spitting tacks....
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Topic: spitting tacks....
Posted By: Kazzle
Subject: spitting tacks....
Date Posted: 04 August 2006 at 2:05pm
grrrr plunket make me so mad
I rang them in regards to feeding and solids etc, and i was told that if she should be on 4 bottles a day of 200mls and if she wasnt that i need to drop a feed. Rhiannon drinks 5 feeds of 180mls, and wont drink any more than that (well its actually 4 feeds at 180mls, and 1 feed of 100mls) and that her last feed should be 7pm and that she should be sleeping through the night she then said to me that if that wasnt happening then i was doing something wrong. Well i can tell you i saw red
Rhiannon is happy, healthy, settled, contented so i cant be doing anything wrong....who the bloody hell does this women think she is. Okay sorry for the rant but i had to vent ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: caraMel
Date Posted: 04 August 2006 at 2:17pm
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Wow, I would complain Kazzle!
That is so off the mark, definitely not true. The plunket nurses I have seen have always been very quick to reassure me that all babies are different and no two will do things at exactly the same time. I think whoever you spoke to is letting her own opinions cloud her advice. Don't let her stupid untrue words sink in Kazzle, you're doing a great job by all accounts. ------------- Mel, Mummy to E: 6, B: 4 and: 
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Posted By: jax
Date Posted: 04 August 2006 at 2:17pm
Vent away honey, like I said to you earlier on MSN, you're doing a fantastic job and absolutely NOTHING wrong !!  ------------- Jacquie - Mama to Erin, 13.07.06 - Chief Cat Chaser & Marmite Sammie Eater 
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Posted By: newmum
Date Posted: 04 August 2006 at 2:22pm
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oh Kazzle, sometimes those Plunket nurses can be real cows can't they!!? I had a few run ins early on too, but in the end I decided to pretty much ignore them! Every baby is different and as long as Rhiannon is happy and thriving I wouldn't worry. I can soooooo understand being mad though sweets! HUGS!! ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: Kazzle
Date Posted: 04 August 2006 at 2:25pm
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Thanks guys, its funny how we know we are doing a good job but all it takes is one person to say...."you are doing it wrong" and then all the self doubt starts.
Well im not going to let that happen. ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: meow
Date Posted: 04 August 2006 at 2:31pm
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Grr Plunket.. the worst is this woman I used to get when I was at my wits end at 3am, it was always the same person, I got so annoyed at her once I hung up on her
You take the advice you want and leave the rest. You're doing a great job and you can tell Rhiannion is thriving  ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: newmum
Date Posted: 04 August 2006 at 2:32pm
yeah, I even saw her for real on Saturday and she looked PERFECT to me   Such a cutie! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: My3Sons
Date Posted: 04 August 2006 at 2:50pm
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That plunket nurse needs a kick up the a**, there is nothing worse than when they make you feel like you are doing something wrong My DS will be 15 weeks tomorrow and he is drinking around the same amount as Rhiannon, and is also thriving!! I'm sure you are doing a fantastic job!! ------------- Mum to Mr 10, Mr 6 and Mr 4 
 
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Posted By: 11111
Date Posted: 04 August 2006 at 3:37pm
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Grrrrrr plunket make's me so angry was it your nurse or the plunketline? If it was you local plunket you know you don't have to use plunket for your well child check's you can use your GP or another local healthcare provider. I refuse to have anything to do with plunket after a conversation that went very similar to your's. It sound's to me that your wee girl is doing just fine and you are doing a great job. If I was you I would complain if we don't make formal complaint's about people like this they just keep getting away with treating us hard working good Mum's so bably. ------------- Deborah Mum to:   
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Posted By: Anna
Date Posted: 04 August 2006 at 4:49pm
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I haven't been back to plunket since before Quinn's nine months appt for a very similar reason. I have found that some of the nurses are fantastic and very quick to tell you that all bubs are diff and you are doing fine but then there are some horrid narky old cows who tell you that you are doing it wrong, never mind that it works for you and that your baby is perfect, you are still doing it wrong. No mother needs to hear that! Grrr!
There are no set rules for when and how much to feed your baby, I do not think that you can narrow it down to exact mls at certain intervals. I have found so far that most of my parenting is just 'winging it' and seeing what works anyway.... ------------- Anna http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: lizzle
Date Posted: 04 August 2006 at 9:20pm
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My mum hates plunket. when I was six months old, her nurse told her I was too fat, and needed to be drinking SKIM MILK not breast milk!!!!, and that the rattle was just a cold - turned out to be pneumonia and i nearly died. anyway, she hates them. I've been lucky and only had nice ones, but so mnay stories about nasty ones are around.
It sounds like you are doinga agreat job Kaz. And hey, how can every baby be the same? those are GUIDELINES only as shouldn't be treated as gospel. oh, and Taine has onl;y JUST started sleeping through the night at 6 months. and he is a happy, chubby bubba. |
Posted By: Jay_R
Date Posted: 04 August 2006 at 9:38pm
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Grrrrr Kaz!! Stupid Plunket woman! You know you are doing a fantastic job - it's complete rubbish that babies should all be sleeping through the night at her age. I had my antenatal coffee group today, and pretty much everyone has at least one wake up a night. Grrrrrrr Plunket I had one woman laugh her head off at me on Plunketline, cos I was scared my milk was drying up - nobody told me that supply becomes supply/demand at about 3 months and she made me feel so stupid and embarrassed.
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Posted By: Kazzle
Date Posted: 04 August 2006 at 9:56pm
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its very sad that so many of us have such bad experiences, yet they want us to save there plunket line...its a shame there isnt really anywhere else for us to go.
I have decided that i am just going to keep doing what i am doing, and follow what Rhiannon wants ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: james
Date Posted: 04 August 2006 at 10:17pm
mmmmmm ohhhhh thats makes me so mad although i have had nothing but postive experinse with pulket that is sooo rude and judgementel bubs is thriving and happy and as long as she is then you gotta be doing the right thing for her my midwife wanted james feed every three to four hours and i wanted to demand feeed him and so did my mother after 3 weeks of a very tried mummy and bubs imy mother said anef is anef and we went to demand feeding and james is fine hope u are felling better kazzle you are doing a great job!!! ------------- <a href="http://lilypie.com"><img src="http://b4.lilypie.com/nLJ5p13.png" alt="Lilypie 4th Birthday Ticker" border="0" /></a> |
Posted By: Kazzle
Date Posted: 05 August 2006 at 6:55am
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Thanks everyone, sending big hugs all your way
Everyone on this site is a wonderful mother, (and father), and no matter what plunket or anybody else (who wants to be negative) has to say, we are all doing wonderful jobs, our kids are happy, healthy, thriving, ppl seem to forget that MOTHERS KNOW WHAT IS BEST. I rang the plunket lady back late yesterday afternoon, and i said to her that i did not appreciate the way she spoke or treated me and that she needed to change her attitude because it was ppl like her that made new mothers and even second and third time mothers feel useless, i also pointed out to her, that if i had been suffering from pnd then those sorts of comments could have a very devastating effect on the mother. The women was very quiet on the other end, and then apologised. so alls well that ends well i suppose ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: nikkitheknitter
Date Posted: 05 August 2006 at 9:21am
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Well done Kaz!!!! I can bet that there has been many a mother devastated by the way she gives "help" so you may just well have had a positive effect for many mothers to come!!!
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Posted By: newmum
Date Posted: 05 August 2006 at 10:19am
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Good on you Kaz!!! YAY!!!
BTW Joey didn't start sleeping through until he was over 8 months old!! ------------- http://lilypie.com">
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Posted By: mummy_becks
Date Posted: 05 August 2006 at 7:45pm
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I so hated my Plunket nurse that I had with Andrew. She made me feel so bad for having to give Andrew formula as he wasn't getting all that much from me. She was like only give a few mls its not like he needs heaps to drink and always swap sides and even go back to the first as more milk would have been made. I didn't see her after the 3 month check. I told the Plunket place in Palmy about her and she was told that she needs to bring her ideas to the 2000's as more people need to comp their children. So glad we have moved and we won't see her with the next one. ------------- I was a puree feeder, forward facing, cot sleeping, pram pushing kind of Mum... and my kids survived! |
Posted By: my2angels
Date Posted: 05 August 2006 at 8:25pm
| my plunket nurse with Kobe told me he was too fat and then i heard she was talking to other mothers about the "poor baby who was born with a cleft" I was really annoyed to say the least cos I dont think they should be talking about you to other people, one of whom I only knew threw a friend of a friend. I stopped using her but now have moved so had first meeting with the new one last week and she is lovely. |
Posted By: Rachael21
Date Posted: 06 August 2006 at 11:24am
| Thats terrible I thought fat babies were good and don't they go on and on about demand feeding. That was so rude about the cleft thing its not your fault and you can't even see it now. I really wonder about how some plunket nerses got their jobs |
Posted By: Guests
Date Posted: 06 August 2006 at 4:23pm
| Hrmm whats with plunket telling mothers their babies are overweight??? My nephew whos 1 and half, his mum was told that he was overweight when he clearly isnt. She was PISSED to say the least! |
Posted By: jack_&_charli
Date Posted: 07 August 2006 at 2:57pm
i'm not even going to bother with plunket this time around! for weigh-ins and check-ups i'm going to see my GP...he's lovely!!! 
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Posted By: 11111
Date Posted: 07 August 2006 at 3:04pm
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Exactly jacks mum have is what I have done I use the Maori health care provider and the nurse's are great its like having a friend come and visit for half an hour it great. I would never use or support plunket in ths aera anyway. ------------- Deborah Mum to:
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Posted By: jax
Date Posted: 07 August 2006 at 3:41pm
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I have a friend with a slightly older bub who has told me the Plunket nurse from our area is great, and I am prepared to take her word on that at least for the first visit, but if it doesn't turn out I will try and arrange all our checkups and things through a GP. ------------- Jacquie - Mama to Erin, 13.07.06 - Chief Cat Chaser & Marmite Sammie Eater
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Posted By: daikini
Date Posted: 07 August 2006 at 3:45pm
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My plunket nurse is great... it's quite funny that she'll be here in a couple of weeks for Josiah's 15mth checkup, then again 3 months later (JP's 18mth check), then again 3 months later (Xavier's 6 week check)! ------------- Becca, mum of 2 girls & 3 boys |
Posted By: Roxy
Date Posted: 08 August 2006 at 11:19pm
Hey Kas you are doing a great job and dont let that silly lady make you feel you are not.Brooke been on formula since 3mths old and never ever used to drink the recomended amount.some days we had a max of 600mls....I have always written down what she drinks at each feed from 12pm till 12pm......only recently has she occasionally topped the 1000ml mark.every baby different and will want more some days and less others.but Brooke usually sleeps all night(from 7-7) but sometimes will wake once during night.I dont mind that.my sister decided not to go with plunket but with the maori one(dont know name)and she has found them excellent.they always come to you.do vacinations at home and have given her great support and advice.I always thought that you had to be maori to be with them but you dont ------------- Caleb 15/11/02 Brooke 14/11/05 |