Have you let yourself go?
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Topic: Have you let yourself go?
Posted By: MrsMojo
Subject: Have you let yourself go?
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 11:28pm
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One comment I read in another thread tonight amused me. This is out of context and I do understand the gist of the comment (afterall some aspects of motherhood are less than glamourous but) the poster suggested that motherhood is unsuited to those that want to maintain a healthy figure (or in her words are 'vain') and I'm curious, do you think you've let yourself go and is motherhood a good excuse for this? Me? I'm a vain mum. I feel good when I look good. My aim is to be a VRM (my husband seems to think I am Frumpy mum is not a good look on me so even when I'm sleep deprived, harrassed and up to my elbows in number 3's I choose to be a glam mum. -------------  
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Posted By: Peanut
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 11:32pm
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Agreed! Am fatty them I would like to be but def still make a huge effort. never leave the house with out "proper attire" and make up! -------------  
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Posted By: Daizy
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 11:35pm
I think being a mother I have let myself go, I guess I have relaxed a little with my appearance and am comfortable enough to not have to dress up or wear makeup where ever I go. I think I have just become lazy (and too cheap to wast the makeup for just around home 
I haven't let myself go so much that I cant get dressed up and do my makeup if I need to. I guess I am pretty lucky not having to worry too much about extra weight. My biggest problem is the clothes I wear, I just don't have time to keep updating my wardrobe. I find it so frustrating trying to find clothes my size I just give up and wear my old jeans almost every day. I really wish I could be a glam mum - you are my inspiration
What is a VRM???? ------------- 
 
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Posted By: minik8e
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 11:36pm
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I think, in the context it was used, that it was more to describe someone who cared more about their own body image than that of their unborn baby...more worried about staying slim, than being healthy.
Have I let myself go? Hrmm, probably yes. I'm nearly 20kg over my pre-preg weight, I have an "apron" and I don't put on makeup everyday, nor do I really dress up - singlet and a skirt, or shorts, is my lot unless I'm going to town or work, when I might put a bit of makeup on...and I live in my jandals (granted, they're flashy jandals, but still, at the end of the day, they're jandals!!). So...I'm presentable, but worn in. I have other things to do with my day that take priority over how I look, what with study, work, and caring for our two girls. And....cos I gotta ask....what is a VRM??? ETA: Oh, and my wardrobe is pretty restricted, so I don't get much to choose from...am on a weight loss challenge, so no point going out and buying a whole lot of clothes that hopefully won't fit soon!! |
Posted By: MrsMojo
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 11:43pm
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VRM = Very Rootable Mother Daizy, I stopped trying to be 'fashionable' in my early 20s. I regularly wear clothes that I bought 8+ years ago, it's all about buying key pieces that suit you, are good quality and stylish enough that they won't go out of fashion (and trying not to gain or lose too much weight). Oooo, maybe we should go shopping! -------------
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Posted By: Shezamumof3
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 11:43pm
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I used to be a trendy person, make up, styley clothes black knee high boots etc etc, but since having the kids I dont wear make up, I live in shorts and singlets etc and in winter trackpants or leggings with ug boots, I either wear my hair in a pony tail or just brush it and clip my fringe put of the way lol
I havent worn make up for ages! However, I am never "scruffy" I am always neat and tidy, and like Jo when i look good i feel good. So if Im wearing trackpants, I'll wear firm fitting ones, not baggy ones and a nice top etc etc I always wear my nice silver necklaces and braclets and earings etc aswell. ------------- |
Posted By: AandCsmum
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 11:45pm
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This is interesting...even though I lost weight after my first baby, I didn't give a sh*t what I looked like. Supermarket at night in trackies & ugg boots! Then I watched a program about how NZ woman have let themselves go once they've got married & started having kids.
So I decided then and there to never go out in trackies & ugg boots again. Getting changed into something nicer definitely made me feel better....definitely helped with my self image. Definitely helped our home situation as DH was going through depression as well. This time around my friends have described me as a MILF....I make sure I dye my greys, tie my hair back or straighten it & I am usually wearing something nice. Doesn't have to be expensive, can be hand me downs too, but it has to be something that makes you feel better so not a baggy t-shirt! I also have thin Lizzy which I keep in the car & whip around my face as I leave the drive. That alone makes me feel invincible! ------------- Kel http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: AandCsmum
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 11:47pm
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Ditto Jo...some of my clothes are ones I bought years and years ago!! ------------- Kel http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Daizy
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 11:49pm
Yes!! I'm firing DH from being my Shopping partner after he threw a tanty in Dressmart the other day... oh you should have seen the look on the ladys face after she asked if we needed help and we both snapped  -------------
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MrsMojo wrote:Posted By: WestiesGirl
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 11:49pm
lol Jo 
I like to still be a MILF or VRM I dont wear makeup on a daily basis but do if there is a big event or we go out for something other than shopping or daily chores.
At home I tend to stick with shorts or skirt and singlet just cos its comfier than wearing other clothes in this terrible heat. I always put in the effort when I go out and make sure we all look presentable. I like to take pride in how I/we look. ------------- Our Angel July 08  Gone but not forgotten
And to complete our family, our princess has arrived 
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Posted By: Daizy
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 11:50pm
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See I am not old enough to have clothes I brought years ago, 8 years ago I was in fluffy pink skirts and boob tubes.
ETA. The other day I went to kindy in a nice skirt and top, and got so many comments, its amazing how much that can boost your whole day  I just had to find somewhere else to go out to make the most of being dressed.-------------
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Posted By: AandCsmum
Date Posted: 06 February 2010 at 11:53pm
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Actually I think hitting 30 made me wake up! ------------- Kel http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: MrsH
Date Posted: 07 February 2010 at 2:20am
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I haven't let myself go simply for the reason that I never 'was' to begin with.
I've always been a bit of a low maintenance type or tom-boy really. I like to make sure I'm clean and tidy when I go out but rarely wear makeup unless it's to work or 'out'. My wardrobe consists of tshirts, jeans, shorts and canterbury pants. I'm lucky however that I have reasonably good skin (most of the time) and not much in the way of age-signs (crows feet and the like) so my face still looks presentable. I think this is because I didn't really start wearing makeup until I was about 28 and the moisturiser I use is a medicated one prescribed by my GP for eczema. I HATE HATE HATE it though when my eyebrows get away on me. And I weigh less now than I did when DH and I started TTC. BUT in saying all this, one of the things I want this year is to be more groomed. I'll be getting regular haircuts, my brows will never get the better of me and (once I start back at work $$$) I will look more presentable (read MILF-like) both at home and when I go out. ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: lilfatty
Date Posted: 07 February 2010 at 6:19am
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I too am not a make up girl, the only time I wear it is on stage and on rare occassions I will put it on to go out at night, but even then Im quite comfortable to go out with a clean face.
I'm also probably alot like MrsH I dont dress like a girley girl as a rule, so my wardrobe basically consists of gym gear and surf brand clothing (roxy or ripcurl jeans, shorts and tops). I'm in the process of losing the weight I put on during both pregnancies and Im getting there slowly, so at times I can look frumpy because I refuse to buy new clothes since I have a closet full of them already (they just dont fit yet) ------------- Mummy to Issy (3) and Elias (18 months) I did it .. 41 kgs gone! From flab to fab in under a year  http://www.femininefitness.co.nz/category/blog - LFs weight blog
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Posted By: flakesitchyfeet
Date Posted: 07 February 2010 at 7:39am
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I was 'healthy anal' about weight gain and exercise during my first pregnancy because I was still working. When you are at a gym every day its easy to find the motivation to use it! But its been a little harder this time, still concious of it though.
I'm not a make - up girl, too clueless and unco to use the blimmin' stuff. I would for a wedding, fancy dinner etc. it helps that I'm blesses with a smoothish olivey complexion. As for clothes, I'm a riding country bumpkin lol, bring on the jeans and check shirts. If I'm having a bad day, I'll make the effort to make myself feel better, and if I am heading down the main road I'll make an effort too. I will see at least 5 people I 'know', even if it is just the shop keepers. Generally there will be an inlaw, a GP, a neighbour and a parent from kindy lol. I still want to put my best foot forward, even if I'm not all 'glammed up.' |
Posted By: Hopes
Date Posted: 07 February 2010 at 7:50am
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I'm not a Mum quite yet, but I think I'm with the crowd that never 'was' to begin with I wear makeup on special occasions only (going to work doesn't count), although I do go through the odd phase of buying some and wearing it for a while.
I dress nicely for work because it's expected, but I don't give my clothes much thought. I've got some comfortable skirts / tops that I think look quite nice, and I throw on whatever first comes to hand in the mornning (provided it's not a pink skirt and a red top or some glaring thing like that). But if I'm at home on a Saturday in trackies and want come milk, I don't get changed to go get it. I hardly ever wear heels - I have two pairs, one that I quite like for the odd special occasion, and a pair of stillettos that my sister wants me to wear to her wedding, and that I'm busy getting used to walking in! Figure-wise, I used to care a lot in my late teens / early 20's (too much, I didn't find it fun at all). Then I got married - and I didn't let myself go (I've put on a few kilos on my teenage weight, but nothing that bothers me in the slightest), but I did stop caring. For me, that was a good thing, DH finds it much nicer too! Having tyroid issues that really bought my weight down for a while probably gave me a bit of a wake-up call that being super-slim isn't all that. I try and eat heathily, and if I think I'm plumping up a bit, I try and eat a little more healthily for a while, and it seems to do the trick! DH doesn't seem to have any trouble finding me attractive, and I'm happy, which I kind of figures is what matters  And when we do have Bubs, I won't have far to fall
ETA that the one thing I do do is try to get some excercise in. I figure it's healthy, and makes me feel better, it's pretty important. I'm not really into gyms, so I usually go walking (running in my more energetic times!) or swimming. -------------   
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Posted By: Kellz
Date Posted: 07 February 2010 at 7:58am
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I dont think Ive really let myself go, but I do have a much more limited wardrobe and dress more casually than I did pre-kids. I think that has more to do with where we now live tho. You would never see a Mum out wearing stilletos around here!!
I cant stand having hairy eyebrows and get the waxed every 3 weeks. I have my hair regularly cut and dyed and wear basic makeup everyday even at home. I would like to wear more fashionable clothes tho and plan to get some new stuff for winter. |
Posted By: ooEvaoo
Date Posted: 07 February 2010 at 8:03am
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Yeah I'm a bit in the middle. When I first moved in with DP I always dressed nice, wore makeup all the time....but yes I did let myself go after that. Now I'm in the process of losing weight too...so my wardrobe consists of gym gear as well....I do have some nice pieces of clothing that I can still wear as I down size....but like mentioned earlier I don't want to spend money on clothes that I won't be needing anymore. At the moment as clothes get too big for me I chuck them out and buy something new (that's stretchable lol). I hardly ever leave home without eye liner and mascara and lipgloss lol. Will be getting some thin lizzy soon...and will be starting back at studies so will definitely be keeping my appearance up abit more than I am at the mo. ------------- 
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Posted By: Hopes
Date Posted: 07 February 2010 at 8:21am
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Ooh, I did think of another thng while making the scones. The one part of my life that fits a more primped and preened girly image than the rest of me is my knickers draw I do like nice knickers and bras, and sadly, all the bras are becoming too small at a rate of knots! -------------
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Posted By: Hopes
Date Posted: 07 February 2010 at 8:26am
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Oooh, although, I am currently cooking scones in stilletos! Surely that puts me right up there??
(Ignore the previous post where I mention I'm wearing them in for the wedding) -------------
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Posted By: Raspberryjam
Date Posted: 07 February 2010 at 8:58am
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Im vain. If thats what you call it. I look after myself, wear nice clothes do my hair and wear makeup. Wouldnt be seen dead with naked toenails and I dont always polish my nails but they are long and tidy. My husband is hot! he deserves a woman who takes care of herself. And I want my children to take pride in their appearence too. ------------- http://lilypie.com] 
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Posted By: Cassie
Date Posted: 07 February 2010 at 9:30am
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I've got to say that I take a lot more care of myself now than I have probably ever done before in my life. I've always been a bit of a scruffy tomboy, and overweight for like about 8 years now. I'm 13kgs lighter than I was when I got married, I dress nicer, my hair looks better and I definitely take more pride in how I look. I will wear lazy clothes around the house but always try to look nice when I go out somewhere - Eldest daughter is of an age where shes starting to be aware of stuff and I don't want to be a mum that embarrasses her. I've never been a girl to wear make up though and like being really low maintenance while still making the most of my assets. I'll definitely doll up if I am going out for dinner or have an event to go to.
I think for me it's more about finally getting to a point in my life where I feel 'safe' enough not to hide under baggy clothes and messy hair, and less to do with the fact that I am now married with kids. ------------- ~Cassie~   
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Posted By: X
Date Posted: 07 February 2010 at 9:31am
I haven't let myself go either. I try very hard to be a MILF. I feel I owe it to my husband-when he married me I was slim & attractive & took care of my appearance. I think it's a bit disrespectful to him if I now let myself go completely. And yes, he's hot so he deserves a hot woman. I would be severely pissed off if he let himself go for the same reason-I don't think being happily married or having a family is an excuse to stop trying. It doesn't take much to look good, & it makes me feel so much better about myself. I don't have the latest trendiest clothes either, I just do the best with what I have. Just my humble opinion. No offence meant to anyone ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: lilfatty
Date Posted: 07 February 2010 at 10:58am
Aww both my husband and I (as I read it out to him), think that was an awesome post. I too am one of the lucky women who has a hot husband ... just luckily when he met me I was basically the same, just two sizes smaller, so all I have to do is get my ass smaller. Although he did say, what he likes most about me being back in training is that it makes me happy A happy wife = a happy husband. ------------- Mummy to Issy (3) and Elias (18 months) I did it .. 41 kgs gone! From flab to fab in under a year http://www.femininefitness.co.nz/category/blog - LFs weight blog
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Posted By: ellabellame
Date Posted: 07 February 2010 at 11:22am
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hmmm, i don't think i've let myself go. i've never rally been one to care about my appearance though. i love comfortable clothes and only really wear makeup if i'm going to a special occasion like a wedding or out to dinner or something.
saying that though, DP doesn't like me to wear too much makeup, he likes the way i look naturally (nothing against women who wear makeup, that's just the way he is) so i guess it's a good thing we're together because i really can't be bothered with all that stuff! lol. i do like to wear heels though as i have short legs, i have a wee collection of them in the closet but haven't worn any for 2 years as i now live on the west coast where most people go to the pub in work overalls and gumboots so i'd look a bit out of place in my stilettos ------------- |
Posted By: kebakat
Date Posted: 07 February 2010 at 11:27am
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I think I'm a bit like Kali1
I take more care now. I never learnt how to do makeup but am learning a little now and wear it sometimes, not every day but reguarly and am experimenting with it. I take more time in choosing clothes that suit me rather than liking something on the rack and just buying it without thinking about my purchase properly. I've been working out but I also did that before I met DH so I've just continued. I've never been a size 10 though |
Posted By: ooEvaoo
Date Posted: 07 February 2010 at 11:57am
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Yup I think each to their own. If you're comfortable with or without makeup that's fine. Sometimes the most beautiful faces I've seen are the most natural ones. I'm at home with a pair of stilettos..but I'm also just as comfortable in sneakers or jandals. Whatever is comfortable, what ever makes one feel good, that's all that matters. My partner is tall, dark, and handsome!....but he's let go as much as I have lol...he's just lucky he's tall. But we're working on ourselves. Yup there's been plenty of times when I think I embarrass him..living in tshirts and trackies..but as my confidence grows with my slowly shrinking body..I know I'll never feel that down about myself again. -------------
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Posted By: CuriousG
Date Posted: 07 February 2010 at 12:14pm
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When I stopped working, I decided I wasn't going to put makeup on every day anymore. Ummmm....whatever! I don't feel complete without it!
I am lighter now than what I was pre pregnancy with Cameron. I also do my hair every day (gotta love my GHD's) and I do a full face of makeup except mascara (it just falls off anyway so I don't bother unless I am going out somewhere special). I have relaxed though and wear jandals, tank tops and shorts most days. However, I am not one of these people who feels comfy going out in my ugg boots and pj bottoms so never do that. I also do my toenails and more recently my fingernails - they are shaped and painted and I make sure its not all horrible and chipped. DH loves me whether I am made up or not - but for me personally I feel better having a full face of makeup and my hair done. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 07 February 2010 at 12:28pm
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what a paradox! beautiful made up face and hair and then shorts and jandals! LOL! ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker"> 
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Posted By: Snappy
Date Posted: 07 February 2010 at 1:44pm
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I haven't. I think I take really good care of myself .
I've had a time in my life where I was overweight and I never want to go back to feeling the way I did about myself. I now work out, eat well, paint my nails, get my eyebrows done and spend an extra 10mins in the morning getting ready. There are days were I think "Ok.. so today was a total waste of makeup" but generally when I walk out of the door in the morning I feel great. I feel sexy and happy which in turns makes husband very happy
I will quite often wear shorts with jandals and a made up face, it makes me feel good and my hubby is hot and takes care of himself as well... we both lost weight!
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Posted By: Nikki
Date Posted: 07 February 2010 at 2:22pm
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LOL - I'm always having "waste of make up days!" And I'm also always in shorts and singlets with my make up done!
I think I've let myself go a little - but not completely to the pack! I put make up on every morning, and my hair is long so usually tied up but will have it out when I go out. My eyebrows are always done and toenails painted. Clothing-wise I dress way more casual - as I kinda need to be with getting down on the ground more and going to cofee group / playcentre etc. I will still wear jeans or nicer shorts out and sometimes dresses but with flat shoes now (NEVER wore flat shoes out of the house before kids) and trackys out sometimes and alot at home. My wardrobe is very limited, as I'm also not buying clothes til I've lost weight (and will then be back into my old wardrobe which isn't as trendy now as it used to be, and not expensive but classic/plain and nice) .... I have about 7 or 8kgs to lose and have just started trying the last few weeks .... but I'm UP to a size 10, so not exactly huge, just too much tummy (2 c setions and a 9lb bub will do that!). I look at other women in their mid-30s without kids - and alot of them seem to have gone to the pack as much as I have! haha ------------- DS (5yrs) and DD (3yrs) |
Posted By: pepsi
Date Posted: 07 February 2010 at 3:58pm
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I don't wear makeup..never have, and I generally wear tshirts/shorts or tshirts/jeans most of the time. In terms of weight, yes I have "let myself go". For the record, it's not like DH is still the same weight he was when we first met either
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Posted By: minik8e
Date Posted: 07 February 2010 at 4:08pm
Very very well put!! And so very true...DH definitely isn't the same size now as when we got together...and I think rather than letting myself go, my priorities have just changed. I do make sure I ALWAYS have a shower in the morning though, to look/feel presentable, even if it means leaving the girls on the floor playing for 5 minutes. |
Posted By: FionaS
Date Posted: 07 February 2010 at 4:32pm
Not a paradox at all I don't think....? I like to feel nice too. I almost always wear mascara & lip gloss and do my hair (use a hairdryer instead of a straightener). I dress up sometimes but generally like casual but stylish stuff. I love the idea of being feminine whilst also being kinda one of the boys...make sense? ------------- Mummy to Gabrielle and Ashley |
Posted By: mamanee
Date Posted: 07 February 2010 at 4:43pm
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Oh man I feel so stink sitting here at nearly 5PM in my stained dressing gown, unwashed/unbrushed hair, my hairy legs, my pimply face and my smelly armpits.
I scrub up ok though.
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 07 February 2010 at 4:57pm
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Yes and no I have. I have days when I can't be arsed getting done up and I do slop around and then I have days like today I went out fishing on the boat in a nice top hair done niceish (was under a hat most of the day) and comfortable pants. I am in the process of working out where we are living and from there will start to make lifestyle changes. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: kellie
Date Posted: 07 February 2010 at 5:20pm
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Oh yes I have definitely let myself go!
I look back at pre -baby photos of myself and can't believe the difference. It's enough to almost make me cry lol. I am currently making a huge effort to get back to how I was. I think once I shift some weight I will be more enthused to spend more time on my clothes/hair/nails etc My hair is currently down to my waist, I just wear it up all the time. I need a haircut lol ------------- 
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Posted By: mummytobesep08
Date Posted: 07 February 2010 at 5:26pm
 I don't use motherhood as an excuse as such but I've had bad PND and have been on lots of meds which has lead to such glamorous things as huge weight gain, puffiness, hair loss, dry skin, and acne.....oh yea I'm totally rocking that look- NOT!
BUT in saying that, I do think that it would be irresponsible and selfish of me to not take the meds in order to be less frumpy. So I guess I've sorta resigned to being the way I look! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: mamanee
Date Posted: 07 February 2010 at 5:59pm
Ditto! I haven't had a haircut in god knows how long. And I haven't dyed it in ages too so my regrowth is about 10 inches long. At least it's kinda the same colour as the rest but still! |
Posted By: AandCsmum
Date Posted: 07 February 2010 at 6:01pm
We all have days like that
Yes very true! I know my kids & my DH loves me...It's loving myself that counts. Making that little bit of effort makes me stand straighter somedays
One day a few weeks ago, I took Alia up town shopping...I was pleased I made that little extra effort cause I bumped into an old boyfriend. Not that I care what he thinks, but I'm in better shape than I was with him & it's almost like a haha you could have had this.... ------------- Kel http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: FionaO
Date Posted: 07 February 2010 at 6:17pm
he he I know how those days go. I vary massively, I have days where getting dressed seems pointless as soon as DS gets his grubby paws on me, but other days I do make an effort. It sometimes is too easy to slob around ------------- 
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Posted By: CuriousG
Date Posted: 07 February 2010 at 6:44pm
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Its not as though they are sloppy clothes, in fact, they are nice black 3/4 shorts that I used to wear to work with high heels and jandals with sequins on the straps!
And I also have days where I stay in my nighty/dressing gown till lunchtime at least! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: sally belly
Date Posted: 07 February 2010 at 6:46pm
I am a little surprised that so many of you ladies wear make-up when you're at home with the kids  . I honestly don't know how you find the time to apply it  . It has been so hot up here recently I just can't imagine a face full of foundation would feel that nice.
If I am to be perfectly honest, I have probably let myself go to some extent. I still have 5kgs to lose before I'll be back to my pre-preg weight. Could be worse. I am ready to get stuck in & lose the weight but just finding the time is near impossible for me at the moment with DH being away... I will never leave the house without straightening my hair though. It is such a frizzy mess otherwise... -------------    
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Posted By: cuppatea
Date Posted: 07 February 2010 at 6:48pm
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I was already gone..lol
My weight is less than before kids, my size 10 clothes hang off me which I can assure you is not such a good look. Hopefully I will put a bit of weight back on now that Kyle isn't feeding as much. I've never really worn make up except when going out. In my line of work going to work done up would have caused me a whole lot of grief, hard enough to get taken seriously in a mans world without turning up looking like you are worried about breaking a nail. I so need a haircut and a new wardrobe but it's not gonna happen so just have to work with what I have. I have never left my house in Pj bottoms though and DH always laughs cos I will do my hair and sometimes change my clothes before I even go to countdown. I'm always mortified when we have a parcel cos the courier comes really early and I'm usually pre coffee and in my most unattractive, but very comfy, dressing gown. ------------- 
 
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Posted By: tishy
Date Posted: 07 February 2010 at 7:03pm
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I probably have but didn't really have far to go
The main 2 things that's different now than pre-kids is the spare tyre around my waist and that all my jeans have holes in the knees due to crawling around after kids
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Posted By: mamanee
Date Posted: 07 February 2010 at 8:01pm
| I don't bother with makeup while I'm at home with the kids either. It just melts off and looks awful and who is going to see me? I wear a bit of concealer, lip gloss and mascara if I go somewhere, and more if it's a night time thing, but I honestly don't even have time to put makeup on during the day! |
Posted By: NikkiB
Date Posted: 07 February 2010 at 8:01pm
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I always wear makeup (not a whole face of fountain, mainly eye makeup) even if I'm not going out. Lately, I've been LOVING having straight hair, so alway try to make the effort to straighten it. I also try to dye my hair often to keep the greys away.
I've still got 4kgs to go before I'm pre-pregnancy weight - might not seem a lot to some people, but I can definitely tell where it is
I have always been and still am, a jeans girl. I feel feel really good in a great pair of well fitting jeans. One thing I have really gotten into lately is sexy underwear. Even if no one else is going to see it, I know that I'm wearing it - and thats all that counts ------------- A very lucky mummy to two gorgeous boys: RB 3/10/2008 JB 29/12/2009 |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 07 February 2010 at 8:41pm
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Weight wise I definitely let myself go - I'm 30kg heavier than I was pre-gremlins, and that's even after losing 10kg in the past 5 weeks . But then I did have three babies and a miscarriage in less than two years, plus a rather nasty bout of PND, and my weight has always been something I struggled with. But as I mentioned, I've recently taken control of that aspect of my life and am loving being back at the gym and generally just feeling so much healthier.
For a long time I let myself go in general too -pregnancy makes me violently ill so I spent a large chunk of time with sallow skin from vomiting all day, patches of eczema round my mouth from ptyelism and awful hair coz I couldn't sit long enough to have it done. But in the last year or so, I've started making more effort, partly coz I've been back at work (and I work in a fairly image-conscious industry, even tho our team are very laid back about it). I wear makeup most days (unless it is really hot, in which case I agree with Sally belly, wearing a full face of foundation just feels ick. I get my hair cut, coloured and foiled every six weeks, and I make an effort with my clothes. Which is not to say I am perfect - I frequently spend all day in my PJs if I don't have to go out, and never wear makeup just around the house. And yes, I have been to the supermarket in my PJs before (oh, the shame!), and am allergic to shoes ( a product of my Kiwi upbringing ) so don't wear them unless I have to, so as a result have flat feet with dry, cracked heels.
Willie doesn't really care what I look like, but I feel better when I make an effort, and he does notice... -------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: mummyofprinces
Date Posted: 07 February 2010 at 8:56pm
Me too nee!!! *wanders off to put straightners out so I at least do my hair before I leave in the morning* BF singlets, jeans, skirts and cardis are my staple with jandals or flats. If J isnt with me a push up bra and normal top makes me feel better than doing my hair or putting on make up.. oh for the times my boobs sat on my chest and were not racing each other to the floor.... -------------   
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Posted By: minik8e
Date Posted: 07 February 2010 at 9:04pm
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LOL melnel....BF singlets are still a staple in my wardrobe and i don't even BF They're massively comfortable!!
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 07 February 2010 at 9:13pm
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Oooh yes I agree Mel - a good bra makes all the difference! I always feel so much more "uplifted" when I can ditch the nursing bra for a change. ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
(02/01/06)
The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: scribe
Date Posted: 07 February 2010 at 9:24pm
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I (usually) always wear makeup - I feel like crap if I don't. It only takes 10 mins and I feel so much better for it.
Personally, I think I need to - I have pale, freckly skin that easily goes red/blotchy, and features that look very indescript (right word?) without some definition. I know many guys prefer their partner without makeup, but I'm pretty sure than my DH is not one of them. (Must ask him!) And yes, I agree with the person who said they wouldn't like to see their DH 'let himself go' either ... ok, DH can't help losing a bit of hair (  ), but I wouldn't find him as attractive with a beer belly.
As for my hair, I've always had very thick and uncontrollable (wavy) hair, so I usually just tie it back unless I'm doing something special. But I get it regularly cut and often highlighted/dyed. Re: weight, I'm less than I was pre-pregnancy, but that's due to running around after a toddler and being too busy to snack, rather than to diet and exercise (in fact I think I eat more chocolate now than I ever did!) |
Posted By: LittleBug
Date Posted: 07 February 2010 at 9:25pm
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Gosh, now I feel like I'm disappointing DH... I'm definitely not as hot as I was when he married me. My boobs, bum and tummy are saggy (don't think weight loss will help that much but I'm trying!) and I'm at that awkward in between stage where I don't fit any of my clothes but can't afford to buy anything decent while I'm losing weight. I've never really worn makeup, so nothing has changed there... I wear more skirts than I used to and more jewellery/earrings... I've gotten more girly I guess!
But to top it off, I shaved my head. So I guess I'm not really a VRM (lol!) but I try to shave as often as I can, wipe as much baby food off me as I can, smell as nice as I can and I DID paint my toenails the other day
ETA: DH always tells me I look beautiful to him no matter what, maybe I'm just an idiot for believing him! Haha ------------- Chloe (4 years) and Oliver (3 years). |
Posted By: MrsMojo
Date Posted: 07 February 2010 at 9:34pm
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I guess it depends on perspective and what you consider made up. I don't make myself up like a character from Priscilla Queen of the Desert I also happily wear shorts and jandals, I don't wear shoes at all at home (and last Sunday after church the kids and I changed into clean pjs and had a lazy pj day). Today I wore trackpants with avocado smeared on them and a fitted tshirt that will look better when I get rid of my mummy pouch - at least from the shoulders up I was put together. Unlike many I don't believe there is anything such as a wasted makeup day, it doesn't matter if I'm going to be home all day with the kids. I hate to look like a wreck when I catch a glimpse of myself in the mirror and in a 1950s housewife kind of style I like to be well groomed for DH plus if I only ever put in the effort when I was going out somewhere he might start to get suspicious -------------
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Posted By: CuriousG
Date Posted: 08 February 2010 at 7:15am
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I agree Jo about the housewife thing. In fact, it was a photo that was taken of me and Cameron without makeup that made me go "ok, ick, makeup ain't too much effort and damn I look so much better with it!"
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Posted By: emz
Date Posted: 08 February 2010 at 8:49am
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I have let myself go weight wise, have about 5kg to shift, but otherwise I always wear makeup (take 2 mins while Jack's brushing his teeth), always do my hair nicely and wear tidy clothes.
Funnily enough I refuse to laze around in my PJ's now I'm a mum - I feel I would fit the cliche. I used to when I was working though! |
Posted By: jaz
Date Posted: 08 February 2010 at 9:14am
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I have to look presentable for work so don't tend to dress up or wear makeup if I am just hanging around home in the weekends but not quite at the baggy tracky stage either. I buy casual clothes that can also be used for casual Friday so unless it is gym gear my clothes tend to be fairly tidy. Comfort is a must though so I don't do heels.
I still haven't lost all the baby fat despite the baby being 2 1/2 years old. This is probably the one area that I've let myself go in. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: JAFAjaffa
Date Posted: 08 February 2010 at 9:27am
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Yes, I have the mummy pouch. And I don't fit my pre-preg clothes yet - but I am working on it! I have at least 10kg to shift! So right now I feel like I have let myself go, but I'm back at the gym and I am being more careful about the consumption levels - although not too much since I'm exclusively breastfeeding!
Definitely no make up here, but I only used a little when I went to work anyway (mascara and lip gloss). I honestly don't think my DH notices and anyway, he has pregnancy sympathy weight to move too! ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: tishy
Date Posted: 08 February 2010 at 9:35am
LB, I think the same about me / DH sometimes. However he convinces me that he finds me more attractive now than pre-kids. He loves me for who I am and has a greater appreciation for my body after me providing life to our daughters and successfully BF'ing them for 7 months. Every person is different, but to me (and DH) I believe that the real attraction in a person is much deeper. Just as well as DH has had a beer gut since the day I met him
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Posted By: CuriousG
Date Posted: 08 February 2010 at 10:18am
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Posted By: Raspberryjam
Date Posted: 08 February 2010 at 7:09pm
Maybe in the olden days a face full of foundation would have been ghastly - buty these days mineral foundation is fantastic - takes 5 mins to apply , bit of blusher and lip gloss and your done!! Its really light and natural and dosent sweat off or make you look caked. Honestly - next time your by a pharmacy - pop in and try it - I use loreal - its the best! ------------- http://lilypie.com]
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Posted By: FionaO
Date Posted: 08 February 2010 at 7:30pm
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Mineral foundation sounds fab, can you get in farmers (have vouchers) also do all brands do it, I love loreal in general though -------------
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Posted By: Raspberryjam
Date Posted: 08 February 2010 at 7:34pm
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yes farmers for sure!! other brands do do it, but i have tried a few - loreal by far the best and a good range of colours. Dont go for revlon - the brush is crap and you end up looking like you have whiskers.
Dont put to much on the brush at first, until you get the hang of it just build it up gradually - it is really easy to use though - even better get the make up counter assistant to show you how if you havent used it before ------------- http://lilypie.com]
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Posted By: freckle
Date Posted: 08 February 2010 at 8:10pm
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Hell yeah! but DF moved us to the country (so I didn't have to work) where if I wore heels I'd be laughed at! so I have truly embraced country living and I love my trackies and jandels, and never wear makeup at home (except mascara if I'm feeling ugly)... But I do still use my GHDs every day LOL.. I can't stand looking like a woolly sheep! ------------- mum to 3 lovely girls :D |
Posted By: Raspberryjam
Date Posted: 08 February 2010 at 8:15pm
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I looove my GHD's!! and I dont have frizzy hair - but I think Im still addicted!!
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Posted By: lilfatty
Date Posted: 08 February 2010 at 8:18pm
Yep, cleanser, toner, moisturiser .. the mineral foundation sounds do able for me .. thats about my time limit 5 minutes. Although I do dry my hair every morning .. otherwise it stays wet all day. ------------- Mummy to Issy (3) and Elias (18 months) I did it .. 41 kgs gone! From flab to fab in under a year http://www.femininefitness.co.nz/category/blog - LFs weight blog
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Posted By: cuppatea
Date Posted: 08 February 2010 at 8:20pm
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nah I don't moisturise either. Only thing that ever goes on my face is sunlotion. My mum said I should moisturise cos I'll get wrinkles otherwise, but I reckon it's the crap in the moisturiser that give you wrinkles is my excuse anyway! -------------
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Posted By: LouD
Date Posted: 08 February 2010 at 8:29pm
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I still think its the worrying about our children that gives us the wrinkles
I moisturise every day cos i have ecezma and very dry skin and I ALWAYS wear eyeliner every day........If im going somewhere other than the norm i may do eyeshadow and mascara but its always a slap slap job. I think straightners are a mums best friend. I dont do the whole sectioning thing i use them like a brush......and it looks better than if i didnt do anything.......but then i do like the messy beach look cos that takes even less time......
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Posted By: freckle
Date Posted: 08 February 2010 at 8:29pm
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I love love love my GHDs too!!! I was a mess when my first pair broke
and yip I moisturise a few times a day... LOreal morning and night cream and when I can afford it eye cream too... I do wear foundation if I'm out for the night but that's hardly ever these days------------- mum to 3 lovely girls :D |
Posted By: Raspberryjam
Date Posted: 08 February 2010 at 8:37pm
I think you will too, but suncream is better than nothing - at least your wrinkles wont be from sun damage! I was a pharmacy girl so I guess thats why I am into make up - I didnt work in the shop but still loved looking at all the new products and playing around. I like being a girly girl ------------- http://lilypie.com]
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Posted By: BuzzyBee
Date Posted: 09 February 2010 at 12:06am
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I tell you a good Mineral Powder is 'Designer Brands' a lot of chemists now stock this cheaper line of make up and seriously - its WAY better than the expensive brands and so cheap - like $16.99 and it lasts me a good 6-9 months. ------------- Single Mum to a darling wee boy of 3 years :) |
Posted By: mamanee
Date Posted: 09 February 2010 at 12:56am
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Posted By: Raspberryjam
Date Posted: 09 February 2010 at 7:42am
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Loreal is expensive yeah, but I hve found someone who sells them on trade me, maybe steals them form work or imports them whatever - instead of $43 each I get 2 for $55 - so thats a trick once you find your colour.
2 lasts me close to a year if not longer. I wear clinique blush - it makes such a difference - only powder though!! lasts forever. Dont wear mascara - Milla ran off with it oneday and I have neither found it or replaced it@!! And I dont wear lipstick or eye shadow - they can make you look older - depending on your age and face shape - maybe just a sweep of gold when I go out. So I guess since I dont wear loads of different products I can justify spending a little more on what I do buy. Garnier from the supermarket moisturiser really works for me, bout $20 for day and night cream Havent seen designer brands buzzybee - but with check it out - It dosent have that sparkly 'natural glow' look to it I take it?? ------------- http://lilypie.com]
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Posted By: rachelsea
Date Posted: 09 February 2010 at 8:12am
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Interesting thread I'm one of those who haven't let myself go as I never 'was' to begin with hehe. I only wear make up when I have to, and even then just a bit of foundation and eye shadow/mascara. I don't bother with lipstick as it always seems to be gone by the time I get wherever I was going
But yup I cleanse/tone/moisturise every day and exfoliate twice a week. And occasionally do a mask when I can be bothered I try and cleanse/moisturise at night too but am often too buggered and don't get around to it.
With clothes, my 'good' clothes are my jeans and a tee shirt lol. When it's hot I wear shorts and tee shirt. I do wear trackpants at home but I don't go out in them. Oh and I also live in my jandals in summer haha, or my $20 warehouse sand shoes in winter (or colder summer days). I don't own a pair of heels! ------------- DD 4yrs DS 2yrs http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: james
Date Posted: 09 February 2010 at 9:36am
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never been a big make up girl but am tring to pull my self together lol ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: RinTinTin
Date Posted: 09 February 2010 at 1:04pm
Yeah for sure Kate. Thats exactly how I meant it. Jo - I think you're a very gorgy lady anyways, even if you didn't dress up. I remember your preggy pics and I always admired how good you looked. And I'm also guilty (if you can call it that) of dressing myself up, even if it's just to go to the supermarket. I started a mother and baby type class the other day. I made sure I styled my hair and put on my makeup before I went. Currently I dont exactly have a huge range of clothes to wear as I'm still losing my preggy weight (only 7kg left to go of the 26 I gained ), but once I do, I'll be throwing one of my many many (no really, MANY!) pairs of heels/stillettos on.I don't know what a VRM is but I wanna be one ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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