On Your Birthday..
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Topic: On Your Birthday..
Posted By: Snappy
Subject: On Your Birthday..
Date Posted: 23 March 2010 at 9:51am
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I just wonder what everyone gets from their partners/husbands for their birthday...
If you don't get anything, do they give you a card, or give you breakfast in bed? |
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Posted By: _H_
Date Posted: 23 March 2010 at 10:00am
I didnt get anything for my birthday from DP as he went a bit over the top with my xmas present but he spent the day with me (doing what i wanted!) and we went out for lunch. it was a really nice day and one of my best "presents" ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: NewPhoenix
Date Posted: 23 March 2010 at 10:11am
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Posted By: ?Lolly?
Date Posted: 23 March 2010 at 10:12am
I got 'I don't know what to get you' So he brought me a few gifts 'from the kids' which was nice. Last year it was salad forks  ------------- Captain Chaos (5) & the Trouble Monsters (2!) 
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Posted By: BeLoved
Date Posted: 23 March 2010 at 10:12am
| DH will always give me a card and he always writes something really meaningful and sweet in it (I love looking back at all the cards from years ago) When it comes to presents its normally something I have hinted at wanting and a charm for my Pandora bracelet. |
Posted By: AandCsmum
Date Posted: 23 March 2010 at 10:12am
My DH was going to get me a facial or something like that but I shot it down cause a) money & b) didn't like place he suggested. Then a few days later I thought, hmmm would like one 
I don't think he got me anything in the end. My parents force us to do stuff on my birthday especially this year with Coopers the day after cuase I'm organising his birthday on mine. ------------- Kel http://lilypie.com"> 
A = 01.02.04 & C = 16.01.09 & G = 30.03.12 |
Posted By: GuestGuest
Date Posted: 23 March 2010 at 10:12am
| DH normally asks me what I would like and if I can't think of anything he will surprise me with different gifts. They are usually things I love because he knows what I like. And he takes me out for dinner. We have a bday tradition where we choose each others restaurants and keep it a secret, and then try to guess while we are driving there. |
Posted By: Hunnybunny
Date Posted: 23 March 2010 at 10:18am
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I'm having to slowly train DH up. He didn't believe in giving stuff for xmas and birthdays. Our first Christmas together, I handed him his present and he said he didn't get me anything (he actually hadn't, he paid for that for a LOOOONG time) So he's learnt his lesson with birthdays and christmas haha!!!
Last year for my birthday, we moved into our house and I got to spend the day using the rug doctor. Woo!! Haha. But we went out for tea which was really nice. I'm making it a tradition that we're always gonna go out for dinner for each others birthdays. AND presents. Doesn't have to be something big! Last year he got underwear, canterbury shorts and some polo shirts he needed for work. This year he gets a baby (I'm due on the 9th, his bday is the 12th. I think thats only fair enough) |
Posted By: KH25
Date Posted: 23 March 2010 at 10:18am
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DH generally just gets me a card. He is useless at buying me pressies, he has no idea what to get me! This year though it was my 30th so we went to Taupo for the weekend and went into Michael Hill and I chose a nice bracelet "from" him lol. It's DH's birthday today actually, I bought him a new wallet which he seemed pleased with ------------- Kelly, mum to DD, 19Jun06 (26wks 1lb15oz) DS1, 24Oct10 (32wks 4lb11oz) and DS2, 31Dec11 (32wks, 4lb11) http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Snappy
Date Posted: 23 March 2010 at 10:18am
Is there anyone that gets absolutely nothing?  I would have been happy with a wee note or something nice to say he loves me - even a bottle of wine?!
I'm feeling a bit sorry for myself, as you do... HE got a nice sleep in this morning.. I did get a "Happy Birthday" and a hug. |
Posted By: KH25
Date Posted: 23 March 2010 at 10:20am
Awww HAPPY BIRTHDAY Kaiz!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 
Maybe he'll surprise you and bring you something home tonight after work? Does he normally get you anything? ------------- Kelly, mum to DD, 19Jun06 (26wks 1lb15oz) DS1, 24Oct10 (32wks 4lb11oz) and DS2, 31Dec11 (32wks, 4lb11) http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 23 March 2010 at 10:23am
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DH always gives me something nice for my birthday and a card, I do the same for him. Sometimes I get it after work when I get home sometimes first thing in the morning before I get up. I like buying nice things for DH.
Happy Birthday Kaiz ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">   [/url] Angel June 2012 |
Posted By: Snappy
Date Posted: 23 March 2010 at 10:27am
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He hasn't for the past four years... every year he asks me what I want, I tell him nothing, so I get nothing. He will tell me to go and buy myself something, which usually ends up being foundation because I need it anyway.
This year I actually TOLD him what I wanted. A facial. This was a few weeks ago. Last week he checked the budget and said we couldn't afford it, so he would get me something in a few weeks when we can. I guess I am just a bit upset because every year when it comes to his birthday, he always makes sure there is room in the budget for his present.. Last year there wasn't, so I found money and bought him a necklace that he'd been wanting for ages.. took him out for breakfast and the kids made him a card. I very much doubt he has got me anything.. I would have been stoked with even a note or a message to say why he loved me or something!!! Hes leaving for work at 2pm and will be home at 11.30pm.. Edited to add: Thank you for the Happy Birthdays :) |
Posted By: didi99
Date Posted: 23 March 2010 at 10:32am
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Happy Birthday!!!!
It's my birthday today too, so far DP hasn't gotten me anything, and has said he has nothing for me. So I told him before he left for work he is taking me out for dinner. -------------  Angel Babies Nov 09, May 10, Dec 10
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Posted By: Babykatnz
Date Posted: 23 March 2010 at 10:46am
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DP usually says the same tyhing... when my birthday comes around, or our anniversary... "sorry, I dont have the money for anything this week" Well shame on him because I scrape together what I can and always get him something I know he needs/wants/will use! When he does eventually get me something its always vouchers cos he says he never knows what I want... ------------- Brandon - 05/12/2003  
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Posted By: MyLilSquishy
Date Posted: 23 March 2010 at 10:47am
| for xmas DP did some very sly photo retrival from my comp and got them printed then put them in photo frames. was so sweet! |
Posted By: Joesie
Date Posted: 23 March 2010 at 11:04am
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Oh, salad forks....that's tough!
I always get a card with some nice poems and words. It is such a beautiful keepsake and I have them all together in a little wooden box. When it comes to presents...., well that's a different story. Although I've never received salad forks, but actually he is not far away from that.  ------------- Clarisse and Chloe, our two little princesses |
Posted By: ?Lolly?
Date Posted: 23 March 2010 at 11:10am
Aww ((hugs))
Sucks when men are dumb! My ex-husband was the dumbest of the dumb. One year he gave my best friend $100 to buy me a xmas gift because he claimed he didn't know what I wanted. Then he was out and about and saw a gift that he thought my best friend would really like so he brought it and wrapped it and put it under the tree. I had no idea it was for her, so kinda assumed he had actually put some thought in to xmas that year. When xmas morning rolled around and he gave me an assortment of gifts brought by my friend - Poo bear bathroom mats, candle holder and a video cassette of the Scorpion King I was a bit baffled to say the least. But was I LIVID with him when I saw the dragon statue he had picked out for my best friend! And all he could say was 'but it only cost $30 - I spent $100 on you!' He just didn't get it. The next year he spent $2000 on jewelery and a cell phone that we could not afford and landed us in even more debt. Needless to say why we are now divorced. (But I still loves my best friend! ) ------------- Captain Chaos (5) & the Trouble Monsters (2!)
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Posted By: heaf3
Date Posted: 23 March 2010 at 11:20am
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happy birthday Kaiz & Didi!!!!!!!
this year DH didnt get me anything until the week after my birthday (farmers voucher) and a card but i didnt have anything on my birthday....was pretty disappointed! usually hes pretty good though. big hugs kaiz! ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: .Mel
Date Posted: 23 March 2010 at 11:22am
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Yes, he buys something for me, and gets me a card from the kids.
No breakfast in bed here though. ------------- Mr Mellow (16) Miss Attitude (8) Destructa Kid (3) 
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Posted By: clover
Date Posted: 23 March 2010 at 11:31am
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HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!
I'll tell you after my birthday on Sunday, it blimmin better be something good though, it's my 30th! Usually I end up having to pick what I want. |
Posted By: Joesie
Date Posted: 23 March 2010 at 11:35am
Well, actually this year was a little different. He surprised me with one of these super cute videos from OurBabyTalks with Chloe as an actor.  ------------- Clarisse and Chloe, our two little princesses |
Posted By: minik8e
Date Posted: 23 March 2010 at 11:36am
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I get absolutely nothing. Last year we went out for tea (and he didn't even want to go), mainly because the nurses in Neonatal told him he had to, because we wouldn't get another chance for a while. I got more from the nurses than I did from DH (they got me a bunch of flowers and some footprints from the girls and also a cake). I have never got a birthday or Christmas present from him. I will usually get a happy birthday and a kiss and that's about it. The year before, his MUM made me dinner because my mum was away, and it was a tradition that for our birthdays my parents took us kids either to a restaurant of our choice, or Mum cooked our favourite meal (for me, usually roast lamb).
He has always got a birthday/Christmas present from me, and last year even got a Father's Day present - nothing big (a mug with "No 1 Dad" on it) but ya know what, I had to brave town with 5 week old twins just to get it, and I think that was the biggest thing - the thought and effort that goes into it without getting anything in return. Mind you, even for our wedding anniversary I had to remind him, and then he decided that night maybe he should raid his mum's garden for some flowers for me. |
Posted By: minik8e
Date Posted: 23 March 2010 at 11:37am
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And after that rant, which it wasn't supposed to be....
HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!! |
Posted By: julz85
Date Posted: 23 March 2010 at 11:45am
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Happy birthday well my partner and i have only been together 4 months so we havent had birthdays together yet , for christmas we had only been officially together like a 2 or 3 weeks so i bought him a cd that i had seen him mention from an add on tv and he bought me a $50 westfield mall voucher and a really nice card saying i HAVE to spend the money on myself because i work so hard , and hes also randomly bought me flowers a few times which is always a lovely suprise . we are already planning a combined birthday party for sept ( as our birthdays are a week apart ) so that should be fun , will be nice to share our birthdays ------------- http://lilypie.com">  
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Posted By: EmDee
Date Posted: 23 March 2010 at 12:02pm
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Happy birthday Kylie
DH & I share our birthdays which means he can never forget, lol. He is usually pretty good at getting me a little something, though we usually have to talk about how much $ we are allowed to spend on each other and whether there is something in particular we would appreciate (he's not so good at coming up with ideas on his own even after being together for 11 years ). We've also got into the habit of each taking the kids to a $2 type shop and letting them pick out 1 thing for each of us.
I hope your day gets better  ------------- DS 8 DD 6 DS 4 DD 2 |
Posted By: ?Lolly?
Date Posted: 23 March 2010 at 12:17pm
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All in all I am getting the feeling that Men are pretty useless present buyers ------------- Captain Chaos (5) & the Trouble Monsters (2!)
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Posted By: lilfatty
Date Posted: 23 March 2010 at 12:22pm
Mines actually pretty good .. he saves up a portion of his "pocket money" for a few months and gets me something. ------------- Mummy to Issy (3) and Elias (18 months) I did it .. 41 kgs gone! From flab to fab in under a year  http://www.femininefitness.co.nz/category/blog - LFs weight blog
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Emiloly wrote:Posted By: Snappy
Date Posted: 23 March 2010 at 12:32pm
That's so nice LF. And exactly what I am going to say to DH if ever I moan about it - nothing wrong with putting $2 aside in his drawer a week to get me a bottle of wine or something eh! I feel like a little kid
Thanks all for the Happy Birthdays. A friend is coming over once DH leaves for work to have a glass of wine 
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Posted By: HoneybunsMa
Date Posted: 23 March 2010 at 12:34pm
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Happy Birthday! I get nothing, yep nothing! What makes it even worse is he will say "What do you want baby?" I normally can't think of anything and part of that is because if I need something then I have always got it myself I've worked therefore have had the money although I don't now I have already bought him his bday present, ok so its only a tshirt but he doesn't know I have bought it and I have to hide it until May ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker"> 
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So he usually says that he was thinking of getting me this this or this and I think ok cool. But what I actually get is a big fat NAHP. We dont even go out for dinner, I think the last time we went out for dinner actual dinner was our Anniv two years ago and thats because I said he HAD to take me out for dinner. I told him the only thing I wanted was for him to take me out for a nice meal and a few drinks. Ok so I drank a bottle of champagne on my own haha. Last bday DD was 3.5mths old and we ended up at mum and dads for BBQ which is what I wanted and he bought meat wholesale through work. Xmas I got the I'll get you something I was thinking of a massage which I would LOVE but no. He even asked my SIL to recommend somewhere
Posted By: WestiesGirl
Date Posted: 23 March 2010 at 12:36pm
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Happy Birthday Kylie
Dh usually asks me what I want or need. Then depending on our finances will surprise me with something I've suggested. Sometimes he gets a card, sometimes not. And sometimes we go out for dinner but having a birthday on New Years day limits where we go cos of surcharges ------------- Our Angel July 08  Gone but not forgotten
And to complete our family, our princess has arrived 
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Posted By: peachy
Date Posted: 23 March 2010 at 12:36pm
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Happy birthday kaiz!
Wow, my man must be one of the unusual ones then! He totally spoils me at every birthday and we always go out dinner on our birthdays. He just finds the most awesome gifts for me, last year he got me an iPhone, I was very stocked!!! I however am the one that is useless in this house I always get DH a present, but he just thinks outside the square and gets me the coolest stuff, whereas I buy him an item of clothing (although its always labelled so costs me a fortune), but its such a boring gift to give every year!------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: HoneybunsMa
Date Posted: 23 March 2010 at 12:37pm
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Oh forgot to add that sometimes he gets a bottle of wine from work, yep again wholesale but he does that randomly throughout the year anyway and he buys himself a bottle of CC or something at least once a week ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker">
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Posted By: kebakat
Date Posted: 23 March 2010 at 12:40pm
| DH comes from a family that is OTT on presents so forgetting to buy something just doesn't happen. Mine is at the end of the month and hes already taken Daniel out to help choose a little extra something for me. |
Posted By: M2K
Date Posted: 23 March 2010 at 12:41pm
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Happy Birthday!
If I told mine I wanted nothing, i would get just that hahaha. he is a thoughtful gift giver though, he just tends to spend too much, which I wouldn't mind if we didn't combine our finances ------------- 
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Posted By: Joesie
Date Posted: 23 March 2010 at 1:11pm
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Upps, I received quite a lot questions about my hubby's present....Seems to be that hubby discovered something first, so at least these endless hours at the computer makes sense
The website is www.ourbabytalks.com. ------------- Clarisse and Chloe, our two little princesses |
Posted By: caitlynsmygirl
Date Posted: 23 March 2010 at 1:25pm
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Happy birthday Kaiz and Didi!
My DH is pretty good , he likes to buy me things , jewellrey or whatever , tho my fave present is always a book that I can pretend im gonna get around to reading ) But if he cant cos finances are low, he makes me something,hes pretty clever with the old Photoshop . For christmas this year he made me an awesome collage of us and the kids (which I put on here ) and for my birthday he did one of the two of us . ------------- 
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Posted By: kiwisj
Date Posted: 23 March 2010 at 1:40pm
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HAPPY BIRTHDAY KAIZ AND DIDI!!!!!
What a great day for birthdays, it's mine today too
I feel very spoilt, although I did hint about this months ago. DH and Callum bought me a Nikon digital SLR, I have been wanting a "real" camera forever and my present to myself ( ) is going to be a photography course, just 5 lessons but I'm really excited!
DH generally does pretty well with gift buying but sometimes he slacks off on finding a nice card. The selection here is RUBBISH and hard to find and unlike me he won't make anything so I got a card (with a lovely message!) for our anniversary yesterday but nothing for my birthday. Oh well.------------- SJ Callum - Dec 2008 Daniel - Oct 2010 |
Posted By: freckle
Date Posted: 23 March 2010 at 1:42pm
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double ------------- mum to 3 lovely girls :D |
Posted By: freckle
Date Posted: 23 March 2010 at 1:44pm
Happy birthday Kaiz, Didi AND Kiwi!! My DF has refused to buy me anymore books until I read the one I desperately wanted, so he bought me 3 years ago ... just been busy ya know
My DF would blow our budget if I let him... so we have a pressie limit and then we go out for dinner ... ------------- mum to 3 lovely girls :D |
Posted By: JAFAjaffa
Date Posted: 23 March 2010 at 1:56pm
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My DH is really good - and I never give him the opportunity to forget since I make a huge fuss about my birthday month, birthday week etc. This year is our first on one income, so it'll be a bit different - I've asked for a haircut somewhere nice and for him to make a nice dinner (not one of our 20minute ones that we do during the week!). Next year we'll go back to going out for dinner - when we're back to 2 incomes and bubby is a bit older! ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Snappy
Date Posted: 23 March 2010 at 7:02pm
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Man, I wish I never started this thread as it just made me feel sorry for myself haha! I told DH it hasn't been such a great day, apparently he did the lunch dishes before work, so that was his way of making my birthday great. YAY!!!
I've just cracked open a bottle of wine so that should keep me happy, I might just leave the dinner dishes for him when he gets home at 11.30pm, since it was my birthday treat and all
Thanks ladies!!! |
Posted By: kebakat
Date Posted: 23 March 2010 at 7:05pm
| You should tell him in a couple of days what you had hoped for otherwise he's never gonna get the hint and you will be disappointed all over again next year. All that really needs to be said is that it would be appreciated by you if we could budget for my birthday as well as yours so we can both get special treats on our birthday. |
Posted By: Snappy
Date Posted: 23 March 2010 at 7:14pm
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Yeah I already have. Apparently he is trying to really hard to keep to a budget this fortnight, unlike me. Hmmm... never mind the $40 you spent last week on a Rugby league bet
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Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 23 March 2010 at 7:25pm
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okay, my hubby is wonderful, but CRAP when it comes to presents. About seven years ago, he asked me "what do you want", i said "nothing' when in reality I meant "I want you to show how much you love me by buying me a truly meaningful gift". then he got me nothing. and I sulked. We now have an agree4ment.
I arrange in the budget enough money to get me gifts...everytime. then i make a list about what I want. And then I act surprise when I get my present. romantiv? no. but we are both happy and I have accepted that this is it. when he does surprise me with something, it is lovely. |
Posted By: myfullhouse
Date Posted: 23 March 2010 at 7:52pm
HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!
*raises hand slowly with a sad look on my face* I put it down to the fact that DH's family doesn't really celebrate anything - birthdays or Christmas really. This year I didn't even get a homemade card from the kids and I had had about 3 texts from my family (we were out of town) before he said "oh yeah suppose I should say Happy Birthday". I did get a cooked breakfast but that was because we had gone out of town to visit his Nana and my Grandma and I had arranged the hotel making sure it had a cooked breakfast. I have to say though that when he does buy me a gift that I haven't hinted at heavily they are really great. Xmas was a digital photo frame and years and years and years ago (for my 16th I think) he got me a beautiful Parker pen that was engraved. Presents like that are wonderful. Actually in fairness though I didn't budget for birthday pressies for him or me this year but I did budget for Mothers and Fathers Day ------------- Lindsey 
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Posted By: scribe
Date Posted: 23 March 2010 at 8:52pm
This thread is making me feel very high maintenance  ... yes, I choose my presents (cos I'd never be happy with what he chose for me, LOL), but it's is my one chance in the year to spurge on something that I wouldn't buy otherwise. This Sunday it's my birthday and I'm getting an artwork from DH and some beautiful fabric and a book from DD. Oh and we happen to be picking up a new puppy on my birthday too
Kaiz, just tell him in advance what you really really want and then, every now and then, remind him how long it is until your birthday ... but, I know, in an ideal world they would just *know* what we really really want without having to be told!
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Posted By: Snappy
Date Posted: 23 March 2010 at 9:29pm
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Yeah I did that damnit! I told him AGES ago I wanted a facial. He asked me ages ago too!
The one year I actually tell him what I want (After years of getting nothing because I've said I dont want anything!) Oh well, day is over now
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Posted By: Mum_mum
Date Posted: 24 March 2010 at 9:45am
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My DH doesn't really get me anything -so now i just go get my own, wrap them up and give them to him to give to me. At least then i get something i want lol.
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Angel baby - May 2008
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Posted By: Jay_R
Date Posted: 24 March 2010 at 10:17am
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My ex was really awesome the first year we were together, but after that it was horrendous. Four years in a row he picked a fight with me the night before my birthday so he could ignore me for the entire day and feel justified in his own head for not getting me a present. Hell, not just no present - not even a 'happy birthday'!!
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Posted By: ginger
Date Posted: 24 March 2010 at 11:01am
Ah Kaiz - my 30th last year - it took DH about an hour to remember it was actually my birthday!
He did cook me whatever I wanted for dinner that night though
It was a bit of a tragic year because a few weeks later he blew off my first mothers day to go hunting as well ------------- Cuinn Lachlan 23.1.09 - 22:00 Antonia Helene 4.8.11 - 09:41 |
Posted By: ginger
Date Posted: 24 March 2010 at 11:01am
You should've put him in a pot and BOILED him joshierocks!!! ------------- Cuinn Lachlan 23.1.09 - 22:00 Antonia Helene 4.8.11 - 09:41 |
Posted By: emz
Date Posted: 24 March 2010 at 8:36pm
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It varies here, DH's family aren't big on things like that, so it's taken a while for him to come around. Usually I have to prompt him too, it's just not an important day in his mind.
This year (my birthday being this Friday) I have told him from 3 weeks out about my bday (he's away so he needed to get my present in advance lol). I then transferred money into his spending account so he had no excuse on not buying me a pressie.
He does however, do random things like going and buying me a nice piece of jewellery at random times (well he did before we were broke!) |