Bit disappointed.
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Topic: Bit disappointed.
Posted By: Bizzy
Subject: Bit disappointed.
Date Posted: 14 March 2010 at 10:42am
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On friday my little girl turned two... My dad came over and brought her a wand and head band thingy (a $2 shop purchase, his fave place to shop). hes not normally a pressie buying guy and it was really sweet of him..he had been over a couple of days prior and i had told him it was her birthday and he said he would get her something but i didnt really expect it....
anyway the disappointing thing is that my MIL didnt ring up or anything... i know she is only 2 but a call or even a FB message might have been nice. When we were pregnant with her she was stoked to be having a grand daughter, the first girl grandchild born to her kids - her step sons have girls though but she doesnt see them much as they dont live in auckland. She raved about how spoilt this girl would be, along with SIL, and how she would be doted on. Yet when we went to SIL's last night she was surprised that eden had even turned two! i dont know why i am bothered... well actually i do. This is edens first birthday without my mum around and i just know she would have rung up and i guess i am missing her and am sad that eden is not going to know her nana! ooops, turning into a woe is me post now! Not sure wether to push Post New Topic or not now! LOL oh well, here goes! ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker"> 
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Posted By: Shezamumof3
Date Posted: 14 March 2010 at 11:00am
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Id be bothered too Deb, thats not on, like you said, even a phone call or FB message would have been nice, but to not acknowledge it at all is not fair on Eden.
And hugs to you *hugs* ------------- |
Posted By: Bobbie
Date Posted: 14 March 2010 at 11:03am
First off I can't believe your wee thing is two!  - Happy belated birthday Eden 
Secondly I think it's pretty poor for her not to even call and acknowledge it. and thirdly   It must be so hard not having your mum there for events like these.-------------  
 
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Posted By: BeLoved
Date Posted: 14 March 2010 at 11:49am
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I would be disappointed too, just because it may not mean a lot to a 2 year old if their Nana rings on their birthday, it means something to you, especially after losing your own Mum!
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Posted By: james
Date Posted: 14 March 2010 at 11:50am
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aww hun big hugs ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: kellie
Date Posted: 14 March 2010 at 12:25pm
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I would be really upset about that. Especially considering your circumstances. It is really not that hard to make a call, and birthdays only come once a year. ------------- 
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Posted By: Blankney94
Date Posted: 14 March 2010 at 1:20pm
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I'd feel 'wronged' too - not for my sake, but for my child's sake. Sorry haven't got much to offer. Maybe next time give them a rather pointed hint that there's a birthday coming up and hopefully they will get the message. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 14 March 2010 at 1:50pm
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That is sad and disappointing, some women think the world revolves around them, and have no interest in anyone but themselves.
Happy Birthday Eden I'm sure you're spoiling her Bizzy. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">   [/url] Angel June 2012 |
Posted By: LouD
Date Posted: 14 March 2010 at 4:18pm
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I also think its a generation thing........for some reason our parents are extremely selfish ......... its like they reach a certain age and go ...."you know what its all about ME now" I know we have to put ourselves first eventually at some point in our lives but i wouldnt do it to the point where it hurts other people.............man i so hope i dont become one of those people!!!!
My whole family is like that and i often wonder if i didnt make contact with them they would have no idea if i was alive or not............i still have not recieved even a card from any one of my family after the birth of my son in December........very sad ETA - Happy Bday to your daughter for Friday anyway hun |
Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 14 March 2010 at 5:34pm
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I have a similar MIL, and what makes me feel better is knowing how doted the boys are, by my mum. So can definitely understand how you are feeling.
Hugs Deb |
Posted By: Danash
Date Posted: 14 March 2010 at 11:07pm
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Happy belated 2nd birthday Eden! I'm with you, my inlaws didn't ring or send a card for Daniels 2nd birthday (Jan) and it pissed me off then they sent me a sms for my bday(Feb 15) and to piss me off even more didn't ring or send a card for Ahslee's 1st bday on 21st Feb!!!! GAH! How sweet of your dad :) even with a prompt.
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Posted By: jaz
Date Posted: 15 March 2010 at 9:09am
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Did she remember the boys birthdays? Its a bit sucky if she rang the others and forgot Edens. I have to ring Dad a few days beforehand to let him know the birthdays are coming up because it wouldn't occur to him to phone. Grandma's are meant to remember though. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: ginger
Date Posted: 15 March 2010 at 10:39am
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I can't believe that a grandparent wouldn't acknowledge a grandchil's birthday! No wonder you are upset Bizzy! My parents don't celebrate birthdays, and yet they have always acknowledged ours and our childrens' by a phone call or whatever. ------------- Cuinn Lachlan 23.1.09 - 22:00 Antonia Helene 4.8.11 - 09:41 |
Posted By: minik8e
Date Posted: 15 March 2010 at 10:56am
My mother wouldn't have a clue about birthdays coming up unless I remind her. I'm her birthday book. In saying that, I think it's a bit rude of your MIL especially because I know you have had other trouble with her (I remember your thread at Christmas). Unfortunately at the end of the day, it's not just her that misses out, it's Eden as well  This isn't much help, but I just want to give you big and then you can pass them on to Eden as well  And happy belated birthday to her!!
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jaz wrote:Posted By: flakesitchyfeet
Date Posted: 15 March 2010 at 11:03am
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I'd be pissed, and say so.
Politely though, nearly suckyuppy as such. "I know you are an incredibly busy woman, and have other grandchildren, but now that Mum has passed away it's important to me that my kids get to have a really special relationship with you, as you are their surviving grandmother and I want them to cherish that". Or something to that effect. -------------  http://lilypie.com"> |
Posted By: Maya
Date Posted: 15 March 2010 at 12:41pm
OMG I can't believe she didn't even call!?! State of her! That is shameful.
 about your dad tho, that is so sweet. ------------- Maya Grace (28/02/03)
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The Gremlins:Sienna Marie & Mercedes Kailah (14/10/06)
Lil miss:Chiara Louise Chloe (09/07/08)
Her ladyship:Rosalia Sophie Anais (18/06/12)
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Posted By: sally belly
Date Posted: 15 March 2010 at 1:17pm
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I agree that it sucks of your MIL to not acknowledge her granddaughters b'day . I would be tempted to mention it to her (in a 'nice' way of course).
We never hear from DH's father for any of our birthdays or Christmas but I try not to let it bother me anymore because it is really him who is missing out. The fact is my parents who live a plane ride away (& then a 2 hour car ride!) have seen my boys many more times that FIL has & he lives 3 hours drive away  . Liam wouldn't know him from a bar of soap...
(didn't mean for this to turn into a rant!) Happy birthday Eden  -------------    
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Posted By: AandCsmum
Date Posted: 15 March 2010 at 8:51pm
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Yeah some grandmothers are like that, what has happened in our case is that our kids just don't see them. They even forget my birthday & the fact that I'm alive. IMO they are selfish & don't think of others let alone their poor grandies.
How sweet of your Dad ------------- Kel http://lilypie.com"> 
A = 01.02.04 & C = 16.01.09 & G = 30.03.12 |
Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 15 March 2010 at 10:02pm
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thanks guys... i know she knew eden's birthday was coming up cause my husband had been talking to her the week before and she had even asked what we were getting her... i know it upset my husband too!
Thanks for the hugs and birthday wishes... ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker">
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Posted By: BaAsKa
Date Posted: 15 March 2010 at 10:14pm
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big hugs Deb!!! i totally know how you feel!! it was Bays birthday 2 weeks ago and the inlaws REALLY let him down.......and then of course it made myself AND Bay miss my mum because whenever that happened in the past it would be my mum/grandma to the rescue (you may have gathered that from my FB post!).
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Posted By: kiwisj
Date Posted: 15 March 2010 at 10:47pm
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Bizzy that really sucks I don't blame you for feeling disappointed for Eden. And even more sucky that your MIL isn't stepping up as a grandparent now that your Mum isn't around
for you and Eden and belated HAPPY BIRTHDAY wishes too ------------- SJ Callum - Dec 2008 Daniel - Oct 2010 |