I’ve had the day from hell!
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Topic: I’ve had the day from hell!
Posted By: hannibal
Subject: I’ve had the day from hell!
Date Posted: 03 July 2010 at 9:45pm
| Started this morning - tantrum at breakfast! Over that hurdle and onto the next 30 minutes to get her dressed, ask DH to come home and get bubs sorted I was over it arrives as I am trying to get her in the pram for a walk, he finally managed to get her in and she screamed the whole way - cause she wanted to walk and not be pushed. Argh. Sleep and then off out to lunch, won't eat lunch and then it took me 1.5 hours to get her - actually I made DH drive 25 minutes to me and get her strapped into her seat! then she screamed for the next 15 minutes. Seriously please tell me this is a stage, as I can't cope with days like this! (she is only 20 months old). |
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Posted By: pikelets
Date Posted: 03 July 2010 at 10:09pm
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Oh dear! Sorry to hear you had a hard day.
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Posted By: jaz
Date Posted: 03 July 2010 at 11:13pm
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Those days are tough and seem to never end. My boy turned three this week and I've been telling him his toddler days are OVER! I don't think he gets it though. ------------- http://lilypie.com"> 
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Posted By: AandCsmum
Date Posted: 03 July 2010 at 11:14pm
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I think I remember Alia doing things like that, so yes presumably a stage & it shows that you do forget those hard times cause it's fuzzy for me.
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Posted By: Bizzy
Date Posted: 04 July 2010 at 9:36am
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pick your battles...
if she doesnt eat dont force her... let her walk for a bit and when shes tired put her in the pram... give her a choice of tops or pants to wear (this worked well with eden, but only two choices). i hope you gave your poor hubby something nice!  ------------- http://www.myfitnesspal.com/weight-loss-ticker"> 
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Posted By: kiwikid
Date Posted: 04 July 2010 at 5:12pm
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I agree with Bizzy, you little toddle monsta is just trying to assert her indepence, pick your battles and give her some choices... if she doesnt want to eat breakfast so be it but if she asks for food 10mins later offer her back her cold toast until lunch time and then start the process again. She wont starve herself but dont let her fill up on fruit / biccies I guess!!!!
At 20mths she will understand you if you ask then tell then time out when you want her to something like get in the pushchair / change nappy. Diane Levy promotes 'emotional time out' so basically you get on with your day and things you need to do and dont give your child any of your 'goods and services' until she is ready to comply. So it doesnt have to be 'stand in a corner / locked in her room' type of Time Out if you are not comfortable with that, more like a gentle cold shoulder LOL Toddlers ultimately are very social and will comply to get you back on side - if you are consistent. Also negotiation / bribery / distraction works quite well... if you sit in your seat nicely you can hold Mummy's lipstick / keys / money (50c coin works well for us lol) or we'll stop and look at the ducks / go to the park (tho not the best idea cos she has to get back in the seat) Buy a set of reins and let her walk?? If you call DH in to help then IMO over time DD is going to learn that you are not the one in control and only Daddy has to be listened too. Hope that doesnt sound patronising, just some ideas that work for us (DS is 2 at the end of the month). I think they feed off your energy too, if you are stressed and upset and frustrated then she will be reacting to that and escalating the situation.
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Posted By: LouD
Date Posted: 04 July 2010 at 7:27pm
| big hugs hun i know where your coming from and dont blame you for ringing your DH...........your not alone on days like these. hope tomorrow is a better day |
Posted By: LittleBug
Date Posted: 04 July 2010 at 8:46pm
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Agree with what the others said... she will be trying to assert her independence, and gosh, a toddler will only do things in their time, sometimes. Make sure you are not trying to rush her, offer choices and rewards. Time out worked quite well for us at that age (and still does).
The other thing is that she may be teething or something? Some pamol might help her feel better if you think that's the case. Big hugs, I remember thinking that Chloe had hit the terrible twos early on days like that. She is slowly getting better but it still seems like some days are just tantrum-filled. Hang in there, it does get better! But definitely a phase that they go through. ------------- Chloe (4 years) and Oliver (3 years). |