Had to push him down the stairs!
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Topic: Had to push him down the stairs!
Posted By: Bizzy
Subject: Had to push him down the stairs!
Date Posted: 05 February 2010 at 4:31pm
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Literally, i had to push my son down the stairs so his father could almost drag him to school! I had to put his shoes on for him cause he refused to move. I dont know how i would have got him there today if his dad hadnt been home. There were tears and refusals to move and sulks... What on earth am i supposed to do next week if he starts that up again!? ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker"> 
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Posted By: BaAsKa
Date Posted: 05 February 2010 at 4:34pm
| is he having a hard time at school with something/someone Deb?? |
Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 05 February 2010 at 4:44pm
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ahhh , thats no good ! I had a year of that when C was in year one , she hated school then , a mix of a teacher she didn't understand (literally , her english was terrible ) having trouble with the work and a girl she clashed with .
Maybe try casually bring it up with him over the weekend, ask him if he learnt anything at school etc,who he plays with , that sort of thing , I think a lot of parents want to believe their child is having a great time at school cos its nicer to think that than think otherwise and we tend to answer for them , eg " but you like school don't you ?" (not saying you do this, just something i've noticed people do ) Unfortunatly , for a lot of kids they don't enjoy school , so its worth finding out if anything is bothering him , however ...it can sometimes be a case of the CBA'd blues , especially when they have had 6 loooonnnngg weeks of freedom , it can be hard getting back into the routine of HAVING to be somewhere . ------------- 
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Posted By: pepsi
Date Posted: 05 February 2010 at 5:20pm
| Oh bummer, I thought this was a thread about how to push DH down the stairs and make it look like an accident.. carry on.. |
Posted By: My3Sons
Date Posted: 05 February 2010 at 5:25pm
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LOL thanks for the laugh!! ------------- Mum to Mr 10, Mr 6 and Mr 4 
 
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pepsi wrote:
oh no Bizzy, last thing you need in the mornings!
Hope its just a passing phase, was he nervous about going back?Posted By: monikah
Date Posted: 05 February 2010 at 5:37pm
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oh bizzy that sucks. my nephew cried and cried from 7am til his mum left on the first day back. he was so freaked out about the change of teacher/classroom/friends etc.. that he was an absolute write off. he loves his teacher which is great so seems to be fine now.
id try make sure there isnt something he is worried or stressed about at school but hopefully its just the whole change over thing and in a few days when it isnt new and scary anymore he'll be fine :) ------------- 
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Posted By: Snappy
Date Posted: 05 February 2010 at 6:08pm
We had problems last year with Janaya and school, although it was more her behaviour and attitude towards me 
I spoke to the Dean there and they had a wee talk with Janaya, gave her a wee diary thing to write in and they had weekly visits. Haven't had any problems since! |
Posted By: KiwiL
Date Posted: 05 February 2010 at 9:12pm
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Aw, poor kid (and poor you!). How was he about going to school at the beginning of the week? If this is a new development, I'd be asking the teachers just to keep an eye on his interactions for a bit to make sure there is no reason for his anxiousness.
Hopefully it's just a phase while he settles back into the routine of going to school. |
Posted By: SMoody
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 5:37pm
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Easy with this one. You tell him straight out this time we are leaving for school whether you are ready or not. If he cant tell time yet show in on a normal clock where the minute and hour hand will be and leave him. Let himself get ready. Give him a ten minute warning. And then when the time comes take him as is and put him in the car. AS IS. That means he is in PJ's you take him AS IS.
If need be carry him and strap him in. Now depending on how your parenting methods is (or should I rather say how stubborn your kid can be) you can be prepared by having clothes in a bag for him (that he does not know about) and take him to school and tell him to climb out. Promise you he wont do this again. Unless of course there is an actual problem at school and that is the reason he does not want to go. Then find out what that is and sort that first. So my first advice only stands if he actually doesnt feel like going and nothing else is up and he is just not a morning person and dont like to get ready. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: jaz
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 6:58pm
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Bribe him with a lunchbox treat that he has to wait until morning tea time to eat? ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 08 February 2010 at 9:43am
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and again today i had to carry him to the bathroom and brush his teeth and wash his face then i had to dress him...
we got to school and he started crying so i turned around took the other one to kindy first and he thought he had got a day off! but as soon as i turned up the road to go to school he started again. i left him in tears standing next to the teacher. she said whe was going to talk to him. i asked him on the weekend if there was something going on at school that he didnt like but he seemed fine about it then and said it was ok. It was heartbreaking just leaving him there looking so miserable! But if i take him home he will never go to school. ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker">
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 08 February 2010 at 9:48am
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Poor little guy sounds really miserable - not to mention how stressful it must be for you.
Sounds like you are handling things well tho - not giving in and letting him stay home, but giving him plenty of opportunity for dialogue if there is something specific that is bothering him. ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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Posted By: .Mel
Date Posted: 08 February 2010 at 11:49am
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Posted By: High9
Date Posted: 08 February 2010 at 3:37pm
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Do many of his kindy friends go to the same school?
I think you're doing the right thing though, I remember I really loved kindy but didn't like school because of the "routine" and I took a while to adjust. I used to tell my mum everyday I was miserable  .
Maybe he really enjoyed the holidays!! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: ?Lolly?
Date Posted: 08 February 2010 at 9:55pm
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Poor little guy. Your much stronger than me. I'm guessing I'd give in and let him stay home. However I had a hard time at school right from about half way though the first year, may have left me slightly scared! Have you talked to the teacher? ------------- Captain Chaos (5) & the Trouble Monsters (2!) 
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Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 09 February 2010 at 7:10am
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i think he is having a hard time adjusting after the school holidays. There are kids in his class he knows, some from kindy, some from his soccer team even and some from last year. The teacher is a bit firmer i think but she has said some nice things about gabriel and thinks he will do fine. She is very willing to chat at the end of the day and said it didnt take him long at all to settle down yesterday either. So thats a good thing. They have swimming at school today so hopefully that will make him a bit more receptive. I have a sore back for some reason and fighting with him isnt very helpful! ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker">
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Posted By: jaz
Date Posted: 09 February 2010 at 8:31am
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I feel the same way Bizzy, in fact if I wasn't getting paid I would probably have to be pushed down the stairs to go to work each day. It was so much nicer staying in my pjs until lunchtime reading books and watching TV while on holiday. Sigh! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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