Does anyone else hate being pregnant?
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Topic: Does anyone else hate being pregnant?
Posted By: Bayley
Subject: Does anyone else hate being pregnant?
Date Posted: 18 January 2010 at 8:39am
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I feel so guilty writing this when I know there are lots of people around that can't even get pregnant, but I am one of these people pregnancy doesn't agree with. I had forgotten how bad it was first time around, and am now wishing we had decided to have one child only.
I feel sick 24/7, I can't do anything other than move from the bed to the couch, I can't concentrate on anything so therefore can't read and get restless just lying there. I could sleep all day but I have a toddler to attempt to look after too. My DH is away for a couple of weeks overseas so that makes it even harder. I'm sick of throwing up every day and having to go to work and act normal. I am only 10 weeks and looking at the next 7 months with great fear as I honestly don't know if I can do this again. With my DS, I had terrible morning sickness for the entire 9 months, and as this pregnancy is pretty similar I am expecting the same again. My entire summer holidays have been spent in bed and I feel so guilty about my DS as I just can't do anything with him, and therefore he's been spending a lot of time with my parents (whom he adores and vice versa, but it should be me looking after him). We have always been very close, but now its DH (when he's home) that DS goes to when he's hurt and while thats great for their relationship, I wonder if this is my fault for not being there for him lately. Please tell me there are others in the same boat as me so I don't feel so alone!! |
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Posted By: mummyofprinces
Date Posted: 18 January 2010 at 8:55am
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Awww Hugs!
Pg doesnt agree with me either... I am quite jealous of people who just sail through loving every minute of it. You are not alone! I am not sure how I will cope with a toddler and pg when do get pg again. -------------   
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Posted By: Flutterby
Date Posted: 18 January 2010 at 9:29am
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I was pretty useless up till about 17wks. Even though I did get up every now and then, I couldn't even go into the kitchen, couldn't go to the supermarket, could really only eat plain and plain coloured foods (apples, potato, rice) and spent most mornings eating iceblocks cause that helped.
But yeah I found it really hard feeling so sick all the time and spending a lot of my mornings in the bathroom. And I also don't know how I will manage when we decide to have a number two. (though I plan on waiting till DS is at least 4 yrs old). FX for you that it doesn't last long. ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: CuriousG
Date Posted: 18 January 2010 at 9:39am
Yes, I HATE it with a passion. It does pass, once you start to feel better but even so, its enough to put me off having any more.  ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: WRXnKids
Date Posted: 18 January 2010 at 9:50am
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I HEAR YA!!!
Im exactly the same! Was sick pretty much the whole think with josh and this time round until last week i was in bed sick throwing up around 6-10x a day with family looking after josh but just before 11 wks i started feeling better and can now look after him on my own (after i have my spew as soon as i get out of bed and make myself a cup of tea and some vegemite toast). I still feel ill on and off during the day but i can mostly control it by snacking but i was so scared i was going to be soo ill the whole way again. However now that the MS is under control (i still have bad days) i am so uncomfy already my tummy is tight and sore a fair bit (just stretching and getting fat) and my uterus must be putting pressure on something that doesnt like it and i cant sleep well and if i have a nap during the day i wake up feeling crook so have stopped naps so im tired and cranky and cant get to sleep till late at night. ARRGGGHHHH SO OVER IT!!!!! I WILL NOT be having anymore kids because i cant handle it at all and am spending most of this pregnancy wishing it was over which isnt good. I hate being so miserable and missing out like Josh's bday a few weeks back i was the worst host. On nice days i dont have the energy to take josh to the park or anywhere oh and dont get me started on the crazy mood swings poor boy has been yelled at for small things because of it. Sorry ended up being my own rant on it all. I hope your MS starts to fade like mine is i am mostly watching josh on my own again now. Hope your pregnancy FLIES by. -------------   
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Posted By: lisa85
Date Posted: 18 January 2010 at 11:50am
This has been on my mind lately too. We are trying to get pregnant with number 3 but my last pregnancy was AWFUL I'm just hoping that it was awful because I was carrying two instead of one lol. I'm hoping that a singleton will be slightly easier but I'm not getting my hopes too high  -------------  
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Posted By: X
Date Posted: 18 January 2010 at 12:14pm
Aw bigs hugs to you all  ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: emz
Date Posted: 18 January 2010 at 12:32pm
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I hated it first time around, didn't really think about it 2nd time around other than not being able to eat for 40 weeks (hey at least I lost weight ). It's one of the reasons I'm stopping at 2, I don't think I could handle being pregnant again.
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Posted By: ElfsMum
Date Posted: 18 January 2010 at 12:40pm
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i hate it. People get grumpy at me saying it but i do.. I'm either feeling sick or sore and worrying and cant sleep..blah blah.. I'm getting tubes tied in three weeks cause 2 is it for me! ------------- Mum to two amazing boys! |
Posted By: kebakat
Date Posted: 18 January 2010 at 12:55pm
| I hated it. I average the first 20w with morning sickness throwing up daily, usually more than once for about 6w of it. I gain a ton of weight even with throwing up that much. |
Posted By: bext1
Date Posted: 18 January 2010 at 1:31pm
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I don't 'hate' it, but I dislike feeling sick.
With the twins - like you Lisa, I was so so sick and even ended up a week in hospital in NZ and then later on spent about 4 days in hospital in Aus, and felt like I neglected DS1 cause I just was so sick and had no energy (he was 4 at the time). This time round with just one, I felt like cr@p the first 15 weeks or so and still feel ick throughout the day. I really wish I could be one of those that just don't get MS!! So I feel for you. It really sucks and I hope it goes for you soon. It's great that you have that family support though cause it would be awful if you had nobody to help you out while your DH is away!  ------------- 
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Posted By: AzzaNZ
Date Posted: 18 January 2010 at 7:45pm
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You arent alone. I absolutely loathe it and despite originally wanting 4 children this is definitely my last pregnancy.
I am sick from the moment I open my eyes in the morning until I close them again at night. Its debilitating. And then towards the end of second trimester I get pregnancy insomnia. In my first pregnancy I was eventually given tranquilisers after 4 straight days awake. I was incoherent and couldnt give doctors my phone number of address. Hate, hate, hate it! I wish I could feel more grateful. I know its all worth it in the end but it doesnt help get through a hellish 9 months. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Lucky apple
Date Posted: 18 January 2010 at 7:46pm
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Hugs! MS sucks...
For my first 14 weeks, with a couple of hospital stays thrown in because of hyperemesis I could not understand how anyone ever did it more than once!! It's ok not to like the process! and it helps to vent!!!!! |
Posted By: Emmecat
Date Posted: 18 January 2010 at 8:00pm
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Topic: Does anyone else hate being pregnant? My answer: yes lol -------------   http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: JodyR
Date Posted: 19 January 2010 at 10:05am
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I'm not pregnant right now but I saw your post title and had to read it.
I didn't hate being pregnant but I had a very difficult time with indigestion rather than morning sickness, I couldn't eat or sleep because of it for months and my doctor put me on a diet of plain food. I pretty much existed on Gaviscon. We had a high risk pregnancy anyway so the stress and the indigestion together made me want to hit the fast forward button and get to the end. At my worst I just needed to lean forward and it would make me be sick with the acid that had built up. You shouldn't feel guilty, you are going through so much and it can feel like your body has turned against you. So much happens in early pregnancy and I can't imagine how I would have coped with a toddler to take care of too, because I had days where I just needed to sleep if I could (usually sitting up and we had to push the bed into the wall so I had something to lean against). It's not your fault that pregnancy doesn't agree with you. It's good that your son adores his grandparents and that they are happy to help out. And although I know it feels like it, this won't last forever. I really hope that you start to feel better soon. |
Posted By: Tastic
Date Posted: 19 January 2010 at 11:55am
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I loved being pregnant with the boys (apart from the nausea)
but this time YES I hate it! and Im so over it now and yes I get told off for saying it as this is my last pregnancy I should be enjoying it but IM NOT! |
Posted By: ElfsMum
Date Posted: 19 January 2010 at 12:55pm
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i always find it interesting people justify why they hate it ...except emmecat ;) i just dont like it.. except the kicks I just dont and of course i am extremely grateful for my Ethan and soon to be Liam but that doesnt change that i hate being pregnant. Be much better if i loved it!:) ------------- Mum to two amazing boys! |
Posted By: Bayley
Date Posted: 20 January 2010 at 8:13am
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Thanks so much for all the comments guys - you have made me feel a lot better about hating pregnancy so much!
WRXand Josh, I'm so glad you are feeling better already! And AzzaNZ, that is exactly how I feel, every single day, so I can totally relate. This is definitely my last too, to the point where DH is booked in for a vasectomy next month. There is no way I can handle ever doing this again, even if something goes wrong. Lisa85 fingers crossed for you that carrying a singleton will be a breeze in terms on ms compared to your twins! Thanks again everyone. 
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Posted By: Bayley
Date Posted: 20 January 2010 at 8:20am
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Oh and things got the better of me at work on Monday, I spent time in HR's office in tears cos I was feeling so sick. At least they know now I guess
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Posted By: Babe
Date Posted: 20 January 2010 at 4:22pm
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Yep hate being pregnant with a passion. I'll do it again coz I want the kids but I hate every single moment of it. Got bout 30 days left with number 2 and I'm so happy at the thought of labour LOL first trim is always the worst though I reckon spesh if you get ms!
Good luck hun xx -------------   
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Posted By: Hopes
Date Posted: 20 January 2010 at 4:33pm
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Nope, I'm loving it (even with MS and feeling like I've been hit by a truck) . But I thought I'd post since you mentioned you felt guilty about feeling that way when some people can't get pregnant. I think the fact you feel guilty about that (and therefore have the sense to realise you're very lucky, even if you feel rotten) and for that reason probably wouldn't grizzle and groan about how much you hate being pregnant in front of others who could be struggling makes you a nice person, not the other way round.
You can't help how you feel, and it's nice of you to keep in mind that some people would give anything to feel that way, no matter how much it sucks. I really hope it gets better soon -------------   
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Posted By: mummyofprinces
Date Posted: 20 January 2010 at 5:04pm
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I hated the pregnancy but loved the fact I was pregnant. Just because you have had to work a little harder than most doesnt mean you automatically just love pregnancy.
It was hard and I felt like crap all the time and completely felt judged because of it. I was actually told by my MIL that I "must just enjoy it" and my SIL practically stopped talking to me at all because I was grumpy all the time. I think its important to voice your feelings and not bottle it up and not feel guilty about it! Harbouring ill thoughts can never lead to good things especially with all those crazy pg hormones flying about the place. Hope it gets better for you hun. -------------
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Posted By: Babykatnz
Date Posted: 20 January 2010 at 6:39pm
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I was the other way around... with my 2nd baby I was sick all the way through, and was on 3 diff meds to keep it under control, and included a few days getting some fluids pumped back into me (6L of saline in 24 hours!) at around 9w. My first time the same thing happened at 16w, but then it stopped as suddenly as it started, and pregnancy was a breeze from then on (until the birth, but thats a whole different kettle of fish!)
I am hoping that my future 3rd and final bub will be a little kinder to me... oh for a crystal ball! Emmecat... something you'd like to share with the rest of us? Your post left a LOT to the imagination...  ------------- Brandon - 05/12/2003  
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