Am I the only grumpy one?
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Topic: Am I the only grumpy one?
Posted By: Peanut
Subject: Am I the only grumpy one?
Date Posted: 05 February 2010 at 3:44pm
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I keep writing responses to posts and then deleting them as know that they are grumpy (probably true but not very nice!).
Do other people do this? Or get fricken frustrated with things on here! -------------  
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Posted By: FreeSpirit
Date Posted: 05 February 2010 at 4:07pm
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Hmmm, nope you're not alone - I often get my grump on, write things, then backspace and rewrite, and it still sounds harsh but it's a lot nicer than what I was going to put in the first place! ------------- http://www.babysfirstsite.com"> 
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Posted By: Mamma2N
Date Posted: 05 February 2010 at 4:10pm
Yep...  I often write whole replies then delete, or better yet, shut the laptop and walk away because I have realised my replies are probably not what some people want to hear and I can't be faffed getting into a scrap over it.
So no you're not the only one 
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Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 05 February 2010 at 4:15pm
just write it post it and blame a hacker! 
blame the heat! it makes people grumpy and when most of those peopel are women!! Look out! ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker"> 
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Posted By: kellie
Date Posted: 05 February 2010 at 4:16pm
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I sometimes delete what I was originally going to post as I know I haven't articulated it well enough so there is a high chance someone will take offense.
Or sometimes I will just post it, then come back and delete or change it quickly before anyone replies cause I lose my nerve 
Not very often though. ------------- 
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Posted By: T_Rex
Date Posted: 05 February 2010 at 4:27pm
Yep, me too. In fact I did it here a minute ago  ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: BaAsKa
Date Posted: 05 February 2010 at 4:32pm
i tend to type it out in my head and think "oh god no il get the chop for that 1!"  the responses i type in my head are easy to understand no misinterpreting!  .... like "get a grip"..."get over it!"..."stop being a sook!" ...."stop being a drama queen"lol....so yeah .....
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Posted By: kebakat
Date Posted: 05 February 2010 at 4:38pm
| Very frequently lol |
Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 05 February 2010 at 4:46pm
i dont see why we all walk on eggshells about not offending someone... cause even if you dont try to offend you just might anyway. (which is what always happens to me, when i am being nice i get flamed, when i'm not no one seems to care !) there is always going to be someone who wont like what you have to say no matter how nicely or gently you say it. Boards are open to misinterpretation - its just the way it is... AND what does it really matter if ms joanne bloggs doesnt like what you have to say. at the end of the day what she thinks doesnt matter... This of course doenst mean we need to be rude and swear at each other and make mean jokes - its not trade me after all! ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker">
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BaAsKa wrote:Posted By: my2angels
Date Posted: 05 February 2010 at 4:47pm
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especially when Im sleep deprived as we have all seen recently haha
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Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 05 February 2010 at 4:48pm
geeez Amber, you can just say it to my face !!! :-P I occasionally read a post or comment and laugh , but they don't tend to make me angry , if its something I don't believe or agree with , I mostly laugh at everyone and feel reminded of how great I am :-D ------------- 
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Posted By: IVFGirl1111
Date Posted: 05 February 2010 at 5:03pm
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Yep!
Although I dont post in the "heated" threads. Must say - this place when I first joint use to be so nice! Now its become a bi%ch fest! Just going off what I have read over the past year. Although everyone here has always been SO lovely to me, very helpfull etc so thank you! 
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Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 05 February 2010 at 5:18pm
| Yup prob why I havn't posted anything for over a week, can't be bothered and nobody listens anyway. |
Posted By: pepsi
Date Posted: 05 February 2010 at 5:22pm
| In general no, I just tend to type what I'm thinking without much thought. My bad. |
Posted By: High9
Date Posted: 05 February 2010 at 5:25pm
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I tend to write something then realise it doesn't quite sound right and probably comes off a bit offensive or grumpy so I usually try to reword it but yeah... I mainly try not to post harshly because I haven't been on here for long.
Plus there are those that do speak their mind and then get attacked for it... Even if it might be true... ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: blondy
Date Posted: 05 February 2010 at 5:37pm
Totally agree which is why i tend to stay away from the 'heated' threads! I do applaud anyone that says wat they think, without trying to appease anyone, or be overly PC.
I do try and go by the mantra that if I can't say anything nice then I don't say anything at all.....but sometimes that means i sit here and roll my eyes, then have to walk away! -------------  
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Posted By: Bobbie
Date Posted: 05 February 2010 at 5:44pm
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Yep I often write a whole post then delete it without posting. It makes me feel better just to type it out though. -------------  
 
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Posted By: happymumma
Date Posted: 05 February 2010 at 5:46pm
| that's probably why I don't post half the time - I'm too grumpy!! |
Posted By: Raspberryjam
Date Posted: 05 February 2010 at 6:11pm
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I think every one wants to say it like it is sometimes for sure , I quite often think, .. um 'things' but I try not to be mean so in those cases I just say nothing. ------------- http://lilypie.com] 
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Posted By: Peanut
Date Posted: 05 February 2010 at 6:15pm
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Pleased its not just me then.
Bizzy, I often want to write things exactly as I think them and blame a hacker. I sometimes think I would be banned completely from here if I wrote what I truly thought at times -------------
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Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 05 February 2010 at 6:17pm
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Why would I want to get upset over what people on an internet forum might think of me , when I have a perfectly good husband to antagonise and annoy ? -------------
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Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 05 February 2010 at 6:18pm
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hmmm, that came out wrong , for me PERSONALLY , it just doesn't bother me that much , Im too lazy to care . -------------
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Posted By: lilfatty
Date Posted: 05 February 2010 at 6:20pm
I would be one of those people ... I type what I think on the matter at hand. It annoys the crap out of me when people start a thread asking for opinions then get antsy when its not the opinion they want to hear, they should just state at the beginning of the thread that only those that have the same feelings as them should post. Ive gotten to the point where I dont even care when people come out and attack me personally for my views, I  me enough not to care if no one else does ------------- Mummy to Issy (3) and Elias (18 months) I did it .. 41 kgs gone! From flab to fab in under a year  http://www.femininefitness.co.nz/category/blog - LFs weight blog
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Posted By: blondy
Date Posted: 05 February 2010 at 6:23pm
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And we you too LF! (well, maybe I should amend that to some of us you )
I think that because I dislike confrontation IRL, I tend to hold back on here also I tend to be the peacemaker in our family  -------------
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Posted By: peachy
Date Posted: 05 February 2010 at 6:25pm
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Very frequently
I don't frequent OB as much as I used to, nor do I post very often! ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 05 February 2010 at 6:27pm
oh , that does annoy me too , people need to say what opinions they are wanting to hear ! and if you ask for advice on a forum with people having different opinions, generally you are going to get responses you don't like , its just part of the fun of the *spooky voice " intternnnnettt worrrrlllddd " -------------
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Posted By: kiwisj
Date Posted: 05 February 2010 at 6:29pm
Ditto to this. Also, with the "interesting" threads, often all the juicy stuff and actual debate happens before I even get online ... by the time I come back it's too late and *someone's* started singing again ------------- SJ Callum - Dec 2008 Daniel - Oct 2010 |
Posted By: Raspberryjam
Date Posted: 05 February 2010 at 6:29pm
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[QUOTE=lilfatty] [It annoys the crap out of me when people start a thread asking for opinions then get antsy when its not the opinion they want to hear, they should just state at the beginning of the thread that only those that have the same feelings as them should post.
yes . OMG dont get me started. im going now otherwise I will swear. bye ------------- http://lilypie.com]
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Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 05 February 2010 at 6:32pm
ugh , I know ! so annoying ! -------------
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Posted By: palomino
Date Posted: 05 February 2010 at 7:22pm
Yup same here! |
Posted By: Lexidore
Date Posted: 05 February 2010 at 7:57pm
I concur! ------------- 
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Posted By: High9
Date Posted: 05 February 2010 at 8:45pm
I have to agree, I tend to like opinions from all sides of the matter, so when people ask for opinions then get angry or upset at the responses it annoys me! That's usually when I don't post, just close the page and move on! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 05 February 2010 at 8:52pm
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ooh , I don't close the page, I get the popcorn and spend the day infront of the computer , watching the drama unfold -------------
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Posted By: High9
Date Posted: 05 February 2010 at 8:59pm
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Oh I pop in every couple of hours too see whats happening though lol just at the time I close it, saves me having to hit 'refresh' ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Shezamumof3
Date Posted: 05 February 2010 at 8:59pm
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I always write something mega grumpy and bitchy and then dont post it lol! I am sick of the stupid bitching on here so much that I decided to leave OB for a while, just started posting again the other day as i did miss the place lol
And like bobbie, It makes me feel better to just type it out and then delete it lol. I dont like to tread on toes and piss people off so thats why i dont post what I REALLY think most of the time, plus it seems no matter what you say on here lately, it will piss someone off
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Posted By: .Mel
Date Posted: 05 February 2010 at 8:59pm
I used to type what came in my head, and never worried about it... then I got accused of being a bully and having a "crew" so I left for about 6mths and now I'm baccckkkkkkkk!
I'm not changing who I am, I'll say what I think especially if the OP asks for an opinion ....after all it's a public forum and if you put yourself out there, well you're going to get mixed opinions.. and you should be able to handle that. Also this forum is very tame compared to another one I frequent. Peace, love and chocolate biscuits!! ------------- Mr Mellow (16) Miss Attitude (8) Destructa Kid (3) 
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Posted By: KiwiL
Date Posted: 05 February 2010 at 9:08pm
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I try not to get involved in the heated debates, cos usually I don't have enough time to really articulate what I want to say and again often don't have time to come back and respond or continue the conversation/debate. I tend to be quite opinionated, so mostly just come here for advice and support.
I too don't like it when people get offended by advice when they have asked for it, but sometimes I do see the odd thread get out of hand when the OP has only been having a vent or looking for some friendly support, and sometimes that saddens me. It happened a couple of times to me when I was having the rough time with Jackson. And while I don't for a second think that anyone was deliberately trying to be hurtful, at the time I genuinely thought my world was ending and some of the comments really stung. So, I try to be considerate of feelings as well as maintaining my opinion. |
Posted By: .Mel
Date Posted: 05 February 2010 at 9:11pm
Thats how it should be ------------- Mr Mellow (16) Miss Attitude (8) Destructa Kid (3)
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Posted By: BaAsKa
Date Posted: 05 February 2010 at 9:17pm
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WHAT!!!??..i heard chocolate biscuits.....im up for that! lol
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Posted By: WRXnKids
Date Posted: 05 February 2010 at 9:19pm
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I write out a big post then end up re-reading it and it doesnt even make sense ive tried to type it so fast but it doesnt have to be heated for me to do that hehe. Sometimes i do change what ive said thinking its a bit tough to something more namby pamby and if im having a bad day or enjoying the thread i might make it a bit more controverstial and stir the pot
Normally it takes me so long to get a post down after being distracted or having mind blanks there have been 6 more posts in between and everyone is happy and singing again and i just look like a cow that wont drop it so end up editing before anyone replies. A freeze all replies until ive said my piece button would be nice
I tend to look at the heated threads as entertainment mostly tho so they dont bother me i just hate it when people wont even consider another opinion is possible IYKWIM. -------------   
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Posted By: M2K
Date Posted: 05 February 2010 at 9:20pm
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I have noticed most of the heated threads on here have the same people on them, not sure if they are trying to get bites... and the same people who try to be the peacemakers to 'lighten' things up.
I just waaaaalk away! ------------- 
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Posted By: Peanut
Date Posted: 05 February 2010 at 9:34pm
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Totally agree with Mum2Keira!
Although I have decided to be a bit confident in a thread and am now in the sh*t . Might just go back to writing and deleting me thinks -------------
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Posted By: .Mel
Date Posted: 05 February 2010 at 9:36pm
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Why are you in the sh*t? All you were doing was given your opinion right? Nothing wrong with that! Be strong girl! ------------- Mr Mellow (16) Miss Attitude (8) Destructa Kid (3)
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Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 05 February 2010 at 9:36pm
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I think what we can all agree on , is that im great .
The end . -------------
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Posted By: lilfatty
Date Posted: 05 February 2010 at 9:49pm
Its the same people because everyone else is too afraid to upset someone so they type and delete! ------------- Mummy to Issy (3) and Elias (18 months) I did it .. 41 kgs gone! From flab to fab in under a year http://www.femininefitness.co.nz/category/blog - LFs weight blog
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Posted By: .Mel
Date Posted: 05 February 2010 at 9:56pm
Yeah we know that - why haven't you changed your name yet? ------------- Mr Mellow (16) Miss Attitude (8) Destructa Kid (3)
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Posted By: pepsi
Date Posted: 05 February 2010 at 9:56pm
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I only come here for the bitchfights..
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Posted By: lilfatty
Date Posted: 05 February 2010 at 9:59pm
Then you are in the wrong thread ... there is one brewing ------------- Mummy to Issy (3) and Elias (18 months) I did it .. 41 kgs gone! From flab to fab in under a year http://www.femininefitness.co.nz/category/blog - LFs weight blog
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Posted By: Raspberryjam
Date Posted: 05 February 2010 at 10:14pm
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for F**ks sake.
I had to type it. Im sure you wont mind. I always try to be nice. ------------- http://lilypie.com]
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Posted By: Bobbie
Date Posted: 05 February 2010 at 10:23pm
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The only thing that bugs me really is when a thread has gotten heated, people have come and lightened it up through singing, The Hoff, jokes etc. and then 5 minutes later someone comes in and stirs up the pot again. Like they're seeking out the drama.
Sometimes it's best not to poke the bear. I used to like to watch the odd out of control thread but sadly it's getting so commonplace these days I'm kind of over it. Especially since those who are more outspoken seem to keep getting personally attacked (and nope this isn't a pointed comment or a reference to anything in this thread so please please don't get upset)
ETA: and that first sentence was general too - I wasn't referring to the recent threads. Geez I put a lot of disclaimers in things -------------
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Posted By: pepsi
Date Posted: 05 February 2010 at 10:25pm
Ah yes..I see now.. *lurk* *lurk*.... |
Posted By: Bobbie
Date Posted: 05 February 2010 at 10:35pm
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How do you girls always find those threads so quickly? It's like you have a nose for them -------------
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Posted By: AandCsmum
Date Posted: 05 February 2010 at 11:03pm
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I usually type something & then think can't be arsed & back browser & go else where.
As my grandmother always said "If you can't saying something nice, don't say anything at all" But now days I tend to speak my mind. ------------- Kel http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: cuppatea
Date Posted: 05 February 2010 at 11:14pm
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I think I normally try to be nice, but sometimes I think f**k it and post what I'm actually thinking.
Love me for who I am or get stuffed ------------- 
 
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Posted By: Shezamumof3
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 12:25am
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haha Marisa, you crack me up ------------- |
Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 3:36am
haha , no , I just don't care enough to fight, but don't want to just lurk so I make random annoying comments , sorry if that comes across as me being a peace maker *dot dot dot * *shrugs * I like to laugh and I like making people laugh, even if its just one person ,so if that offends, well , Id rather I offended that way , I don't know how to respond any other way , its just me . Mel , I shall , when I stop being so lazy and email Kelly and ask her to change it for me *dot dot dot * -------------
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Posted By: MorgansMum
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 9:22am
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Posted By: Hopes
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 9:50am
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Meh, I get tired of nastiness, I just give these threads a wide berth for most of the part. There have been heated threads as long as I remember OB, but there kind of seems to be less of a point to them lately, IYKWIM?
I love a decent debate, and actually find them helpful. It just doesn't strike me as difficult at all to disagree and not be catty about it. I tend to think nasty things sometimes, but I don't post them. I figure with one half, it's not going to make a difference, and with the other, they didn't mean to come across that way and I'll hurt their feelings. ETA that I love the 'lightening up'. Some of you guys have brilliant senses of humor I wasn't blessed with one myself, so I can't think of anything clever to join in with, but you crack me up.-------------   
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Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 9:55am
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I love the debates, I might not agree with the other persons post but I still like to see it, and sometimes it even makes me think twice about my own stance and maybe even learn something new.
Its not at all nice when things get personal. So for those of you who write then delete be brave post instead. |
Posted By: cuppatea
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 10:03am
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Most of the threads that get complained about recently aren't even heated, they are barely even luke warm and I rarely see it get personal.
I actually don't think OB is bitchy, certainly no more than it has ever been, just lately everyone seems to be more sensitive. Personally if everyone starts just writing what people want to hear and all agreeing with each other on everything I will throw up and leave. I come here to have some adult conversation, albeit through a computer, and adult conversation means conflicting opinions. Some things can't be worded nicely no matter how hard you try and some one who disagrees with you will most likely always take offence no matter how hard you try to flower it up. I'm also over threads about "heated" thread. *sigh* -------------
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Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 10:14am
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someone said bring back the good old days of OB...
Well i dont think they were any different. threads would get heated, people would get upset about heated threads and certain people and complain about it then someone would post a thread about how bad OB was. then someone would post how it was so horrible and they were leaving and then everyone else would say no dont go. then there would be a thread about being PC and not posting what you really wanted cause you didnt want to offend someone and the thread about how it is hard to get across your meaning in the internet world cause you cant see facial expressions etc... and then it would be all quiet for a while with no interesting stuff happening and every one walking on tip toes... and then... the circle would begin again, and it will again and again.  ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker">
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Posted By: fire_engine
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 10:30am
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I don't mind debates but I get sick of pointless mud-stirring where something goes around and around in circles and ends up a long way away from the OP.
So basically, I agree with Bobbie - if it's cooled down, just leave it be. ------------- Mum to two wee boys |
Posted By: Bobbie
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 10:39am
This made me crack up. Good sentiment
Whomever said that the 'heated' threads often seem not to have much of a point these days - I totally agree. Some of them really don't warrant the amount of upset that seems to be caused. Not like the good ol' Circumcision, smacking, immunisation, gender prediciton etc. threads
I do think there seem to be more people who are joining OB just to make comment on a particular thread rather than joining to meet other parents and discuss many subjects and be part of a community. -------------
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Posted By: kiwikid
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 1:13pm
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I actually don't think OB is bitchy, certainly no more than it has ever been, just lately everyone seems to be more sensitive. Ooooh maybe we've uncovered a new phenomenon (sp???) and just like in Halls of Residence etc we've all aligned our menstral cycles so are all witchy and grrr at the same time! I caught myself out yesterday infact 'stiring the pot' (on another forum) but lucky enough had enough wits about me to re-read the OP and realise I'd gotten the wrong end of the stick, plus PMT meant my reply was a bit off. I do heartly agree however that it would be really nice, as another confrontation IRL avoider, to be able to freely state my opinion on a matter and not be shot down for it when it doesnt coincide with what the OP wants to hear. ------------- 
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Posted By: Rachael21
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 3:30pm
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I love a good debate and love the debate threads. I actually think everyone has got a lot better at keeping it on topic and not getting personal. I'm sure they used to get a lot more personal than they do know which is awesome. If people can't handle it just lurk then. It actually really annoys me when people post about how bitchy it is and people need to be nicer. Very rarely do I think people are nasty, they just have a better argument which annoys people.
In saying that I don't have enough time to say what I want and then be able to keep coming back to back up what I say so some of the time I don't bother. I hate the big whiney 'I'm leaving' posts for attention. |
Posted By: M2K
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 3:51pm
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[/QUOTE]I like to laugh and I like making people laugh, even if its just one person ,so if that offends, well , Id rather I offended that way , I don't know how to respond any other way , its just me .
[/QUOTE] You definately add spark into these threads and crack me up alot -------------
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Posted By: Hopes
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 4:30pm
Oh, I so agree. To be fair, I've never seen one on these boards (may have missed any that have actually eventuated). But I've seen them on other forums and they make me feel like saying 'Ok, then, have a nice life", pretty much, even if I agreed with the persons stance! -------------
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Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 5:06pm
Me three if you want to leave then just go - if people really cared or missed you they'd get in touch. I've taken a few breaks from OB over the years as some of this TTC stuff really does my head in but I don't make a big song and dance about it I just don't come on. easy |
Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 6:06pm
[/QUOTE] You definately add spark into these threads and crack me up alot [/QUOTE]
Thanks :-) , I find it easier to express myself with humor rather than arguing, I don't have the energy for it and would give up too quickly . -------------
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Posted By: palomino
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 6:16pm
| Surely its time for an interloper to come in? |
Posted By: Raspberryjam
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 6:25pm
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Posted By: palomino
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 7:34pm
i always imagined interlopers to look like this
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Posted By: pepsi
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 7:38pm
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Hahaha, totally!
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Posted By: fire_engine
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 7:46pm
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You never know what you're going to find on OB these days ------------- Mum to two wee boys |
Posted By: Raspberryjam
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 7:53pm
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Posted By: flakesitchyfeet
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 8:33pm
| LMAO Huntd thats so cute! |
Posted By: Hopes
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 9:07pm
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Hehe, I'm never going to be able to read the word interloper again without thinking of that one -------------
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Posted By: RoSee
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 9:54pm
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