random questions about famiily sizes
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Topic: random questions about famiily sizes
Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Subject: random questions about famiily sizes
Date Posted: 08 February 2010 at 12:49pm
some random questions ,cos I Is nosey and boreded 
How many kids did you see yourself having ? eg , I have always pictuered myself with three , girl , boy , girl have you , for whatever reason , ended up with less than you thought you would ? do you mind ? or are you happy with what you have ? Did you end up with more than you thought you would Did it take a while to adjust to the idea of more than you planned ? did you have an idea of what you would have, eg ,all boys, all girls, one of each etc and , how right were you ? or have you been so far ? Do my questions make sense 10 points for the best answer ------------- 
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Posted By: Peanut
Date Posted: 08 February 2010 at 12:56pm
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Interesting questions!
How many kids did you see yourself having ? I thought I would have 4 kids. 2 with a 4-5 year gap and then another 2. have you , for whatever reason , ended up with less than you thought you would ? do you mind ? or are you happy with what you have ? I am stopping at 2 now and am happy with that most of the time. I had always planned on starting having my babies at around 23 so 4 fitted in nicely but didn't have my first until 27 so have gone off that idea. did you have an idea of what you would have, eg ,all boys, all girls, one of each etc and , how right were you ? or have you been so far ? Before I had kids I thought I would have one of each but while pregnant with both I knew they were boys and I was right. I think if I did have another 1 or 2 I would end up with more boys. -------------  
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Posted By: Rachael21
Date Posted: 08 February 2010 at 12:57pm
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I always thought I wanted four, all girls. Jack ruined that lol I think its because I only have sisters I never imagined having a boy but now I have one I wouldn't change him for the world (most of the time...).
After having Caprece I never wanted another but now she is older I think about having more. In saying that I'm single so I don't think I can really say either way if I would have more or not it depends on what happens down the track. I wouldn't be devastated if I never had any more though. |
Posted By: pepsi
Date Posted: 08 February 2010 at 1:02pm
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We always agreed 2 was a good number, and the only thing was that we were so sure we would have boys! Just because there doesn't seem to be a lot of girls on either DH or my sides..
Yes, we love that we have 2 girls  . Even DH who originally wanted at least one boy is happy they are both girls. Of course if we had any other combination I'm sure that would be fantastic too 
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Posted By: Bel
Date Posted: 08 February 2010 at 1:02pm
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Have always imaginged myself having 2 - think becuase I came from a family of 2 kids, so it's what I know. DH felt the same luckily, so we have our two and DH is booked in for his first appt to discuss getting the snip.
So now we have 2 and we are happy!! Also feel lucky that we had one of each, tho sometimes I get scared at what they might be like when they grow up...  ------------- Mum to two beautiful kids
Luke (09.11.2007) Amy (01.04.2009) |
Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 08 February 2010 at 1:09pm
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girls are great fun Bel hehehe .
No really they are more prone to dramatics, but they are pretty special . As are boys . As I said I've always pictured myself with 3, a girl , a boy and a girl , I think its cos I come from a family of 3, and the girl boy girl theme goes back about 6 generations on my mums side (my dads is the youngest of three boys, and I already have C who is def not a boy , so I don't take after that side ) In saying that , of course I don't mind if I have girl and two boys, and, if we have an "oopsy " further down the track then I will be happy having four . haha , when I was little , I thought I would have twins, called (rolls eyes ) Jessie Lee and Jamie Lee -------------
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Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 08 February 2010 at 1:09pm
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I always thought I'd have two always wanted a son and a daughter, but as its taking longer than I planned to conceive #1 and I'm getting even older, chances are we may only have one, and I'd be overjoyed with that. Who knows I've got 3.5 years till I'm 40 so fitting in a 2nd is still possible. |
Posted By: littleLittle
Date Posted: 08 February 2010 at 1:17pm
I had always wanted three - boy, girl, boy - but at the moment I'm just aiming for two and will then reassess! I would love to have three but by the time I've had number two my age will be creeping up so will see how I go! 
However I'm off to the right start with a boy first so will see what happens with baby number two!! ------------- http://lilypie.com">  
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Posted By: High9
Date Posted: 08 February 2010 at 1:18pm
Ok I'm going to answer as best as I can considering I'm still pregnant with my first but I like these sort of things
How many kids did you see yourself having ? When I was little I always wanted 4 - 2 girls and 2 boys, as I got older it changed to none, now I'm pregnant I've decided at least 2, although my mum wants 10 grandkids and I'm an only child  but dp and I always joke bout having 10...
have you , for whatever reason , ended up with less than you thought you would ? No because before I got pregnant I didn't want kids. do you mind ? Nope or are you happy with what you have ? Yes, I've gone from being completely unmaternal (sp?) to clucky, feeling over protective and emotional (hey! I'm pregnant - it's hormones ) no idea how I'm going to manage sharing her with dp...
Did you end up with more than you thought you would Yup, never really saw myself having kids/wanting them Did it take a while to adjust to the idea of more than you planned ? Finding out I was pregnant was a shock, probably because there had been a couple of time where dp and I hadn't been careful but I never got pregnant so it was like  omg! And also being 19... lol
did you have an idea of what you would have, eg ,all boys, all girls, one of each etc My grandma had a dream of me and me as a baby crawling on the stairs - before I told her I was pregnant. I always thought it was a girl - just didn't feel like a boy IYGWIM, Dp was dead certain it was a boy so I started to believe it more for his sake than mine lol. and , how right were you ? All scans so far she's been a girl so hopefully it stays that way otherwise he'll be in a LOT of pink! or have you been so far ? I thought girl from start, changed my mind for dp, and turns out it is a girl so yeah... Do my questions make sense Yup!! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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caitlynsmygirl wrote:Posted By: emz
Date Posted: 08 February 2010 at 2:12pm
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How many kids did you see yourself having ?
2 - a boy and a girl have you , for whatever reason , ended up with less than you thought you would ? do you mind ? or are you happy with what you have ? happy with what I have, but have this nagging feeling that I might get clucky again in a few years time Did you end up with more than you thought you would Did it take a while to adjust to the idea of more than you planned ? NA did you have an idea of what you would have, eg ,all boys, all girls, one of each etc and , how right were you ? or have you been so far ? I thought I would have one of each, but then I thought Jack was a girl at first. I knew Ava was a girl for some reason. Do my questions make sense YES :) 10 points for the best answer |
Posted By: tishy
Date Posted: 08 February 2010 at 2:16pm
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How many kids did you see yourself having ?
4 - (I thought it would be 2 singles first and then twins) have you , for whatever reason , ended up with less than you thought you would ? do you mind ? or are you happy with what you have ? Yep, but happy with what we have. Can't help feel like the family is incomplete though. Might go for the 2 in the future
Did you end up with more than you thought you would Did it take a while to adjust to the idea of more than you planned ? did you have an idea of what you would have, eg ,all boys, all girls, one of each etc and , how right were you ? or have you been so far ? I 'knew' that I was having at least one girl when pg. If we do have more then I picture 2 more girls. |
Posted By: jazzy
Date Posted: 08 February 2010 at 2:18pm
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When I was little & before I know where babies came from or what you had to do to get them I wanted 4, 2 boys & 2 girls. Then when I found out more I wanted 2, a boy first & then a girl.
What I got was 3 boys & I love them to bits. I still want a girl & I know DH would love a daughter so we will give it a go this year. I don't mind if I have another boy if I am lucky enough to have another. Everyday I am thankful for what I have
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Posted By: Lexidore
Date Posted: 08 February 2010 at 2:21pm
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How many kids did you see yourself having ? eg , 2 maybe 3, Obviously I only have the one at the moment so there is still time have you , for whatever reason , ended up with less than you thought you would ? Well so far, but I'm not done yet! do you mind ? or are you happy with what you have ? At the moment I am really happy with Lexie so if for some reason I couldn't have any more I would be pretty content. Did you end up with more than you thought you would Did it take a while to adjust to the idea of more than you planned ? Not yet, but I did say during my pregnancy I wasn't sure that I would have anymore, I still get scared about having another pregnancy like my last one but then I look at Lexie and it is all worth it, Probably wont be trying for 3 now though unless it is twins next time round! did you have an idea of what you would have, eg ,all boys, all girls, one of each etc and , how right were you ? or have you been so far ? I knew Lexie was a girl from just before my 12 week scan, I did start to doubt myself for a couple of weeks but not long, my first words when finding out she was a girl was... Haha I was right! Do my questions make sense, About as much sense as you and Bobby
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Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 08 February 2010 at 3:04pm
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hey young lady , true love doesn't have to make sense !
what me and Bobby have is special ! -------------
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Posted By: Hopes
Date Posted: 08 February 2010 at 4:05pm
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I come from a family of eight, and we did the boy, girl, boy, girl thing too, right the way down! I really enjoyed growing up in a bigger family, but wasn’t sure I wanted quite that many myself! We hadn’t really given it a lot of thought, though.
Since this one was so hard to bring about, we’re re-thinking our plans. We kind of can’t count on needing an operation for endo every time we want a baby, so the Dr can drill my ovaries while she’s in there (which is what bought this one on) and the operation just for the drilling is about as much as IVF (which has a better chance really). So, excepting miracles (which I know can happen), more children for us is pretty finance-dependant! If we decided we had the money, I would probably choose to adopt, rather than spend it on IVF, since we’ll have one wee baba, and I’ll have experienced being pregnant (which I really really wanted to do), and there are so many kids in other countries who need homes, it’s just such an expensive process. That could all change, though… it’s so hard to know how you’ll feel from one time to the next! -------------   
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Posted By: kiwisj
Date Posted: 08 February 2010 at 4:51pm
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How many kids did you see yourself having ?
4 of either flavour
have you , for whatever reason , ended up with less than you thought you would ? do you mind ? or are you happy with what you have ? We're at 1 so far, TTC #2. I would still love 4, would be happy with 3. DH wants to stop at 2. Still working on that one! Did you end up with more than you thought you would Did it take a while to adjust to the idea of more than you planned ? NA did you have an idea of what you would have, eg ,all boys, all girls, one of each etc and , how right were you ? or have you been so far ? I had a feeling that C was a boy from very early on. I would have loved a girl first (I'm the oldest) but I can't even imagine it any more. I really don't mind whether I have 4 boys or 1 boy and 3 girls... there's not a lot of girls on DH's side of the family though so it could well be 4 boys if we do have 4 kids! Do my questions make sense - yep! ------------- SJ Callum - Dec 2008 Daniel - Oct 2010 |
Posted By: kellie
Date Posted: 08 February 2010 at 5:09pm
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How many kids did you see yourself having ?
Maybe 2 or 3. I actually never thought I wanted kids. have you , for whatever reason , ended up with less than you thought you would ? do you mind ? Well I only have one now, and I am pretty happy with him! did you have an idea of what you would have I actually thought I would have a girl first, but as soon as I found out I was pregnant I knew it was a boy. I wouldnt mind another, and a girl would be nice, but I love my little boy and another would be great ------------- 
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Posted By: Lexidore
Date Posted: 08 February 2010 at 8:10pm
Aha but you read what I said wrong lol, I thought your questions made sense, hence you and Bobby making perfect sense -------------
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Posted By: AandCsmum
Date Posted: 08 February 2010 at 8:51pm
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How many kids did you see yourself having ? None!!! DH or DP as he was then & I were loving life & had said we are too selfish for kids...Hmmm so we're at 2 so far!!!! have you , for whatever reason , ended up with less than you thought you would ? do you mind ? or are you happy with what you have ? I think I'm not happy with what I've got. I think if I was I wouldn't be thinking of babies. Did you end up with more than you thought you would Did it take a while to adjust to the idea of more than you planned ? Ummmm yes....termination did cross our minds very briefly but we were glad of the opsy cause otherwise we would have realised too late that we actually did want kids. did you have an idea of what you would have, eg ,all boys, all girls, one of each etc and , how right were you ? or have you been so far ? It was predicted, based on family trends, that we'd have a boy first! DH's family were so convinced that they bought us blue stuff. My Mum was sure I'd have a boy but I guess I "took" after Dad's side who had girl boy girl. I always did want one of each....until my Mum told me that she wanted a 3rd child & Dad said no....it's really thrown us...which explains my seasawing on #3. ------------- Kel http://lilypie.com"> 
A = 01.02.04 & C = 16.01.09 & G = 30.03.12 |
Posted By: Daizy
Date Posted: 08 February 2010 at 9:28pm
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How many kids did you see yourself having ?
I guess I had always thought of having 3, a boy then tow girls
Have you , for whatever reason , ended up with less than you thought you would ? Well at the moment we have 2. The plan is to stick to that although I am finding it incredibly difficult. Time will tell I guess. Do you mind, or are you happy with what you have ? I do loving having 2 girls, it makes so much sense, DH and I having one each to sort out, passing down and sharing everything, fitting normally in our house... But then there's that other part of me that pictures our family all grown up and having just 2 kids doesn't seem enough, I was one of 4. Did you end up with more than you thought you would Not at the moment although I ended up with them a lot sooner than I thought I would, I often wonder if I had had them later weather it would be easier to have more. Being able to be ready to and stop for a while to make babies, Having already saved up some money so we could afford more and to be able to afford a home big enough. did you have an idea of what you would have, eg ,all boys, all girls, one of each etc and , how right were you ? I had always thought 1 boy 2 girls but after having my first baby girl I could only ever see myself with girls. Boys still scare me! If we ever had another one I think I would be more than happy with another girl, DH on the other hand would love a boy. ------------- 
 
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 08 February 2010 at 9:57pm
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How many kids did you see yourself having ? I want at least 5 points ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |