Lurkers
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Topic: Lurkers
Posted By: aimeejoy
Subject: Lurkers
Date Posted: 16 July 2006 at 10:17am
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Remember a few months ago when someone (sorry I cant remember who now) told us she was preggy and a lurker told her family?
Well, now I've got one! As some of you may know, we lent friends a lot (well it was to us anyway) of money and they still us us over a grand nine months later... I have vented my frustration and asked for advice on this several times, and have done this here rather than talking to my real life friends, as I didn't want everyone in town knowing that these people were in serious financial strife. And some of you may also know that the wife of our friend is the sister of another Oh Baby member. The member had asked her sister to help her put photos and a ticker on here, but then went home and used her login and password to look up stuff that I have written. She has printed out messages that I have posted regarding this situation, things I have said about my in-laws and times when I have moaned about Daniel. Apparently, once they have paid us the money back she is going to show it all to Daniel! I just have to mention that I am not in the least bit worried as Daniel knows that I moan about him not doing stuff and who doesnt also complain about their IL's. Our marriage is much more stable than that. I am so incredibly pi$$ed off about this invasion of my privacy in the one place where I get the most support as a mum, and a place where I consider you all to be my friends. I am on this site several times a day and it has kind of become a part of my life that I miss when I dont come on here. But, this is not going to stop me from posting about stuff like that. So if you are reading this, my stalker/lurker, then you are not going to ruin this for me. And I cannot believe you have resorted to such pathetic attempts to hurt me when I have never done anything wrong. I also cannot believe you have used your sister like that - she was so worried that I was going to hate her for this, but our friendship is much stronger than that.  ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
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Posted By: Two Blondinis
Date Posted: 16 July 2006 at 10:28am
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Good for you Aimee! I've been stabbed in the back way too many times by "friends" that I have tried to help. Don't let this person get you down or stop you from wanting to help others (even when some people think you have "mug" written on your face!!!)
Keep on smiling hun  ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
 
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Posted By: EthansMummy
Date Posted: 16 July 2006 at 10:41am
Yea, good for you Aimee ------------- ** MUM TO ** Ethan 29/08/2006 Brooke 22/09/2008 |
Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 16 July 2006 at 10:43am
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Thanks
Update: Sounds like she is feeling really bad about it all and has said she won't come on here again until she has kids... Doubt I'll get an apology tho ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: james
Date Posted: 16 July 2006 at 11:01am
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oh my god how old is this woman that is school age thing to do good on ya ammiee for not letting this pathic woman push you around ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: newmum
Date Posted: 16 July 2006 at 11:10am
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Wow! I can't believe perople would sttop so low! Hugs and good on you for being tough and standing up to her!!!! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 16 July 2006 at 11:54am
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I was going to say the same James, that is so Form 4 high school behaviour. Good on you for saying something. You should be able to say things here and know that other people aren't going to runa dn tell your whole town about your business. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 16 July 2006 at 4:09pm
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the person whos sign on shes using needs to change her password too... that sucks.... ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker"> 
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Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 16 July 2006 at 4:30pm
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what astupid cow!!!! Print that out too lady!
Aimee! I hope it won't stop you from coming on and having a vent when you need to. We all need to get stuff off our chests! |
Posted By: AlyAyde
Date Posted: 16 July 2006 at 4:45pm
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Oh that really sucks. What a b$#%h ------------- Jayde 25/12/04 Alyssa 08/04/03 http://Alyayde.bebo.com |
Posted By: linda
Date Posted: 16 July 2006 at 5:34pm
| I think I'm not as free with things I want to say/ask because of the potential lurkers around. I guess it would be alright if I changed my name and also the kids name when I talk about them but figured I just have to get over it and message when I need to. Damned if you do and damned if you don't |
Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 16 July 2006 at 8:05pm
One forum I belong has a policy for lurkers....members need to reach a certian number of posts otherwise they will be deleted...I'm almost wondering if it is worth considering something like this? It seems horrible but if this is the second incidence of this sort of thing happening..... ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Andie
Date Posted: 16 July 2006 at 9:00pm
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Aimee, that really sux for you, and good on you for not being intimidated by it all either - you go, girl! And to little miss 'I'll print off what Aimee said and show everyone'... come on now, think about it - a healthy marriage includes each partner getting the chance to talk to others about their frustrations every now and then, that's why women need their girlfriends and men need their mates so much... it's perfectly healthy! And since when did butting into someone elses marriage that didn't even need "help" ever do anything but make the person butting in look like a total busybody? And another thing - I once owed money to my mum, and took way too long to pay her back. She had every right to feel frustrated and maybe even taken advantage of, and if she vented to her friends about it, then good on her! Our relationship would have been injured if she'd done all her venting to me, she just said to me what she wanted to save for me, which was enough. ------------- Andie |
Posted By: my2angels
Date Posted: 16 July 2006 at 10:08pm
| oh that is sooo rude. Good on you Amiee for not giving up on us just because of someone who seems a bit imature. To me oh baby is almost like a diary that talks back and I would be lost if I couldnt vent, share and ask advice on here about things not just baby related. This person should respect your privacy and realise we are here for support not as a tool to be used against each other as by printing off things about you it could also effect others who have been involved in the posts! |
Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 17 July 2006 at 7:57am
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Yeah I had been thinking about that Paws, but on here people can register just to recive the weekly email things and not come on to the forum... ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 17 July 2006 at 8:18am
| and also, wasn't it done through another legitimate members account? Also Aimee - good for you for not letting it ruin your friendship. I know your friend must feel really bad and be really relieved that you are mature enough to not blame her. |
Posted By: Roksana
Date Posted: 17 July 2006 at 9:11am
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OH MY GOD...what a Biatch!!!
Man I hate people like that. she is obviously got a few screws loose upthere. All I have to say is what goes around comes around and if you try and hurt Aimee this way, in the nearest future this will come and Bite you in your Arse....I just hope that you marriage is stable....like Aimee's. Arrrgggg 
Big  Aimee...hop this does not stop you from coming here and vent!!!------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: mrs frantic
Date Posted: 17 July 2006 at 9:23am
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Good on you Aimee - I agree that people should respect the privacy of the forum and not use it as a weapon - thats pretty low! ------------- Mrs Frantic Baby Maddisyn born 28 Sept 2006 http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: aimeejoy
Date Posted: 17 July 2006 at 9:25am
Thanks you so much all you lovely ladies  It makes me feel so much better knowing that I have so many friends, maybe not IRL, but friends all the same  ------------- Aimee Hannah 22/10/05 Greer 11/02/08 |
Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 17 July 2006 at 10:05am
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You've definitly been the adult in this situation, Aimee! You were discrete about coming here to vent but not naming names, so that you weren't gossipping around town... and you've been very gracious with your friend by not holding the actions of a silly little girl against her.
Good on you!  ------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |
Posted By: Roxy
Date Posted: 17 July 2006 at 11:50am
Well hey guys Im the guilty one!!!!Was my sister did the crapy stuff!!!!!I feel so bad bout whats happened that I dont even no what to say.....I hope it hasnt caused you too much upset aimee....Im glad I did tell you...I myself would rather know and I really do hate that your privacy has been invaded...rod really angry to.he thinks you are a lovely person and dont deserve that kinda crap.....I have never known jaz to be a malicious person and Im not trying to make excuses for her but she really hasnt been having a great time lately....but still no excuse.......am changing password right after writing this(hope I can figure it out).the whole reason this happened is because Im so useless with computers.and thankyou nikki white for giving me the advice to talk to aimee bout it all.it was all making me feel sick with worry  ------------- Caleb 15/11/02 Brooke 14/11/05 |
Posted By: Roxy
Date Posted: 17 July 2006 at 12:00pm
All done...changed password so hope thats it now ------------- Caleb 15/11/02 Brooke 14/11/05 |
Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 17 July 2006 at 12:06pm
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Roxy, I'm pretty sure none of us blame you. You are not your sister's keeper, and you are not responsible for her actions. She was the one being petty and immature, not you. ------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |
Posted By: Roksana
Date Posted: 17 July 2006 at 12:11pm
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Yah Roxy....I dont think you were at fault...but yes may be your sister needs to grow up a bit....its just nasty!! We all have bad phases in our life but we always try and keep others out of it...I hope your sister realises what she is doing and apologises to Aimee.
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Posted By: Andie
Date Posted: 17 July 2006 at 12:33pm
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Here, here!! I shudder to think what would happen if people held me responsible for things my sister said or did... aaarrrggghhhhhh!!!!!! But feel free to share my post with her if you're in the mood for an argument one day! ------------- Andie |
Posted By: MILF
Date Posted: 17 July 2006 at 12:36pm
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i dont see how this situation is your fault in any way roxy, after all, as your sister i am sure you didnt even think you needed to hide something like a password from her. it was really good of you to front up to aimee and tell her too. i was the other one who that happened to, it meant that we had to tell people about our pregnancy much much earlier than we wanted.... but unlike you , we still dont know who was the source of the leak.. i think you have done a good thing, and good things come back to those who do them :) ------------- Lyla - mum to Xanthe - my big 4 year old
and Jordis - 1 year old
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Posted By: Paws
Date Posted: 17 July 2006 at 12:54pm
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Yup I back what everyone else says....not your fault Roxy so don't feel bad! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 17 July 2006 at 1:50pm
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not your fault roxy - BUT giving someone else your password to ANYTHING is always a no no... its like giving your cashflow card and pin number to someone. ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker">
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Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 17 July 2006 at 1:53pm
| Wow Roxy!! You must be a pretty brave person to tell everything! I mean, you probably knew that Aimee would be okay, but still! I kno0w I would've been terrified! (and probably thought about not saying anything actually). Good on you too! |
Posted By: Roxy
Date Posted: 17 July 2006 at 8:50pm
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Believe me I thought about saying nothing.....but knew it wasnt right.couldnt stop thinking bout it all. I feel bit sad for my sis though.....she feeling terrible....she has read everyone posts.I think she has learnt from it all.hope so anyway.hope she stays of this now...at least till she has kids and genuinly needs to be on here.thanks everyone for not hating me...especially you aimee.just hope my sis wnt hate me forever ------------- Caleb 15/11/02 Brooke 14/11/05 |
Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 17 July 2006 at 10:05pm
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Hey Roxy, have said it already but I'm really glad it is sorted now and that you and Aimee are still on track. I do hope your sis sorts herself out. She shouldn't blame you for anything considering it was her malicious behaviour that got her in this position! Maybe this will be a bit of a wake up call?
And Aimee, really does suck that your privacy has been compromised but I think you have handled this beautifully... completely devaluing the blackmail attempt! I'm glad you aren't going to censor yourself completely, I enjoy hearing about your life.
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