Help Need advise
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Topic: Help Need advise
Posted By: Anna
Subject: Help Need advise
Date Posted: 17 July 2006 at 2:18pm
Hi everyone I'm new to all this but I really need some help. My baby is 10 mths old and I'm really undecided whether to go back to work or not. I love my p/t job but I also love looking after my son. I have a year off and are due back soon. I can cope without the extra money I can budget well although extra money would be welcomme.My husband has started up his building business so am learning how to do the books(very boring!!)Any advise???!!!
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Posted By: emeldee
Date Posted: 17 July 2006 at 2:34pm
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It's a really personal and tough decision to make. With my first kiddie, I went back to work because I had to (only parent etc) and it worked well for me. I had great daycare support and it was a way for Sean to interact with other kiddies and to be honest, I needed the grown up stimuli of work (or more importantly, the people at work).
However with Andrew, I have decided to stay at home and be the full-time at home parent caregiver. It's been tough and sometimes a little isolating, but I've loved almost every day of it. I have a wonderfully supportive husband and we are making do, sacrificing things like savings plans and overseas holidays, but having a wonderful time with the kids. In the end, the decision is going to be all yours...just remember, whatever choice you make, it's not necessarily final. There is a bouyant labour market and you should be able to find part-time work if you need/want to and on the other hand, just because you go back, doesn't mean you have to stay there indefinitely. Good luck either way. ------------- |
Posted By: newmum
Date Posted: 17 July 2006 at 2:34pm
Listen to your heart!!  ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: nicolaann
Date Posted: 17 July 2006 at 3:25pm
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I work part time, which being a chef is all night work, so Alex stays home and has some daddy time while I work. That works out really well for us (although in the last week he has started to realise mummy isn't home and is being naughty for daddy!) I wouldn't like to work full time, I think I would miss Alex too much, and would hate to miss out on all those special first moments. But lots of people have no choice and have to work full time, and they manage fine. It is a personal decision. I agree listen to your heart!! ------------- Nicky, Mum to Alex (5) & Sophie (3) http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Anna
Date Posted: 17 July 2006 at 3:44pm
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Hey ... I am really confused? Who wrote this? Cause it has come up under my sign in?
And it wasn't me?!? ------------- Anna http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: AlyAyde
Date Posted: 17 July 2006 at 3:49pm
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ohhhh spooky......... ------------- Jayde 25/12/04 Alyssa 08/04/03 http://Alyayde.bebo.com |
Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 17 July 2006 at 3:53pm
| I thought that was weird, cause I saw the pic of Quinn, but the info made no sense.....hmmm |
Posted By: caraMel
Date Posted: 17 July 2006 at 4:21pm
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That is so weird and wrong!
I was reading it going 'What, that's not Anna?!' ------------- Mel, Mummy to E: 6, B: 4 and: 
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Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 17 July 2006 at 8:15pm
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Will check it out for you... -------------  Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: my2angels
Date Posted: 17 July 2006 at 9:10pm
| very strange, hope its not another lurker! |
Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 17 July 2006 at 9:57pm
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Yeah, I thought that was so weird too. I was thinking you'd lost the plot with all the preggo hormones
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Posted By: newmum
Date Posted: 18 July 2006 at 8:15am
Oh crap.... not another one   ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: mrs frantic
Date Posted: 18 July 2006 at 2:50pm
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huh? how could that happen? Thats scarey! ------------- Mrs Frantic Baby Maddisyn born 28 Sept 2006 http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Anna
Date Posted: 18 July 2006 at 8:07pm
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Hi guys thanks for all your replys. Not sure what has happened Yes my name is Anna and I'm def no lurker!! Must be some mistake with the log ins???
This was my first message-mmnn def weird!! ------------- Anna http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Anna
Date Posted: 18 July 2006 at 8:12pm
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Ahh I see what you mean. Sorry I'm using my sign in and own password. Not sure what I'm doing wrong here? ------------- Anna http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: linda
Date Posted: 18 July 2006 at 8:45pm
| Maybe you both have the same password along with the same name? |
Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 18 July 2006 at 9:25pm
| oooh, that would be spooky! |
Posted By: newmum
Date Posted: 19 July 2006 at 7:48am
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LOLOL, Holy moly, that would be weird!!!!! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Anna
Date Posted: 19 July 2006 at 9:14am
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Ooooooo... that is so weird!! You are still me!! What happens if you try to PM someone?
But back to the original question: I think it is definitely a personal choice, but don't feel like you should stay at home cause that is what nice mummys do. I went back to uni when Quinn was 16 months, I dreaded putting him into daycare and then felt HORRID cause i loved having time without him. Putting him into care will not damage him for the future, he will still grow into a functioning member of society (despite what my partners mother thinks). Good luck! ------------- Anna http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Anna
Date Posted: 19 July 2006 at 9:48am
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Hi their twin, what does PM mean? This is really weird as I have my own login and password? Thanks for advice. ------------- Anna http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: newmum
Date Posted: 19 July 2006 at 10:02am
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ummm, maybe one of you should change it???? ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: my2angels
Date Posted: 19 July 2006 at 11:26am
| i went back to work 12 hours a week and love it most of the time and kobe loves preschool. there is always going to be something to feel guilty about so just do what will mke you happy |
Posted By: Anna
Date Posted: 19 July 2006 at 1:45pm
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Hmmm, just tried to PM you but apparently I just PM'ed myself... PM is private message. ------------- Anna http://lilypie.com">
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