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Hunnybunny we were the same.
Went ring shopping together on holiday, chose it together, three months later, I'm soaking wet and grumpy after a shoddy riding lesson and he's sitting on his cousins bench, and says 'want this?'. Then I conveniently managed a head injury and lost some memory. The ring was being resized at the time, so I got a proper second proposal on a moonlit beach 
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Posted By: myfullhouse
Date Posted: 18 January 2010 at 11:00pm
That's brilliant! I apparently kept ruining DH's plans for proposing! We were at the Viaduct wandering around and every time he went to say something I would wander off. We finally sat still lon enough and he asked. He must have been nervous because apparently he was supposed to ask that night at dinner but he asked in the morning instead. He must have been pretty sure of my answer though as he asked my parents "permission" the week before ------------- Lindsey
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Posted By: Caronz
Date Posted: 19 January 2010 at 8:50am
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I love it!!!
I totally ruined DF plans and had a HUGE fight about it! DF had booked a hotel room and resturant and had the night all planned out. About 3 weeks before that our friend who, hadnt been seeing the lady long, got engaged. After having a few drinks with them and getting home late, I stupidly asked if he thought we would get married, he said NOT YET, I took that all the wrong way and thought that he ment after 2.5years together he still wasnt ready so I spat the dummy and stormed off to the couch. Long story short, he ment Not Yet because he had booked the evening for 3 weeks time! Poor lad had to tell me what he was planning so I would come back to bed! When the night arrived it was lovely and of course I said yes!
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Posted By: lilfatty
Date Posted: 19 January 2010 at 10:05am
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LOL - love this thread!
My DH picked me up from the airport (I flew to the UK to spend Christmas with his family). Anyway he told me he was lost (as we were in the middle of nowhere) so he pulled into this country manor house to "ask for directions" lol, turns out he had booked us into a suite .. so all I wanted to do was shower and sleep, but he was so excited he couldnt wait to propose, so he started reciting a poem he had written (a proposal poem) and even when he got down on his knee and said the last line of the poem (which was will you be my wife) and pulled out a platinum ring with a solataire diamond, I was still baffled .. poor boy .. took me a minute and then of course I said yes! He said it was the scariest few moments of his life with me standing there speechless. ------------- Mummy to Issy (3) and Elias (18 months) I did it .. 41 kgs gone! From flab to fab in under a year  http://www.femininefitness.co.nz/category/blog - LFs weight blog
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Posted By: Raspberryjam
Date Posted: 19 January 2010 at 10:19am
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hehe, cute, its kind of like will 'you go round with me '
I cant wait til you post a gorgeous story about him actually asking, im sure it will be even cuter! Everyone has rather cute stories actually, my first husband sat down next to me on the couch while i was folding the washing and said is this what you wanted. So not cute! Wont take much to beat that but im sure my new boyfriend will be much more romantic ------------- http://lilypie.com]
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Posted By: ellabellame
Date Posted: 19 January 2010 at 2:24pm
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aw this is so lovely reading everyone's proposal stories......hopefully i can add one of my own soon lol.
still no sign of 'the conversation' being brought back up. I guess i'll just have to do the normal thing and wait *sigh*. ------------- |
Posted By: surfergirl
Date Posted: 19 January 2010 at 7:26pm
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This has turned into a funny thread...at least your DHs asked YOU - I had to ask mine (although didn't break with tradition and did it on Leap Day) ------------- http://www.alterna-tickers.com"> 
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Posted By: babyg
Date Posted: 19 January 2010 at 9:15pm
Oh HB - sounds familiar. We went ring shopping together too (as we shared the cost of the ring). Then we decided that DH would hold onto it until we felt it was the 'right' time. A few months later as I offloaded my heavy armful of shopping onto the PaknSave express counter my DH gets down on one knee and produces the ring. I was so angry I left the shopping and walked straight out of the store
Later (after cooling down, and saying yes ) I asked him why he did that then and he said that "the time just felt right" .... weirdo!!!!  ------------- Ev, Mum to: Carys Ruby - 4 October 2007 Spencer James - 2 July 2010 |
Posted By: babyg
Date Posted: 19 January 2010 at 9:16pm
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ellabellame - your story is so cute, reminds me of being a teenager (as I was when we got engaged) ------------- Ev, Mum to: Carys Ruby - 4 October 2007 Spencer James - 2 July 2010 |
Posted By: ellabellame
Date Posted: 19 January 2010 at 9:59pm
lol thanks, i feel like a teenager, it's ridiculous! Ah well, knowing DP he's forgotten all about it by now. Hmmph, men! ------------- |
Posted By: minik8e
Date Posted: 19 January 2010 at 10:17pm
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babyg - your story cracked me right up...I can just imagine it, now that I've met you as well!!!
We were at DH's cousin's wedding and DH started to tell his family we were next, in about a year's time....he just hadn't quite got round to telling me about it yet!!! |
Posted By: babyg
Date Posted: 19 January 2010 at 10:41pm
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Haha, is that because my DH looks slack and an embarrassment Kate? Or because I look like a right snob who wouldn't let someone propose to them in a supermarket?? HAHAHA
Thats a bit frustrating that his family knew about it before you! ------------- Ev, Mum to: Carys Ruby - 4 October 2007 Spencer James - 2 July 2010 |
Posted By: babyg
Date Posted: 19 January 2010 at 10:45pm
Getting a clear understanding of why he's your 'first husband' RJ ------------- Ev, Mum to: Carys Ruby - 4 October 2007 Spencer James - 2 July 2010 |
Posted By: MrsMojo
Date Posted: 19 January 2010 at 10:53pm
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DH still had a bit to pay off on my ring when I found out about it and we were meant to be flat hunting but decided instead of moving we'd save the cost of moving and pay off the ring and get engaged instead. This convo happened in a taxi and the driver was grinning when he dropped us back home. I spent the day with my sister and her daughter (which is where the official story begins) and when I got home DH had planned an evening out. We walked through the botanical gardens reminiscing, went to a nice restaurant for dinner and drinks, went home for dessert and it wasn't until the end of the evening that he finally proposed. I almost thought he'd changed his mind and it wasn't going to happen but then he put on a piece of music he knew I wanted played at my wedding and he had a whole speech written (including telling me it took so long to propose because he wasn't sure he wanted to be part of my family -------------
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Posted By: Daizy
Date Posted: 19 January 2010 at 10:54pm
I am loving all these stories  Cant wait to hear how the rest of yours goes elabelame!
My proposal was just.... ahhh.... I was made to walk 30 minutes round the streets near my home (passing countless friends wondering what the hell was going on) up a hill in the middle of a development block. He got down on one knee but I was so embarrased, I was sure all those people we had walked passed we still watching, I slid down the hill and hid in the grass. DH was not impressed, it was a quick "will you marry me" I said yeah. I guess the romance was lost when we found out we were pregnant (at 18!) and we both decided we wanted to be married before the baby arrived, we had already pretty much sorted the lot before he proposed. Him asking me out... now that was a better story ------------- 
 
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Posted By: minik8e
Date Posted: 20 January 2010 at 7:59am
LOL neither of them...I just can imagine him down on one knee in PnS!!!! Men are so funny sometimes!!! Frustrating...a little bit, the poor dear was a wee bit worse for wear which actually made me wonder if he would remember in the morning
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Posted By: ellabellame
Date Posted: 20 January 2010 at 8:08am
haha i hate it when that happens!! ------------- |
Posted By: Tastic
Date Posted: 20 January 2010 at 8:35am
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well I proposed to DH. it was his birthday and cooked this 3 course meal and as I served up dinner I tried to ask him, but started crying - I know sill my. Anyway he knew what I was going to say and said yes
a few months later he had secretly brought me a ring and got down on one knee and did a speech and gave me the ring |
Posted By: kiwikid
Date Posted: 20 January 2010 at 9:56am
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Loving the stories!
We have a similar story in that DH was supposed to be studying for a big exam but decided to go play golf for the day (or so he told me) and I had a huge hissy fit at him for wasting our money and not taking the degree seriously etc but off he went to 'play golf'. I found out later that he drove about 3 hrs up country to meet a guy that he had arranged to bring my engagement ring from Sydney (we are in the UK) where a jeweller friend had made it for him all on the secret squirel I had absolutely no idea. Then on our 5th anniversary we went to Monaco for a romantic holiday and at a special dinner on our anniversary night we had just ordered desert and the lights in the restaurant went really low and I remember thinking how rude we cant see what we are eating, and then my desert arrived and it was a gorgeous chocolate tiramisu with the words Will You Marry Me in chocolate across the plate and a strawberry flower with a beautiful solitaire diamond in it. I was in shock and kept saying Oh Wow over and over tee hee and then he asked the big Q and I said Yes and all the restaurant diners applauded
Funny thing is my DH is not a romantic but we laugh and say he saved up all his romance points and blew them in one shot! ------------- 
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Posted By: Chickoin
Date Posted: 20 January 2010 at 2:01pm
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Loving the proposal stories.
My Dh slung the ring (still in the jeweller's bag and box) at towards me in bed. Yeah, that's it. I forced him to say the words "will you marry me". I told him I thought he would put a ring in the fishtank or something a bit more surprising and he thought it was so brilliant and wished he'd done that. Ellabellame, drop a hint or 2!!! Please! Share a bag of burger rings and keep putting them on your wedding finger and sighing hehehe -------------   
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Posted By: flakesitchyfeet
Date Posted: 20 January 2010 at 2:52pm
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Lol oh do that, please? Give it a go tonight and see what happens?
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Posted By: ElfsMum
Date Posted: 20 January 2010 at 4:50pm
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DH came back from his ex's 30th...lol.. and did a lovely semi drunken speech and I asked if he was serious(it was 4 weeks after we met) and that he should think about it and talk to me when he was sober..in the morning he talked to me about it and then we went ring shopping.. and by Nov we were married.. 4 pregnancies and 1 7/8 children later here we are..lol.. ------------- Mum to two amazing boys! |
Posted By: Shezamumof3
Date Posted: 20 January 2010 at 5:01pm
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I ruined my DH's first attempt at proposing, we were driving home from somewhere and he wanted me to pull over and stop at the hall at the top of our road, but I was so tired I just wanted to go home and refused to stop, all he had said to me was can we stop here I want to talk to you about something, and I said he could talk to me at home lol
So he was annoyed and never did it, bit did a few weeks later, we were walking round the warehouse and started chatting about marriage and then he said rememeber when I wanted you to pull over, well...and then he asked me lol, not romantic at all haha, but then we went out a got me a nice ring just before I fell pregnant with Caden. ------------- |
Posted By: mummyofprinces
Date Posted: 20 January 2010 at 5:21pm
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Aww, was hoping there was some news.. men!
I knew DH was going to propose as he had decided but we were living os and getting married impacted our decision on where we lived etc. Basically he asked if I would ever consider getting married where we were living rather than here or home (aus). I said yes and waited.... A couple of months later we were on minibreak in Prague and we spent an afternoon at the zoo. Standing over the meercat enclosure I turned around to see DH on one knew with his hand outstreached.. I thought he was asking me to help him up LOL. He was so overcome that he was speechless and couldnt get the words out, but I eventually saw the ring and said yes LOL. He gets a bit embarrassed when I tell the story. -------------   
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Posted By: ellabellame
Date Posted: 20 January 2010 at 6:14pm
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i'm LOVING these stories!!
oh i wish i'd read these posts before i went into town so i could've bought burger rings and tried that trick, unfortunately i just don't think it's worth a 40 minute drive back to town just to buy burger rings. lol i'd do it just for the chuckle factor, even if he didn't take the hint it would still be funny. it's funny, lately he's been very good and the one time i actually want him to go round to his mates and get stuck "chatting", he's been staying home!! so they haven't had a chance to talk to him about it lol. ------------- |
Posted By: flakesitchyfeet
Date Posted: 20 January 2010 at 6:56pm
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Make sure they are on your shopping lost then ellabellame, because we're waaaaaaiting!
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Posted By: kiwisj
Date Posted: 20 January 2010 at 7:25pm
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Ohhhhh I am getting teary reading these stories, I LOVE engagement stories!!!
We were living in Hong Kong but about to move to SIngapore BUT also going home to NZ for a holiday in between, so I was hoping *maybe* he would ask my Dad about it then .... The weekend before we came home was my birthday and I had a joint bday dinner with another friend. DH was sposed to come straight from work but he called to say he was going to be late (ON MY BIRTHDAY!) and I was so mad but we had a good night in the end. The next day the movers came to pack all our stuff (to go to Singapore lol) and then we went to a hotel for a few days before we went back to NZ. I didn't know at the time, but DH had gone to pick up my engagement ring - making him late for my bday celebrations - and then hidden it in MY bag which I carried around all day when we were moving We went out for dinner that night and on the way back to our room he kept being silly and stopping and "doing up his shoelaces" so that I would walk into the room first.
When I went into the room, there on the bed was this ring box. I don't know what I thought housekeeping would be doing leaving jewellery boxes on our bed but I totally didn't click! Till I turned around to say WTF?! to DH and he was down on one knee
It was so exciting, then we flew home to NZ the next morning and got to tell everyone our news in person as well. ------------- SJ Callum - Dec 2008 Daniel - Oct 2010 |
Posted By: ellabellame
Date Posted: 21 January 2010 at 8:27am
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aw that's so cute, kiwisj! all these stories make me so amazed that all your men (well, maybe not ALL lol) are so romantic! it must just be my bad luck that my DP's idea of a romantic first date was to take me up a mountain on a quad bike (might i add the trail was overgrown by gorse bushes, ouchie!!), he did thoughtfully bring me a pair of gumboots though
ETA: Flake - burger rings are indeed on my shopping list and it's grocery day today!! lol. actually i was thinking about it, both out birthdays are coming up on the 11th and 12th of feb so maybe (cross fingers) he might be planning something for then.........either that or he's just forgotten it. i'm thinking, if he doesn't do something then i might just say bugger it, and ask him myself........i will of course make him ask me as well after that but just to get the ball rolling, you know? ------------- |
Posted By: lilfatty
Date Posted: 21 January 2010 at 9:37am
That is the cutest thing I have ever heard! ------------- Mummy to Issy (3) and Elias (18 months) I did it .. 41 kgs gone! From flab to fab in under a year http://www.femininefitness.co.nz/category/blog - LFs weight blog
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Posted By: kiwisj
Date Posted: 21 January 2010 at 12:46pm
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That's a pretty cool first date though!!!
The first time DH and I went out together (after work drinks we went to Macca's and I had to pay!!!!!!! And I was a poor student and he was a grown up with a real job. He has never lived it down either, it even came up at our wedding ------------- SJ Callum - Dec 2008 Daniel - Oct 2010 |
Posted By: Chickoin
Date Posted: 21 January 2010 at 12:57pm
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Hahaha, this is making me feel much better about my unromantic man
Ellabellame, if the burger ring trick fails, drag him into a jewellery shop, the staff will do all the pressuring for you and all you need to do is gaze at rings longingly, perhaps sigh dramatically now and then. -------------
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Posted By: ellabellame
Date Posted: 21 January 2010 at 2:13pm
haha classic! love the sighing dramatically part
the only problem is, DP knows how much i hate shopping, let alone for jewellery. i'm not a very girly girl, i don't think i've ever set foot inside a jewellers lol, he'd be very suspicious. ------------- |
Posted By: Nutella
Date Posted: 21 January 2010 at 5:12pm
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Haha this is a funny thread.
My DH made a treasure hunt for me, I had been out working late and came home and he said that at the end of the treasure hunt was a surprise....now we had recently aquired a donut maker and I could smell that donuts had been made so thought that was the surprise but of course at the end it was him asking me to marry him. Each of the clues started with something he loved about me as well so all in all, it was pretty sweet of him! ------------- 
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Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 21 January 2010 at 5:26pm
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My "proposal "
in the carwash at Shell , or maybe it was BP , one on Pakuranga Highway " so , we are gonna try for a baby then" " yep, sounds good " "maybe we should get engaged then , so people don't get on our case " "yeah ok " "sweet , so we are engaged then ?" "yeah , thats sounds good, did we need anything from the supermarket ?" Then , after he told his parents , he came home and I told him he hadn't really done it officially . " will you marry me ?" "no" said I , "im bored now, can't be bothered " ------------- 
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Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 21 January 2010 at 5:28pm
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I can't stand the whole down on bended knee thing, I think its naff and feathery strokery , and if Phil bent down on his knee I would push him over .
But then Im very unromantic -------------
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Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 21 January 2010 at 5:28pm
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I can't stand the whole down on bended knee thing, I think its naff and feathery strokery , and if Phil bent down on his knee I would push him over .
But then Im very unromantic -------------
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Posted By: ellabellame
Date Posted: 21 January 2010 at 5:31pm
hahahaha you just made me laugh out loud!! that's hilarious! ------------- |
Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 21 January 2010 at 5:34pm
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Did I make you laugh out loud twice since I double posted ? -------------
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Posted By: ellabellame
Date Posted: 21 January 2010 at 5:35pm
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yup, once for the actual post and then again when i realised that you'd double posted.
ah, i'm easily amused aren't i ------------- |
Posted By: Rachael21
Date Posted: 21 January 2010 at 5:41pm
Haha you thought donuts were the surprise, thats the funniest thing I've read all day. Loving all the stories
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Posted By: boys.boys.boys.boys
Date Posted: 22 January 2010 at 10:38am
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Hehe you guys are very funny, you had me in stitches!!
You know, while you are eating your burger rings and signing you could try dropping some comments too, like "Do you think anyone has ever used a burger ring as a engagement ring after they proposed...??" *sighs and slips another burger ring onto finger*... ------------- 4 boys!! 7 years, 5 years, 2 years and 8 weeks... |
Posted By: ooEvaoo
Date Posted: 22 January 2010 at 12:57pm
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Glad to see I'm not the only one "waiting". Though I've been proposed to numerous times...without a ring!.....DP is off to Saudi Arabia end of April and he is indeed buying an engagement ring while he's there...so I hope I don't have to wait too long after that for a proper proposal! ------------- 
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Posted By: SquishysMum
Date Posted: 22 January 2010 at 1:28pm
mine was kinda similar - DH gave me an old box (that i'd given to him with his pills in as a joke) at the end of a really crappy day and said 'I have something to make you feel better'... I totally thought it was a chocolate or something. Opened it, it was empty, I cracked up (well, it DID make me feel better!) being such a DH thing to do! Turns out the ring was poked down the hole in the middle... |
Posted By: AandCsmum
Date Posted: 22 January 2010 at 2:55pm
ROTFLMAO...I asked my DH the same thing! He'd been on the booze (2 for night ) I told him to ask me again in the morning when he was sober! Oh I had been working in the bar he was boozing in! Ours was 4 months not 4 weeks though.------------- Kel http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: AandCsmum
Date Posted: 22 January 2010 at 2:58pm
Now that would be funny..... ------------- Kel http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Hopes
Date Posted: 22 January 2010 at 4:24pm
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Hehe, I felt the same about the 'down on one knee' bit - DH did, and I was so embarrassed I wanted to pull him back up.
Ours was just a semi-romantic early-morning-walk-along-the-beach thing, which suits me down to the ground. It's a lovely memory. I don't really go in for mushy stuff much. My sisters fiance proposed by sending her on a hunt for roses hidden round the Hamilton gardens, and then a clue that took them out to Raglan for a romantic picnic, and then words written on the sand, and she loved it, but me? Waay too much, I think I would have said no -------------   
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Posted By: ellabellame
Date Posted: 07 February 2010 at 10:24am
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just thought i'd do a quick update and ask for some suggestions......
my birthday is coming up on the 11th and DP's birthday is on the 12th so i've decided that if he hasn't popped the question on either of those days (i'm not holding my breath) then i am going to propose to him on valentines day! unfortunately i have no idea how these things are done so that is where you lovely ladies come in. how should i do it? where should i do it? do i need to get a ring for him? does a guy even wear an engagement ring? should i tell anyone beforehand? what if he says no ............can you tell i'm a bit nervous about this? ------------- |
Posted By: ooEvaoo
Date Posted: 07 February 2010 at 10:26am
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Ummmm probably go out for dinner...go to a nice lookout or something...hold both his hands...and declare you're love!! lolz. I dunno. Anywhos nope even if the woman proposes...in the end she still gets the ring lol...well I think that's how it goes. -------------
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Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 07 February 2010 at 10:29am
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oooh, i proposed to my husband... it probably wasnt the most romantic setting. we were staying overnight at wilson home to give his sis a break with her boy and i asked him in bed...
He turned me down!
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Posted By: ellabellame
Date Posted: 07 February 2010 at 10:32am
oh.....why did he turn you down? do you mind me asking? that's what i'm afraid of. the flower idea is a good one, or maybe a bottle of his favourite beer or something lol. ------------- |
Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 07 February 2010 at 10:43am
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i dont know - i think he said he wasnt ready... i felt pretty bummed! if you want i'll ask him tonight when he gets home. ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker">
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Posted By: lilfatty
Date Posted: 07 February 2010 at 10:44am
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I saw the thread being bumped and I was hoping to see a photo of a ring!
How exciting .. oh and on the ring question, SD wanted to wear an "engagement" ring, he was in the airforce at the time and on the other side of the world and he wanted to feel close to me - I thought it was cool because it was an outward sign that said to other women .. hands off. ------------- Mummy to Issy (3) and Elias (18 months) I did it .. 41 kgs gone! From flab to fab in under a year http://www.femininefitness.co.nz/category/blog - LFs weight blog
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Posted By: ellabellame
Date Posted: 07 February 2010 at 10:47am
aw that's so lovely......i guess i could ask him and if he says yes then i could approach the ring subject? i guess it doesn't really matter if he wears one or not, we live in a small town and everyone knows everyone's business anyway. ------------- |
Posted By: flakesitchyfeet
Date Posted: 07 February 2010 at 1:37pm
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Meh, I'd by a ring to propose with, and when he says yes, I'd stick it on my finger. You get in first, you get to choose your ring
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Posted By: emz
Date Posted: 07 February 2010 at 1:38pm
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My dad had an engagement ring too (just silver) and DH always wore a ring I bought him when we got engaged while he was away.
Good luck with it all
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Posted By: ellabellame
Date Posted: 07 February 2010 at 1:39pm
ah i love the optimism "when he says yes" ------------- |
Posted By: Kalimirella
Date Posted: 07 February 2010 at 4:51pm
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Awwww, all the engagement/proposal stories are cute and/or romantic and/or funny.
DP and I are still both marriage shy but not been together that long either. The only funny story I have is when he asked me out :P We were both working in the deli at new world, and I was doing dishes out the back, we had been joking around about this and that all day, so he comes up next to me, and asks me, Do you wanna go out somewhere sometime, just you and me?, First thing out of my mouth.. Are you joking? Poor guy thought that meant no. He'd been getting his nerve up for almost a week!!!! PS I'm his first ever girlfriend so it was the first time he had ever asked anyone out!!, And then I got pregnant 2 months later poor guy. ------------- Kiara is 3 and Teagan is 2, now we're expecting our long awaited 3rd! http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: flakesitchyfeet
Date Posted: 07 February 2010 at 5:38pm
He did bring it up first! You were just a little.....unprepared lol! Remember on the off chance he says no, try with all of your heart to not let it get to you. Just in case he's mucking about with some sweet romantic idea in his head that he wants to eventually see through, he might secretly be traditional like that
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Posted By: pikelets
Date Posted: 07 February 2010 at 7:26pm
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I have been away on holiday for a week and jumped on to see if you were engaged yet!
will check tomorrow sigh lol ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: tishy
Date Posted: 07 February 2010 at 7:38pm
I wanted to get DH an engagement present, something sentimental that he could keep. My suggestion was a watch, his was a Playstation 2 
The playstation won
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Posted By: babyg
Date Posted: 07 February 2010 at 8:45pm
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I bought my DH a watch for our engagement (he proposed to me tho) and he absolutely loved it (but he is quite a watch man!)
Good luck, looking forward to hearing all about it when one of you proposes ------------- Ev, Mum to: Carys Ruby - 4 October 2007 Spencer James - 2 July 2010 |
Posted By: clover
Date Posted: 08 February 2010 at 8:49am
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Posted By: ellabellame
Date Posted: 08 February 2010 at 9:13am
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last night we were at the lake with some friends and their kids for a bbq and DP turns to me and says "if the weather's nice next weekend how would you like to see if mum can have the kids so we can come and stay the night here". my overly romantic mind started whizzing, next weekend, oooh that's valentines day, ooooooh no kids, ooooooooh maybe he's going to.........
then he turns to his mate and says "hey nick what are you guys up to next weekend? wanna go camping?" hahahaha you'd think i would have learnt by now!! ------------- |
Posted By: clover
Date Posted: 08 February 2010 at 9:31am
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haha, maybe he wants to declare his love in front of an audience
I did this when I was waiting for my DH to propose. Everytime we went away I wondered if that time was going to be the time he proposed and it started driving me crazy. He ended up doing it the one holiday the thought hadn't even entered my head! |
Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 08 February 2010 at 1:17pm
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hehe , good luck Ellabellame, whether DP proposes to you , or you propose to him
My mum's friends daughter got engaged recently , her DF and his friends were playing their band in the middle of Howick , everyone else was in on it except her, so someone conveniently had a camera to capture every single moment, her seeing him play , him coming over, him bending down , him asking , her gasping , her saying yes, them hugging etc etc etc . Very sweet and what a cool thing to have recorded but I couldn't help thinking , imagine if she had said no , and he had organised the cameras , wouldn't he have felt like a right arse!!! " stop the photos ! stop the photos!" hahahahahahaha -------------
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Posted By: ellabellame
Date Posted: 08 February 2010 at 1:35pm
that's what i'm worried about! i keep wanting to talk to his mum about it (i tell her everything) but then i think of what will happen if he says no, maybe it's best if nobody knows so the embarrassment is minimal lol. the thing is, now that i've set a date to propose to him i can't wait to do it and i want to do it now now now! lol ------------- |
Posted By: WRXnKids
Date Posted: 08 February 2010 at 2:18pm
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My mate propsed to her man and she was the same just wanting to do it now but she had a plan stuck to it. She even had a ring and he said yes
After our son was born i kept thinking DP was going to ask and getting all nervous if we went out for a meal or a drive etc but ive given up now i doubt it will happen anytime soon and we dont really have the cash for it -------------   
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Posted By: ellabellame
Date Posted: 09 February 2010 at 9:08am
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I have news!!!!!!!!!!
drumroll please.............. after all this waiting and fluffling around and what ifs i decided that last night would be the night, i guess once i decided that i was going to ask him i didn't want to wait around to do it. so i had a romantic evening all planned out; i made him his favourite dinner (macaroni cheese, he has sophisticated tastes, my man lol) and his favourite dessert (i never make dessert so that was a big enough surprise in itself) and i was going to bring him his dessert and ask him to marry me........unfortunately things did NOT go as planned. first of all, he found the dessert which was meant to be part of the surprise..... but that was ok, i could live with that. then just after he'd finished his dinner he announced that he was stuffed full and couldn't possibly have dessert just yet.... that was ok too, i'd just do it later when he wanted dessert. then a carload of his friends turned up.......NOT ok! so he went outside and played with his friends for a couple of hours while i sat inside watching tv and getting more and more nervous and then they were just leaving when ANOTHER of his friends turned up to poach off our wireless internet! he didn't leave until 11.30pm and by then DP had already had dessert, the moment had passed and i thought it was all over red rover. then it was bedtime. i made DP a cuppa and while i was doing it, thought 'stuff it, i'm not letting this stop me!', so i marched in there with his coffee where he was standing by the bed wearing only a towel, held out the cup and said "hayden, will you marry me?" his reaction: "what?......why?...............i mean, yes, but why??" i ignored the why's and the what and just decided to focus on the yes
then he gave me a big big hug and a kiss. The End ps. I'm Engaged!!!!!!!!!!!!
ETA: as it turns out, he WAS going to propose to me but he was just waiting until he had everything sorted and had bought a ring. i was just too impatient lol. ------------- |
Posted By: minik8e
Date Posted: 09 February 2010 at 9:11am
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Wooohooooo!!!!! Congratulations!!!
It may not have been overly "romantic" but will definitely be memorable!!! |
Posted By: lilfatty
Date Posted: 09 February 2010 at 9:17am
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Awwwwwwwwwwwwwww ------------- Mummy to Issy (3) and Elias (18 months) I did it .. 41 kgs gone! From flab to fab in under a year http://www.femininefitness.co.nz/category/blog - LFs weight blog
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Posted By: Aprilfools
Date Posted: 09 February 2010 at 9:20am
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That's so cute. Congratulations!! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: james
Date Posted: 09 February 2010 at 9:42am
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Posted By: kabe
Date Posted: 09 February 2010 at 10:27am
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Posted By: Daizy
Date Posted: 09 February 2010 at 10:45am
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Yay!! Congratulations!! What a Story -------------
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Posted By: T_Rex
Date Posted: 09 February 2010 at 11:13am
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So lovely
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Posted By: flakesitchyfeet
Date Posted: 09 February 2010 at 11:38am
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LOL Brilliant! I am so so stoked for you, congratulations
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Posted By: Zaylah
Date Posted: 09 February 2010 at 12:29pm
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Just started reading this post, and AWWWW! Congratulations! ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: clover
Date Posted: 09 February 2010 at 12:31pm
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YAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Congratulations
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Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 09 February 2010 at 12:31pm
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Posted By: ellabellame
Date Posted: 09 February 2010 at 12:45pm
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Thanks ladies, i'm so excited!!
now he's asking if i want a ring. pfssht, do i want a ring? of course i want a ring!!! ------------- |
Posted By: queenbean
Date Posted: 09 February 2010 at 12:55pm
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Awww, congrats -------------   
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Posted By: kiwisj
Date Posted: 09 February 2010 at 1:05pm
OMG CONGRATULATIONS! 
I love your proposal story! Good on you for going through with it. What was the dessert? ------------- SJ Callum - Dec 2008 Daniel - Oct 2010 |