the wait
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Forum Name: Life After Miscarriage
Forum Description: Up to one in five pregnancies ends in miscarriage, yet for many the loss of a pregnancy is isolating and lonely. Share your thoughts and feelings here with others who have experienced loss.
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Topic: the wait
Posted By: jjands
Subject: the wait
Date Posted: 01 April 2010 at 10:25am
| Hi ladies just wondering what the longest length of time is between finding out your baby is no longer and the actual miscarriage is for you? It generally seems to be quite short....? |
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Posted By: AzzaNZ
Date Posted: 01 April 2010 at 10:56am
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Mine was very short, I found out my HCG levels had dropped on the Thursday and I started bleeding on the Friday afternoon. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: lemongirl
Date Posted: 01 April 2010 at 1:15pm
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First of *hugs* if you are going through this.
The answer is that it really does depend. A woman from my due in thread started miscarrying at the same time as me and took 3-4 weeks. She was offered a D&C but wanted to go the natural way. |
Posted By: ElfsMum
Date Posted: 01 April 2010 at 2:07pm
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i found out 4 weeks after bubs had died and had a Dand c almost a week after that..so at least 5 weeks for me.. but I was worried about infection so had DandC and it was much more preferable to my natural mc:( ------------- Mum to two amazing boys! |
Posted By: luvmylittlies
Date Posted: 01 April 2010 at 4:22pm
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It really depends on the person I think. I found out at the 13 weeks scan that I'd lost the baby at 8 weeks then after waiting another 4 weeks I asked for a D&C which happened a week later. So all up it was 10 weeks and I still hadn't miscarried naturally. ------------- Adoring Mum to Talisin 8/9/11 and Kiara 18/01/10 |
Posted By: jjands
Date Posted: 01 April 2010 at 4:49pm
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Thanks your all really friendly in here :D
I'm on my 6th week of waiting...it's just the not knowing when is hard but nice to still have my baby with iykwim??? My doc hasn't offered a d&c he has offered a pill to induce mc though |
Posted By: mamanee
Date Posted: 01 April 2010 at 5:40pm
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I don't want to alarm you but that might be dangerous.
I have been sitting here scratching my head, but I don't really know what to say as I tend to say really stupid things and I don't want to offend you. First of all, I am very very sorry for your loss. Second of all, I really think you should get on to your doctor immediately about either a d&c or the pill to induce mc as not having a live foetus inside you for that long could be dangerous to your health. Someone please correct me if this is wrong, as I really don't want you to be alarmed if I'm not right about this. |
Posted By: kebakat
Date Posted: 01 April 2010 at 5:52pm
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My mc's have been fast. Some people tend to hold onto it though if that makes sense.
The pill is probably misoprostal which is very effective and I think I'd much rather that over a dnc |
Posted By: Shezamumof3
Date Posted: 01 April 2010 at 5:53pm
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I m/c naturally a day after having the scan, I should have been 7 weeks but was only measuring 5, so it took me 2 weeks to m/c really.
6 weeks seems a long time to wait *hugs* maybe just ceck with your Dr whether its safe to wait any longer. Im so sorry your going through this :( ------------- |
Posted By: jjands
Date Posted: 01 April 2010 at 5:58pm
| I asked him he said he had a woman who mc 10 weeks after the baby died....? Thats far and away the longest I have ever heard of he said there's no risk which I have to admit sounds strange |
Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 01 April 2010 at 6:05pm
i think what mamanee is refering to is if it is later in pregnancy, say 2nd trimester.
definitely talk to your doctor is you are worried at all but i am pretty sure many different factors would come into how long.. ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker"> 
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Posted By: mamanee
Date Posted: 01 April 2010 at 6:10pm
Yeah, that is what I meant. And that is only because I saw something like that on Private Practice, so no actual knowledge really. |
Bizzy wrote:Posted By: ElfsMum
Date Posted: 01 April 2010 at 6:27pm
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for me the DandC was preferable as no risk of retained anything..and also i didnt want to take such a strong pill really.. but i also never got offered it..not sure why:( ------------- Mum to two amazing boys! |
Posted By: kebakat
Date Posted: 01 April 2010 at 7:10pm
| Its not actually such a "strong pill", its actually for stomach ulcers I think (or something random like that) but one of the side effects is that it causes abortions. I think its a dhb thing as to whether or not its offered or how often. Just like in Palmy you get given fentnyl (sp?) instead of pethidine in labour |
Posted By: jjands
Date Posted: 01 April 2010 at 7:53pm
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thanks for the info I just really wasn't sure I don't know anything about mc's and what to expect all my gp said was be prepared for alot of pain and possibly having to travel out of town to a larger hospital when it happens. Sounds scary :(
I think your right about it being a dhb thing but I do know other girls who have been sent out of town from here for d&c's... 
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Posted By: Natalie_G
Date Posted: 01 April 2010 at 7:58pm
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*hugs*
So sorry to hear of your loss. ------------- http://lilypie.com">  
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Posted By: kebakat
Date Posted: 01 April 2010 at 8:13pm
| How far along were you? Bit harsh for the GP to scare you like that. My mc's weren't at all painful for the actual mc part, it was just like a heavy period. |
Posted By: Rubyrock
Date Posted: 01 April 2010 at 8:14pm
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jjands,
I'm so sorry for your loss. I was told it could take anywhere from a couple of days to 4-8 wks later to naturally miscarry. Due to me working I didnt really want to go through the miscarriage at the office and be freaked out when it did happen - you can be prepared but I would imagine i would be quite upset and the people that I work with arent the most pleasant.... I have just had my D&C today, they gave me the misoprostal about 1/2 hr before the proceedure which brought on cramping. It was over pretty quickly and the staff at the DHB were all lovely (wish the fertility people were that nice)! Due to me being older it was a factor in having it done asap so that we can continue with our fertility treatment. If you are worried see you doctor or MW they are there to support you and the MW can arrange a D&C if you want one. Again so sorry for your loss  ------------- TTC#1 Jan 07 Me 39 DP 41 MFI DI#1&2 Sep & Oct 09 BFN DI#3 Feb 10 BFP - mc @ 9wks DI#4 Jul 10 - BFN DI#5 Aug 10 - BFP - chem pg IVF #1 Aug/Sept 11 - BFP - chem pg |
Posted By: WestiesGirl
Date Posted: 01 April 2010 at 11:51pm
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Sorry for your loss
When I MCed I had no pain at all. The only reason I knew I was MC'ing was cos I had spotting and then bleeding. I had that for 10 days before I finally decided that I was over waiting for it to end naturally so asked for a D&C. I had pain after the D&C was done, normal AF kinda pain. If I were you I'd be asking for a second opinion or speak to your MW. I dont think its fair for you to be left in the lurch and have to continue to deal with it on your own. ------------- Our Angel July 08  Gone but not forgotten
And to complete our family, our princess has arrived 
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Posted By: rachelsea
Date Posted: 02 April 2010 at 11:55am
Sorry for your loss 
When I m/c I started bleeding at 7.5wks pregnant, went for a scan to find the pregnancy hadn't progressed past 5.5wks. Then I bled off and on (ie 2-3day breaks from bleeding every 10days or so) for another 2months I wasn't offered a D&C, didn't know about them, but I probably would have had one if I'd been offered because bleeding for 2months isn't a lot of fun...
I hope you don't have to wait too much longer
Edited to add: I didn't have any pain either. ------------- DD 4yrs DS 2yrs http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: lemongirl
Date Posted: 02 April 2010 at 1:48pm
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ACtually mamanee is right, you really do need to be careful about infection. I had a D&C that didn't get everything out and ended up in hospital for two nights a couple of weeks after the procedure which was just awful.
Not to alarm you but if you have a feeling that something is 'right' feeling a bit feverish etc please go and get checked out. Also 6 weeks is an awfully long time to wait and yes that pill might help speed things along. |
Posted By: Zaylah
Date Posted: 03 April 2010 at 6:55pm
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I really hopes noone gets upset by what I have to say - and if you do I am really sorry.
I haven't miscarried and I am really sorry for all of you who have lost your babies. We are pregnant with triplets and have been told we have less than a 5% chance of two of them surviving. When I asked what happens if they die, the doctor explained that the uterus is a very sterile environment and if the death doesn't cause me to go into labour, the babies will naturally begin to be absorbed. He said that it is very safe for the babies to stay in there until the other/s are born if they survive and that no matter how long they are in there, infection shouldn't occur. From what others have said though this sounds wrong. I am under one of the obstetricians at the high risk clinic in wellington so I also find it hard to imagine that he is wrong - so I really don't know what is right/wrong. I thoroughly believe though that if you even have the slightest doubts or concerns, talk to a doctor. If you're still not happy, talk to another doctor. I am sorry for your loss, and can only hope you get all the support you deserve to help you cope during this time. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow"> 
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Posted By: jjands
Date Posted: 03 April 2010 at 9:21pm
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Congrats on the babies :) I think your probably right had a little bleed today so hopefully things are starting to happen.
Can't believe how lovely you al are on here is great to have somewhere to come and talk during this hard time. Really hit home when the bleeding started last night totally devastated.. |
Posted By: AzzaNZ
Date Posted: 03 April 2010 at 9:26pm
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(((HUGS)))
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Posted By: luvmylittlies
Date Posted: 04 April 2010 at 10:58am
I only found this site recently, but I was still having problems dealing with my lost little ones and I found the support and understanding here amazing. Hope things go as smoothly as possible for you. Take care of yourself and don't be afraid to have a good cry if you need it. We're here for you if ever you need to chat or just let off some steam. ------------- Adoring Mum to Talisin 8/9/11 and Kiara 18/01/10 |
Posted By: jjands
Date Posted: 04 April 2010 at 1:01pm
| Thanks unfortunately I've only told a couple of people and they don't understand why I'm upset as it wasn't 'an actual baby yet' or because it wasn't planned really having a crap day today |
Posted By: jo1979
Date Posted: 04 April 2010 at 4:26pm
| Oh jjands, so sorry you're having a crap day. Weekends and holidays are hard after a miscarriage. Are you in the mood for a DVD? I watched Little Miss Sunshine after my d&c. Ignore silly comments from people who don't get it. You know what your baby means to you a d you know how much to grieve to help yourself heal in time. Hugs. |
Posted By: luvmylittlies
Date Posted: 04 April 2010 at 9:02pm
Lordy people who haven't been through it do/say some stupid things. Just because our babies were little and invisible to others doesn't mean we hadn't started bonding with them. And just because they might have been unplanned doesn't mean we didn't want them or love them as much. Hope there's someone who can support you out there. But we're all here when you need us. ------------- Adoring Mum to Talisin 8/9/11 and Kiara 18/01/10 |
Posted By: lemongirl
Date Posted: 05 April 2010 at 3:10pm
Yup been there too. I knew baby was alive before I took the frickin test and even though the timing couldn't have been worse I was/am still so devastated. One thing that gave me a bit of peace aside from a lot of online ranting was http://www.babycatcher.net/excerpt2.html - this exert called spirt babies. Lots of hugs. |
Posted By: jjands
Date Posted: 06 April 2010 at 3:11pm
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Do you ever wish there was like a fairy who would come and take care of everything and everyone while you go to bed with a pile of magazines a hotwater bottle and lots of chocolate and cups of tea?? And maybe some DVD's Jo!
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Posted By: babygiraffe
Date Posted: 06 April 2010 at 9:12pm
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I'm so sorry for your loss.......
For my first m/c it was really quick, had spotting for a week and then bamn, it was all over. My 2nd was quick too, got my positive hpt and then 4 days later my period came. For my 3rd I found out a our 9 week scan that the baby had died at around 7 weeks. I opted for a D&C a week after we found out - clearly it was happy to stay put for awhile longer! Its been 2.5 weeks now and I'm feeling better about life, I hope this happens for you too 
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Posted By: jjands
Date Posted: 10 April 2010 at 11:04am
| Well bad day yesterday, very very heavy bleeding went to the nurses who called an ambo went to our local hospital then got transferred out of town to a bigger hospital. Stats were way down organs were very stressed they were concerned I was going to bleed out. Of course no one shared any of this and DH updated me when he arrived. Poor him being told all that. Discharged last night at about 11pm as the bleeding had slowed down but back in on Monday for more tests grrrrrrrrrr....over it |
Posted By: kellyd
Date Posted: 10 April 2010 at 11:59am
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Hi. I had my 12 week scan on Wed 7th April this week. I had been spotting for a week previous to this. I then miscarried the next day.
I am so sorry for your loss. It is surprisingly difficult and the grief you feel is so strong. I hope you get through this OK. My thoughts are with you. Look after yourself and prepare yourself for a rough time if/when you miscarry naturally. Try to organise some strong pain relief as soon as you can and have a lot of pads on hand. Maternity are probably better then super. I had super and the packet only lasted a few hours and I went through 3 pairs of trousers too. All the best. |
Posted By: jjands
Date Posted: 13 April 2010 at 12:46pm
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Just had to have a vent I'm so sick of bleeding I'm so sick of cramping I'm sick of feeling exhausted and I don't know if I ever want to TTC because this has been sooooo awful
I hate today 
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Posted By: kriss
Date Posted: 13 April 2010 at 1:08pm
 to you jjands..
I am going through this at the moment too, and it is devastatingly difficult
I have found that naming our little bean has helped me.. our little one is gone but never ever forgotten. Thinking of you, and wish you all the very best for your TTC journey xxo ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: kellyd
Date Posted: 13 April 2010 at 1:21pm
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Hi again,
so sorry for what you are going through. It sux. I am still bleeding after my miscarriage on Thursday last week. Its lighter, but still gross. I so know what you mean about being sick of bleeding. It seems to go on and on. The day of the miscarriage was definately the worst for me. I felt metntally really strong the next day - I had grieved for the baby on the Wednesday of the scan when I found out baby had died, and then Thursday was all about pain and blood and it being in a sense "over". Friday was recovery and feeling like I came out of the tunnel. Today I visited a friend who is/was 1 week ahead of me in her pregnancy. She is due 9th October, and is showing a beautiful baby bump. It was so hard. It really got to me and I'm feeling a bit emotional today becuase of it. I guess emotions are going to be yo yo-ing for a while yet. Lots of hurdles to overcome, especially probably getting to the month of being due. Maybe after that will be the time when we really can start to move on. Getting through October. I plan on being pregnant again by then, so maybe that will make it easier....I just don't know. I guess you just have to realise that this is most likely a one off and the next pregnancy is going to be successful. It's the only way I'm really coping. Knowing I'm going to be pregnant again soon. And carrying on with my normal life so I don't have to think about it all. Distractions are good. Thinking of you, and wishing you a speedy recovery. I have a scan tommorrow to check all has come out. Looking forward to the closure it should offer. Take care. |
Posted By: luvmylittlies
Date Posted: 14 April 2010 at 9:41am
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Hugs to you all. Its so sad that anyone has to go through this. It's bad enough having to cope with the emotional loss but to also have to deal with the physical stuff - one of life's real cruelties.
I just wanted to warn you about 2 things that i struggled with. Initially after each miscarriage i was okay, then after about 3 months the pain came back and got worse with each passing month. By then everyone thought i was over it so i kept it to myself and it got worse and worse. I think what i'm trying to say is to give yourself permission to grieve and don't expect the pain to just go away suddenly (although i hope it does). For those of you who want to TTC again it is fraught with stress and anxiety. I was a mess through this pregnancy but it was worth it. And the girls on here supported me through my dark days so keep talking/typing, it really helps even if it's just to vent. ------------- Adoring Mum to Talisin 8/9/11 and Kiara 18/01/10 |
Posted By: jjands
Date Posted: 14 April 2010 at 10:08am
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Thanks I think if we decide to ttc I'll be a mess!
What really worries me as the number of us having mc's!! I talk to woman in their 40's that have had kids and none of them have had mc's whats changing? Is it the foods we're eating? The extra stress and worry or what? I'm going to do some research when I get a moment I'm getting quite interested in this. I know last time round I ate well exercised and really looked after myself where as this time it was unplanned so my body wasn't the best it could be and I was on the pill which I've been told is a big factor. But then I'm sure there's lots of you who did everything right???? House work then research! Any info would be great ladies! |
Posted By: lemongirl
Date Posted: 14 April 2010 at 10:38am
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Jjands,
Unfourtantely women had miscarriages 'back in the day.' My mother had 3 between my sister and my brother. However these days we are 'lucky' that our pregnancies are often detected earlier so many early m/c might have been put down to 'late' periods. They also didn't talk about it, actually we still don't talk about miscarriage that much. The horrible thing about most miscarriages is that they are a mystery. We often don't know why. You can do everything perfectly and have no baby while other mothers who smoke or drink or have caffiene and never have to feel the pain. I wonder about my stress levels, the horrible flu I had the same week the fetus started growing, that I didn't take folic acid until 6 weeks (I had a whoopsie too) and was taking the pill. The only comfort I can take from this experience is that it will make any children I do have in the future so much more special. |
Posted By: jjands
Date Posted: 14 April 2010 at 11:02am
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Ah so I just spoke to lucky women then. I guess I didn't occur to me that technology allows us to know so much more now. And your right many woman have and still often think 'oh that was a bit of a funny period'
I know someone who drinks and smokes HEAVILY during her pregnancies (3 of them) and has perfectly healthy children. Thats is the unfairness of life. I think it's wrong we don't talk about mc my DH is very anti people knowing. Woman need support at times like this. We all have to remember that this probably happened for a reason, our babies might not have been healthy and might have suffered had they been born. Fingers crossed for all healthy happy babies in future pregnancies. Isn't it funny how quickly you can change from hour to hour, from ok to feeling really down again :( |
Posted By: kellyd
Date Posted: 14 April 2010 at 4:24pm
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Hi ladies. I have to agree about DH being anti people knowing - I think that's a man thing. Men don't talk about painful things, and talking about it makes it painful all over again, so they put things behind them and move on.
I told my hubby I was sad I never got to see/keep/bury baby because I wanted to buy a plant in memory and he wasn't keen on the idea. He thought it would make it worse, having to face it/look at it everyday, making it fresh in your memory constantly etc etc. But I could tell he really didn't know if was a good idea or bad. I come on her so often at the moment because you guys have been through it all physically and recently, so it's exactly what I'm going through, so for me, this is the best support. My husband is supportive, but he's a man and can never understand why it affects us so much. I had another scan today which was a bit inconclusive. Am having my hCG levels tested today and Friday to make sure they're dropping correctly. I hope so, want to move on, and TTC next month. My life is consumed with thoughts of being pregnant. Everyday I think about getting pregnant again. It's a bit like a mind obsession!!! I won't feel "right' again until I'm pregnant. Does anyone else feel like that??? |
Posted By: jjands
Date Posted: 14 April 2010 at 4:49pm
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I think men are pretty typical aren't they? My DH couldn't understand why I was so upset that our baby got flushed down the toilet....men ...they try so hard but they just don't get it-your so right Kelly.
I hope you get pregs straight away and that it's a sticky baby. I come here ALOT at the moment too I find it very helpful. I hope your HCG's are dropping let us know how that goes won't you? My step DD said today "Mummy your tummy looks like your having another baby!" If I didn't have so many visitors at that moment I would've cried I still want to when I think about it stupid stupid unfair mc
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Posted By: Emmi_
Date Posted: 14 April 2010 at 8:18pm
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My DH was the same, didnt want to talk about the MC, didnt want to tell anyone, didnt want to do anything for bub (like the tree that I made us plant). He still doesnt talk about it, I know once in the early stages of this pregnancy he opened up a little about what our first bub ment to him and how he felt. So its def not just your DH
I too became 'obsessed' with getting PG again, DH hated it, but it let me feel like I had some control over things that I didnt really. I found researching things to increase my chances of getting PG again really interesting (EPO, green tea, charting, opks, CM, CP, I even bought a $150 monitor and $90 of sticks that I didnt even need!) but it really helped me, as I said DH hated it, but I had to do waht I had to do... ------------- 
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Posted By: jjands
Date Posted: 14 April 2010 at 8:22pm
| ahhh that explains alot of people emmi I needed that insight into why people do things!! Thanks u.....my eyes have been so opened in the last little while |
Posted By: kellyd
Date Posted: 15 April 2010 at 12:43pm
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Got results from hCG and levels are dropping. Were about 107 yesterday so will have another test tomorrow.
Just got back from coffee group with my little girl and had another slap across the face (not literally). One of the girls is pregnant, due 10th October. I'm so happy for her, and because it's not something directly linked to my pregnancy, I can be really happy for her. But what's hard is that she isn't supposed to be able to have babies. Her first child was IVF because she was told she couldn't do it naturally. They only found out at about 8 weeks because she never thought it could happen so never thought of testing. She has been drinking etc and not being careful with diet etc, because she had no reason to be careful. She's now 14 weeks and baby is great. I saw her ultrasound pictures on the fridge (her scan was the day before my scan) and it was hard - seeing an alive baby when all I could think of was my scan pictures with my dead little baby. I cried all the way home. It's so hard - everytime I think things are on the up, something else happens and it makes me sad and horrible all over again. I just wish my baby hadn't died. |
Posted By: spanky77
Date Posted: 15 April 2010 at 10:08pm
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Love to you, Kelly, I know I need to read the rest of the thread for the details, but not tonight.
"I won't feel "right' again until I'm pregnant. Does anyone else feel like that???" Yep. Me. I felt like I got so far with moving through this, but seeing newborns/very preggy women and hearing about yet another person getting utd makes me feel more frustrated that it hasn't happened. I definitely wanted to be utd by my due date, but thats come and gone, and nothing likely to happen for a few months yet. Scan pics I find hard too, mainly because, like you, I now associate it with not such good news Mc is utter utter pants and I wish none of us had to go through it. Its so up and down, isn't it.You have my support here |
Posted By: jjands
Date Posted: 16 April 2010 at 7:45am
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ah I don't wana go to my scan alone DH won't come he's working I know it's only a scan and I'm being silly
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Posted By: Princess_Bubs
Date Posted: 16 April 2010 at 12:22pm
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Hi Girls!
I haven't been able to post/message all week (I signed in on my boss's computer when she was away and the box was checked to stay signed in so I haven't been able to get on from another pc - she's away today so I've logged out and unchecked the stay signed in box but I'm still logged in here - So once she's back on monday I'll be locked out again :( Hope it signs out automatically after a while ?? Any advice??) Kelly - I just want to give you a big huge I completely understand - It's amazing what can set us all the sad and horrible feelings!
One of my darling friends is due in June, she got told she's having a girl so the baby shower was pink pink pink and she got a ton of gorgeous pink wee clothes etc, and she's just been told she's actually having a boy. she's really upset about it as she feels like she's lost a daughter (I felt sad for her when I found out, what a huge shock) But now I'm just so sad thinking she's disapointed about a healthy little boy, I know once she holds him she will be over the moon but I'm just so jealous. She doesn't know how lucky she is
I just keep feeling so sad that I was pregnant, and now I'm not, and yet I have no baby to show for it. It just doesn't seem fair. I have to wait to see a specialist before I can even think about trying again as I may have a prob, and my doctor promised she'd put the refferal in for me 2 weeks ago and I just phoned today and she's completely forgotten so I'm really frustrated. I don't want to wait too long (The alternative is spending over $500 just for the first consult and ultra sound privately!) I wish I was still pregnant :( I just want to be pregnant again, and I just want to know everything is going to be ok. I just miss my baby Angel and all the fun things about being pregnant like talking to my tummy like a crazy person, and knowing that a little bub was growing in there ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">  Two Precious Angel Babies 2010 / 2011
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Posted By: jjands
Date Posted: 20 April 2010 at 9:20am
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It's good to see it's quiet in here again hope everyone is ok.
I got the all clear yesterday there is tissue left behind but they are happy that my body will deal with it. YAY so glad I can start putting this behind me once the bleeding stops. Even have the all clear to TTC in 2 cycles if we want :) Hope your feeling better princess bubs big hugs and hugs to everyone that needs them.
Can I just say-tell people what your going through everyone heard after I ended up in hospital and the support and love I didn't even know I had until then was amazing really helped |
Posted By: kellyd
Date Posted: 20 April 2010 at 1:48pm
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I agree with jjands about telling close friend about what you're going through.
I told quite a few people I was pregnant this time around, so had to tell everyone what had happened once we found out the baby died. As hard as that was, the support I got was amazing, and it made me realise how hard this would be going through it alone. My good friends are still asking me how I'm doing and still supporting me, which is awesome. I was constantly getting txts, emails and phone calls over the first few days of finding out baby had died and miscarrying etc etc, and it made me feel loved, supported and uplifted (as uplifted as you can get in this situation). But it really helped, so don't do it alone. Lonliness isn't what you need at this time. Hope everyone is doing OK. Kelly. |