Free shot! Have at me!
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Topic: Free shot! Have at me!
Posted By: Bizzy
Subject: Free shot! Have at me!
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 12:41pm
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Ok in the spirit of an amnesty i am willing to be the guinea pig...
i will let you say whatever you want about me, my posts, my track record, my parenting... whatever you want - no repurcussions. oh and if you come in, read and then decide you are too scared to, just do it anyway! Go on, take a free shot!   ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker"> 
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Posted By: Mamma2N
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 12:55pm
haha, I'm just out the door - I'll come back to this, have to have a think 
No buut seriously, I don't actually have any low blows for you Bizzy.. I generally agree with what you say anyway
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Posted By: cuppatea
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 12:55pm
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haha, no one is brave enough.
Sometimes you post and I think "whoa that's a bit off" other times you post and I think "yeah you tell em" ------------- 
 
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Posted By: AandCsmum
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 1:04pm
I think you make life a little bit more interesting 
Sometimes I wander around these boards & think oh just use the search function but I do understand that doesn't work all the time so I get bored...You add to the wide variety of personalities on here. If you are a little stronger viewed or more opinionated than others that is fine, we just have to get to "know" you better! Don't go into other due in threads so don't know what you are like in there. ------------- Kel http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: my4beauties
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 1:08pm
Yes you're opinionated, and it took me a while to work you out and I think we clashed heads when I first started posting and I wasn't sure what I'd got myself into  , but now I feel like I get who you are and I appreciate your openess. Can't say I always agree with your views but I take what you say with a grain of salt now instead of getting upset by it.------------- My babies: R (9),G (7), J (5) http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: pepsi
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 1:12pm
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I reckon you've gone soft..
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Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 1:32pm
Ditto! Not nearly as opinionated and antagonising as you used to be, I used to think you took the opposing view just for the hell of it. I think you've passed that crown to LF |
pepsi wrote:Posted By: sally belly
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 1:34pm
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I can't think of a single bad thing to say to you Bizzy but will keep thinking just in case -------------    
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Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 1:35pm
oh feel free to post something nice if you want as well! LOL! ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker">
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Posted By: FreeSpirit
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 1:39pm
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Bizzy, I think you a brave honest woman, who sticks up and speaks out for what you think is right (or the right way). Because of this, sometimes you come across as a B with an itch, and you have rubbed me up the wrong way before, but just between you and I and the internet world - I actually like you. I was always taught to say what I think, and that pussy footing around doesn't help anyone, and you come across the same. ------------- http://www.babysfirstsite.com"> 
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Posted By: sally belly
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 1:49pm
I agree that you are brutally honest Bizzy, which I reckon is a pretty good trait to have  .
We don't want this to turn into a lovey dovey thread now do we?!! -------------
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 1:54pm
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Yep I agree too. I think you are great here Deb, live is too short to not say what you want and you do that well. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 1:57pm
No we dont... very true! ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker">
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Posted By: kellie
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 2:03pm
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I think your brutal honesty is great! Sorry I can't think of anything bad to say about you, I have never had a problem with a post of yours. ------------- 
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Posted By: lilfatty
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 2:14pm
Just to set the record straight .. I dont take an opposing view just for the hell of it ... (and this thread was supposed to be about Bizzy, not me) ------------- Mummy to Issy (3) and Elias (18 months) I did it .. 41 kgs gone! From flab to fab in under a year  http://www.femininefitness.co.nz/category/blog - LFs weight blog
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Posted By: noisybaby
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 2:39pm
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The problem is these days no one is willing to speak what they think but rather tell people what they want to hear. You do and its quite refreshing. I am like you and like to tell it like it is. If people don't like it then they shouldnt ask a question in the first place if they dont occasionally want to hear the truth or something that isnt sugar coated. Be straight up and speak your mind.Dont change for anyone or man this forum could end up boring ------------- http://lilypie.com">  
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Posted By: Raspberryjam
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 2:54pm
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Sometimes I think thank god someone is refreshingly honest, other times I just think your a right bitch
But really i guess you often have the guts to say what I only think ------------- http://lilypie.com] 
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Posted By: mamanee
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 2:57pm
| I love it how you say what most of us are thinking anyway. We need you here! |
Posted By: flakesitchyfeet
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 2:58pm
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LOL what she said!!
Took me a while to get used to your manner and bluntness, but now its meh and what I expect. At least you don't pussy foot around. I'll stop there incase I start giving you too many compliments
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Posted By: Shezamumof3
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 3:14pm
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hehe, a few times you have pissed me off lol, but Ive also met you IRL and you are lovely! It did take me a while to get used to your bluntness(on the forums) as well, but your posts are mostly always fair and you are never mean or nasty!
95% of the time these days I totally agree with your posts! It wouldnt be the same without ya deb! ------------- |
Posted By: Rachael21
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 3:14pm
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You say a lot of things I want to say but don't have the balls or time to back myself up. Keep it up it sure keeps things interesting
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Posted By: Bobbie
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 3:22pm
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Yep I agree with Sheena. When I first 'met' you on here I used to get really pissed off with some of your responses but then I met you IRL and thought you were lovely. Plus anyone who shaves their head for cancer can't really be all bad
Now I don't know whether I've gotten more b*tchy, or whether I just understand you more than I used to and am used to the way you post but generally I agree with the sentiments although not always the directness. ETA: Sorry I don't mean to imply that you are a b*tch. I just can't think how to word this right. -------------  
 
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Posted By: jazzy
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 3:26pm
| I was disappointed you deleted a post, I thought it was very informative & interesting & it was a follow on from information posted by the person who started the topic. |
Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 3:31pm
hmmm yes... deleting isnt something i am fond of and had said to my husband when i posted it that i would delete what i had said if the prev comment was deleted too... that was something i thought long and hard about posting and debated with myself about PMing... but sometimes i think if a person thinks they may not like my PM it is too easy to not read it and the info may have been lost completely. Glad you brought that up! Thanks... ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker">
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Posted By: Daizy
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 4:18pm
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I love you Bizzy!
I have to admit that when I first joined the site I was totally scared of you (Possibly one of the reasons I took so long to stop lurking) I mean I was shy and timid, and you seemed so confident, and just so much older and wiser.
I guess I was kinda intimidated by you, probably still am some of the time....but I respect you! ------------- 
 
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Posted By: palomino
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 4:27pm
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I think you are bloody great!
I wish i could say what i was thinking as well as you do, so i just love reading what you write because most of the time you say what i am thinking but put it a lot better in words, so THANKS! |
Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 4:40pm
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its funny you say that HUNTD cause i always wish i could be more articulate!
Daizy - the older bit yeah! Wiser, well the jury is still out on that one!
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Posted By: mamanee
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 4:45pm
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I also agree with the others who said when they met you in person that you were just SO lovely!
I must admit I was a little scared to begin with, but after meeting you in person and seeing your two gorgeous boys I realised that you are who you are! You're a great mum, full of knowledge, experience and guts! This place wouldn't be the same without you. |
Posted By: SMoody
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 5:04pm
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I think that you say what is on your mind. And it is difficult on a forum sometimes to judge the intent of the person and you can be a bit short and blunt and others think that you are a bit mean with your opinion where you just say it how it is (FOR YOU).
I dont always 100% agree with what you say and that is fine but I know you are one of a few people here that you will get a straightforward answer from without all the political correct ways of saying things ect. In real life you are totally different. So I think you are one of those people that people have to meet in person and see that you are who you are and you are actually a very big softie and that you have a strong opinion but not necessary for everyone to think the same as you. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Kellz
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 5:24pm
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In all honesty u used to scare the s*** out of me yonks ago cos of speaking your mind,...but now I think your fab
Like I have already said, Im so so grateful for u posting the info on breast crawling right before I had Aiden. Keep the info / comments/ opinions flowing,...we love u Deb! |
Posted By: pepsi
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 5:27pm
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Can I just say, I don't get why people say you're totally different in person? You're not that different..it's not like you're a monster here and meek little maiden IRL haha. I find the online you and real life you, both a normal mix of what anyone who isn't afraid to speak their opinions is like (myself included)
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Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 5:33pm
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pepsi - a meek little maiden. i almost wet myself!
i must admit i could never understand it either but wondered if maybe its more a case of because they have met me and seen i have only one head and two arms and no snakes growing out my head that i become less scary. its like when you turn on the light at night and realise that vampire is only the washing flapping on the line. ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker">
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Posted By: mummyofprinces
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 5:38pm
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Yup you scared the bejezzers out of me at first but soon got used to the way you worded posts.
I love your honesty, even if I dont always agree but thats what these places are about. We need people who are going to put it out there and not just follow the consensus.. other wise we dont learn anything. There isnt any poster here that I have ill feelings towards.. some just annoy me more often LOL -------------   
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Posted By: mummyofprinces
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 5:39pm
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Oh and yeah, you still scared me a little bit IRL LOL but like here I *think* I kind of figured you out and you were not so scarey anymore -------------
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Posted By: SMoody
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 5:46pm
Nope I think it has more to do with body language. You cant read body language on here and even the emoticons can be misread sometimes as well. But in person you can see how that person react when they say something and you can see their intent. So you are definately not a monster and never ever will be a meek little maiden Bizzy. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: pepsi
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 5:56pm
See, I couldn't find a pic of medusa using a computer, so had to whip up a very rough shot of the exorcist using one instead. Excuse the rough job.. haha 
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Posted By: Kellz
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 5:57pm
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Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 5:58pm
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PMSL! its like you caught me before my morning coffee! ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker">
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Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 6:00pm
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I'd imagine you and Nigel Latta would get on well, it does seem parenting is all very pc and Bizzy you are very much not politically-correct which is what this place needs from time to time.
I have never seen you be nasty or personal with people, you have however always offered constructive feedback. For myself however this is also the reason, I never ask for opinion or advice in the general thread. I go to the planning girls as they're a lot kinder. |
Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 6:09pm
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Pfft you don't scare me , I think we actually work quite well together .
Im the Yin to your Yang ... You say what Im thinking , and I make you laugh . ------------- 
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Posted By: BaAsKa
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 6:11pm
LMFAO!!! i heart u Deb!
Iv gotten to know you a little better recently with our common ground and i think you are awesome!!! but yeah i think your softening *ducks*
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Posted By: FionaS
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 9:11pm
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Really like you in person, as you know. We are veeeeeeeeeery different but I appreciate that. I was thinking the other day that you are a little like the Oh! Baby police woman...if you sniff out something wrong / debate-worthy you are in there in a flash.
Sometimes I don't agree with the bluntness or the speed at which conclusions appear drawn but I appreciate the fact that you obviously care enough about people and topics to think about them and spend time replying. I get the sense you only want people to uncover what is best and right (so subjective unfortunately). Occassionally it appears as though you simply enjoy debate and hence seek it out but that is probably not the case. So - did I do a good job of taking my usual position...on the fence LOL! The world needs activist and pacifists...sadly they both get misunderstood at times..who can say whether it is the speaker or the receiver who is at fault on those occassions...probably both. ------------- Mummy to Gabrielle and Ashley |
Posted By: MummyFreckle
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 9:35pm
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I am wondering what made you start this thread / ask the question? It seems a little strange to me....but thats just my opinion....
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Posted By: BaAsKa
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 10:09pm
possibly to give people the opportunity to let off steam here rather than it spilling over into the other threads.........just my view of course
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Posted By: Shezamumof3
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 10:18pm
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Bloody Hell Pepsi that pic scared the sh*t out of me!!!!! lol I HATE that movie! **shudder** ------------- |
Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 10:20pm
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You know whats even worse ? the spoof Repossed , my word that is chhhheeeessssy !!!! -------------
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Posted By: HoneybunsMa
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 10:29pm
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Is it bad that I read that as spof (think form 1) and giggled? No problem with you. Although it has taken me forever to realise what ya avatar is lol. For some reason I always thought it was quarter of a face, like just an eye with long hair. Obviously never really looked at it lol ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker"> 
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Posted By: palomino
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 10:52pm
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Posted By: peanut butter
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 11:52pm
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Geeze this is very lovey dovey! In the spirit of Bizzy, I will speak my mind. I think sometimes you say things that arent necessary. Yes they may be your opinion and there is nothing wrong with that...but less is more sometimes. You scared the sh*t out of me when I was a newbie...I wouldnt post on a thread once you had commented.
Its good you speak your mind and most of your comments make sense and are just calling a spade a spade, but sometimes...just sometimes its best to say nothing at all (for cuppatea ..its actually a sheepish, shrugs shoulders kinda smiley...that says "dont hit me")
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Posted By: WestiesGirl
Date Posted: 07 February 2010 at 12:07am
Ditto this too. I like that your opinions are informative, sometimes a bit abrupt, but often what is needed to be heard or said. ------------- Our Angel July 08  Gone but not forgotten
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Posted By: Chickaboo
Date Posted: 07 February 2010 at 12:07am
couldn't of said it better. as my former self AnnC though cause until recently you didn't realie we were ine of the same lol. ------------- http://lilypie.com">  
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Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 07 February 2010 at 9:37am
it possibly is a little strange, yes. but i was talking about an amnesty earlier after reading that a few people on here were scared to post what they really thought and how honesty seems to sometimes be lacking and that some people were choosing not to post their honest feelings ... so i thought why not give people a chance to be honest without repurcussions... ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker">
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Posted By: MaeBeeBaby
Date Posted: 07 February 2010 at 12:11pm
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LOL Caliandjack!!!!
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Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 07 February 2010 at 12:38pm
Thanks MB, general seems to get over heated far to often for me. |
Posted By: ellabellame
Date Posted: 07 February 2010 at 12:41pm
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i must admit, bizzy that i love reading what you have to say and often (not always!) agree with you. on the other hand though, i do get a little 'uh oh' feeling in my tummy when i see that you've replied to a thread i've posted in or started. lol, silly, i know.
ETA: that does NOT mean i want you to stop posting though!! ------------- |
Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 07 February 2010 at 12:42pm
i started a new thread on your inspiration. i dont like nigel latta! LOL! ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker">
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Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 07 February 2010 at 12:49pm
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Lol that is funny cause I think you are much like him, in saying how it is.
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Posted By: BuzzyBee
Date Posted: 07 February 2010 at 1:14pm
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Have always looked up to you and highly valued your opinions and passion for breastfeeding your children, something I too am very passionate about!
I am however wondering what I did/said wrong to not have you on my facebook friends list, I did recently start a new page so can't recall if i had added you over or not ...but when I went to go on your page and saw it said 'add friend' I was a bit miffed that maybe i'd pissed you off? Excuse me if my memory is so bad and that i hadn't got around to adding you, i still have to gather all my old FB friends from my other profile page.... Anyhoo that said, OB wouldn't be itself without ya and i like that you don't hold back, I personally couldn't give two hoots about what anyone thought of me on here, I do my damn best to give my son a wonderful upbringing considering our situation and I think i've managed to do a pretty damn good job (and I heart being on my own, so much more than being in a relationship) - at the end of the day we all have diff approaches to parenting, some more realistic and very different from others but that's what makes us all unique. ------------- Single Mum to a darling wee boy of 3 years :) |
Posted By: lilfatty
Date Posted: 07 February 2010 at 1:49pm
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Steph, you forgot to add her back on, we (Bizzy and I) had this discussion the other day ------------- Mummy to Issy (3) and Elias (18 months) I did it .. 41 kgs gone! From flab to fab in under a year http://www.femininefitness.co.nz/category/blog - LFs weight blog
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Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 07 February 2010 at 2:07pm
oh. oops... i saw i had some friend requests but i havent gone in there cause i know there is lots of stuff i have to get rid of as well. is one of those jobs i keep putting off... will get roiund to it today ! ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker">
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Posted By: minik8e
Date Posted: 07 February 2010 at 3:58pm
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I like what you say, and the majority of the time I agree with it. I like that you say it bluntly, because even though some people take offence, it is plain english and is harder to misconstrue.
But I also sometimes think..."uh oh" when I see you've replied on a heated topic
And I know you're normal...I went to an OB meetup in Auckland I think it was, a fair few years ago now, and I think it was Toby? who decided to go exploring....plus you've never been cruel to me in fact you've been rather nice!
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Posted By: .Mel
Date Posted: 07 February 2010 at 8:57pm
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I think you are a Nong!
You piss people off, and you help people too... nothing wrong with that.. and I think its FANFREAKENTASTIC that you SAY it like it is and you don't pussy foot around.. GO you!
BUT sometimes I would like to give you a telling off with some of the things you say to people.. but thats not my place to do say, it's between you and the other person. ------------- Mr Mellow (16) Miss Attitude (8) Destructa Kid (3) 
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 07 February 2010 at 10:13pm
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You make good scones!!!! See if you can remember what that is about!!! ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 07 February 2010 at 10:20pm
haha yep i do ! ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker">
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 07 February 2010 at 10:25pm
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Hahaha next time no yucky things in them and I will eat them!!!
------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: GuestGuest
Date Posted: 07 February 2010 at 10:26pm
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Seems to be mostly your RL friends replying, 1200 views though so others either don't have an opinion or are too scared to say anything! I'll have a go, seeing as it is a "free shot"....
I think you are a bit of an attention seeker (this thread a case in point) and love stirring things up to get a reaction but OB needs people like you to keep things interesting. You certainly keep me entertained on a boring day at work! |
Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 08 February 2010 at 9:36am
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little sal you may be right there...
mel i have never been called a nong before
and maybe i am going soft... ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker">
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Posted By: emz
Date Posted: 08 February 2010 at 9:43am
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Yeah I think you are Bizzy
OK, you irritate me, I don't agree with most of what you say and sometimes I wonder if you do it just for kicks.. So pretty much, I love reading your posts and really enjoy you around here Keep it up!
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Posted By: Shezamumof3
Date Posted: 08 February 2010 at 10:13am
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Deb, I think you've gotten a bot soft too ------------- |
Posted By: ?Lolly?
Date Posted: 08 February 2010 at 10:00pm
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bahahaha just lurking to see what other people were saying =op ------------- Captain Chaos (5) & the Trouble Monsters (2!) 
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Posted By: lilfatty
Date Posted: 08 February 2010 at 10:03pm
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I remember the first time I met you ..
I came up to you and said "Hi, I just wanted to introduce myself, I'm Julia" and you turned to me and went .. "I already know who you are" I remember thinking .. ooooooooooo k And people think im a straight to the point kind of girl ------------- Mummy to Issy (3) and Elias (18 months) I did it .. 41 kgs gone! From flab to fab in under a year http://www.femininefitness.co.nz/category/blog - LFs weight blog
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Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 09 February 2010 at 7:03am
sorry bout that. ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker">
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Posted By: rachndean
Date Posted: 09 February 2010 at 9:57am
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Bizzy, I love that you say exactly what you think, and dont pansy around about anything. Forums always need a good honest person to tell it like it is (in your eyes anyway hehe) and respond with what alot of people are probably thinking but are too afraid of confrontation to say (im guilty of that one!!!)
on the other hand you can be a little scary sometimes....... 
keep up the entertaining honesty!! ------------- http://lilypie.com">  
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