no, how are you?
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Topic: no, how are you?
Posted By: Tastic
Subject: no, how are you?
Date Posted: 08 March 2010 at 11:56am
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Im so sick of people ringing and asking how everyone else is except for me!
I just had a lady ring and here is how it went Hi trish its Sue, hows Adele? hows the boys? hows the other half? ohh so your all good then grrr well had she asked she would of known that NO Im not alright, I'm a bit stressed and tired as the boys have started waking during the night, and when I put them in time-out during the day they destroy there rooms pulling the mattresses off there beds Adele has been under the weather and is spilling alot and has a sore tummy so is screaming anyone else have phone calls where they don't actually ask how you are doing but do for everyone else? |
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Posted By: minik8e
Date Posted: 08 March 2010 at 12:18pm
I have come to the conclusion that now that I am a mother, I come lowest in the pecking order. It is always "how are the girls". That is the extent of our family it seems. You know what though, if something is up, and they haven't asked, I just extend my answer about the girls  "oh they're all good, pity their mother isn't!!"
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Posted By: GuestGuest
Date Posted: 08 March 2010 at 12:26pm
Wow that is so rude and thoughtless! I would just butt in with a sarcastic comment like "everyone is great but I am crap, thanks for asking". They won't make that mistake again 
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Posted By: High9
Date Posted: 08 March 2010 at 12:33pm
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Nope, I have people visiting and doing that! They will ask how everyone in the house is except me! Actually the only one who does ask how I am is my midwife!
And also no one ever thinks to take a photo of me and baby  they always take pics while everyone else is holding baby but once I hold her the camera goes away
 for how things are going with you though! Does Adele have a temp? ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: sunnyhoney
Date Posted: 08 March 2010 at 2:17pm
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Rude and annoying...including when you go somewhere and people say hi to DH and the kid/s and you get nothing.
Hugs! I know how it feels - crappy! ------------- Mum to: Joy Emily 1.05am 27/09/07 7lb 3oz Austin Paul 12.47pm 18/04/10 10lb 8oz |
Posted By: EmDee
Date Posted: 08 March 2010 at 2:39pm
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Trish ------------- DS 8 DD 6 DS 4 DD 2 |
Posted By: grrrgrrrr
Date Posted: 08 March 2010 at 4:01pm
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Mmm I think thats just becoming a mum, I have 3 photos of the boys and me and I took those myself.
I know it isnt easy, but sometimes have ing a chat bout it makes things soo much better ------------- Mattias 2yo Henrik almost 1 |
Posted By: Tastic
Date Posted: 08 March 2010 at 4:14pm
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well Im kinda glad its not just me getting it!
Since having bailey I will always ask how the 'mum' is before asking how the baby is or ask how the baby is then the mum Nicole - Im ok just tired :/ and nope no temp just vomiting alot this afternoon. might take her back to the doctor tomorrow to get her checked out. - especially her 'hormone rash' its getting worse and she now has it all over her back too
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Posted By: fattartsrock
Date Posted: 08 March 2010 at 9:09pm
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TBH I never worry cos I will tell them how I am regardless of if they ask, or indeed care!! Its all part of the rant/whinge/whatever that a phonecall to a friend is. Maybe your friend assumes you would do something similar?
I don't think I'm gulity of that, however, I do have one friend tht I never ask becasue I would be there for hours having to listen to everything and its kinda stressfull, so I don't ask... she tells me anyway, so no harm no foul. Hope you are doing ok, it sucks when routine gets out of whack, especially night time routines and baby is sick. xxx ------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |
Posted By: Tastic
Date Posted: 08 March 2010 at 9:24pm
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and its been a long week and a bit with both boys at home too since aidan has/had the chicken pox. I rang the preschool today asking if they can go back tomorrow since aidans spots have 'crusted over'
so Im hoping they say yes! |
Posted By: fattartsrock
Date Posted: 08 March 2010 at 9:57pm
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They should do, Trish, cos crusts = safe! You will be going mad with them all home, poor chicken. xx ------------- The Honest Un PC Parent of 2, usually stuck in the naughty corner! :P |
Posted By: Blankney94
Date Posted: 08 March 2010 at 11:35pm
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Big hugs - seems to come with the territory doesn't it? Have even noticed I am treated differently at work now that I've gone back. Also totally understand about the photos. Have to ASK DH to take photos of Brooke and I. There are very few. Oh gawd can I have a vent??!! Got a phone call from a friend on Sunday night just as we were about to sit down to tea. I told her I didn't have long as tea was just about on the table, so she proceeded to tell me how the party went after I left, where she went, the guy she met, etc, etc. She then proceeded to have a one person conversation about what contraceptives she was using yadda yadda yadda (no I didn't need to know all that!) Had to tell her 3 times and get quite abrupt to get back to my tea, otherwise she would have gone on for hours. Oh and no "how are you today?". Grrrr!!! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Sorry bit of a vent. Vent over now. Posted By: SpecialK
Date Posted: 09 March 2010 at 11:54am
Yup, got that all the time. And when I burst into tears in front of my parents and said don't you care how I am, they just said but you are a mother now, your babies will always come first. Awesome. ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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nkap9 wrote:Posted By: Tastic
Date Posted: 09 March 2010 at 11:59am
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Vent away Sarah
good news the boys are both at PRESCHOOL! woohoo happy dance (I do love them honestly Im just sick of them being at home with all there energy lol) |
Posted By: MamaT
Date Posted: 09 March 2010 at 2:03pm
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Oh Trish that sucks
My MIL is the worst for it, she started when I was pg though. She'd always ask how "her grandson is doing" when I saw her, but never asked about me. It still happens now. When I was pregnant I'd always answer "I'm good thanks", I think she got the message for a while but still reverts back to not asking about me most of the time -------------  
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Posted By: Whateversville
Date Posted: 09 March 2010 at 9:55pm
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This happens to me already lol
Always "hows baby?" Well he is fine no thanks to ME his MAMA that is CARRYING him..Being booted and bashed from the inside having every muscle ache and being tired and emotional *sigh* LOL I get quite huffy sometimes and reply with "fine, AS FOR ME....." lol etc Good thread Trish  Glad your boys are back at preschool and you get some time out. Hope you start to feel better soon 
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Posted By: DJ
Date Posted: 09 March 2010 at 10:21pm
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LOL at least they ask after the family- my Dad just talks about all the boring things he's been doing and doesn't even ask after the girls ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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