Bad Day :( :(
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Topic: Bad Day :( :(
Posted By: Bubie
Subject: Bad Day :( :(
Date Posted: 08 March 2010 at 9:18am
I think my emotions are all over the place atm, but my partners sister is really upsetting me, She is his half sister technically and me and my partner are only 19 and have been together for 3 years, we talked about having kids and always liked the idea, then i fell pregnant and we both are really happy 
We both want this baby and it is the best thing for us, but she is taking the p**s out of me for being pregnant at 19 and apparently according to her we are only keeping this baby because "we couldn't handle killing it" that was her exact words. How can someone be so cruel  We both wanted this baby and now she is getting all my partners mates to laugh at us about it, apparently she wishes i was dead and got pregnant to keep a relationship together...
I know i shouldn't let this affect me but it has made me really upset and angry that a 16 year old can say that and be so cruel........Life isnt very fair sometimes. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Buttersmum
Date Posted: 08 March 2010 at 9:22am
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There's the problem................she's only 16.............and probably very jealous of you.
Honestly chick try not to let it upset you..........she'll be getting off on the fact that it upsets you cause thats what immature 16 year olds want. You and your partner know that you wanted this baby and love this baby to bits so focus on that and let the others grow up. If she gets no reaction from you she will eventually give up. It is hard though when people are being nasty. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
 my little blobby April 09 "gone but will never be forgotten xx"
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Posted By: Bubie
Date Posted: 08 March 2010 at 9:25am
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Yeah that's exactly what she wants, i am trying to not let it upset me atm, im abit emotional atm so that probably dosnt help lol ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: ooEvaoo
Date Posted: 08 March 2010 at 9:52am
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Tell your partner to give her a twack around the ears!! You have every right to be upset...those are some harsh comments she's making..and obviously immature beyond comprehension! Don't let it get to you anymore....just think in a few weeks you'll have this beautiful bundle of baby...and she will have ermmmmmm NADA!! Keep your chin up chicky! ------------- 
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Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 08 March 2010 at 10:55am
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Ignore her , shes 16, and the reason she wouldn't be able to understand why you want to keep the baby is because she is still a baby herself , if her behavior is anything to go by .
Unfortuantely you are probably going to come up against this type of thing, it comes with the territory of being a "young mum" But bugger them , you will have a lovely little baby to focus on and what everyone else thinks wont be important ------------- 
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Posted By: Blankney94
Date Posted: 08 March 2010 at 11:09am
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Grr some 16 year olds are so immature! Tell your partner to get her to wind her head in. Bet this girl will be the first one coo-ing over the baby though when it arrives - funny that. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Bubie
Date Posted: 08 March 2010 at 11:24am
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Yeah she really made me upset, im trying not to let it get to me, The funny thing is she is back living in Nelson with her mother, me and my partner are originally from there and have friends up there and now she is turning my partners against him, well trying too.
She is really immature, just wish she could see how hurtful words can be to people. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: jazzy
Date Posted: 08 March 2010 at 11:30am
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I think she is jealous. She probably feels like she has lost her brother to you & now with a baby on the way she will feel even more left out.
I think you both should talk to her. I would tell her that there is room in your lives for her, but on the condition that she does not say or do hurtful things. Put down some ground rules, but cut her some slack. Don't forget she is only 16, she is very young & maybe not as mature as you were when you were 16. |
Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 08 March 2010 at 11:52am
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and , if she is able to turn your partner's friends against him so easily ,they weren't real friends to begin with -------------
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Posted By: T_Rex
Date Posted: 08 March 2010 at 1:09pm
If it helps, my closest ally besides DH is my 17-year-old sister and she's been pretty ratsh*t this whole pregnancy. Laughing about how it's going to change my life etc, and then after birth comments like "eww, they sliced your minge open" (I had an episiotomy  ). She didn't even want to come and visit DD, which made me a bit sad.
I let the comment go, however, because 17 can be just immature, and it's often important to save face at that age by not showing an interest in babies. Now the bit that might make you feel better, is eventually she was at my place for other reasons (not to visit DD), and she's totally fallen in love with her and is going to be the best aunty ever. She still acts cool in front of certain people, but around me and DD she's the girl I love again. I'm stoked 
So wait until she meets the baby and it becomes real. No-one can not love a baby  ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: noisybaby
Date Posted: 08 March 2010 at 1:56pm
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I've got one word for you "KARMA". Just sit back and wait. Something will come back and bite her in the bum soon. People can be sooo mean sometimes but like the others have said. Shes only a baby herself at the mo. Just concentrate on the fact you will have a lovely wee baby to look after soon. ------------- http://lilypie.com">  
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Posted By: GuestGuest
Date Posted: 08 March 2010 at 3:19pm
| She is a child and you should treat her as such. No self-respecting adult would act like that. You need to be the mature one in this situation and know that she is a horrible kid and kids say those sorts of things to get a reaction. Ignore her. |
Posted By: MumsyMoo
Date Posted: 08 March 2010 at 3:27pm
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I feel your pain love. I got pregnant at 19 (I'm now 22) and it was my *Mum* who was giving me crap.
I constantly had it suggested that the only reason I fell pregnant was to keep my partner. Honestly, as hard as it is, and as much as it sucks, it just comes with the territory of being a young Mum. You need to ignore any negativity. This is *your* time, enjoy it and just know that at the end of the day, you made the right choice for *you* and that *you're* happy ------------- My wee girl is the love and light of my life!
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Posted By: MindyW
Date Posted: 08 March 2010 at 3:29pm
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I'm sorry Your feeling so awful when this should be a very happy time for you and your partner! I'm also sorry that she appears to be such a mean hearted girl and like the others have said she is only 16years- still a child herself in more ways then just age!
Ignore her and concentrate on you, your DP and your beautiful bub on the way  Take care, I know its hard because she is family but its truely her issue not yours and if your DH's friends are turning against him then they are immature also!------------- My Beautiful Little Emily http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: LittleBug
Date Posted: 08 March 2010 at 8:56pm
What a horrible thing to say! Just try your best to ignore her, she is just being a bratty teenager. Sadly you will have to be the mature adult in this situation.  
DH was only 19 when we married, and I was 21... and we got heaps of comments about our age. Then when we got pregnant not long after, we got heaps more comments. Honestly, you just have to block it out. I hope none of your friends are stupid enough to listen to what she's saying, I guess they probably aren't the type of friends you want to keep if they do anyway. ------------- Chloe (4 years) and Oliver (3 years). |
Posted By: Bubie
Date Posted: 09 March 2010 at 8:23am
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Thanks everyone I feel alot better today and realize that she is just doing it to get attention and to ignore her and just get on with mine and my partner's lifes, after all we will have a baby in 6 weeks to look after and enjoy ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Hunnybunny
Date Posted: 09 March 2010 at 10:58am
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Bubie, she sounds just like my SIL (who is older than me by a year or so though). My SIL told me it was best if baby just died because it was meaning DH is stuck with me. Ah, what? I can see her being one of the first people there to coo over baby though! (she already has one niece on other side of the world who is like her trophy niece!)
Just ignore her, know you are SO much better than her, you don't have to make other people feel sh!t just to feel better yourself. I bet you are a amazing girl, and you should be proud of what you've done. PM me if you want to just chat even, I'm only 45min down the road, we should try and catch up one day! |