Feeling stressed and overwhelmed...
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Topic: Feeling stressed and overwhelmed...
Posted By: KiwiL
Subject: Feeling stressed and overwhelmed...
Date Posted: 30 March 2010 at 7:17pm
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I started a new role at work today. It's effectively the same as my current role (team leader) but for a more specialist team. I have changed my hours from 6:30am - 2:30pm to 8:00am - 4:00pm.
I just felt terrible by the end of the day. There is so much to learn, the people are more challenging and don't want to change teams (they've mixed them all up with me coming in), there's a lot more reporting and a lot more stuff that's just thrown at you than my old job. I felt completely out of my depth today. I put so much pressure on myself to be good at what I do and to be busy and effective at work, and I just felt embarrassed and like a third wheel. I tried to look busy but I was just that - trying to look busy - because I don't know how I am going to do the job. I am sure this will pass. I am positive I can do the job. I was the preferred candidate for the role, and was asked to apply, and it's the role I was always working towards. So I should be happy right? I kind of blame that awful, terrible year at home with Jackson when he wouldn't eat and now I don't really feel good at anything. But I seem to have lost all self confidence. I am scared of letting people down and not being able to deliver what's expected of me. I feel so lost!! And then I add in the mummy guilt at working full time, and worse hours. The positive is that I get to see Jackson in the morning now but I lose an hour with him in the afternoon and I feel like a terrible person. He LOVES day care and doesn't want to come home most of the time, but it doesn't make me feel better. WOE! Sorry for the rant. I probably should have put this in the vent thread. |
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Posted By: E&L+1
Date Posted: 30 March 2010 at 7:39pm
Just wanted to give you a cyber hug  sounds like you need one.
Hard as it is try to enjoy the time you have with Jackson without mummy guilt! and repeat to yourself everyday several times. "I am a successful person and I can do anything I put my mind too" and if you really aren't enjoying it, it could just be that your priorities have changed since you had Jackson. ------------- http://lilypie.com">  http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: catisla
Date Posted: 30 March 2010 at 7:48pm
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Laurie - you are a great mum and a lovely person - new jobs usually suck while you get used to them - things will improve
Saw Jackson at daycare today when i picked up C and he counted to 10 for me! ------------- |
Posted By: emz
Date Posted: 30 March 2010 at 7:55pm
Oh hun, I'm having huge mummy guilts at the moment too  My kids aren't adjusting well (OK Ava's fine, but Jack not) and I just feel really bad. I love my jobs though.
Maybe it's just teething problems and it'll sort itself out eventually? Give it some time, change is always hard to get used to at work for all involved. |
Posted By: babyg
Date Posted: 30 March 2010 at 9:19pm
Can I cry and have a wee pity sess with you? I'm not coping at work either ------------- Ev, Mum to: Carys Ruby - 4 October 2007 Spencer James - 2 July 2010 |
Posted By: minik8e
Date Posted: 30 March 2010 at 10:09pm
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Huge massive for all of you...I don't have anything else to say, cos I don't know what to say, so will just give all of you hugs!!
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Posted By: FionaO
Date Posted: 31 March 2010 at 9:00am
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OMG this was me, a few months ago, lost all confidence!!
I'm not going to say it got easier straight away, in fact I nearly quit, literally decided that I couldn't do both be a mum hold down a hard job - but then something snapped i started to get it and things got a lot easier, it does just take time, which is rough I know. I really do know how you feel I felt exactly the same, it will get better and you will find your feet and know what to do with your team. If you can talk to your boss, do, don't need to say everything but ask for some direction as to where to start first - very hard with a new team to know which is the most important area to tackle first. Hang in there!!!!! ------------- 
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Posted By: KiwiL
Date Posted: 31 March 2010 at 8:07pm
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Thanks for the replies and hugs - and thanks for your message and text Fiona.
Gah, am dreading going to work tomorrow. I hate this feeling. Had today off to go to the Wiggles. I do know what the focus areas are, I just don't quite know how to tackle them. Overall am feeling yukky and blah all the time, which makes everything worse. Last night I cried after Cold Case - I am an emotional wreck!! |
Posted By: catisla
Date Posted: 31 March 2010 at 9:48pm
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i hope the wriggles cheered you up Laurie!
ps. baby hormones are probably not helping - i cried at just about everything on TV when i was pregnant, and I just could not watch that driving-safety advert about intersections with the evil man and the spinning wheel as i would be a wreck for hours afterwards. must catch up soon - hows about a chipmunks or park afternoon  ------------- |