There probably a sleep forrum somewhere here but i couldnt find it so thought id post here ,

My daughter Amelia will be 8months old tomorow , she has never once slept through the night and 4 times ever she has only woken once and these have been complete flukes , Wed night i counted 7 times awake between bedtime at 8pm and 3.30am and last night i lost count after about the 10th time up , she never  self settles and im up for over an hour at a time with her  some nights, since she was born i have not slept for a block of more than 5 hours (and 5hours is very rare- it ussualy 2 or 3 at the most ) in a row . Im starting to go slightly mental through sleep deprivation and was wondering if anyone had any tips , now i know im doing a few things wrong , at the moment i feed her to sleep (breastfeed) its gotton so bad now that she will only settle when shes on the boob and she simply wont go to sleep if shes not fed to sleep , i know this is probably the main problem but i have no idea how to fix this as she will just cry and cry and cry and i have a partner who has to get up early for work so i cant have her cry ALL night ,  any tips would be fantastic , id rfeally apreciate it , i was just about i tears last night at 4am when i just wanted a bit of sleep.  

thanks for that Julia (just saw we have the same name  )

my partner isnt Amelias dad altho hes closest thing to it and we have been together since amelia was just few months old so shes very comfortable with him and he is amazing with her but i just feel because hes not her dad that maybe i shouldnt put any responsibility on him to do with her in the middle of the night , he would help if i asked , i just suppose because i thought it was a breeastfeeding issue (she wont sleep without being fed to sleep) that maybe i could just do it all myself .  he has been up in the night occasionaly to pick her up when shes crying but she just gets hysterical when its not me picking her up . in saying that she has to get use to other people and i start back at work in may so shes going to have to get use to me not being around all the time

I just spoke to plunket who gave me a few tips , ill have to try them out

Fantatsic , thankyou both , i will have a look into this woman and her sleep solutions .

Mel- i put her in a safeTsleep now (i use to swaddle her up until she was 7 months) , i dont think shes too hot or cold ( she always feels fine) , she has never had a dummy or comfort blankie, she is just a stubborn wee maddam who likes the boobie lol .

just thought id let you all know that iv been following  the sleep sense programme strictly. iv been putting amelia to bed for all her naps and bedtime sleep fully awake with her rag doll and nothing else( no more breastfeeding to sleep) and im not getting up to her in the night at all for feeds or cuddles . sunday night she woke at 11.30pm , cried for an hr and 10min (i checked in on her every 10-15min) she then went back to sleep untill 8am!!!!! most shes slept in a row ever , then last night i followed a strict bedtime routine of baby massage , reading a book , and breastfeed , put her down awake before 7.30pm and she woke at 12.30 , cried for 15min , then again at 2.30 and cried for 15min then slept right through till 8.40am!!! , her daytime naps have been fantastic too . its been really hard letting her cry it out  but shes definatly learning already . certinly a huge improvemnt on waking 5,6,7,up to 10 times a night ! altho i must admit i wake up i the morning with enough milk in my boobies to feed a small village lol.

thanks to you all for your suggestions . you all helped me out heaps :)

That is so great - I loved that sleep sense programme it worked well for us too!!

lol enough milk for a village