Surrogant Mothers
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Topic: Surrogant Mothers
Posted By: stevie_88
Subject: Surrogant Mothers
Date Posted: 28 July 2006 at 11:14am
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I think that's what it's called when you have someone elses eggs planted into you and whatever the procedure is- not tooo sure. Anyways...
My sister is hmm 28 this year and she's always saying that she doesn't want to have kids and so on- BUT I know she will one day. She pratically brought up my brother and I. So what I'm wondering is- what if she got to an age where she just couldnt have babies, OR what if she didn't want to go through the whole pregnancy thing and asked me to do the surrogant mother thing for her?? What would you do? I dont know how it'd be to part with the little person that you've practically gone through so much for. Wouldn't it be hard and unusual? Has anyone or you gone through this??? ------------- http://lilypie.com">  
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Posted By: jax
Date Posted: 28 July 2006 at 11:16am
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There was a story in the last issue of Little Treasures magazine about this very thing, I'll try and dig it up for you. ------------- Jacquie - Mama to Erin, 13.07.06 - Chief Cat Chaser & Marmite Sammie Eater 
Love many, trust few, harm none. ~Anon~ |
Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 28 July 2006 at 11:25am
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If you go to the Treasures website then you can read the article there. I do know from the article that there has to be a reason why the woman can't have and carry her own baby in NZ. Rules they suck. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: MILF
Date Posted: 28 July 2006 at 11:35am
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i would happily donate my eggs for someone i was close too, but as for carrying their baby???? would have to be someone very very close, as why would i want to go through that again? i dont enjoy being pregnant much, so it would have to be an extreme case for me.
28 isnt old stevie - she has got years to decide if she wants them or not. and she may decide not to have any too. just because she likes kids doesnt mean she feels the need to have any of her own. I like keanu reeves but i dont need him for my own  ------------- Lyla - mum to Xanthe -  my big 4 year old 
and Jordis - 1 year old 
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Posted By: stevie_88
Date Posted: 28 July 2006 at 11:49am
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Nah I'm not saying 28 is old but what if she puts having kids off for too long and she ends up in her 40's- 50's and then when she does want kids its too late, or if theres an accident and she cant have kids. I was just wondering what people do to help others out like that. Especially family. And what if she asks me later in life. It's just a thought... ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: Anna
Date Posted: 28 July 2006 at 12:47pm
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There is a website to check out for info about this... www.aussieeggdonors.com . You have to apply to join but once you get in there the ladies are fantastic, they will give you all the info you need.
To donate eggs you have to go thru the equivalent of an IVF cycle, daily injections (that you do yourself) that alter your cycle. It will make you produce more eggs than the usual one a month, and they match your cycle to your recipients (your sister). It is not a guaranteed procedure, about 35% success I think. For you to be a surrogate it is trickier. You basically have to get pregnant (which involves the same as before, an IVF cycle), and if it is successful and the baby is born you have to legally adopt the baby to her for it to be her child. It is a difficult thing to do, both physically and legally and as it is a relatively uncommon thing the laws around it are quite strict. If you are really interested you could email Fertility Associates in NZ for more info, they are a lovely bunch of people. I am wanting to donate eggs once this pregnancy is finished. Andy is not so keen on it and to do it I have to get his written consent but that is not something to decide about right now. I would definitely be a surrogate also but there would be many things to consider!! Hope that helps a bit!! ------------- Anna http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: my2angels
Date Posted: 28 July 2006 at 1:07pm
| I would rather be a surogate for someone using thier eggs and sperm than be a donor myself but if it was my sister or someone equally as close then I would consider it. I have told my sisters I would do it for them (both have had problems conceiving) but they now have thier own kids so dont think they will be asking, would do it for my best friends too probably and if it wasnt for the gestational diabetes that loves to rear its head when Im pregnant then I would probably do it for a stranger to but that would be under certain circumstnces though. |
Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 28 July 2006 at 2:13pm
| Don't know if I could. It's something I've thought about too, as Jake's godparents are struggling to conceive. have been through tests and nothing is wrong, went through clomid (?) and she had a severe reaction to it, so thats that. they are waiting another year to qualify for the free IVF, but if that doesn't happen, I'm not sure they'd do. they are the most wonderful people who would be great parents (are in our will to have the boys should something happen to us). If not for the emotional aspect, I would volunteer in a second....but not sure how I would cope. |
Posted By: AlyAyde
Date Posted: 28 July 2006 at 2:27pm
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I wouldnt mind being the incubator for someone's baby. But couldnt donate my eggs. ------------- Jayde 25/12/04 Alyssa 08/04/03 http://Alyayde.bebo.com |
Posted By: mum2emj
Date Posted: 28 July 2006 at 2:51pm
| a few months ago i would of seriously considered being a surrogate mother to someone i love, but with the last few weeks and my blood pressure as high as it is AGAIN, and all the things associated with it i dont think i could now. im struggling to deal with my own problems, and thats with a baby that i will get to love, let alone having to go through it all again... but i would donate eggs, not that i would recommend my genes! |
Posted By: stevie_88
Date Posted: 28 July 2006 at 3:11pm
If later in life my sister needed me to help her with something like this- I'd donate my eggs only to her. And I might do the thing where I have the baby for her- I'll just have to forget all the crappy things pregnancy brings in the mean time.  It's good to know how everyone feels about this topic- thanks ladies.  ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: meow
Date Posted: 28 July 2006 at 3:16pm
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I couldn't do it, I'm too selfish After growing my own little bean and getting to know her, I couldn't hand her over to someone else.
HOWever, if one of my children were infertile, and I was still young enough.. I might consider it. I couldn't donate eggs, the thought of a part of me being somewhere in the world that I didn't know about it too weird. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: my2angels
Date Posted: 28 July 2006 at 4:33pm
| To me donating eggs is the same as donating sperm and I would not at all be comfortable with hubby doing that. I dont really seem to get attached to baby when Im pregnant so think I could handle giving it to the parents providing its thier egg and sperm. hard to know until your in the situation though aye |