If you didn’t have a car...
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Topic: If you didn’t have a car...
Posted By: xLUCKYx
Subject: If you didn’t have a car...
Date Posted: 13 May 2010 at 10:31am
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would you let that get in the way of your kids education??
I have a family member who doesn't have a car anymore so I take the two primary kids to school and back every day. If I didn't they would bus (at ages 6 & 7) or walk down a very busy road at a distance that is just too far for them at this age. There is also a 4 year old who has morning kindy who I can also drop off but because kindy finishes at 12:30 and I am at work then, I can't pick him up. He ends up attending about 1-2 days a week if he is lucky because somehow the mum is always too sick to pick him up! Funny though she is always well enough to go out on the weekends and to sports during the week.... |
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Posted By: TheKelly
Date Posted: 13 May 2010 at 10:32am
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I didn't have a car til C was 6 and a half, and I managed to get her to school fine
( actually , I did get a car when she was 5 , but then I lent it to my brother and he and the car went AWOL for a year ...) ------------- 
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Posted By: lilfatty
Date Posted: 13 May 2010 at 10:33am
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Personally I would walk them .. all
If feasible I would move closer to the schools, but I wouldnt expect a four year old to make their own way to kindy, so I would still be walking them. (although I am assuming I dont have a job?) 
Obviously if I had a job and was at work I would need to put some measures in place so the kids got to school. ------------- Mummy to Issy (3) and Elias (18 months) I did it .. 41 kgs gone! From flab to fab in under a year  http://www.femininefitness.co.nz/category/blog - LFs weight blog
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Posted By: xLUCKYx
Date Posted: 13 May 2010 at 10:36am
| Haha yep no job.... quite happy to let everyone else do everything... |
Posted By: lilfatty
Date Posted: 13 May 2010 at 10:41am
Probably why they dont have a job then ..  ------------- Mummy to Issy (3) and Elias (18 months) I did it .. 41 kgs gone! From flab to fab in under a year http://www.femininefitness.co.nz/category/blog - LFs weight blog
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xXELAx wrote:Posted By: xLUCKYx
Date Posted: 13 May 2010 at 10:45am
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It's actually so much worse than that... She is so close to losing these kids which for so long I have thought would be the worst thing, but the less I see her fight for them I am starting to think it may be a good thing.
The extended family (mostly me) have been doing everything we can to make things easier so she can step up and change but.... nada.... I'm so peeved off about it. |
Posted By: High9
Date Posted: 13 May 2010 at 11:03am
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I don't have a car, I can't drive so I walk or bus everywhere. Haven't tried busing with the baby yet but we do walk a lot!
I wouldn't let it get in the way of my kids education though! Luckily everything is in walking distance, schools, shops, etc. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: caliandjack
Date Posted: 13 May 2010 at 11:07am
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As a parent its my responsibility to ensure my children go to school everyday, if that means walking them myself or catching the bus with them then that's what I have to do. Anything less is neglect. ------------- http://lilypie.com" rel="nofollow">   [/url] Angel June 2012 |
Posted By: xLUCKYx
Date Posted: 13 May 2010 at 11:08am
| Oh the 4 year old can't go home on his own, he just misses out on kindy completely cos she can't get of her bum to pick him up - so she just doesn't let him go. |
Posted By: HoneybunsMa
Date Posted: 13 May 2010 at 11:11am
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I would walk, or catch the bus.
Having not had a car until the last 3years I bussed everywhere and while it's a hassle you just do it! I remember as kids bussing to take my brother to kindy and bussing back. ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker"> 
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Posted By: High9
Date Posted: 13 May 2010 at 11:19am
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That is horrible, does she at least teach him things??
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Posted By: xLUCKYx
Date Posted: 13 May 2010 at 11:22am
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Hah nope. She doesn't do anything at all. There is no reason she can't take him. She could even enroll hi at a closer kindy but no...
I'm not too sure what to do about it either. I love my nieces and nephews and get so annoyed by her not bothering to step it up. She doesn't need to be Mum of the year but thi is neglect isn't it? |
Posted By: caraMel
Date Posted: 13 May 2010 at 11:34am
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I only got my driver's license last year. Before that DD was only kindy age and I would walk or take the bus to get her there and back.
What would she do if you were unable to run the older kids to school and back? ------------- Mel, Mummy to E: 6, B: 4 and: 
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Posted By: xLUCKYx
Date Posted: 13 May 2010 at 11:38am
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They walk if I don't take them. A 6 year old and a 7 year old, very very busy road (great north rd for those in Auckland) and it's about 3 km's!
My brother and I used to walk home at that age but it was not far and we had no busy roads to worry about. Plus times have changed... |
Posted By: High9
Date Posted: 13 May 2010 at 11:50am
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OMG! That's quite a lot for young kids, I know that road to, as go to Aucks A LOT!
I think she really needs a talking to or a 'shock' to get her head into perspective... ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: kiwisj
Date Posted: 13 May 2010 at 11:56am
I would walk the kids to school too. We have just bought a car after 5 years without one (we don't live in NZ). I don't drive so during the week DS and I still get around without the car. Granted public transport is cheap and EFFICIENT here, but even in NZ I would like to live walking distance from things like kindy and school if we can. I will get my DL one of these days though 
XELA, that is really cr@ppy of her to just leave her kids to it at that age  And puts you in a really hard position either leaving them to it or taking them yourself and then she still gets away with it
Sorry I don't have any great advice on how to fix anything though. ------------- SJ Callum - Dec 2008 Daniel - Oct 2010 |
Posted By: Kellz
Date Posted: 13 May 2010 at 12:36pm
OMG that is way way to far for kids of that age to walk, escpecially on their own  .
They are lucky the have u looking out for them. Hard for you seeing them in a situation like that, especially when u have tried to help the mum out and shes not improving. |
Posted By: HuntersMama
Date Posted: 13 May 2010 at 3:17pm
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Poor kiddies, I agree they are lucky to have you.
There is no excuse for the little one missing out on kindy. Mum should be walking there/back to drop them off and pick them up - thats just lazy. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Daizy
Date Posted: 13 May 2010 at 7:04pm
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Poor poor Kiddies. I really hope somehow the mother and the children are able to get some help.
You sound like you are amazing helping out the way you do. Not having a car is not an excuse for anything. I still haven't got my license and in no way have I let that be a hinderance. I guess never having a car I dont know life any other way, I get around even if it take me a whole lot longer than everyone else  ------------- 
 
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