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Topic: Rules of engagement
Posted By: MrsMojo
Subject: Rules of engagement
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 10:59pm

I stole these off a blog.

 

1) Always remember the superiority of the real world over the virtual world.

If you are spending more time interacting with people over the Internet than you do in the real world, then you need to seriously curtail your online activity. God made us physical beings and we cannot replace physical interaction with virtual interaction. It’s just not the same.

2) Your salvation is more important than your involvement on the Internet.

If frequenting a blog or forum disturbs your peace and makes you anxious, uncharitable and/or unkind to those around you, you should simply stop going to that blog or forum. I have had to abandon certain forums and blogs because I found myself too upset with those I encountered there. It is better to simply walk away.

3) Don’t ever say anything on the Internet that you wouldn’t say in person.

This is a pretty common suggestion, but it is very true. If you wouldn’t call someone a putz to their face, don’t call them that online (and if you would call them that to their face, perhaps you need to see your confessor).

4) Don’t write anything in anger.

If you write a post or comment on a blog or on a forum in anger, be sure to preview it before posting. Then delete it.

5) Don’t stereotype people.

It is very easy to stereotype the people we “meet” over the Internet but the truth is that most people don’t fall into nice and neat categories. Remember to just debate actual arguments raised, not positions you assume the person also holds. Don’t think you actually know people you only encounter online. You don’t.

6) Take at least one day off a week from the Internet.

Preferably Sunday. Remember that man was not made for the Internet, but the Internet for man. If you feel you need to be on the Internet every day, then you are showing signs of a dangerous addiction. This is unhealthy, even if the sites you go to are not harmful themselves.

7) Always assume the good intentions of others.

If someone writes something that could possibly be interpreted multiple ways, assume the best interpretation. I have seen countless examples of someone making a point, someone else misinterpreting it and attacking it, then a whole discussion ensues before the original poster returns to say that he never meant what he was accused of saying. Writing is a difficult task, and often what we write isn’t exactly what we mean. Give people the same benefit of the doubt that you want to be given.

 

I have removed a few rules that aren't appropriate for this site but will also add this one: 

8) Remember we all want the same thing.

We are all parents (or parents to be) who only want what's best for our child/children.  We do not always agree on what's best but at the end of the day it's no skin off my nose if we can't agree because I can still do whatever I want with my own children.



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Replies:
Posted By: Daizy
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 11:05pm
*like*

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Posted By: weegee
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 11:09pm
Very nice Jo (and I think I'll take tomorrow "off" now )

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Mum to JJ, 4 July 2008 & Addie, 28 July 2010


Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 11:16pm
Very true .
One thing thats been going through my mind while reading the threads that have gotten a tad heated was " I hope they've all left the computer long enough to enjoy the good weather ! "

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Posted By: WRXnKids
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 11:21pm
Not sure i agree with 3) and maybe 4) i cant edit what i say in real life so i tend to be nicer on the net even when im annoyed cos unless im in a hurry i re-read my posts cos i type slower than my brain thinks so i end up with errors and half sentences left right and centre and dont use punctuation for ages ive just noticed

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Posted By: Babykatnz
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 11:29pm
hmm... heres prob not a good place to admit I spend more time talking to friends i have met online than I do people in real life?

hmm.. and dont say anything I wouldnt say in the real world.. I'd best back out of the TTC section then cos theres LOTS in there that I would never say out loud I am such a prude in real life!

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Brandon - 05/12/2003




Posted By: flakesitchyfeet
Date Posted: 07 February 2010 at 7:43am
They are brilliant, I really like those.
Sunday's should be my day offline.


Posted By: Hopes
Date Posted: 07 February 2010 at 8:00am
Very cool. And speaking of getting off the internet, I should be cooking scones for the family's visit at lunchtime, so seeya

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Posted By: blondy
Date Posted: 07 February 2010 at 8:18am
Like! Mmm scones

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